just wondering what the thoughts are on this, i live with two guys one i have kids with and have been with for 15 years the other i have been with for a little over a year, i like to go out every now and then but to go to a sponsored party they want to charge me for a couple and a single guy or they dont allow single guys, it doesnt really seem right to me as neither of them are single.
Well you are clearly not alone in that problem. There should be some accommodations for poly triangles. But then those that do not drink will also want special treatment. Both seem logical to me. And I would vote for both if there were such.
thats a tough one, Maybe on those parties where single males are not included have your single male friend (or you could help) find him a single female for them to go as a couple, and then you would have the option to have a 4 way fun fest.
ya its not fair my hubby brings is girlfriend and its free, i bring my boyfriend and it cost me 25.00.
ROBERTBENNET wrote:
thats a tough one, Maybe on those parties where single males are not included have your single male friend (or you could help) find him a single female for them to go as a couple, and then you would have the option to have a 4 way fun fest.
well i would rather attend events with three really hot guys, i wonder then if we could get in as two couples, because they are all bi of course. and guys can be a couple cant they. we so that means i could go with three guys and pay for two couples, i think thats a solution
PITMOMMY wrote:
ya its not fair my hubby brings is girlfriend and its free, i bring my boyfriend and it cost me 25.00.
I keep saying it. Life is not fair to all. Women in this lifestyle are a holdover from the vanilla world. We use them as bait to draw others to the party. Not exactly a nice way to treat them but no one seems to complain too much about that.
If it were fair then single women would have to pay as much as single men and single women would not be allowed to go to some events. Boy wouldn
UCANTOUCHMYMONKY wrote:
If $25 is a deal killer for attending a party maybe working a little over time is a better idea than going out anyway.
Well sir monkey. Something we can agree on. Isn't that surprising?
TALL_GUY801 wrote:UCANTOUCHMYMONKY wrote:
If $25 is a deal killer for attending a party maybe working a little over time is a better idea than going out anyway.
Amen!
And call me old fashioned - but the woman is on here complaining about having to pay for her date.... Does that seem a little backwards to anyone else? :-).
Male half here, Im old fashioned too on that subject. Maybe its the generation I was raised in, but I always am prepared to pay for whatever we do. Once in a while the wife is sneaky and gets the tab when Im not looking, but in general if I cant pay for it, I dont do it.
Most people coming to the party would like the male/female ratio to be equal or possibly heavier on the female side. The issue isn't really "single male". Many would agree that respectful single males aren't a problem at all. The issue is the ratio. Unfortunately, single or not, 2 men and 1 woman skews the ratio in the opposite direction of the preference of the majority. Since most of the $$$ comes from the majority, that is who will be catered to. The higher price keeps the ratio in check. Not fair... but not really unfair either. It just is.
edit: Not allowing a poly partner to come at all does seem unfair and unfortunate.
edit: Not allowing a poly partner to come at all does seem unfair and unfortunate.
TALL_GUY801 wrote:
... It's not fair!!!
Life isn't fair! Get over it.
You go to a bar - guess what often girls get in free and guys pay a cover.
It costs money to host and run an event - 20-30$ is very cheap. If you drink at all the parties are cheaper than a bar or club.
So. Why do the third females get special treatment? They are rare - the party planners want to give them incentive and encourage them to attend - because it will make most of the people at the party happy! Most people could care less - heck would prefer if there were fewer guys there.
I'm a single guy - sometimes I think it's not fair I can't attend on my own - ok I lied. It's fair because it's the rules. - if I want to go I try to find a date - oh no the trauma.
It's very reasonably priced. And very worth it - the parties I have been to. Don't ask for special treatment - just follow the rules and have fun. It will be well worth it.
