So..I was wondering why younger people aren't really in this lifestyle. My husband is 20 and I am 21, obviously age matters a little..to us at least. There aren't really any young people close to us. Is this normal everywhere? Or just in Utah?
Or you can just say we are "Seasoned to perfection"
You are not too young. The rest of us are too old for you. At 40 we are twice your age and many times more experienced. So maybe you will have to broaden your acceptance to somewhere around 30. It would not hurt to put something in your profile about approximant age etc.
We dont care about age. We prefer the ability to play on first date as our schedules dont afford us the time to do the friend thing first. Let us know if your interested! Good Luck and best wishes!
Yes, you are. I know the feeling, being too good-looking.
BATMAN1404 wrote:
So..I was wondering why younger people aren't really in this lifestyle. My husband is 20 and I am 21, obviously age matters a little..to us at least. There aren't really any young people close to us. Is this normal everywhere? Or just in Utah?
So... we've been wondering why older people aren't really in this lifestyle. I'm 65 and she's 64, obviously age matters to us. There aren't really any older people close to us. Is this normal everywhere? Or just in Florida.
Batman, we feel your pain.
Age doesn't matter to us (as long as your in our age range)
I'm just gonna let you argue with yourself rather than post anything.
I'm just gonna let you argue with yourself rather than post anything.
My husband and I were your ages when we started swinging. We were the youngest for quite a few years, but met a lot of great people and had some great experiences even in our younger years.
Just did a quick search and there are roughly 30 couples listed here(in Utah) that are over 60. But I stopped counting couples under 30 at 500. Maybe most couples loose their drive about that point or maybe they just don't get along anymore and are living in misery. Who knows! But there are a few that come out to the meets from time to time.
HOTCOUPLE2TAKE wrote:BATMAN1404 wrote:
So..I was wondering why younger people aren't really in this lifestyle. My husband is 20 and I am 21, obviously age matters a little..to us at least. There aren't really any young people close to us. Is this normal everywhere? Or just in Utah?
Do you enjoy the lifestyle? That really is what matters.
We do enjoy it very, very much!
I know...that is what I was thinking. If that is the way it is, I'm in big big trouble.
You know what they say! 40 is the new 20 (at least that's how I'm feeling ;-) Ha!)
Male half here I don't think age is that important it has to do more with maturity for me I have know people in there 30s and 40s that act like they are still in high school and people in thier 20s that have the maturity of person in thier 40s so....
BATMAN1404 wrote:
I know...that is what I was thinking. If that is the way it is, I'm in big big trouble.
Yup big trouble!
I see the same thing (not a lot of couples under 30). I am very new to all this, so i have wondered the same thing as you. I can see how maturity is a major player in all this. Luckily you live in an area where there is a lot of opportunity for you. Me on the other hand, not so much..... Good luck! hope you have some great experiences!
HOTCOUPLE2TAKE wrote:
Amen!
WE HAVE PLAYED WITH YOUNGER COUPLES SOME IT WAS GOOD SOME IT WAS NOT SO YEP U GOT US OLDER FOLKS AND WE R MUCH MOR FUN THEN YOU THINK GIVE US A TRY
I can tell you this for a fact - based on both our experience AND our attitude - there is a whole lot LESS drama and insecurity with older swingers than there is with younger ones.
Us "seasoned" folks aren't hung up on looks (ours OR theirs) the way those junior to us are.
If you read a profile, and it specifies some aspect of how potential applicants have to look in order to be considered viable candidates for play, there's a 99% chance the profile belongs to a younger couple.
Vanity, ego, hangups and elitism diminish with age.
And as 2THAT said above, if you've never been with an older couple, you don't know what you're missing.
Us "seasoned" folks aren't hung up on looks (ours OR theirs) the way those junior to us are.
If you read a profile, and it specifies some aspect of how potential applicants have to look in order to be considered viable candidates for play, there's a 99% chance the profile belongs to a younger couple.
Vanity, ego, hangups and elitism diminish with age.
And as 2THAT said above, if you've never been with an older couple, you don't know what you're missing.
We have played with older and younger, and the bottom line is that there is something to learn from just about every situation you end up in. As long as none of you let the age get in the way, have fun!!
BATMAN1404 wrote:
So..I was wondering why younger people aren't really in this lifestyle. My husband is 20 and I am 21, obviously age matters a little..to us at least. There aren't really any young people close to us. Is this normal everywhere? Or just in Utah?
You're a beautiful couple, and can understand your frustration. It sucks that there aren't more young couples open to or aware of the lifestyle here for you to enjoy. Come attend some of the parties, socialize with we "older" couples, make some friends, and I'm sure you'll run into some of the youger couples more to your interest.
I have noticed that a lot of the active people on here are 30+ but there are some closer to your age, my wife and i are only a few years off from ya
I don't use age as a judge of who i meet and talk to or play with. Age is a number. Seriously, some people are well we are young so we can't play with over 30, etc...That is everyone's choice however, it will limit you. I look for quality people, age young or older...(as long as legal).
Everyone has a preference, but if you open your options, you may find some people to really click with!
Everyone has a preference, but if you open your options, you may find some people to really click with!
BATMAN1404 wrote:
So..I was wondering why younger people aren't really in this lifestyle. My husband is 20 and I am 21, obviously age matters a little..to us at least. There aren't really any young people close to us. Is this normal everywhere? Or just in Utah?
No way! We are having the same problems. We can't find anyone close to our age group, His 25 and I'm 22. Age doesn't matter so much to us either but sometimes its just nice to have someone close to our age. I understand the stereotype and I can understand why some couples would feel that way about younger couples. I just wished they would give us a chance to show that we can handle sexual experiences just fine. Also it isn't just Utah. We just moved out of Utah a few months ago and its the same here in Nevada.
