Just curious what everyone's opinion is when the men are playing with another woman? When it's that moment of cumming what is everyone's preference? Do the men prefer to pull out and finish or stay in and finish? Does it matter one way or the other for the women? Are there couples with rules regarding this "moment"? Any and all discussion welcummed here 
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I (the Mr.) Prefer to pull out most of the time....
....I (the Mr.) Prefer to pull out most of the time....
Always pull out! Any questions?
Any questions?Depending on whether or not there are any further activities planned, cumming inside can 'foul the well' for any later oral fun if others aren't "into" that.
But coitus interuptus isn't my (he) favorite.
Just a bit more of a bonding feeling if you share that final moment.
But coitus interuptus isn't my (he) favorite.
Just a bit more of a bonding feeling if you share that final moment.
The raincoat is on... so what is the difference.......
We do not full swap. That said, I would hope a condom is being used by you full swappers so why would you guys pull out? To shoot over her body at her request? We dont use condoms. I always pump it deep in my wife.. She enjoys that feeling very much and it makes the contractions after the first one much more intense for me compared to pulling out which we have tried a few times.
The first few couple guys said they pull out.. Is this with a condom on or not? why pull out.. because this is to intimate to share... May I ask if you do pull out which in our opinion would reduce the please for both. Why then would you swap in the first place??
The first few couple guys said they pull out.. Is this with a condom on or not? why pull out.. because this is to intimate to share... May I ask if you do pull out which in our opinion would reduce the please for both. Why then would you swap in the first place??
I guess it all depends on whether or not a condom is being worn. I personally wont double dip once the woman has been cummed in. It may be just me, but I have a thing about not mixing it up with another mans stuff. If a condom is worn, then by all means, let it go.
My husband would cumin inside but always with a condom on, unless hes not in the moo for Cumming that way he really enjoys being sucked off 
I always use a rain coat with any one else and never use the coat more than once. I can only think of one person that I had bareback with other than my S.O. I enjoy sex and like to take my time with a woman. After she has cum several times I may decide to cum. If the only point of play was my getting off there are other ways that are quicker but a whole lot less fun.
SCJ47 wrote:
I (she) use a big black strap-on with a 1/4" hole nicely drilled and reamed through the entire 15" length. When I'm about to come, I hold the base of it just right so I can squirt right through it on to my unsuspecting victims tits and faces. I'm quite a little squirter so their reaction is priceless! hehehe
sounds amazing ~ please let me know if you another victim
~ hehehegood topic... for me? I've always understood pulling out as a form of "no condom and no birth control" way of preventing an unwanted pregnancy, or for the visual part of porn... but for me... I just don't understand WHY... I would finally find myself in a situation where I was gonna get some action where I was either wearing something or not (it all depends on the person) to get to that final moment... pull it out and 'masturbate' at the end... I am looking for the full experience... and that for me means staying inside it's that much more of a turn on 
totally makes me feel like I have the ultimate power! (same goes with oral finish... still prefer the vaj finish)
totally makes me feel like I have the ultimate power! (same goes with oral finish... still prefer the vaj finish)As for me the male half I have no preference, to me it is up to the woman. Before I get bashed let me explain. Not being a female I don't understand them at all. Condoms on I have heard the womaan can still feel the ejaculation and some enjoy that part so stay in. Others like to feel it shot on them so pull out. I guees some don't like the sticky mess so again stay in. For me it is all about the woman.
This cant be a very common rule?? I mean why would a guy want to even start to come and then pull out.. I would think it would just be better to give the gal many moments of over the top pleasure but save your self for you own spouse. If I pull out it just seems to start a shutdown on the process and is not an overall top tier event. This is interesting... But remember we have not tried this yet.
IT is funny but when I ask couples how it is the most common answer is "different" not mind blowing or so cool but "different" That is not a word that makes us want to give up our normal mind blowing endings.
IT is funny but when I ask couples how it is the most common answer is "different" not mind blowing or so cool but "different" That is not a word that makes us want to give up our normal mind blowing endings.
Personally(male) I have always just switched back to my other half when that time is approaching so she can suck me off or i can cum inside her. Cause fucking with a condom sucks as is, but required! so she is the perfect ending to every playtime! She loves to swallow anyways !
