There has been a ongoing debate among some people we have met in the lifestyle and with ourselves about kissing being more intimate than oral. Many of you will not kiss someone in the LS but will do almost anything else. It does create much curiosity as to why this is the case. We grow up kissing as an infant on: parents, friends, crushes, casual dates, hello, goodbye, and yet we never even though of giving casual oral the same way. We want your thoughts and let's get some laughs out of it.
I have no problem with it, but personally I thought it was because for some people a kiss can be less sexual and more emotional in nature. And they want to keep emotions out of it, and keep the emotions between themselves as a couple. Which can completely make sense.
We are also very big on kissing. It's a deal breaker for us if people won't. It's a natural part of intimacy, but for us it just doesn't make sense that people will let you put your tongue into almost any crevice, but not their mouth? Or the fact that my penis could go in your mouth, but my tongue can't?
We do understand however that there are those who have these boundaries, and respect them as well. It's just not for us, but that's just our two cents...
We do understand however that there are those who have these boundaries, and respect them as well. It's just not for us, but that's just our two cents...
I agree kissing can be emtional, however it depends of how you kiss someone. Let's face it there is that hot, panty wetting, dick throbbing, hair grabbing kiss that has nothing but pure sex. So no soft sweet kisses have no place in this life style, but YES panty wetting hard core kisses should be required....
This is the one rule we have never understood...We both get very turned on with a great kisser...Its the perfect foreplay...Don't want to insult anyone but the one rule that doesn't work for us in the no kissing rule...Maybe someone can explain it to us..You will go down on us or fuck us but don't kiss us.....
We are a kissing couple. We feel that couples that are NOT secure in their relationship have kissing issues when it comes to their preferences. It can be a sign of jealousy and a red flag for us if they aren't a kissing couple. We are a respectable couple so we do abide by all the rules of BOTH sides of the house. So a kissing couple would definitely be preferred over a non kissiing one. It is much more a turn on to break the ice kissing on the lips rather than going down on them. We will never understand WHY some couples are non kissers, but we DO respect their rules. Either way, it's all good to us. 
we feel that kissing can be good and bad. we feel that soft sexy kissing is for us and our fun. but no if its for sex foreplay.and in the heat of the monet. if i with a women and they a hot and we are face to face as im do not her and i kiss the hell on of hell. and wife isthe same way. Now if the couple smokes that something total diff. thats sucks all together. some people need to now want gum or mints are.
thanks.
Vonda & Vic
thanks.
Vonda & Vic
We are also curious how many couples set a boundary in the LS not to kiss? Maybe crossed that boundary now and have a different opinion now that they have "crossed the line".
I think each couple should have whatever rules that works for them, nor do I try to judge their relationship strengths/weaknesses by their rules. However, kissing is essential for me to have sex with you, so if you can't kiss for whatever reason, we can't play either. It's non negotiable for me. And yes the kisses that I share with a playmate are NOT the same as the tender intimate kisses that Jared and I share....but usually those intimate moments aren't about sex per se but about connecting as a couple.
Altho I will admit, I have played with people and they really really really should have a no kissing rule. Between bad oral hygiene and lack of kissing skills...ewww!
Altho I will admit, I have played with people and they really really really should have a no kissing rule. Between bad oral hygiene and lack of kissing skills...ewww!
Thanks to President William Jefferson Clinton, today's young people don't look at a blowjob as being sexual in any way.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
Altho I will admit, I have played with people and they really really really should have a no kissing rule. Between bad oral hygiene and lack of kissing skills...ewww!
Yeah, there was this girl I was semi-interested in dating...then she smelled like crap 2 dates in a row....holy hell - never asked her out again!
