We're a semi-experienced couple. Him more than her but she's quickly catching up, . Neither of us is very shy, he's not shy at all, but respect for other's is VERY important to us. This seems to have led us to a conundrum. We're so busy making sure we're not pushy and respecting the other persons' space that we tend to not make any move at all. And to make matters worse, we've been lucky in that we've met with also very respectful people, so they tend not to make a first move either.
So.....over and over again it's gone the same way. Four people, sitting there, talking, laughing, having a few drinks. Everybody enjoying themselves for a few hours. We're not sure if the other couple is "into" us, and the other couple is wondering the same about us. So it ends up the same way, hugs all around and then everybody goes home.
One on one (when we were single) it was easy to let the other person know you're interested.
So, this is the question...How do you folks show you're interested in the people you're meeting?
So.....over and over again it's gone the same way. Four people, sitting there, talking, laughing, having a few drinks. Everybody enjoying themselves for a few hours. We're not sure if the other couple is "into" us, and the other couple is wondering the same about us. So it ends up the same way, hugs all around and then everybody goes home.
One on one (when we were single) it was easy to let the other person know you're interested.
So, this is the question...How do you folks show you're interested in the people you're meeting?
Holy Bunckle! LGSBCS, I thought you were describing us! The Misses is a little more forward than the Mister in our case - women can get away with a lot more in the lifestyle. Still, we've been in several situations when we both wished we'd taken the initiative a little more.
The Mister has a hall pass and is out of town a TON (way too much). He isn't a real shy person, but has probably missed a lot of opportunities simply because he's a real gentleman and doesn't push at all. He won't go where he's not invited and most of the women he meets that could be hall pass recipients are too shy to invite.
Oh well. I think I'd rather be known for gentility than be thought of as rude and pushy. I guess we need to be a little more forward, but if you meet us and you want it - please ask for it!
The Mister has a hall pass and is out of town a TON (way too much). He isn't a real shy person, but has probably missed a lot of opportunities simply because he's a real gentleman and doesn't push at all. He won't go where he's not invited and most of the women he meets that could be hall pass recipients are too shy to invite.
Oh well. I think I'd rather be known for gentility than be thought of as rude and pushy. I guess we need to be a little more forward, but if you meet us and you want it - please ask for it!
There's a fine line as with everything. If you're wearing the condom comin thru the door, some folks see that as pushy, and if you don't dick-slap them after dinner to show interest you're viewed as shy...
We just let people know that we are comfortable with everything so, if they are, game on! If not, find some other unsuspecting victim food the penial pimp slap!
We just let people know that we are comfortable with everything so, if they are, game on! If not, find some other unsuspecting victim food the penial pimp slap!
Shit we thought we were the ones writing this blog because it just keeps going that way for us to huband has to be invited in his eyes or he wont move on the other wife me im more of a flirt but thought it was a good question hopefully someone has the anwser
First of all... to Scott, if you're at a party, whether at your house or somewhere else, and you are with a woman (KOIGIRL) then in my view, you are not single you are a couple. You can list on your site that you guys also play alone but when together you are a couple. At least that's how I see it. Me and my friend are not married, we just want to play in this lifestyle together. I guess if that makes some people uncomfortable then that is their choice and I have no problem with that. But us playing together means we are a couple in my opinion.
Second... in answer the the topic of the thread. A hot tub is always a fantastic idea for the "next step" If you are comfortable with the couple or couples you're with, invite them to sit in the hot tub. Something about nakedness in hot water really has a way of getting the party started! LOL
Second... in answer the the topic of the thread. A hot tub is always a fantastic idea for the "next step" If you are comfortable with the couple or couples you're with, invite them to sit in the hot tub. Something about nakedness in hot water really has a way of getting the party started! LOL
Just pull out some tits or whip out a dick lol. That works for us
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Just pull out some tits or whip out a dick lol. That works for us
lmao
love itUsually before we meet someone I get their phone number and get the sexting going.... So then at least they know it's a possibility haha. Plus people ten to say stuff over text they'd never say to you on person so you can get to know their kinky side quickly 