What else can really be said the nails been hit on the head people. If you think 20 or 30 bucks is expensive then i would love to know where you go and spend less. he said it bars are expensive and you will not be able to do anything near what you can at the events. lets be honest everyone should pay their fair share the hosts have gone though alot of trouble to set these events up for all of us. they pay for decorations, the venue, the booze (serious money there), and they go though the trouble of getting everyone there. not to mention they do all the clean up. I have watched ross and vicky deal with all these things and it takes alot of hard work and preparation. When they say couples they are being descriptive enough and it plainly states single females free. and not to be mean but if you want to go somewhere surrounded by 3 or 4 hot guys go to any club or bar and your wish is my command, men are a plentiful even for there being less in world population compared to woman and easier to seduce.
also i feel many of the woman who attend these events are either bisexual or bi comfortable and many of them love meeting and playing with other women either more or just as much as men. if you want a place that is geared towards having more men, with gang bangs(yes im assuming please dont castrate me), and all that that type of event would entail then lets start a new event company geared in that direction.
if i offended anyone with this post i apologize that was not my intention. just saying what i see and feel.
SUGARSANDSPICE wrote:ROFLMAO ...FINALLY, I log-in for once on here lately and I read something that just freakin' cracks me up!!!!!UCANTOUCHMYMONKY wrote:
If $25 is a deal killer for attending a party maybe working a little over time is a better idea than going out anyway.
Well sir monkey. Something we can agree on. Isn't that surprising?
I don't have so much of a problem with what the parties are charging, if I can't afford to go, I just don't get to go. But I am rather annoyed at not being able to bring a date just cuz my date is not of the female persuasion. Oh well I guess. Makes it easier to choose which party to attend when there's 5 on the same night. lulz.
Let' face it, guys drink more! So they cost more to serve. And they outnumber the females. OK, Guess I will shut up now.
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
I don't have so much of a problem with what the parties are charging, if I can't afford to go, I just don't get to go. But I am rather annoyed at not being able to bring a date just cuz my date is not of the female persuasion. Oh well I guess. Makes it easier to choose which party to attend when there's 5 on the same night. lulz.
Boy, What jerk would not be willing to pay to go to a party with you. I know women like to lay the cash also but really kitty. If he doesn
SUGARSANDSPICE wrote:
[quote=HELLO_KITTY12984]I don't have so much of a problem with what the parties are charging, if I can't afford to go, I just don't get to go. But I am rather annoyed at not being able to bring a date just cuz my date is not of the female persuasion. Oh well I guess. Makes it easier to choose which party to attend when there's 5 on the same night. lulz.
Boy, What jerk would not be willing to pay to go to a party with you. I know women like to lay the cash also but really kitty. If he doesn
It would seem that you could probably negotiate something with whomever was throwing the party. However, it seems to me since you are coming with two men you are getting more than your fair share of bang for your buck.
PITMOMMY wrote:ROBERTBENNET wrote:
thats a tough one, Maybe on those parties where single males are not included have your single male friend (or you could help) find him a single female for them to go as a couple, and then you would have the option to have a 4 way fun fest.
well i would rather attend events with three really hot guys, i wonder then if we could get in as two couples, because they are all bi of course.
Exactly, but if you are bringing a bf and your other half is bringing a gf then it's two couples anyways and why would you not have to pay for two couples?
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:Boy, What jerk would not be willing to pay to go to a party with you. I know women like to lay the cash also but really kitty. If he doesn
[quote=SUGARSANDSPICE][quote=HELLO_KITTY12984]I don't have so much of a problem with what the parties are charging, if I can't afford to go, I just don't get to go. But I am rather annoyed at not being able to bring a date just cuz my date is not of the female persuasion. Oh well I guess. Makes it easier to choose which party to attend when there's 5 on the same night. lulz.
SUGARSANDSPICE wrote:Boy, What jerk would not be willing to pay to go to a party with you. I know women like to lay the cash also but really kitty. If he doesn
[quote=HELLO_KITTY12984][quote=SUGARSANDSPICE][quote=HELLO_KITTY12984]I don't have so much of a problem with what the parties are charging, if I can't afford to go, I just don't get to go. But I am rather annoyed at not being able to bring a date just cuz my date is not of the female persuasion. Oh well I guess. Makes it easier to choose which party to attend when there's 5 on the same night. lulz.
