Is anyone here besides us polyamorous? What are pro's and con's that you have noticed to the lifestyle? Has it made your relationship with your primary better or worse?
Ok, call me naive, but what is Polyamorous. I know my mom was raised in a polygamist group, however I don't know what polyamorous is...
I've known several couples that embraced a polyamorous relationship with another person. In one case two couples got together polyamorously. It didn't work out in the end. It was too hard to put away the jealousy. It wasn't just sex.
Everything positive or negative is multiplied by the amount of people involved.
There are quite a few of us that are poly. There are many positives and negatives. To many to list, lol
By general definition all swingers are polyamorous.
Polyamory (from Greek ???? [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
Polyamory is a less specific term than polygamy, the practice or condition of having more than one spouse. The majority of polygamous cultures are traditionally polygynous, where one husband has multiple wives. Polyandrous societies, in which one wife has multiple husbands, are less common but do exist. Marriage is not a requirement in polyamorous relationships.
Polyamory (from Greek ???? [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
Polyamory is a less specific term than polygamy, the practice or condition of having more than one spouse. The majority of polygamous cultures are traditionally polygynous, where one husband has multiple wives. Polyandrous societies, in which one wife has multiple husbands, are less common but do exist. Marriage is not a requirement in polyamorous relationships.
SUGARSANDSPICE wrote:
Polyamory (from Greek ???? [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
Depends on your definition of relationship I suppose.
I differentiate by the fact that I do not have relationships with my extra partners. Most of the time I'm not even on a friends level with them. The poly sets I've seen actually have full, on-going relationships with the multiple persons. I suppose some people mix emotion and sex and call it intimate. I don't necessarily tangle the two items together.
Most early cultures were poly like societies. The Native Indians worked in a shared life a full circle of love. The mothers teach and the fathers hunt. However their festivities shows they love to dance together in whats known as a "Pow Wow". They often where like a wolf pack in which wolves are family oriented for many generations they live and thrive off of each others hand in life.
We do practice this lifestyle. Like many have said it is not easy living the lifestyle. It not traditional like a man and a wife. However, more people live this way then we in the United States even imagined.
It is natural but not with everyone saying its not!!!
There is magic in a group of people who truly love each other and the more the merrier!!!
We love the adventure we are given and plan to meet many friends ahead. We as humans are constantly evolving and every day could be a new beginning!!!
We do practice this lifestyle. Like many have said it is not easy living the lifestyle. It not traditional like a man and a wife. However, more people live this way then we in the United States even imagined.
It is natural but not with everyone saying its not!!!
There is magic in a group of people who truly love each other and the more the merrier!!!
We love the adventure we are given and plan to meet many friends ahead. We as humans are constantly evolving and every day could be a new beginning!!!
We have NEVER loved parrots and find it quite disgusting that someone would do that to a helpless bird. I'm fairly certain Swingular has strict guidelines against bestiality. Please keep your filthy bird sex on AFF where it belongs.
SUGARSANDSPICE wrote:
By general definition all swingers are polyamorous.
Polyamory (from Greek ???? [poly, meaning many or several] and Latin amor [love]) is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved.
Polyamory is a less specific term than polygamy, the practice or condition of having more than one spouse. The majority of polygamous cultures are traditionally polygynous, where one husband has multiple wives. Polyandrous societies, in which one wife has multiple husbands, are less common but do exist. Marriage is not a requirement in polyamorous relationships.
That is the wikipedia definition and is not correct.
Here is pretty much everything you could want to know about Polyamory..
http://www.lovemore.com/faq.php#wip
We are newly in this lifestyle but have felt this way for years, both he and I. We mostly just thought something must be wrong with us for wanting to love more than one person, because how societies outlooks on everything and how people tend to shun everything out of the ordinary. We were googling feelings we were having and came across the term "Polyamorous". It fit absolutely perfectly. Since then I have been researching it and found so many people whom believe in it, and have actually seen many therapists on these reality tv shows that condone it and I have never heard anything negative about it which makes me super excited that maybe society won't shun it and it may actually have a chance of surviving without people having to stay in the closet, for lack of a better reference.
http://www.lovemore.com/faq.php#wip
We are newly in this lifestyle but have felt this way for years, both he and I. We mostly just thought something must be wrong with us for wanting to love more than one person, because how societies outlooks on everything and how people tend to shun everything out of the ordinary. We were googling feelings we were having and came across the term "Polyamorous". It fit absolutely perfectly. Since then I have been researching it and found so many people whom believe in it, and have actually seen many therapists on these reality tv shows that condone it and I have never heard anything negative about it which makes me super excited that maybe society won't shun it and it may actually have a chance of surviving without people having to stay in the closet, for lack of a better reference.
