So we're pretty new to the lifestyle and the website and were wondering what are some things we need to know, like how to make good connections with people. there are a few people on here we've met but not many.
Be yourselves! You should NOT have to change for anyone. That goes both ways as well...others should not have to change for your likes/dislikes either. 
...and the MOST important part in the LS... Leave all the BS at home and just have FUN!!!!!!!
Welcome aboard and best of luck to ya both!
...and the MOST important part in the LS... Leave all the BS at home and just have FUN!!!!!!!
Welcome aboard and best of luck to ya both!
Talk to each other! One thing we learned early on, is that being honest and up front with each other, and potential couples makes all the difference. If you want something, ask. If you don't want or don't enjoy something say so. Enjoy each other, and the experiences that await, and have fun!
OMG, we're so old!!! When I looked at your profile my first thought was, "Well you should get your parents into this and send them our way!!" 
I'm pretty sure that's not the kind of advice you were looking for though? How 'bout our main one then -- keep a good sense of humor about ya and take it all pretty lightly! 
I'm pretty sure that's not the kind of advice you were looking for though? How 'bout our main one then -- keep a good sense of humor about ya and take it all pretty lightly! Treat others the way you would like them to be treated.
It doesn't cost 1 penny more to be nice to people - even if you have no interest in connecting with them.
If someone says hello in the Chat Room, say hello back.
If you get a friendly e-mail from someone, even if you have NO interest in them, as long as they're not being a jerk, have the decency to at least reply.
You never know who here knows who, and word can spread like wildfire - both GOOD word and BAD.
Someone you have no interest in may know someone you WOULD be interested in, and being cordial could end up with a fruitful result.
On the other hand, it takes no time at all for for folks here to catch on to "those kind of people" with so many choices here for others to communicate privately.
And you will too.
As has already been said, get involved - you don't meet others sitting on your couch watching television.
Oh, and one last thing.
It is perfectly acceptable to treat OBVIOUS assholes like assholes.
Yeah, there are a few of them scattered about here.
Luckilly, they reveal themselves openly and often.
But all in all, you've just moved into a GREAT neighborhood, populated by a LOT of really great people.
Have fun getting to know all of us.
It doesn't cost 1 penny more to be nice to people - even if you have no interest in connecting with them.
If someone says hello in the Chat Room, say hello back.
If you get a friendly e-mail from someone, even if you have NO interest in them, as long as they're not being a jerk, have the decency to at least reply.
You never know who here knows who, and word can spread like wildfire - both GOOD word and BAD.
Someone you have no interest in may know someone you WOULD be interested in, and being cordial could end up with a fruitful result.
On the other hand, it takes no time at all for for folks here to catch on to "those kind of people" with so many choices here for others to communicate privately.
And you will too.
As has already been said, get involved - you don't meet others sitting on your couch watching television.
Oh, and one last thing.
It is perfectly acceptable to treat OBVIOUS assholes like assholes.
Yeah, there are a few of them scattered about here.
Luckilly, they reveal themselves openly and often.
But all in all, you've just moved into a GREAT neighborhood, populated by a LOT of really great people.
Have fun getting to know all of us.
yep everyone has excellent points here's a couple more. expect a few flakes that swear they will show up and they don't they are camouflaged as the rest of us but just won't show up. so if you know it will happen you won't be too caught off guard. second if you are going to meet a couple put it in words in the email that you expect the couple not just the male part. occasionally this happens where the male only shows up and in reality he doesn't have a female partner. so if you say you expect to see them both many of the single males will weed themselves out. I really hate it when they say at the last minute "my wife couldn't make it". and a good rule of thumb at least in our book if you were going to meet up with another couple and they have excused themselves at least 2 times. chances are they wont meet you at all. we know life happens and people cancel meetings on occasion that is ok but for the ones that are more serious one time is acceptable but a second time to flake out on someone is a little rude. not to mention a third time. good luck to you.
I personally recommend Things like the naughty by nature campout, It is a couple of days and you really get to spend time talking to people.
read read and be yourself.. have fun.. go to the M&M is one way of meeting people on here.... house party's is always fun... and treat people the way you want to be treated...we have meet alot of good people on here.. we do have a camp out in the summer it is a small one but a fun one ..... Thanks Dee & Cory
Get a profile pic, at the very least. Read the ENTIRE profile(have you noticed a pattern?) and send an email saying hi either before or with your friend request. Don't feel bad about blocking someone.
We're new also and have learned a lot from reading posts about different things. Don't feel like you have to "take one for the team".
Have fun!!