MISSSMITHNSIRNEWBY wrote:
But what if your partner is a transgender he, but you want him to be a her that evening? Does she get in free, do you pay full price, or is it half-off?
Sir Newby
They pay double, lol.
UCANTOUCHMYMONKY wrote:
If $25 is a deal killer for attending a party maybe working a little over time is a better idea than going out anyway.
I would have to strongly agree with sir monkey! Perhaps if your partners aren't willing to pay 25 bucks to spend a night out with you, then perhaps the over time isn't what you need, mybe you need to reevaluate your relationship status with that person. Just my opinion.
what you guys dont understand is that i want to be escorted by at least 4 men all the time, and not like big fat ugly guys iam talking guys like my boyfriend who is a male stripper, and hes got two friends he works with and my hubby who is just as good looking....so iam settling for wanting to have two go with me which is going to cost me 50 bucks....i gues id rather by an eighth and stay at home, i mean fifty bucks to me is alot, i have to masterbate or show my muscle to some pervert on a webcam to make that, well guess that probablly doesnt matter cuz i would be masterbating anyway, i love masterbating
so if a guy has four chicks with him hes good to go it doesnt cost him hardly anything to get in.
i think its called prejudice lol is that the word,
anyway what is the point with all the single male costing more than single female
just because a guy has a penis doesnt make him masculine, everybody is both masculine and femine, you cant determine where a person is at with there sexuality by whether or not they have a penis.
i think its called prejudice lol is that the word,
anyway what is the point with all the single male costing more than single female
just because a guy has a penis doesnt make him masculine, everybody is both masculine and femine, you cant determine where a person is at with there sexuality by whether or not they have a penis.
PITMOMMY wrote:
what you guys dont understand is that i want to be escorted by at least 4 men all the time, and not like big fat ugly guys iam talking guys like my boyfriend who is a male stripper, and hes got two friends he works with and my hubby who is just as good looking....so iam settling for wanting to have two go with me which is going to cost me 50 bucks....i gues id rather by an eighth and stay at home, i mean fifty bucks to me is alot, i have to masterbate or show my muscle to some pervert on a webcam to make that, well guess that probablly doesnt matter cuz i would be masterbating anyway, i love masterbating
Well I suppose there are several things I see wrong, one you're not hosting the parties, therefore you can't dictate the set rules. 2 you judge the person on the other end of the Web cam as a "pervert" and he's willing to spend money to see you.... The other men are clearly having you pay, you keep saying its allot to YOU, so what does that make them? But at this point it really doesn't matter what any of us say, you have your own logic. So it just depends what theory you subscribe to.
@PITMOMMY: I have a solution...I'm not bi, nor am I homophobic, and I don't drink, but I'll let you dress me up like a hot chick, cover the cost of the second couple, and go as your 4th, as long as you personally tear all of that shit off of me later and remind me that I'm still a man. LOL. Hell I think I just came up with a new fantasy. We better get video, this might drive my wife insane! 
ROCK
ROCK
JUSTICE wrote:
how about you ask the host and see what they will do for you,done and done
Then when we come, we can bring a single friend we know, they can hook up at the party, and we are able to get another coup,e in gratis. This could work out well. Heck, you bring the 4 guys, we will bring four gals, and save on three coup,ea, or even charge the guys half price to get them in and they are guaranteed dates.
Think we can pull it off?
There is only two kinds of fair the worlds fair and county fair.... Throw your own party. How about if you don't drink, or eat crap food that is served? Should you then be allowed in free? I say yes! But that is too fair...LOL! As a superior court Judge told me one day in his chambers; "The world is full of double standards." With a smile of course.
