We meet a new couple over the weekend. And she was OK. But, he had really bad teeth. A lot missing and what he did have were black and looked bad. I just couldn't even get interested in him. I feel bad because I felt like I was judging him on his hygiene. But, I have a real issue about good hygiene, I mean really how hard is it to pick up a tooth brush and tooth paste and brush your teeth.
So is it wrong for me to be like this? Just wondering if anyone else has a thing about hygiene?
So is it wrong for me to be like this? Just wondering if anyone else has a thing about hygiene?
Everyone has their physical attractions... The other thing is that personal hygiene can show into how a person treats themselves. If you don't want to know them at all because of it, then maybe it's a bit much, but if you just don't have that sexual attraction, it's natural.
It's a physical attraction for me. I sat and talked to him, he seemed really nice, but I couldn't get the attraction thing at all. I felt bad that I couldn't get past his teeth. I know there are more to people then just their teeth. But, I feel it says, a lot about how they do treat themselves. I felt bad because he kept wanting to do more than talk, and I just couldn't do it. And I didn't know how to tell him how I felt. I hate being rude! I wasn't rude, but I felt like I was being rude, because I wouldn't let him kiss me.
For me it is about like and dislike whatever the reason. We all have different reasons for being attracted or not attracted to someone. Don't feel bad for keeping it real for yourselves. It doesn't do anyone any good to "take one for the team" because you have a little guilt. It is normal to not have sex with everyone we meet. Move on to the next couple and don't worry about it too much. I have found honesty to be an important part of the process.
I'm surprised you asked the question.
The alternative would be something like equal opportunity sex: attracted or not, you do it with them.
Of course you are right.
The alternative would be something like equal opportunity sex: attracted or not, you do it with them.
Of course you are right.
Sorry, if I offended anyone with the question, or that I didn't put it right. Just wanted some input on it. Because I felt bad about how I felt about the night. He was a nice guy to talk to, and I felt bad that I couldn't look past the bad teeth. So do I put in my profile something about teeth/hygiene? Don't want to sound like a snob.
Brenda
Brenda
Not quite sure why everyone here would pull out the 'hygiene' card just because the guy has bad looking teeth.
My (he) teeth don't look very good.
They're discolored, they're chipped, and I have several missing.
But I still have the majority of them in my mouth, and I intend to keep them as long as I can.
Hopefully, people I meet won't be so judgemental of me just because of this.
I'm a VERY clean person. and practice great hygiene - I've just been genetically cursed with lousy looking teeth.
It runs in the family.
I have never once, in all my years, been told I needed a mint.
That's because I practice good oral hygeine - despite what it might LOOK like.
There was a thread here a couple weeks ago dealing with wearing or not wearing perfume when playing with others.
There was a significant number those who insisted they would continue to wear their fragrances REGARDLESS of whether it was offensive and/or turned others off, or people were alergic.
Those are the same folks who would no doubt judge my hygiene by the way my teeth look.
There's currently a thread on the Forums about how you would deal with someone who had a smelly crotch.
I haven't, and don't intend to, compare the names and opinions from the 2 disserent threads, but I'd bet money the ones who so adamantly said they would wear their fragrance even if others found it offensive, are the ones most vocal about someone else having an offensive crotch "fragrance".
My (he) teeth don't look very good.
They're discolored, they're chipped, and I have several missing.
But I still have the majority of them in my mouth, and I intend to keep them as long as I can.
Hopefully, people I meet won't be so judgemental of me just because of this.
I'm a VERY clean person. and practice great hygiene - I've just been genetically cursed with lousy looking teeth.
It runs in the family.
I have never once, in all my years, been told I needed a mint.
That's because I practice good oral hygeine - despite what it might LOOK like.
There was a thread here a couple weeks ago dealing with wearing or not wearing perfume when playing with others.
There was a significant number those who insisted they would continue to wear their fragrances REGARDLESS of whether it was offensive and/or turned others off, or people were alergic.
Those are the same folks who would no doubt judge my hygiene by the way my teeth look.
There's currently a thread on the Forums about how you would deal with someone who had a smelly crotch.
I haven't, and don't intend to, compare the names and opinions from the 2 disserent threads, but I'd bet money the ones who so adamantly said they would wear their fragrance even if others found it offensive, are the ones most vocal about someone else having an offensive crotch "fragrance".
I was with a guy that my perfume made him sneeze, I went in and washed it off. I don't want anything that is going to make someone uncomfortable. Some scents to people don't agree with them, so why not take it off. I don't find scents that big of a deal that you can't take it off. For the record on the teeth thing, most of his teeth are missing and he did have bad breath. Sorry, I can't over look that. I still talk to him, I can be his friend. I just can't be anything else to him. I've been with a couple of men that have lost a few teeth. But, they do brush their teeth and take care of what they have.
Okay, we read these frequently but rarly respond but this one we can't help ourselves. This is all about physical attraction is it not? I don't believe we are shallow. We are not what we would call super particular. You dont need to be Barbie and Ken but there has to be an attraction. Sorry, but teeth are big, as is body odor or greasy hair,genetics or otherwise. Sorry, we really are not snooty, on the contrary, but there has to be an attaction. Size and shape are not important but personality and hygiene are imperitive. So, if you have all your front teeth amd bathe regurarly give us a holler. We dont think that is asking to much. Are we wrong?
For this or any other reason, you shouldn't 'party' with anyone that you're not ok with. If we don't expect one another to take one for our team, we sure as hell wouldn't take one for the other team. There isn't a single thing that obligates you to even giving a second thought to going along with something that turns you off. It's your life and your body, period.
FUCKADOODLEDOO wrote:
My understanding is if someone has a tooth infection they can pass the infection on to another by kissing. So you are right by passing on it for sure.
Gina
FUCKADOODLE- This information is incorrect. The infection in your tooth is caused by the normal bacteria (flora) in your mouth growing in the tissues it doesn't belong. (tooth) Anytime you have a open sore in your mouth you are susceptible to infection from any source. Just as an example say I was kissing on someone that had a tooth infection. so his nasty infection germs are in my mouth(nasty) the enzymes (first line of defense) will start breaking it down , my immune system would kill it because it is foreign to self. But this is the same scenario as in just breathing, eating blah blah blah.Hense why it is referred to as the doughnut hole( mouth to Anus lined with defenses to protect the inside of the body).
But on the note of hygiene VERY important.I understand that some people are cursed by genetics with their teeth. However go to the dentist, fix them, whatever so there is not that smell or sickening appearance. So you have lost a few teeth, if they are the front you should fix them rather then appearing as a crack head even if that not the case but if they are in the back and you can deal with them not being there then so be it. I have to say that I wont just take one for the team either. There has to be physical attraction and being clean, smelling good and showing that you care for yourself to me and mine are super important. So i dont think that you were in the wrong by not giving in.
PLEASE READ MY ABOVE POSTING.
I totally and completely understand that the look and condition of my teeth can/could be a turn-off to some folks (as far as I know it hasn't yet) and they'd NOT want to play with me.
MY issue is that there are actually people out there who would assume I have poor hygiene simply because of the way Mother Nature made my teeth look.
I totally and completely understand that the look and condition of my teeth can/could be a turn-off to some folks (as far as I know it hasn't yet) and they'd NOT want to play with me.
MY issue is that there are actually people out there who would assume I have poor hygiene simply because of the way Mother Nature made my teeth look.