It seems as if the doors are closed to a couple with little or no experience.
Why is that?
My wife and I have been posting ads on various swing sites for a while now and haven't been lucky enough to find a nice couple or single female to hook up with.
Is it that swingers don't want to "waste their time" breaking in newbies or what?
We've chatted with a single female who blew us off and a couple of couples who have done the same.
We would just love to find a couple or single female who we can actually hook up with. How are you supposed to "enjoy the lifestyle" when the lifestyle won't enjoy you?
Why is that?
My wife and I have been posting ads on various swing sites for a while now and haven't been lucky enough to find a nice couple or single female to hook up with.
Is it that swingers don't want to "waste their time" breaking in newbies or what?
We've chatted with a single female who blew us off and a couple of couples who have done the same.
We would just love to find a couple or single female who we can actually hook up with. How are you supposed to "enjoy the lifestyle" when the lifestyle won't enjoy you?
Hello, first off you live in Illionis so we can't speak for that area but we (in Texas) also had a hard time getting started. Now there could be a few things that scare off the people in your area. Maybe you seem to eager. Maybe one of you two or both arn't just what the others are looking for. Maybe you two are too selective as too what you want.
To make a very long subject short there are thousands of reasons why people decide weather or not to meet others. As for us we just kept trying. And now I and my sexy lady get together with a Bi Married lady whose husband just doesn't wish to play anymore.
So I guess what were trying to say is just keep pluging away there is always another couple out there for everyone, and the few fortunate who find a bi-lady.
Best of luck but most of all stay safe.
P.S. By the way your lady looks pretty sexy to us.
To make a very long subject short there are thousands of reasons why people decide weather or not to meet others. As for us we just kept trying. And now I and my sexy lady get together with a Bi Married lady whose husband just doesn't wish to play anymore.
So I guess what were trying to say is just keep pluging away there is always another couple out there for everyone, and the few fortunate who find a bi-lady.
Best of luck but most of all stay safe.
P.S. By the way your lady looks pretty sexy to us.
looked at your profile. you cum to wyoming we will play with you if you like. we like full swap cum see us
You cant use internet sites like this as a sign that no one wants to play with 'newbies' It has been well documented in other threads in these forums that 'people dont reply to mail'
We have been using websites for the past two years and they have supplied nothing. Not sure if you have a 'swing club' in your neck of the woods, it sounds like you dont. So you have to check out Yahoo chatrooms and such to increase your 'search area'.
Good luck in your search.
We have been using websites for the past two years and they have supplied nothing. Not sure if you have a 'swing club' in your neck of the woods, it sounds like you dont. So you have to check out Yahoo chatrooms and such to increase your 'search area'.
Good luck in your search.
Can't say since we are not the most experienced either. It is because we don't have lll the experience or that we are too old, or that I scare folks. LOL All in all it doesn't matter. We use several websites and are just persistent. By 2007 we will well experienced. :-) Unfortunately we prefer folks closer to us than Aurora or we could hook up and all get experience. Of course that is if we weren't too old for you. LOL Just be patient. All things happen in their time. :-)
Hate to state the obvious but it's probably the area you are in... We arent exactly the best looking couple on the planet but we have done quite well. But we are very fortunate to be in a very sexually repressed area which results in a very good counter culture.
Dont give up! I know that if you were in Salt lake you would have met us by now!!!
You guys look GREAT! Dont worry its all about location!
BandZ
In fact pack your shit and head towards the land of milk and honey this minute!!!!!!
We will all have a good time
Dont give up! I know that if you were in Salt lake you would have met us by now!!!
You guys look GREAT! Dont worry its all about location!
BandZ
In fact pack your shit and head towards the land of milk and honey this minute!!!!!!
We will all have a good time
Gee ZandB2, how can you tell a lie like that? You are a great looking couple. :-) And yes some of it is the area, but there are a lot of folks in Illinois as well, they just may not use this particular website. :-) We are on several and have found a lot of folks in Illinois. :-) If they are patient and try other systems they will find what they are looking for.
While I'm newer to this lifestyle. I'm not new to alternative lifestyles. This was harder to break into for me as I had found that with the world of BDSM I had so many questions which I had kind help with, people knew me quickly as the guy that was taking time to learn rather than jump right in.
Certainly parties are a great way to meet up with like-minded individuals, but so are meet-and-greets such as over lunch or coffee. There doesn't need to be talk of sex or swapping or anything adult, it's just a time and place to meet new people that may like each other in Real- World but who would pass you over Online.
If you feel like it....try posting on the forum that you will be at such-and-such a venue for coffee and others are welcome to come and say Hi (is that ok here??) and see what happens. You may be the only ones there, so try it a few weeks at the same time and place.
..and the best of Luck !
Certainly parties are a great way to meet up with like-minded individuals, but so are meet-and-greets such as over lunch or coffee. There doesn't need to be talk of sex or swapping or anything adult, it's just a time and place to meet new people that may like each other in Real- World but who would pass you over Online.
If you feel like it....try posting on the forum that you will be at such-and-such a venue for coffee and others are welcome to come and say Hi (is that ok here??) and see what happens. You may be the only ones there, so try it a few weeks at the same time and place.
..and the best of Luck !
This reply is for both threads since I mistakenly hit the refresh button when IE froze and caused a double post (apologies for that one).
I'd like to start by thanking everyone here for there comments/suggestions. You guys are great.