Definitely if there is a condom then any and all options are open. (This topic also was aimed at how things go at home with your women ) LoL...definitely don't like the double dipping thing...if someone has fouled the well then it's time to regroup and clean up. However even at home we pull out most of the time (we can't get pregnant anymore) , perhaps maybe that's what we're used to doing after all these years of having kids and pulling out to avoid having more...dunno I guess..just habit at this point. For me it feels really good either way...sometimes it's fun to let her help finish it for me...lol.
Great input everyone.....keep it cumming...
Great input everyone.....keep it cumming...
[quote=PERSEPHONE77 "Where a woman can cum multiple times and a man can usually only come once....I am hard set on having my man (relationship-wise) cum only with me. In a group setting, I cum with whoever has the talent to sustain my orgasm, which can include my man and others, so no one is really left out..." [/quote]
I can see this point and have always wondered how full swappers handle this? because this seems to be taking something away from your own relationship. Of course reliving the memories the next morning can be great but so can it be for us.
As for the birth control.. pulling out is a risky method.. just get the V my man. I cant imagine having to pull out every time..
I can see this point and have always wondered how full swappers handle this? because this seems to be taking something away from your own relationship. Of course reliving the memories the next morning can be great but so can it be for us.
As for the birth control.. pulling out is a risky method.. just get the V my man. I cant imagine having to pull out every time..
As a single guy i do want to be ask back. If your not sure ask but as we all know condoms should be in place but as a preferance i will stay in. So lets play safe have no party fouls and have fun.
JANDY275 wrote:
thats kind of personal don't you think. i can't believe a good little Morman site like this is talking about things so intimate.
OMG This is a Mormon site? We never knew! We just thought it was a sex site. With a condom always, finishing inside is preferred by both of us.
i like to cum inside the pussy and then lick and swallow all my cum as it is dripping from her sweet pussy now thats a yummie!
3SOME1952 wrote:
i like to cum inside the pussy and then lick and swallow all my cum as it is dripping from her sweet pussy now thats a yummie!
ew...
This is why we want to find a couple that we can be exclusive with. We both really prefer bareback both for the feeling and because they seriously irritate the wife's lady parts. As a result, we very rarely get to play with anyone.
If it is a different man other than my husband, he would be wearing a condom anyway. Having said that I would prefer he rip it off and spray me with his cum. Just sayin.
RASQ wrote:
In my opinion some of the responses on this form reflects the irresponsible mentality of some who play in the lifestyle. The truth is if you dip your unprotected wick (or allow that to happen) you have just been exposed to God knows what REGAUARDLESS of weather the well gets "fouled" or not. For me...if i'm going to get funky .. I cover my monkey unless I'm with my partner or someone I KNOW and TRUST.
I'm sure everyone here will sleep better tonight knowing they don't have to worry about contracting an STD from anyone they KNOW and TRUST.
PERSEPHONE77 wrote:
This is difficult because my preference is a double standard. Where a woman can cum multiple times and a man can usually only come once....I am hard set on having my man (relationship-wise) cum only with me. In a group setting, I cum with whoever has the talent to sustain my orgasm, which can include my man and others, so no one is really left out. I think cumming can be an intimate thing and if my man can only cum once, then i want it to be with me. I have recently met a man who came three times in our 2 hour session...never encountered that before. In this case if we ever got serious, I wouldn't mind if he came with another woman, because eventually I would be included in one of those orgasms.
My hubby is usually a one time guy (unless I'm super horney and persistent, then I can get a couple hehe) but when we play he always seems to have a second for me after the other lady...it's usually more intense (he says lol) but maybe because of the condom factor...either way I love our "reclaiming sex" afterwards
PERSEPHONE77 wrote:CANDJ23 wrote:ew...
[quote=3SOME1952]i like to cum inside the pussy and then lick and swallow all my cum as it is dripping from her sweet pussy now thats a yummie!
I second your ew and add a gross![/quote]
Now, now... don't judge too harshly. Some folks are more kinky than others.
JANDY275 wrote:
We just have a hard fast rule that no one gets to orgasm. That way no one can complain about where it goes. At the very first sign of someone actually enjoying them selves we get very upset and defensive, start calling each other sluts, and storm out of the house. Solves the "Where do I cum" dilemma, but for some reason couples stopped inviting us back....their loss I guess.
Ha ha that was funny.
PERSEPHONE77 wrote:
This is difficult because my preference is a double standard. Where a woman can cum multiple times and a man can usually only come once....I am hard set on having my man (relationship-wise) cum only with me. In a group setting, I cum with whoever has the talent to sustain my orgasm, which can include my man and others, so no one is really left out. I think cumming can be an intimate thing and if my man can only cum once, then i want it to be with me. I have recently met a man who came three times in our 2 hour session...never encountered that before. In this case if we ever got serious, I wouldn't mind if he came with another woman, because eventually I would be included in one of those orgasms.