We have been with all ages as well. From 20-65+. Hubby is in his later 30's and I am in my early 30's. So that in itself puts us right in the middle of the groups that merge or don't merge.
However it does not stop us from having fun. If we all click then off we all go for some naked fun times. I am glad we have met the friends we have no matter their age. We love to see everyone having fun!!!
However it does not stop us from having fun. If we all click then off we all go for some naked fun times. I am glad we have met the friends we have no matter their age. We love to see everyone having fun!!!
You might want to meet up with a couple that is a little older , you might enjoy it , we can be a hell of alot of fun 11
maybe we should just make a group for us youngyins. hahaha.
The only restrictions we have is they have to be older then our kids. Gina your 21? Damn girl same day as our anniversary and we have been married a lifetime lol. Happy Birthday.
Dave and Jackie
Dave and Jackie
FUCKADOODLEDOO wrote:
OK OK I will be 40 LOL. like I said your only as old as you act LOL.
Gina
Hot is hot, bottom line.
We don't care how young you are if you don't care how old we are.
Oooooooo military guys! Sign me up
AIRFORCEGUY wrote:
Since age defines maturity, who wants to take advantage of a vulnerable 27 year old Military guy!?
LOL Good Angle
Hard enough being a single guy in the lifestyle (kind of a double standard when it comes to single men vs single women and how they're treated), then add young to the mix...
Young doesn't always mean your not mature, old doesn't mean your not hot.
Best just to meet with others young or old and see what chemistry is there...
Yeah military guys!
NASTY4U2 wrote:
Batman.... The longer you're on here and active. The easier it gets.
That's because the longer you're on here - the OLDER you get.
One thing we've notice is most of the younger people in this lifestyle in Utah usually have kids and it seem like they want to meet up but seems like when it come downs to it they usually cant because of there kids. I think in this life style age isnt as big as deal, we are younger and it seems like most of the people we've hung out with are in there late 20's or early 30's.
I would love to swing with an older couple or younger couple. There are just a lack of swingers in my immediate area.
We used to have that problem, but we got way over it when I met Mrs. HB2, and thank goodness. Mr. HB and I have been together for six years, now, but we are still pretty inexperienced when it comes to a lot of sexual things, because we just can't compete in terms of years of experience. There's nothing wrong with that. And now that we are with someone a bit older, now we know how good it can be. That experience and confidence is something that only comes with age, and it is amazing. That said, sometimes, it is fun to hang out with couples closer to our she, if we want to do more than play. Generally speaking, people in their late 30's or older don't want to like, go to the club, lol. At least nut the club WE want to go to. Basically, there are pros and cons to every age group, but you never know if you like it if you don't try.
One thing that helped us with that was to go to a club. It's ready to discriminate online, but when you are actually there, things tend to be a bit looser.
Sorry, posting from my phone, if there are any typos out anything, lol.
Sorry, posting from my phone, if there are any typos out anything, lol.
Uh oh Lucky has opinions this morning lol.....ok so here is the issue I have with age... It's not that your not hot as hell I mean we would all like to be twenty again or at leat have our 20 year old bodies back... But fact is my wife and I have been together for 18 years we have been in the lifestyle for most of that time, we have watched many couples we have known and loved come apart at the seams and break up some because of the lifestyle some for other reasons most had been together for many years..... When your young and in the lifestyle most would feel that you are high risk group that could not last thus it increases the odds of high drama which most of us try to avoid so I guess it could be said it's not you it's us lol....
who doesnt like fresh meat?
LUCKY-N-NAUGHTY wrote:
Uh oh Lucky has opinions this morning lol.....ok so here is the issue I have with age... It's not that your not hot as hell I mean we would all like to be twenty again or at leat have our 20 year old bodies back... But fact is my wife and I have been together for 18 years we have been in the lifestyle for most of that time, we have watched many couples we have known and loved come apart at the seams and break up some because of the lifestyle some for other reasons most had been together for many years..... When your young and in the lifestyle most would feel that you are high risk group that could not last thus it increases the odds of high drama which most of us try to avoid so I guess it could be said it's not you it's us lol....
I partially agree.
Many folks assume that this lifestyle is detrimental on a marriage or our relationships. I don
I personally don't think you're too young. However, you have to ask yourselves this. Are there couples here that you would consider too old? I have a son your age. I am 39 this year. Sexually speaking, I don't think any age above 18 is off-limits. However, not everyone is in the lifestyle just for sex alone. Many want friends etc. Age usually dictates one's maturity level. Not always. Most older swingers will shy away or be leery of young swingers because, 1) Swinger parties have alcohol. 2) Maturity or lack thereof. 3) Insecurity about their aging faces/bodies compared to yours. Let's face it, everyone has something that they're turned on or off by. You just have to roll with it. I personally think you two deserve a fair shake. Don't let others' choices get your down. Remember, everyone turning you down is in turn getting turned down by someone else. I don't care how hot they seem.
Don
Don't let others' choices get your down. Remember, everyone turning you down is in turn getting turned down by someone else. I don't care how hot they seem. Don
We have lifestyle friends of all ages...some we play with..some we don't. But have to say...physical age has never really played into either case. Now..maturity level..that's a different story.
We're young and haven't really had many issues finding young couples as well... there have been some older ones but we give it a chance. We met a guy at a meet and greet that we thought was late 20's... turned out he was 38. He was in great shape and we never would have realized it. He was awesome. Just goes to show that age is deceptive