We have never been to a party where there was not enough cocks to go around, we have been to places where there was a shortage of women. So most hosts try to keep the number of men lower that is why they limit additional males. If you go to a movie with 2 for 1 tickets they don't let you have the third person in for free.
25 bucks is a deal we have never seen it less than 50 bucks for a single guy, if the host is just trying to make money they will charge 100 bucks and let an unlimited amount of single guys in.
It is a double standard that single women get in for less or free but that means more women more pussy. So that double standard will live on and really who cares if they pay less.
25 bucks is a deal we have never seen it less than 50 bucks for a single guy, if the host is just trying to make money they will charge 100 bucks and let an unlimited amount of single guys in.
It is a double standard that single women get in for less or free but that means more women more pussy. So that double standard will live on and really who cares if they pay less.
ive been going to these parties here in utah since 05 and i think there worth 12.50 per person, thats what it typically always use to cost anyway, ive watched lots of party host come and go,iam not new to how the party scene is at these events, ive been going to them for 7 years. but anyway at 12.50 a person or 35 for three, if the party sucks and you leave then oh well no biggy, but when they raised the price to 25 and they offered things like free alcohol, all you can drink, one time i went they didnt have vodka and its like your kidding, but no they didnt have any and then your in someones back yard and not allowed in house, were looking at each other like this sucks i dont have a drink and were standing in someones back yard, lets get out of here and you leave and its like hey wait a minute i just gave them 50.00! what do you do then ask for money back your just leave? is it wrong to expect more as the price goes up? i do agree that if a guy shows up alone he would be single
and pay higher fee 25 o r 35dollars or whatever, i mean he might just get laid so 25 pretty cheap. but if the 3 of us show up and were already in a relationship then were not single, you cant be single if your together
and pay higher fee 25 o r 35dollars or whatever, i mean he might just get laid so 25 pretty cheap. but if the 3 of us show up and were already in a relationship then were not single, you cant be single if your together
Lo, like I said, you have your own logic and therefore why even ask for advice! Here is a novel idea. HAVE THE MEN YOUR BRINGING PAY FOR YOU! I don't know if your biological Callender is off....butt in 05 many things were cheaper, inflation sister.. Gas in 05 was cheaper too..so really what is the validity of your complaint? If you don't like the subjective rules then don't attend, I don't care how hot you say someone is, mabey that person Is not going to eveyones type,you keep saying that you've attended many many many parties, great.. Then of you don't like the rules of the host then host your own! Than at that point you can make the rules and then you can't complain.
Hewll if you have four guys with you, what do you need the party for anyway?
Hell if you have four guys with you, what do you need the party for anyway?
HIGHWAY1 wrote:
Hell if you have four guys with you, what do you need the party for anyway?
YEs it seems like you should stay home and party.
So you say these parties are only worth the price of a movie ticket plus a coke?
The question of why guys cost more or are not allowed has been lost in your 4 escort thing. OR maybe it highlights the reason!
How are other couples and gals going to feel with 3 sets of beady eyes staring at them. only one guy can look like he is yours. Picture this distraction as all 5 of you walk though a party as one solid mass of lust. I am not so sure guys drink more than some of these Utah women!
I think no matter how hot you think a guy is does not matter. The fact is single guys at parties change the whole sexual dynamic for many women and couples. a couple will walk around together for the most part. Extra guys will stand out and tend to stare and for many women this bothers them and inhibits their fun.
you know what i was originally think when i started this was that, iam masculine in my relationship with both guys, they both have more feminie than masculine qualities, then i read posts on here about homophobic guys who dont dp because they dont want to touch penises, its like wtf, then iam wondering where bi sexual men fit into this swingers community who are supposidly open mined, i would think that if this community were so open mined they would see a person as a masculine or femmine spirit, what if my bf like feminine guys, will there be any at a lifestyle party? what if a guy likes masculine women how many will be there? the closed minded nature of these parties sets the whole thing back to before the sixties, they might as well only allow straight wife swapping and no bisexual men allowed
HIGHWAY1 wrote:
Hell if you have four guys with you, what do you need the party for anyway?
