We politely respond to all emails sent to us IF the couple has read our profile. We have single males blocked so no worries there. (No offense guys, it's not what we're looking for). 
You can see us, so if you are one of those couples that don't provide a pic of the two of you (at least attached) in your message it automatically gets deleted without reply. If you lack basic (introduction) communication skills such as "gee your wife has a hot ass" or "does she take it in the ass" or anything sexual related, the message gets deleted without reply. Basically, all we ask is that you are respectable and treat us in your introduction email, the same way as you would meet us face to face. There are so many that want to SKIP this first, crucial step in the whole process.
We feel that it is really rude when couples don't reply to a simple "introductory" email. If we couldn't handle rejection, we really wouldn't be on a swing site. Believe us, we KNOW we're not for everyone, and you will NOT hurt our feelings in anyway if we are not what you are looking for.
We're just curious what everyone's thoughts are on the subject and if they've had similar issues in the beginning of the communicatition process. So our answer to the question would be:
YES = If they are respectable, provide pics and have read our profile.
DELETE = All others
You can see us, so if you are one of those couples that don't provide a pic of the two of you (at least attached) in your message it automatically gets deleted without reply. If you lack basic (introduction) communication skills such as "gee your wife has a hot ass" or "does she take it in the ass" or anything sexual related, the message gets deleted without reply. Basically, all we ask is that you are respectable and treat us in your introduction email, the same way as you would meet us face to face. There are so many that want to SKIP this first, crucial step in the whole process.We feel that it is really rude when couples don't reply to a simple "introductory" email. If we couldn't handle rejection, we really wouldn't be on a swing site. Believe us, we KNOW we're not for everyone, and you will NOT hurt our feelings in anyway if we are not what you are looking for.
We're just curious what everyone's thoughts are on the subject and if they've had similar issues in the beginning of the communicatition process. So our answer to the question would be:
YES = If they are respectable, provide pics and have read our profile.
DELETE = All others
I always do even if its just to say either we aren't interested or we aren't looking for single men as it says a few times in our profile. If I dont reply to an email its because I am to busy or I forget.
well just like other people have stated, if they havent read our profile and still friend requests or message us we will just delete it. But generally we will reply.
We hate the ones where we get a friend request then an email requesting to play within like minutes then there are also the emails we get with no request or introduction just wanting to play.. we are curtious to those that are curtious to us our two cents!!
We respond to all emails, even if it's to politely decline.
We try to respond to all sometimes it just takes me awhile...
Think of the bad things written by the single males. Now let
I used to reply to all messages. However I found that I would get a bunch of replies back to the ones I politely declined with either a "What you're too good for me?" or "Well I wasn't really interested anyways, you're not that hot" or "Why not? Why do you even have a profile here if you aren't willing to hook up?".
I decided that I would save myself the time and only reply to those that I am interested in.
I decided that I would save myself the time and only reply to those that I am interested in.
If there's an actual message, we reply.
PANDORASLC wrote:
I used to reply to all messages. However I found that I would get a bunch of replies back to the ones I politely declined with either a "What you're too good for me?" or "Well I wasn't really interested anyways, you're not that hot" or "Why not? Why do you even have a profile here if you aren't willing to hook up?".
I decided that I would save myself the time and only reply to those that I am interested in.
Wow! That's horrible!!!!! Some people can't handle rejection huh? People like that are just BEGGING to be blocked! LOL
CANDYCANEPA wrote:PANDORASLC wrote:
I used to reply to all messages. However I found that I would get a bunch of replies back to the ones I politely declined with either a "What you're too good for me?" or "Well I wasn't really interested anyways, you're not that hot" or "Why not? Why do you even have a profile here if you aren't willing to hook up?".
I decided that I would save myself the time and only reply to those that I am interested in.
Wow! That's horrible!!!!! Some people can't handle rejection huh? People like that are just BEGGING to be blocked! LOL
Yeah, they get blocked but it made me dread replying so I stopped.
When we receive an e-mail from someone we don't know, and have never spoken to, we first check THEIR profile.
If (as is more often the case) they are not in any way close to what OUR profile says we are looking for, or receptive to, we'll delete it with no response.
(that's the price you pay for NOT reading our profile before you do your fishing trip)
Otherwise, we're the most friendly and responsive folks you'll ever meet.
If (as is more often the case) they are not in any way close to what OUR profile says we are looking for, or receptive to, we'll delete it with no response.
(that's the price you pay for NOT reading our profile before you do your fishing trip)
Otherwise, we're the most friendly and responsive folks you'll ever meet.
No pic, No introduction. Delete ...no response
I think we are done even sending a polite birthday wish to other members. We don't request anything, and just send a kind thought and wish them the best on their big day, and I think out of the last 10 times we have done this and saw that the message was read, MAYBE 2 of them had the courtesy to say "thank you".
We try to reply to everything we get, even if it isn't what they wanna hear, but I think people deserve at least a polite response. We're quickly getting a "fuck em" attitude, and that isn't our personality. Oh well, back under the bridge. THE TROLLS
We try to reply to everything we get, even if it isn't what they wanna hear, but I think people deserve at least a polite response. We're quickly getting a "fuck em" attitude, and that isn't our personality. Oh well, back under the bridge. THE TROLLS
PEBBLEROCK wrote:
I think we are done even sending a polite birthday wish to other members. We don't request anything, and just send a kind thought and wish them the best on their big day, and I think out of the last 10 times we have done this and saw that the message was read, MAYBE 2 of them had the courtesy to say "thank you".
We try to reply to everything we get, even if it isn't what they wanna hear, but I think people deserve at least a polite response. We're quickly getting a "fuck em" attitude, and that isn't our personality. Oh well, back under the bridge. THE TROLLS
We share the frustration!