I did not know that a man cuming more than once was unusual. Always something knew to learn.
Great input! It's really interesting all the different opinions and views. Sexuality is such a diverse and personal thing with each of us. I guess that's what is part of the excitement in this lifestyle and trying to learn each new person, their likes and sexy or funny quirks...lol. so many differences from sounds, styles, the words or terminology people use during sex...all of it is so interesting.
The term "fouling the well" made me laugh when I read it cuz I had never heard that before....lol. From reading the post I understood it to mean or describe when a man cums in a woman and then further play with other men is possible right after or very soon after. If more play is wanted then the other men may be discouraged or uncomfortable with another mans cum being on or around them. Especially if say the next guy wants to do oral or the woman wants more oral after....that could be a big buzz kill for some people. I dont think it was meant at all as a bash against the amazing and beautiful and wonderful women in this lifestyle.
(Just my understanding of it)....am I right or wrong? Any info appreciated...
(Just my understanding of it)....am I right or wrong? Any info appreciated...
Even with a condom, pull out. The lifestyle is fun, but not worth it in the end.
Most guys dont like to go in if someone elses cum is in there.
Hmm, I guess I'm not like most guys because I love sloppy seconds!
I say pull it out so I can watch it squirt
Nobody but my husband can cum inside me but I LOVE to have them pull out and cum all over me like the dirty little whore that I am ;-) There is nothing like watching his face and then feeling that warm cum hit my body as I watch it squirt from the head of his throbbing cock! SOOOO sexy!
HITHERTOME wrote:
Let it go inside me please!
Hot!!
INSTANTFUNCPL02 wrote:
Even with a condom, pull out. The lifestyle is fun, but not worth it in the end.
I don't understand this? Pulling out makes it less risky (even with a condom on)? I thought the only thing pulling out reduces (not prevents) is pregnancy....
HITHERTOME wrote:
Let it go inside me please!
SOOOO HOT!
I find exploring the depths of this topic quite stimulating of my mind and body.... You have to have your mind at just the right BAC to fully appreciate the ponderings properly. This would make some great conversation at a natural hot pool of your choice on a full moon night sometime soon.
We are pretty comfortable with cumming inside. Makes clean up a little easier and more fun. Shared orgasms are great too.
MNKFUNCPL wrote:
We are pretty comfortable with cumming inside. Makes clean up a little easier and more fun. Shared orgasms are great too.
Absolutely, there's nothing like climaxing together with your partner!!
PERSEPHONE77 wrote:NAUGHTYGIRL101 wrote:I don't understand this? Pulling out makes it less risky (even with a condom on)? I thought the only thing pulling out reduces (not prevents) is pregnancy....
[quote=INSTANTFUNCPL02]Even with a condom, pull out. The lifestyle is fun, but not worth it in the end.
I think they are referring to the chance that the condom would break or leak.[/quote]
Ohhh...ok...i guess I figure you run that chance anyway...must be some high pressure behind that finale? Lol
My preference is to not pull out. Stopping at that moment for me isnt something that I like to do. Now if the female requests it or it is a rule then of course I will follow suit.
Let me clarify my monkey is always covered unless Im with my own.
Let me clarify my monkey is always covered unless Im with my own.
I'm sure I'll get a fair amount of arguements on this, but so be it.
I'm not a virgin in that regard.
Much of what transpires in the Swinging Lifestyle has its roots in porn.
It was never "fashionable", more "sanitary", more "hygienic", etc. for women to shave their pussy hair off until it started showing up in porn flicks.
"Exotic" dancers started going bald about the same time, because it (allegedly) turned more guys on and they got bigger tips.
Now, the more silicone - the better the tips.
And not only did bald pussies then become the norm in the Lifestyle - MEN are now also expected to follow the - guess what? - porn world's Emily Post ettiquette book.
Pulling out (coitus interuptus) has been used as a means of birth control for centuries.
But in porn, it's a requisite act to PROVE to the viewers that the guy came, and it's called the "money shot" - no cum, no pay.
I can think of only 1 reason for this: to show the dominance of the male as he cums all over the woman.
To me, showing a Cream Pie to prove ejaculation would still be a "money" shot, and for me, FAR more erotic to view.
