Since our discussions here are almost always about swinging (which is appropriate), a reader might think that the lifestyle is a big part of all of our lives. For some people it probably is (that is, a frequent, important part of their social lives), but for others it's a small part.
For us, it's extremely fun and exciting, but it's also a very small part of our life. Just an exciting escape. For almost all of our time, we are regular with a capital R. Nothing else would stick out as unusual to an observer.
How about you? Would people who know you on a day-to-day basis be surprised about you? How big a part of your life is it?
For us, it's extremely fun and exciting, but it's also a very small part of our life. Just an exciting escape. For almost all of our time, we are regular with a capital R. Nothing else would stick out as unusual to an observer.
How about you? Would people who know you on a day-to-day basis be surprised about you? How big a part of your life is it?
Nothing would surprise my friends...maybe people would be shocked about her. she is fairly quiet and reserved in public. As for me I'm very Blount and kind of a horn dog lol
As for percentages... Small...we try to play a lot but never pans out.. we want it to b a higher percentage cause this shit is great
CANDJ23 wrote:
As for percentages... Small...we try to play a lot but never pans out.. we want it to b a higher percentage cause this shit is great
Ours is small also but due to the lack of people who actually want to meet in our area makes it difficult to raise that percentage up. The excitement and fun we get to have with other like minded couples is what makes LS fun for us.
We would meet with ya CANDJ23. Give us a chance you won't be sorry.
Sidebar: Logistics really gets in the way, doesn't it?
It's hard enough to find a group in which everyone is good with everyone else, but then it's complicated by shifts and commitments, second-thoughts, etc.
It's hard enough to find a group in which everyone is good with everyone else, but then it's complicated by shifts and commitments, second-thoughts, etc.
I think we had a date almost a year ago. Sort of. Since then it's been flakes, false promises, lies, dropped plans, invites with no follow-up info, lots of teasing, or totally ditched because we don't wanna fuck on the first date. Kinda like meeting a cute chick at a church dance. LOL. So I'm gonna go out on a limb and say the percentage is extremely low. In fact what comes after ZERO??? Guess we better just crawl back under the bridge with the rest of our troll friends...SHIT...they bailed too!!! Maybe it's just time to call it quits and take up basket weaving.
"The Fuglies"
"The Fuglies"
You're funny, Pebblerock! Since you, Jandy, and us are in the north here, maybe we should get together for Bloody Marys and just chat!
Pretty small. Some would probably consider us semi-retired or maybe even posers. We've been in the lifestyle for a long time and have pretty much fulfilled all or most of our fantasies so now we're sort of opportunistic swingers. We like to socialize a bit and if the mood stikes us or we meet a particularly enticing person or couple we go for it. If not we go home and have amazing sex with each other. :-)
Sometimes we feel kind of shy because everyone seems so outgoing and experienced.
WESEE wrote:Totally agree with that. Well it's off to bed. We still have each other, and a couple paper bags in case one falls off. G'night.
Sometimes we feel kind of shy because everyone seems so outgoing and experienced.
What we have found in the two years that we have been exploring the "lifestyle" is that everyone has a different definition of what that is. For some its more about the social aspect and they seem to be on the website everyday, in the chat room and at every event. For others, its just about the sex and what they are specifically looking for and how much work you have to put into finding it. Those people we usually notice are also out there on AFF, craigslist and other social networks, searching and sifting for the next experience. We think most lie somewhere in between. (Of course we hate to mention the annoying percentage of liars, fakes, cheaters, pic collectors, perverts, bots and players, so we won't. Oh wait. We just did, lol.)
For us its more about the sex and only sex with those that we have chemistry with. We get in the mood to play about once a month or maybe a little less. We probably spend about an average of 10 to 12 hours over the course of the month looking and chatting. So if you add up time spent looking, with time spent talking about it and time spend actually doing? Maybe 2% or less of our life but maybe 10 % of our free time.
And interesting sidebar, at least to us is: we have found that even though we feel we don't have sex with others very often, the vast majority of those we talk too seem to have had less sexual experiences than us. Particularly those that have been in the "lifestyle" longer. Are we unusual or just hornier than most?
For us its more about the sex and only sex with those that we have chemistry with. We get in the mood to play about once a month or maybe a little less. We probably spend about an average of 10 to 12 hours over the course of the month looking and chatting. So if you add up time spent looking, with time spent talking about it and time spend actually doing? Maybe 2% or less of our life but maybe 10 % of our free time.
And interesting sidebar, at least to us is: we have found that even though we feel we don't have sex with others very often, the vast majority of those we talk too seem to have had less sexual experiences than us. Particularly those that have been in the "lifestyle" longer. Are we unusual or just hornier than most?
There is a lot more sex out there if what you want is a series of one night stands. I don
I believe that age related logistics is probably the greatest interference. Couples that have younger children at home tend to take the majority of their energy( including physical, emotional). This leaves very little opportunity for their sexually energy to build. Then when you get our age, we dont have these issues, so it allows us all the opportunities we choose. Now you face different challenges as we not the cream of the crop no more.
THE OPPORTUNITIES ARE GALORE.
So we find that we can that we like to socialize 2-3 times a month. It seems every other Saturday night works for us. We have three different girl toys and several couples that we enjoy. This is about fantasy for us and we do indulge in it. It is nice that there can be a FF night at the movies and the "would you like to go back to my house", or the FFM sleep overs which we love. The occasional MMF were I get all I can handle and loose can all inhibitions. Like I said, this is about fantasy for us. We talk about it 3=4 times a week and make it happen like i said 2-3 times a month.