We're new also and have learned a lot from reading posts about different things. Don't feel like you have to "take one for the team".
Have fun!!
SCJ47 wrote:This is such piss-poor advice. One should not make such broad-brush statements. There is nothing better than obtaining a size XXL pair of stretchy pants and trying to fit into them WITH someone else. Yeah, baby, now there's a whole other swing party, eh?
You should never wear stretchy pants
PALS4FUN wrote:SCJ47 wrote:This is such piss-poor advice. One should not make such broad-brush statements. There is nothing better than obtaining a size XXL pair of stretchy pants and trying to fit into them WITH someone else. Yeah, baby, now there's a whole other swing party, eh?
You should never wear stretchy pants
We don't do the stretch pants, but we have a big roll of shrink wrap... good times, and you lose the water weight!! Only down side is the name...shrink wrap, what were they thinking?
Thanks everyone! I think we'd enjoy the campouts!
SCJ47 wrote:
You should never wear stretchy pants
Probably good advice. Unless you're in the Mountain Biking group.
I don
[quote=SUGARSANDSPICE]I don
Put up pictures! You may not be everyone's type but your probably a lot of people's typed?. PUT UP PICTURES! Lotsa them (I know I don't have lists them) I don't have anyone to take them......
ISSUE152 wrote:
Put up pictures! You may not be everyone's type but your probably a lot of people's typed?. PUT UP PICTURES! Lotsa them (I know I don't have lists them) I don't have anyone to take them......
I'm sure you could find volunteers...
SPEXDEX wrote:ISSUE152 wrote:
Put up pictures! You may not be everyone's type but your probably a lot of people's typed?. PUT UP PICTURES! Lotsa them (I know I don't have lists them) I don't have anyone to take them......
I'm sure you could find volunteers...
It's harder then you think spexdex
ISSUE152 wrote:SPEXDEX wrote:
[quote=ISSUE152]Put up pictures! You may not be everyone's type but your probably a lot of people's typed?. PUT UP PICTURES! Lotsa them (I know I don't have lists them) I don't have anyone to take them......
I'm sure you could find volunteers...
It's harder then you think spexdex[/quote]
I can imagine finding someone to do professional might be hard, but I'd honestly be surprised if there wasn't a line at the door to just help you get some online.
HOTCOUPLE2TAKE wrote:JANDY275 wrote:
[quote=HOTCOUPLE2TAKE][quote=OVIEDOBOY1]Male half here! Were on several sites and love to play.We have lots of emails coming in but I have found out if the wife does not like the guy or girl then forget about it.Neither one of just 'take one for the team" so to speak.Finding the right couple can be tough but we always manage.Look for couples that fit for you both so there are no regrets.
Very good advice. We just experienced our first time with another couple. The first night was fantastic. The second night (last night) was a disaster. She was fantastic, but he managed to cross boundaries and and push us into a very uncomfortable place. Make sure you read their profile and that they have read and agree to yours. Make sure they are going to show you the respect you expect. We are still very interested in enjoying this lifestyle, but find that we must be very cautious now. As a couple, you must both be very comfortable. It also should never be all about one person in a couple.
I call these people Sharks....you learn very quickly everyone says they respect boundries, but there are those that don't care about anything but their own hidden agenda's[/quote]
That is what we have now discovered as well. We are all about respecting boundaries, and expect the same from others. It should not be that difficult, but apparently it is. We will be far more careful in the future. This is supposed to be about fun and respect. We will insist on it going forward.[/quote]
This is why we like to get to know people before we play, to see if they really sound legit about what they want. We've met a few of the "sharks" where it's all talk about respect and comfort, but as they finish that sentence they're like "So wanna come over?". It takes time for sure to learn the ins and outs of who people are, and who they're going to be in person...
ISSUE152 wrote:
Put up pictures! You may not be everyone's type but your probably a lot of people's typed?. PUT UP PICTURES! Lotsa them (I know I don't have lists them) I don't have anyone to take them......
We did finally put up a pic of us =D we're still "testing the waters" and all the advice is greatly appreciated!
SCJ47 wrote:
You should never wear stretchy pants
If I want to scare everyone off i'll just wear a speedo :P
SCJ47 wrote:
You should never wear stretchy pants
If I want to scare everyone off i'll just wear a speedo :P
BASEKETBALL wrote:SCJ47 wrote:
You should never wear stretchy pants
If I want to scare everyone off i'll just wear a speedo :P
I spy a pool player! What's in the case?