i dont really go out, i dont need a party, we just sometimes like to get out of the house, especially since none of us have real jobs lol, use to go to lifestyle parties though, dont go to bars, last party i went to was last summer it wad 25 each and i felt like i got ripped off so dont go anymore, like i said i would go but will only pay approx 12.50 a person that way if we leave early there are no hard feelings, i hate feeling like i got ripped off, like i said were just there to get out of the house together, the chances of us hooking up at a party is pretty slim, were not going to be there eyeing everyone, with hard penises, there has to be spiritual energy, an atraction between souls, being a man or women has nothing to do with anything
PITMOMMY wrote:
you know what i was originally think when i started this was that, iam masculine in my relationship with both guys, they both have more feminie than masculine qualities, then i read posts on here about homophobic guys who dont dp because they dont want to touch penises, its like wtf, then iam wondering where bi sexual men fit into this swingers community who are supposidly open mined, i would think that if this community were so open mined they would see a person as a masculine or femmine spirit, what if my bf like feminine guys, will there be any at a lifestyle party? what if a guy likes masculine women how many will be there? the closed minded nature of these parties sets the whole thing back to before the sixties, they might as well only allow straight wife swapping and no bisexual men allowed
I will admit my mind is not that open. I wouldn't enjoy seeing any bi men activities at a party we would leave.
We or mostly I dont find those thoughts sexy. However I have seen bi couples and group all bi parties forming on Craigslist. However I doubt those parties are held someplace with a heated indoor pool and Spa. But for $12.50 each you should be able to cover the cost of a suites. But then you will need some liquid spirits but you wont have a bartender so you will still ave to mix them yourselves. Or I am sure you can task one of your escorts to tend bar all night long.
PITMOMMY wrote:
does anybody think this guys cute? 22chris69
you girls are loosing out by not sticking up for me cuz this is what i would be bringing and theres more where that came from 22chris69
I'm lost, if your bringing guys like this Chris, how are the gals missing out. Is he just wanting to get in free then hook up with other gals, or is he with you and the other gals are to look but not touch.
As for the guys, I vote he not be allowed in even with a date if he is on the hunt for our women as the post implies.
Times are tight all the way around. Hosts have costs and bills to pay and have to clean up after everyone else goes home. I see no problem with even a small house party host trying to make enough to help clean the carpets, or pay heat and maintenance on the hot tub etc.
Look, we all have our own rules, likes, dislikes etc. I personally would not go to a Sessy people party because I do not like that general attitude. It does not matter how nice or sexy someone else that attends them is or how I get along with them at other times. It is simply not my style.
If you do not like or approve of something, don
Look, we all have our own rules, likes, dislikes etc. I personally would not go to a Sessy people party because I do not like that general attitude. It does not matter how nice or sexy someone else that attends them is or how I get along with them at other times. It is simply not my style.
If you do not like or approve of something, don
PITMOMMY wrote:
you know what i was originally think when i started this was that, iam masculine in my relationship with both guys, they both have more feminie than masculine qualities, then i read posts on here about homophobic guys who dont dp because they dont want to touch penises, its like wtf, then iam wondering where bi sexual men fit into this swingers community who are supposidly open mined, i would think that if this community were so open mined they would see a person as a masculine or femmine spirit, what if my bf like feminine guys, will there be any at a lifestyle party? what if a guy likes masculine women how many will be there? the closed minded nature of these parties sets the whole thing back to before the sixties, they might as well only allow straight wife swapping and no bisexual men allowed
Let's not go taking one thing and try calling it another! The topic had nothing to do with sexuality and everything to do with being too damn frugal.
you guys are pretty funny, i can write about anything i want , how do you even know iam serious or maybe just stoned, it might not even be me typing lol
i have both good and bad news though, the good news is i already made 300 today of a video of my deepthroating and the bad is i cant find my cat
i wonder if iam being punished...i miss my cat
i have both good and bad news though, the good news is i already made 300 today of a video of my deepthroating and the bad is i cant find my cat
i wonder if iam being punished...i miss my catIts ok pitmommy... We are all lughing at you... Not with you.