OK, so now that STDs have reared their ugly head (puns intended), we're seeing more and more condoms in porn.
BUTT, they still pull out and remove the condom before the money shot - whether it's ON the woman, or she takes it in her mouth.
And what do we see?
The Lifestyle has pretty much followed right along at the same pace.
Given my druthers, I'd druther complete the act as it was begun - inside - condom or no condom.
For me, pulling out just breaks the rhythm of the pleasure and, I feel it deprives both participants of the bond the orgasm creates.
However, I'm a rule follower.
And if that's what is stipulated (or requested), then I'm a 100% certified puller outer.
JMHO
I'm not a virgin in that regard.
Much of what transpires in the Swinging Lifestyle has its roots in porn.
It was never "fashionable", more "sanitary", more "hygienic", etc. for women to shave their pussy hair off until it started showing up in porn flicks.
"Exotic" dancers started going bald about the same time, because it (allegedly) turned more guys on and they got bigger tips.
Now, the more silicone - the better the tips.
And not only did bald pussies then become the norm in the Lifestyle - MEN are now also expected to follow the - guess what? - porn world's Emily Post ettiquette book.
Pulling out (coitus interuptus) has been used as a means of birth control for centuries.
But in porn, it's a requisite act to PROVE to the viewers that the guy came, and it's called the "money shot" - no cum, no pay.
I can think of only 1 reason for this: to show the dominance of the male as he cums all over the woman.
To me, showing a Cream Pie to prove ejaculation would still be a "money" shot, and for me, FAR more erotic to view.
OK, so now that STDs have reared their ugly head (puns intended), we're seeing more and more condoms in porn.
BUTT, they still pull out and remove the condom before the money shot - whether it's ON the woman, or she takes it in her mouth.
And what do we see?
The Lifestyle has pretty much followed right along at the same pace.
Given my druthers, I'd druther complete the act as it was begun - inside - condom or no condom.
For me, pulling out just breaks the rhythm of the pleasure and, I feel it deprives both participants of the bond the orgasm creates.
However, I'm a rule follower.
And if that's what is stipulated (or requested), then I'm a 100% certified puller outer.
JMHO
CANDYCANEPA wrote:
Always pull out!
No reason to pull out when using a condom
I prefer to shoot it deep inside...just a preference though
in the case of knowing you both are safe... it's always best to pump N dump! 
THE_RED_REVIEW wrote:
This is why we want to find a couple that we can be exclusive with. We both really prefer bareback both for the feeling and because they seriously irritate the wife's lady parts. As a result, we very rarely get to play with anyone.
I had a friend that it did the same. She used lamb skin condoms and they seemed to help and felt better aswell. Just a thought.
newbies,,,lambskins are great, but have read that they are not as reliable a barrier to certain virus type stds. Something to do with them being animal skin by nature.
Pulling out,(no condom) it would seem, would only lessen the chance of pregnancy, and do little to prevent most STD's. there is a good amount of pre jac fluid most time.
to the one ladies who think a man going down on a fresh filled lady,,, do you swallow? or take it and spit? if so,, what in the world is the difference ? To the men,, do you find it easier to go down on your own leavings than following anothers ?
as for me (male), I would much rather leave it in,, vagina or mouth, when I orgasm,, hardly ever seems as pleasing or intense "finishing by hand",, of course iif required/requested, I can and will,, but really like a little helping hand then, ( I lose my concentration for some reason and quit too soon)LOL
Pulling out,(no condom) it would seem, would only lessen the chance of pregnancy, and do little to prevent most STD's. there is a good amount of pre jac fluid most time.
to the one ladies who think a man going down on a fresh filled lady,,, do you swallow? or take it and spit? if so,, what in the world is the difference ? To the men,, do you find it easier to go down on your own leavings than following anothers ?
as for me (male), I would much rather leave it in,, vagina or mouth, when I orgasm,, hardly ever seems as pleasing or intense "finishing by hand",, of course iif required/requested, I can and will,, but really like a little helping hand then, ( I lose my concentration for some reason and quit too soon)LOL
For us, my man always leaves it in me. He had a vasectomy and I had my tubes tied. I love the feel of him throbbing and unloading inside me. When we play with others, except for two very close friends who have bareback privlages, I always require a condom, but again prefer the guy leave it in me when he cums. I still love the feel of his throbbing dick in me, even if I don't have the extra warmth filling me up. If he wants to pull out and cum all over me, thast fine too!!
In... because we are a CONDOMS ONLY couple!