Some people suggested we try other sites besides this one, or just to put our profile up on multiple sites. I'd like to point out to these people that my opening post mentioned we have tried several sites to no avail.
And, we will KEEP trying. None of you can stop us!! Muahahahahahahaaaa!!
Seriously folks, thanks!
NOTE: To all you hot couples from distant places who told us to "pack our bags and come visit"...we may just opt to try that someday.
I'd like to start by thanking everyone here for there comments/suggestions. You guys are great.
Some people suggested we try other sites besides this one, or just to put our profile up on multiple sites. I'd like to point out to these people that my opening post mentioned we have tried several sites to no avail.
And, we will KEEP trying. None of you can stop us!! Muahahahahahahaaaa!!
Seriously folks, thanks!
NOTE: To all you hot couples from distant places who told us to "pack our bags and come visit"...we may just opt to try that someday.
Just an idea. Try a few more pics on your profile even pg rated but a few more, Get out to an open swingers party meet others socialy do not expect sex and maybe that hot cpl will fall into your lap LOL
just our two cents
just our two cents
Little Hint.... respond to emails
Little Hint.... respond to emails
also, we started going to swingers clubs in our area, it was a lot less pressure for us because we didn't have to go on a "date" with another couple
Just a suggestion
Just a suggestion
To bad you don't live here. I too have had very ;ittle experience exept with close friends. I have never met someone and hooked up. I think it is a little challenging as well. Now I'm getting ready to move to Texas and there doesn't seem to be nearly as many people there as here so I'm sad....
Ok, we've decided to get a couple more up-to-date sexy pictures up on our profile. Nothing too XXX but nothing too innocent either. They should be here quite soon.
We've also decided that we will attend some swing parties. My wife was under the impression that "swing party = pressure", and that it was basically a big orgy. I explained to her that it is NOT a big orgy and that even though couples do have sex there they also go there to meet other couples for later swinging in a more private setting...she looked at me like it was the most wonderful thing she'd heard all day and asked me why we hadn't gone to any yet!!
We will keep searching the sites tho...and hopefully we can find Mr. and Mrs. Right out there somewhere.
They should be here quite soon.We've also decided that we will attend some swing parties. My wife was under the impression that "swing party = pressure", and that it was basically a big orgy. I explained to her that it is NOT a big orgy and that even though couples do have sex there they also go there to meet other couples for later swinging in a more private setting...she looked at me like it was the most wonderful thing she'd heard all day and asked me why we hadn't gone to any yet!!
We will keep searching the sites tho...and hopefully we can find Mr. and Mrs. Right out there somewhere.
well we have only done 1mmf 1ffm and 1 full swap and this is i a 4 year time spand.
we go to clubs swiger parties. everything.
what is get to is you make more friends in this lifestyle the n lovers.
we had a concern about this at first but now we really dont care cause we have had the run aroud so much it just really isnt worth it . and we dot put stock in people that says they want to meet up . so dot feel like you are the only ones cause your not. just go out and have fun.
if it happends it happends if it doesnt it wasnt ment to be.
carl and holly
we go to clubs swiger parties. everything.
what is get to is you make more friends in this lifestyle the n lovers.
we had a concern about this at first but now we really dont care cause we have had the run aroud so much it just really isnt worth it . and we dot put stock in people that says they want to meet up . so dot feel like you are the only ones cause your not. just go out and have fun.
if it happends it happends if it doesnt it wasnt ment to be.
carl and holly
Ha ha to the comment about swingers parties being one big orgy. We have been to several parties and none of them have been that 
If anyone knows where they have those, please let us know
If anyone knows where they have those, please let us knowI have to agree with the pics, also the party club idea is really good. It gives you a low pressure way to meet other couples of like-interest. too bad you don't live here you guys are cute, if you come to N.O. drop us a line
We agree with many of the others, here. Get out and to meet and greets and house parties. Meeting people in person is the best. Profiles and pics only tell half the story.
We have nothing against playing with newbies. Hell, we were new once to. If it hadn't been for some really good people that steered us in the right directions we wouldn't be where we are at today. So keep looking, you'll find someone.
We have nothing against playing with newbies. Hell, we were new once to. If it hadn't been for some really good people that steered us in the right directions we wouldn't be where we are at today. So keep looking, you'll find someone.
It is sad but one of the best clubs that was close to them is having a final party this coming weekend. Local Gov finally got there way.
It was a huge house party where most people knew each other well (we do a lot of outside the club stuff together too). New comers were always welcome and never got to sit alone (unless they really wanted to). Someone always sat and visited with new folks.
A lot of playing went on but mostly in one of the five bedrooms or in the pool.
If you want the female prospective on the club either join the Yahoo Group for the club that we mentioned previously or IM some of the females from the group. Final suggestion is to join that groups Tuesday night chat. Just tell them the Mayor sent ya (lil inside joke)
It was a huge house party where most people knew each other well (we do a lot of outside the club stuff together too). New comers were always welcome and never got to sit alone (unless they really wanted to). Someone always sat and visited with new folks.
A lot of playing went on but mostly in one of the five bedrooms or in the pool.
If you want the female prospective on the club either join the Yahoo Group for the club that we mentioned previously or IM some of the females from the group. Final suggestion is to join that groups Tuesday night chat. Just tell them the Mayor sent ya (lil inside joke)