What would you say is your biggest lifestyle regret? That you didn't start sooner? A missed opportunity with a particular person/couple? That you fucked someone that you totally regret fucking? That you even started swinging in the first place? That either you or your partner is into it more than the other one? That you didn't think of starting your own swinging website? LOL I think ours definitely has to be getting involved with a couple that we, against our better instincts, should not have. Or do you have absolutely no regrets whatsoever?
Regret a few couples we played with...
"What would you say is your biggest lifestyle regret? That you didn't start sooner?" - We started pretty early in our relationship and it's been good.
"A missed opportunity with a particular person/couple?" - I'm sure we miss opportunities due to schedule conflicts. It is what it is.
"That you fucked someone that you totally regret fucking?" - That hasn't happened yet, not that we aren't selective, but rather that we are more accepting of differences, I think.
"That you even started swinging in the first place?" - Not just 'No', but 'Hell NO!" This is GREAT!
"That either you or your partner is into it more than the other one?" - This really isn't an issue.
"That you didn't think of starting your own swinging website?" - Actually, we did have one. It was too much work to get started. I have a lot of respect for the people that created and run this one because I know how much work it is.
'... do you have absolutely no regrets whatsoever?" - Only that we don't have as much time as we would like to spend with our lifestyle friends.
"A missed opportunity with a particular person/couple?" - I'm sure we miss opportunities due to schedule conflicts. It is what it is.
"That you fucked someone that you totally regret fucking?" - That hasn't happened yet, not that we aren't selective, but rather that we are more accepting of differences, I think.
"That you even started swinging in the first place?" - Not just 'No', but 'Hell NO!" This is GREAT!
"That either you or your partner is into it more than the other one?" - This really isn't an issue.
"That you didn't think of starting your own swinging website?" - Actually, we did have one. It was too much work to get started. I have a lot of respect for the people that created and run this one because I know how much work it is.
'... do you have absolutely no regrets whatsoever?" - Only that we don't have as much time as we would like to spend with our lifestyle friends.
I'd love to hear everyone's responses. I want to get into this lifestyle and still trying to convince the hubby- but not forcing. would like to hear everyone's challenges/successes getting in and staying in the lifestyle- if they have lost partners because of it. wish i could be closer to all you sessy people! ;-)
Good that you're not forcing or coercing in any way. Seen many peeps fall by the wayside by not doing it that way. Much better just to continue to communicate and fantasize together and go as slowly as the slowest partner needs to go. And you need to be ready and able to never go there or to stop at any time if one of you has an issue with swinging. Maybe just start out going to a nudist resort or possibly some "soft swap" or something until he's more comfortable and ready to take another baby step. It took us several YEARS and a lot of good communication to get to the point of a full swap. Best of luck to you! :-)
Well we were thinking we don't have any regrets but we do have a few "No-Repeats" 
I regret not adding this amazing aspect to our marriage sooner! We meet wonderful people and get to explore our interests outside each other. Also not being able to share our interesting life/adventures with our vanilla friends. Most people are nowhere near enlightened enough to understand how our marriage THRIVES because of "swinging", not in spite of it. I hate having to keep it a secret!
SHANGHAIBABY wrote:
I regret not adding this amazing aspect to our marriage sooner! We meet wonderful people and get to explore our interests outside each other. Also not being able to share our interesting life/adventures with our vanilla friends. Most people are nowhere near enlightened enough to understand how our marriage THRIVES because of "swinging", not in spite of it. I hate having to keep it a secret!
Pefectly put!
Thanks J5285H!
Jack Daniel at our first party . That dude was to good to me and I drank way to much and want paying attention to the,asshole creepy space invader that crepped the mrs out.badly. There have between those missed pepole and the wtf were we thinking. But over all meet great pepole and good times. Thanks to all those who have been great freinds and helped us along at our pace.
I had a niece and he husband get a divorce last year. I think a large part of it was that they got married too young, without experiencing some of life and they were now looking to have that experience. My niece is now getting married to a man she's been dating for a very short period of time, in celibacy, and I can't help but think that raging hormones (hornyness) is a driving motivator.
I think one of my regrets about the lifestyle is to not be able to openly discuss with my niece and others like her why a little open sex might have helped save her first marriage and may be a preventative to the issues that might be coming if she is indeed getting remarried for the wrong reasons.
Not everyone is cut out to be a swinger - people are insecure and jealous in nature quite frequently. But, I think it would cut way down on divorces that are caused by marital infidelity, boredom in the bedroom, and plain old hornyness, if it were more openly accepted.
I think one of my regrets about the lifestyle is to not be able to openly discuss with my niece and others like her why a little open sex might have helped save her first marriage and may be a preventative to the issues that might be coming if she is indeed getting remarried for the wrong reasons.
Not everyone is cut out to be a swinger - people are insecure and jealous in nature quite frequently. But, I think it would cut way down on divorces that are caused by marital infidelity, boredom in the bedroom, and plain old hornyness, if it were more openly accepted.
our regret is not starting in the lifestyle sooner! We have met so many fun and sexy new friends...we are glad we finally got brave enough to start the journey!!
#1. Yes, I will ALWAYS regret not discovering this wonderful way of life sooner.
#2. Yes, I wish GEEKGIRL and I had met a LONG time ago.
#3. Never fucked anyone I regret fucking - only regret letting it get beyond that.
#4. Regrets about missed opportunities - this is a trick question, right?
#2. Yes, I wish GEEKGIRL and I had met a LONG time ago.