But congrats on the 300 from the...what did you call them?... Oh yeah "perverts", that'sa good thing to call those who pay your bills..
Well atleast you have money to pay for your men! Lmao...
Where does one find a women these days to pay for all their shit!?
Good luck... I mean that!
But congrats on the 300 from the...what did you call them?... Oh yeah "perverts", that'sa good thing to call those who pay your bills..
Well atleast you have money to pay for your men! Lmao...
Where does one find a women these days to pay for all their shit!?
Good luck... I mean that!
There's a lot of great commentary here, but the bottom line is that life isn't fair and nobody promised me it would be. Single men are in low demand; single women are in high demand. Economics 101 - men have to pay more to get in.
Someone else in this conversation said it well... if you cant afford the entrance fee you probably should be at work anyway. People pay a heck of a lot more to play a round of golf and that's a whole lot less exciting than SEX! (Hmmm... what else could I do with that club? Could you help me with my swing? And what's that about a hole in one? Did someone say something about a beer girl?... Then again, maybe golf has something going for it. I'll have to play that one through.)
Someone else in this conversation said it well... if you cant afford the entrance fee you probably should be at work anyway. People pay a heck of a lot more to play a round of golf and that's a whole lot less exciting than SEX! (Hmmm... what else could I do with that club? Could you help me with my swing? And what's that about a hole in one? Did someone say something about a beer girl?... Then again, maybe golf has something going for it. I'll have to play that one through.)
so my question still hasnt been answered if we pay 50.00 to get in and the party sucks do i ask for my money back? or do i walk out the exit door with my head down because they got me, or do i just stay anyway?
i wonder what websters definition of single is? i think its more sinmiliar to mine and different from thiers, when you come in a group no one is single, just better come in a group of evens instead of odds, so 3,5,7 are bad numbers i guess, last night our group had 6 in it, that would have been good i guess, but i dont really like the number six,
PITMOMMY wrote:
does anybody think this guys cute? 22chris69
you girls are loosing out by not sticking up for me cuz this is what i would be bringing and theres more where that came from 22chris69
There is nothing wrong with that guy but he looks just like your husband.. If that is what your into go for it.
I personally love getting into parties free or cheap. I never have problems getting someone to pay for me if i want to go to a party though. Not because I am that type of girl just because I like going to parties with a couple or date.
As for men not being able to get into parties with out a date or having to pay more, it is what it is. Just go to parties that let you bring select single men and have them pay there own dang way in. Talk to the party owners and ask to bring your dates with you.
Pittmommy you'er a well known figure in the LS I am sure most of the party planners would be fine as long as you vouched for the single male.
I say just host your own party and set the charges. But I do think there should just be a straight across the board per head fee. Or host your party at Camp Dan and its free.
ALINEEDISU wrote:PITMOMMY wrote:There is nothing wrong with that guy but he looks just like your husband.. If that is what your into go for it. I personally love getting into parties free or cheap. I never have problems getting someone to pay for me if i want to go to a party though. Not because I am that type of girl just because I like going to parties with a couple or date. As for men not being able to get into parties with out a date or having to pay more, it is what it is. Just go to parties that let you bring select single men and have them pay there own dang way in. Talk to the party owners and ask to bring your dates with you. Pittmommy you'er a well known figure in the LS I am sure most of the party planners would be fine as long as you vouched for the single male.
does anybody think this guys cute? 22chris69 you girls are loosing out by not sticking up for me cuz this is what i would be bringing and theres more where that came from 22chris69
there both pisces too lol, it has such a calming effect to be with two water signs