Percentages I would say is if one has approximately 8.25 weekend nights and 22.25 weekday nights. We can assess that we talk about it (or fantasize out loud during sex) approx. 12 of the 22 weekdays, yell out while fucking(oh, you no you want to lick her pussy) 4 of the 8 weekend nights and totally get naked with others 2 times a month. Assuming my math is right, god only knows.
We talk the talk 1/2 of the time...
We walk the talk 3/4 of the time...
We lay the play 1/15 of the time...
As for each other?
WE have hot naughty sex every damn chance we get.........
THE OPPORTUNITIES ARE GALORE.
So we find that we can that we like to socialize 2-3 times a month. It seems every other Saturday night works for us. We have three different girl toys and several couples that we enjoy. This is about fantasy for us and we do indulge in it. It is nice that there can be a FF night at the movies and the "would you like to go back to my house", or the FFM sleep overs which we love. The occasional MMF were I get all I can handle and loose can all inhibitions. Like I said, this is about fantasy for us. We talk about it 3=4 times a week and make it happen like i said 2-3 times a month.
Percentages I would say is if one has approximately 8.25 weekend nights and 22.25 weekday nights. We can assess that we talk about it (or fantasize out loud during sex) approx. 12 of the 22 weekdays, yell out while fucking(oh, you no you want to lick her pussy) 4 of the 8 weekend nights and totally get naked with others 2 times a month. Assuming my math is right, god only knows.
We talk the talk 1/2 of the time...
We walk the talk 3/4 of the time...
We lay the play 1/15 of the time...
As for each other?
WE have hot naughty sex every damn chance we get.........
110% Baby!!!!!! LOL
OK, this just in....Pennsylvania sucks ass....Utah ROCKS.....
....screw this shit.....WE'RE MOVING!!!!!
...to where all the kewl SWINGERS are.
OK, this just in....Pennsylvania sucks ass....Utah ROCKS.....
....screw this shit.....WE'RE MOVING!!!!!
...to where all the kewl SWINGERS are.
We have an awesome sex life and have had one since we met 5 years ago. I was his dream come true his hot red head. He was my hot lustful prince with a naughty naught side but a true gentleman of course!!
We did not start out as swingers it was as if life took us in this direction and things seem to lead us to swinging. Sara being so adventurous seemed to find some fun anywhere she went did not matter. Josh likes to watch and it works for us.
So our main feeling on swinging is to have a great time together and let the night happen. We do not play to often but we are out a few times of month mingling with our friends and meeting new people too. We usually only play with established friends and we do not always have to play with them as hanging out is always fun as well. We aim to please hehehe
WE are thankful for the many friends we have made you make our life grand and hope we have done the same in return for you as well.....Happy Swinger Saturday lovers!!!!
We did not start out as swingers it was as if life took us in this direction and things seem to lead us to swinging. Sara being so adventurous seemed to find some fun anywhere she went did not matter. Josh likes to watch and it works for us.
So our main feeling on swinging is to have a great time together and let the night happen. We do not play to often but we are out a few times of month mingling with our friends and meeting new people too. We usually only play with established friends and we do not always have to play with them as hanging out is always fun as well. We aim to please hehehe
WE are thankful for the many friends we have made you make our life grand and hope we have done the same in return for you as well.....Happy Swinger Saturday lovers!!!!
Where oh where is that elusive couple or couples that actually wanna be good friends, get to know us, just go to dinner once in a while, text us and see how our day was, hit the mountains or sand dunes on our wheelers and side by side, BBQ once in a while, be attracted to each other and trust each other, and maybe even wanna fuck once in a while if the mood is right? Are we living a pipe dream, or do we just abandon all of our self respect and take what we can get? I think not. I'll never settle, or allow my wife to be pushed into anything that she's not 100% in agreement of. Is this lifestyle really this difficult, or are we making it that way? The desire is certainly there, just not the criteria we've set for ourselves. It's about self respect, dignity, and being a decent fucking human being. Does it exist anymore? Why does it seem to be so hard to find that all 4 ways? Just a thought...or two.
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We wish "and have ask for" that they put a color "like on booty calls" or some type of number code next to the names "one for the guy and one for the girl" for how into sex you are, we are here just to meet open minded friend, but it seem like we always meet the oposite extrems, either lets just fuck and you can't say "no" or we are just to shy to meet? we love the campouts... its a great way to meet, around a camp fire, but one a year is just not enough... but for us the guy is like 10% and the wife 20% when it comes to sex... But when it come to doing what our user name says 3rdbasefun4u, we are 100%... go figure ;-)
Pebblerock,
That is exactly how we feel. Yes its great to just have fun every once in awhile. But would so much more prefer to make some great friends to chat and hangout with and get to know. Then if things click and everyone is in the mood can always play and have a good time.
We think its add to the excitement and fun if things happen when everyone knows each other better and great friends.
That is exactly how we feel. Yes its great to just have fun every once in awhile. But would so much more prefer to make some great friends to chat and hangout with and get to know. Then if things click and everyone is in the mood can always play and have a good time.
We think its add to the excitement and fun if things happen when everyone knows each other better and great friends.
It's too bad life gets in the way. We'd love to be better friends to our swinger friends - go out together - socialize, etc. Maybe when the kids are grown and gone... In the mean time, we're glad to have the swinger friends we have, even if we only get to see them a couple times a year. Were part of the 2% club that wants to be in the 10-20% club.
I would say 20%. I like swinging and the fun. But its a weekend thing and I dont let it into my everyday life. I have made friends on the site that I hang out with offline but I would be friends with these people no matter where we met.