TALL_GUY801 wrote:
Any advice on how to experience this without regrets or pain - for anybody? I would appreciate any feedback?
I was once told, "If you think you might regret something... don't do it." I live my life by that wisdom. If the thought of possible regret comes into my mind when I'm taking something into consideration, then I already have my answer... I don't do it.
Another great quote that comes to mind is, "Advice is what you ask for when you already know the answer, but wish you didn't."
I can tell you from experience that if a "normal" relationship is what you seek, you will be hard pressed to find it if you are in love with somebody else... but maybe that's just me.
We have been in a Poly relationship with another couple for 2 years. There have been lots of great times and some rough times we have had to work through. It takes a completely stable marriage for the spouses and tons of open and honest communication from everyone involved. Both marriages are going on 20 yrs+ Every poly situation is different. Some have very strict rules, however we chose not to have rules. We just have mutual respect for one anothers marriages and each individual relationship between the four of us. If it ended today, I would have no regrets what so ever. Our lives have been enriched beyond belief and our marriages are stronger and happier than ever. I have learned so much about love, relationships, communication, and myself during these last couple of years and I wouldn't change a thing. We started out as Swingers and still have Swinger friends, but we are emotionally and sexually faithful to our partners. Five years ago, I could never fathom loving anyone else besides my husband. The other couple's kids are grown and we still have 2 at home. We will not tell our children the extent of our relationship with our couple until they are out of High School. Some Poly people blend homes and families. We chose not to do that, but do not judge those who do. Poly relationships are very challenging to say the least. It can be wonderful as well. Just my bit 
POLYCOUPLE wrote:
[That is the wikipedia definition and is not correct.
Yes you are correct. But in truth everyone makes of it what they will.
POLYCOUPLE wrote:
Here is pretty much everything you could want to know about Polyamory.. http://www.lovemore.com/faq.php#wip We are newly in this lifestyle but have felt this way for years, both he and I. We mostly just thought something must be wrong with us for wanting to love more than one person, because how societies outlooks on everything and how people tend to shun everything out of the ordinary. We were googling feelings we were having and came across the term "Polyamorous". It fit absolutely perfectly. Since then I have been researching it and found so many people whom believe in it, and have actually seen many therapists on these reality tv shows that condone it and I have never heard anything negative about it which makes me super excited that maybe society won't shun it and it may actually have a chance of surviving without people having to stay in the closet, for lack of a better reference.
No single article can begin to map the tides of Polyamory. There are books that do not even come close and not everyone can succeed in living this way. There are both broad and narrow definitions of poly. Like everything else some require tight knit rules and some relationships are more open like the Hippy movement of the 60
TALL_GUY801 wrote:
Any advice on how to experience this without regrets or pain - for anybody? I would appreciate any feedback?
Can you eat a candy bar without regret at all points? Probably not, as there are times we regret some of the simpler things we do or say in life more than we wish. I admit I am not in a poly relationship now, and am looking, but I think starting with one person you care deeply for and adding to that with others you care deeply for with no jealousy between is a good place to start. It seems having good communication and a structure devised by all involved to allow each person to be themselves, but support each other in most ways would work. Basically an adult sexual family of mutual choosing , a bit of a communal type relationship. To me Polyamorous is not just having sex.. and by definition it is not. it is the ability to love many... at one time in harmony with each other. There are several good books out on the subject to read if you look.
No I'm pretty sure it's fucking parrots.
In a true Poly relationship there is no primary. Everyone is treated = if you can't do that than your poly relasionship is due to fail everytime.
I have heard this type of response from almost every poly person I have talked to. This is mainly why we decided to try it, there are so many Peri's and everyone seems to be incredibly strong because of it. Of course there are down sides but what relationship doesn't have problems? Thank you everyone for your input I really appreciate it!
SUMINDYFUN wrote:
We have been in a Poly relationship with another couple for 2 years. There have been lots of great times and some rough times we have had to work through. It takes a completely stable marriage for the spouses and tons of open and honest communication from everyone involved. Both marriages are going on 20 yrs+ Every poly situation is different. Some have very strict rules, however we chose not to have rules. We just have mutual respect for one anothers marriages and each individual relationship between the four of us. If it ended today, I would have no regrets what so ever. Our lives have been enriched beyond belief and our marriages are stronger and happier than ever. I have learned so much about love, relationships, communication, and myself during these last couple of years and I wouldn't change a thing. We started out as Swingers and still have Swinger friends, but we are emotionally and sexually faithful to our partners. Five years ago, I could never fathom loving anyone else besides my husband. The other couple's kids are grown and we still have 2 at home. We will not tell our children the extent of our relationship with our couple until they are out of High School. Some Poly people blend homes and families. We chose not to do that, but do not judge those who do. Poly relationships are very challenging to say the least. It can be wonderful as well. Just my bit