SPEXDEX wrote:BASEKETBALL wrote:
[quote=SCJ47]You should never wear stretchy pants
If I want to scare everyone off i'll just wear a speedo :P
I spy a pool player! What's in the case?[/quote]
A couple McDermott's, My genesis cue that I uses mostly for breaking and my pride and joy, My 2003 Harley Davidson 100th anniversary cue. then a bunch of odds and ends I got at USU when I was taking billiard classes.
Nice, I'm a predator fan myself. Do you play often?
SPEXDEX wrote:BASEKETBALL wrote:
[quote=SCJ47]You should never wear stretchy pants
If I want to scare everyone off i'll just wear a speedo :P
I spy a pool player! What's in the case?[/quote]
A couple McDermott's, My genesis cue that I uses mostly for breaking and my pride and joy, My 2003 Harley Davidson 100th anniversary cue. then a bunch of odds and ends I got at USU when I was taking billiard classes.
SPEXDEX wrote:
Nice, I'm a predator fan myself. Do you play often?
Not as often as i used to, but i love to play!
Rule number one for newbies, and we can't stress this enough...NEVER, EVER, EVER trust a dude with a beard!
Rule number two for newbies, and this one also we can't stress enough....NEVER, EVER, EVER try to actually meet anyone, we're all here to make ourselves look cool, this is the online version of the smoking bathroom in high school.
Rule number three for newbies, again, stress it...NEVER, EVER, EVER, I mean NEVER, allow yourself to have a good time. If you do it, you'll regret it.
And the final rule for newbies....Disregard the first 3 rules and be yourselves. Don't allow anyone to push you into something you're not comfortable with, and ALWAYS communicate with your partner about everything, good and bad.
And seriously, don't trust a guy with a beard.
Rule number two for newbies, and this one also we can't stress enough....NEVER, EVER, EVER try to actually meet anyone, we're all here to make ourselves look cool, this is the online version of the smoking bathroom in high school.
Rule number three for newbies, again, stress it...NEVER, EVER, EVER, I mean NEVER, allow yourself to have a good time. If you do it, you'll regret it.
And the final rule for newbies....Disregard the first 3 rules and be yourselves. Don't allow anyone to push you into something you're not comfortable with, and ALWAYS communicate with your partner about everything, good and bad.
And seriously, don't trust a guy with a beard.
JSTJIM72 wrote:
Rule number one for newbies, and we can't stress this enough...NEVER, EVER, EVER trust a dude with a beard!
Rule number two for newbies, and this one also we can't stress enough....NEVER, EVER, EVER try to actually meet anyone, we're all here to make ourselves look cool, this is the online version of the smoking bathroom in high school.
Rule number three for newbies, again, stress it...NEVER, EVER, EVER, I mean NEVER, allow yourself to have a good time. If you do it, you'll regret it.
And the final rule for newbies....Disregard the first 3 rules and be yourselves. Don't allow anyone to push you into something you're not comfortable with, and ALWAYS communicate with your partner about everything, good and bad.
And seriously, don't trust a guy with a beard.
I'm thinkin of sportin mutton chops!
You are too funny. Loved getting to know the two of you at the party a week ago. Great couple!!!
BASEKETBALL wrote:SCJ47 wrote:
You should never wear stretchy pants
If I want to scare everyone off i'll just wear a speedo :P
BASEKETBALL wrote:SPEXDEX wrote:
Nice, I'm a predator fan myself. Do you play often?
Not as often as i used to, but i love to play!
If you ever want to play some let me know!
SPEXDEX wrote:BASEKETBALL wrote:
[quote=SPEXDEX]Nice, I'm a predator fan myself. Do you play often?
Not as often as i used to, but i love to play!
If you ever want to play some let me know![/quote]
Next time we're down that way i'll let ya know! Always love playin new people!
JSTJIM72 wrote:
Rule number one for newbies, and we can't stress this enough...NEVER, EVER, EVER trust a dude with a beard!
Rule number two for newbies, and this one also we can't stress enough....NEVER, EVER, EVER try to actually meet anyone, we're all here to make ourselves look cool, this is the online version of the smoking bathroom in high school.
Rule number three for newbies, again, stress it...NEVER, EVER, EVER, I mean NEVER, allow yourself to have a good time. If you do it, you'll regret it.
And the final rule for newbies....Disregard the first 3 rules and be yourselves. Don't allow anyone to push you into something you're not comfortable with, and ALWAYS communicate with your partner about everything, good and bad.
And seriously, don't trust a guy with a beard.
You need to ammend your post to say, "never trust a guy with a 'cheesy' beard". :-))