We are a kissing couple, however the male cumming in my mouth or him in another females for awhile was our special intimate thing. Now we recognize and can distinguish the emotions vs sexual feelings which make it different. So, it all works out now! lol 
he will kiss anybody and keep kissing them regardless of how much he isn't enjoying it. I also love kissing IF he or she is good at it... nothing worse than trying to get into the moment and being smothered by somebody who can't kiss to save their life. it is also difficult to kiss someone with no lips.
on that same note, it is completely true that kissing arouses feelings in people more than sex does. but just because a couple chooses not to kiss doesn't mean they have security or jealousy issues in their relationship... it just means they have personal boundaries. we expect others to respect our boundaries, so we would honor those of others.
on that same note, it is completely true that kissing arouses feelings in people more than sex does. but just because a couple chooses not to kiss doesn't mean they have security or jealousy issues in their relationship... it just means they have personal boundaries. we expect others to respect our boundaries, so we would honor those of others.
Wow.. it seems that a few folks here are very judgmental.. not what one hopes to find in this community. Some seem to get it.. personal boundaries are those that always should be respected without question. Who cares what the reason is for it, isn't it up to each couple what things they wish to explore with others?
We soft swap only.. We do not have intercourse with others and we do not kiss others partners on the lips.. those are two things we reserve for just each other.. our intimate things.. some of the things that make our relationship unique and that we share with no other. We have explored with others for quite some time and look forward to time spent with friends but we have no intention of pushing our boundaries. We have met folks who are just starting to explore the lifestyle and take baby steps and proceed beyond these boundaries and still have fun with them but they RESPECT our boundaries and everyone has fun.
Why does it matter what unique limits any couple has? If you are in it to put notches on your bedpost we suppose it would but if you are truly seeking friendship and people you would consider to be your friends it should not matter right? We do not care if the other couple has a limit that you must not touch the pinkie on the left hand.. if we enjoy their company we will respect their limits without question and they will never have to explain them to us..
Just our 2 cents worth.. so take it for what is worth.. less than a nickel.
We soft swap only.. We do not have intercourse with others and we do not kiss others partners on the lips.. those are two things we reserve for just each other.. our intimate things.. some of the things that make our relationship unique and that we share with no other. We have explored with others for quite some time and look forward to time spent with friends but we have no intention of pushing our boundaries. We have met folks who are just starting to explore the lifestyle and take baby steps and proceed beyond these boundaries and still have fun with them but they RESPECT our boundaries and everyone has fun.
Why does it matter what unique limits any couple has? If you are in it to put notches on your bedpost we suppose it would but if you are truly seeking friendship and people you would consider to be your friends it should not matter right? We do not care if the other couple has a limit that you must not touch the pinkie on the left hand.. if we enjoy their company we will respect their limits without question and they will never have to explain them to us..
Just our 2 cents worth.. so take it for what is worth.. less than a nickel.
SOMTHINSEXY wrote:
Realwood raises an interesting point. While we like the idea of a casual blow job catching on probably not gonna happen. And we agree some people just have boundries that make sense for them. We have a no hand shake rule. We like to save that for us only. Lmao
Well what about hugs then?
AHARLEYCPL wrote:
Wow.. it seems that a few folks here are very judgmental.. not what one hopes to find in this community. Some seem to get it.. personal boundaries are those that always should be respected without question. Who cares what the reason is for it, isn't it up to each couple what things they wish to explore with others?
We soft swap only.. We do not have intercourse with others and we do not kiss others partners on the lips.. those are two things we reserve for just each other.. our intimate things.. some of the things that make our relationship unique and that we share with no other. We have explored with others for quite some time and look forward to time spent with friends but we have no intention of pushing our boundaries. We have met folks who are just starting to explore the lifestyle and take baby steps and proceed beyond these boundaries and still have fun with them but they RESPECT our boundaries and everyone has fun.
Why does it matter what unique limits any couple has? If you are in it to put notches on your bedpost we suppose it would but if you are truly seeking friendship and people you would consider to be your friends it should not matter right? We do not care if the other couple has a limit that you must not touch the pinkie on the left hand.. if we enjoy their company we will respect their limits without question and they will never have to explain them to us..
Just our 2 cents worth.. so take it for what is worth.. less than a nickel.
I believe most everyone we have met feel the same way. Great point, however we love to hear WHY people feel they way they do.
I agree with Jeff. Bad breath, smokers and bad kissers are 3 huge turn offs for me. We have no rules about kissing. It's great foreplay.
Mrs. Utcplbif
Mrs. Utcplbif