Always reply to ever one who emails me... its not polite not to,,, if you email then we will respond
TIFFND wrote:PEBBLEROCK wrote:
I think we are done even sending a polite birthday wish to other members. We don't request anything, and just send a kind thought and wish them the best on their big day, and I think out of the last 10 times we have done this and saw that the message was read, MAYBE 2 of them had the courtesy to say "thank you".
We try to reply to everything we get, even if it isn't what they wanna hear, but I think people deserve at least a polite response. We're quickly getting a "fuck em" attitude, and that isn't our personality. Oh well, back under the bridge. THE TROLLS
We share the frustration!
Would have to concur as well ! Really, how hard is it to be courtesy ?
Being a single male I understand the concerns or phobia, but I do find that many, many people do not read emails. Not sure why.
Mike
Mike
We don't read a lot of our emails.
Single male emails are deleted without reading unless there profile pic is amazing. (Very few)
Couple emails are read about half the time depending on profile pic and if we know them.
Single females are always read and repsonded to, even if it is no.
There is not enough time in the day to spend reading everyones email and then responding. We have profiles on other sites so the emails can become cumbersome. If our iniital reaction from their profile pic isn't somewhat positive why waste time?
On the flip side we have only sent out a total of about a dozen initial emails since we joined this site, all to single females, and only half got read and a response.
Single male emails are deleted without reading unless there profile pic is amazing. (Very few)
Couple emails are read about half the time depending on profile pic and if we know them.
Single females are always read and repsonded to, even if it is no.
There is not enough time in the day to spend reading everyones email and then responding. We have profiles on other sites so the emails can become cumbersome. If our iniital reaction from their profile pic isn't somewhat positive why waste time?
On the flip side we have only sent out a total of about a dozen initial emails since we joined this site, all to single females, and only half got read and a response.
We enjoy emails and try to reply. FR's without prior contact don't get denied they just get deleted off email and go to the Que so they can't send another one the next week. If we don't get a reply to an email we figure. A the couple may just be lurkers or not ready for mor contact at this time. We do like to talk to these couples when they are ready. These shy newbie couples rarely show pics and can take some lengthy email exchanges before they are ready to meet over a harmless coffee or cold beer but we value that in a couple. B. Fake profiles. Yes we think they exist on all rhese sites C. They don't think we are the right couple. If would be nice for them to just say so but many folks are shy like that. D. A couple or single may have just created a profile and lurked for a week then decided not to explore or visit the site any mor at this time. I think there are no Emily post rules that apply here.
To us it's all about being polite and considerate of others. If you write to us, if you took your time to seek us out, look at our pictures, read our profile and then put your thoughts into writing, you deserve respect and we will write back. That said, if we get an email that's obviously someone who's just trolling, you might not get an answer. I will say that one of the criteria for us making that distinction is you having a picture. If you have no picture on your profile your message better be very well thought out and articulate. I understand that some people don't want a profile picture, but you can attach one to your message too. Still, we answer almost all messages.
Friend requests always get answered and almost always with the same message. We don't "Friend" people we haven't actually met. We've made an occasional exception when we were certain we were going to meet, but not often.
Friend requests always get answered and almost always with the same message. We don't "Friend" people we haven't actually met. We've made an occasional exception when we were certain we were going to meet, but not often.
LOTSOFCLASS wrote:
I REPLY TO ALL ,BUT I WILL TELL YOU THAT LES THEN 10 % OF PEOPLE RESPOND TO E-MAILS , I AM A FIRM BELIEVER THAT NOT EVERYONE IS A MATCH AND IM SURE WE ALL UNDERSTAND THAT ,REPLYING TO AN E-MAIL EITHER WAY TO ME IS JUST BEING POLITE AND SHOULD BE ANSWERED BY ALL OF US THAT ARE IN THE LIFESTYLE ,NOT JUST IGNORE EACH OTHER ,
THANKS
We hate it when people YELL in their emails or any other time really.
We just experienced something completely new to us.
As I opened our Swingular mail today, I noticed we had 4 e-mails from a couple in Miami - roughly 350+ miles away.
Two of them were Friend Requests, and two of them were "We Would Like To Meet You" in the subject line.
When I opened them, they were "form" letters, with a "Dear Cpl" salutation, over very generic content.
Is this the ultimate fishing trip, or WHAT.
There are several things in their profile which OUR profile specifically says we do NOT want.
Has anyone else encountered this?
Yeah, I deleted them - as if anyone would have to ask that question.
As I opened our Swingular mail today, I noticed we had 4 e-mails from a couple in Miami - roughly 350+ miles away.
Two of them were Friend Requests, and two of them were "We Would Like To Meet You" in the subject line.
When I opened them, they were "form" letters, with a "Dear Cpl" salutation, over very generic content.
Is this the ultimate fishing trip, or WHAT.
There are several things in their profile which OUR profile specifically says we do NOT want.
Has anyone else encountered this?
Yeah, I deleted them - as if anyone would have to ask that question.
We always reply as long as they send a message and not just a friend request.
always try to respond... even if it takes us a while. better late than never right? 
H4KMV wrote:
always try to respond... even if it takes us a while. better late than never right?
Always!
Not sure, but I think some of you might be missing my point.
This was NOT a personal e-mail.
It was shotgunned out to who knows how many people.
IT WAS A FORM LETTER.
Junk mail.
Telemarketing via Swingular e-mail.
This was NOT a personal e-mail.
It was shotgunned out to who knows how many people.
IT WAS A FORM LETTER.
Junk mail.
Telemarketing via Swingular e-mail.