#3. Never fucked anyone I regret fucking - only regret letting it get beyond that.
#4. Regrets about missed opportunities - this is a trick question, right?
Our only regret is living in an area with very few people like us. My wife has a specific fantasy she has been wanting to fulfill, and it has been difficult finding others that want to help fulfill her gangbang fantasy.
Hmmm..Regrets.....Even tho we "professed " to be open to everyone...wish we had actually been a little more "open minded" from the beginning. Took us too long to learn that ANYONE has the potential to become a very good friend...whether we play together, or not. Friends with benifits..are a luxuary. Now...we seldom are happy with an encounter that doesn't result in a friend.
wish we would have started sooner and wish we had more free time to play more often.
my only real regret so far is that I havn't been able to get into better shape first, we're really still new so we've only been to a few parties but my wife has an easier time attracting people than i do.
BASEKETBALL wrote:
my only real regret so far is that I havn't been able to get into better shape first, we're really still new so we've only been to a few parties but my wife has an easier time attracting people than i do.
We are who we are my friend, I think that the women on here are the draw for a lot couples. My wife is the hot commodity for us, I believe, and I just fall back on the old "yeah, I'm with her" bit... Be happy with what you've got, confidence is just a big a turn on as looks in some cases...
My humble .02
Believing that unicorns really exist.
We have a hard time finding the right couple as it is. We have only played with 3 different couples, because we want the connection as well as the physical attraction. We can't just have "emotionless" sex. The first experience, was a "first" for all 4 of us. The second experience, we were a "first" for them. And the third couple was slightly more experienced.
The problem is, whether it's schedules, distance, personal issues and they have stopped playing for a while, or they have evolved and like to play with lot's of other people, we tend to fall madly in "like" with the couples we chose, and tend to take it personally when the relationship doesn't continue as we had hoped.
I know there is no room for jealousy in this lifestyle. It doesn't work. Our only regret, and I am the worst about it, is leading with our hearts, and I don't know any other way.
ROCK
The problem is, whether it's schedules, distance, personal issues and they have stopped playing for a while, or they have evolved and like to play with lot's of other people, we tend to fall madly in "like" with the couples we chose, and tend to take it personally when the relationship doesn't continue as we had hoped.
I know there is no room for jealousy in this lifestyle. It doesn't work. Our only regret, and I am the worst about it, is leading with our hearts, and I don't know any other way.
ROCK
Getting my ex into the LS was a mistake but its not what ended our relationship. I think he tried it as a last ditch effort, I was doing it for different reasons. I enjoyed it I can disconnect sex and love I liked the excitement and the new friends. He liked the new friends but found he couldn't disconnect the idea of love and sex. If he had wanted me to I would have quit right then and there, and i did once we started having issues (not because he asked but because I could feel there was something wrong). I just didn't realize how deep they went and now here I am a single lady.
I dont want anyone to think I blame the LS for what happen I dont it was just something we were doing when the shit hit the fan not the reason the shit hit it.
I dont want anyone to think I blame the LS for what happen I dont it was just something we were doing when the shit hit the fan not the reason the shit hit it.
2T00MUCH wrote:
Well we were thinking we don't have any regrets but we do have a few "No-Repeats"
What they said!
I regret that I have to work at night, and don't get to go to any meet and greets.
We have been fortunate to have met, played and entertained quality people.
Our only regret was playing with a young couple, they just was not emotionally ready for what was to happen. It just made it not worth it with thier drama that developed, that is why we stay away from that now. The girl still IM's and wants to play, but the male cant handle it when she is being pleasured.
Our only regret was playing with a young couple, they just was not emotionally ready for what was to happen. It just made it not worth it with thier drama that developed, that is why we stay away from that now. The girl still IM's and wants to play, but the male cant handle it when she is being pleasured.
When I think about my past, including swinging, I can
TIFFND wrote:
Hmmm..Regrets.....Even tho we "professed " to be open to everyone...wish we had actually been a little more "open minded" from the beginning. Took us too long to learn that ANYONE has the potential to become a very good friend...whether we play together, or not. Friends with benifits..are a luxuary. Now...we seldom are happy with an encounter that doesn't result in a friend.
Putting too many restrictions on one's self can very easily lead to regrets.
And there's NO doubt, it creates a LOT of missed opportunities.
Yeah, I realize everyone has their own "comfort" level, but there's such a thing as being too comfortable - and alone - and wondering why.
Some people limit themselves to their own personal little box, and never step outside it.
The area OUTSIDE the box is always bigger than the INSIDE of the box.
And it offers far more opportunities.
[quote=SUGARSANDSPICE]When I think about my past, including swinging, I can
[quote=COSMOPOLITANT][quote=SUGARSANDSPICE]When I think about my past, including swinging, I can
BASEKETBALL wrote:
my only real regret so far is that I havn't been able to get into better shape first, we're really still new so we've only been to a few parties but my wife has an easier time attracting people than i do.
A friend of ours did the insanity challenge and huge results. We just ordered ours. Heard its pretty tough, but give it a try
CINNER wrote:
Getting old before we are ready to quit..49 just don't feel near as sexy as 30...We had tons of great partners...
Im only a year behind you, and not even thinking about slowing down. Age has nothing to do with it. We've run across a lot of the younger crowd that cant keep up, and dont know what they are doing.
Our only regret is not having the time to get together with everyone we would like to.
Couples who are honest in their profile
BIG-DS-1 wrote:
Couples who are honest in their profile
You regret couples who are honest in their profile????????????????????????????