Why is it people cant read the entire profile. Our profile is pretty open and says what we are really looking for, (AGE, BODY TYPE, LOCATION) but we keep getting requests or messages from people we WOULD NOT EVEN CONSIDER. I am sure others have the same problems and do as we do delete them ASAP. Just wondering why people can't read the WHOLE PROFILE!
Sadly that is so true. Our profile explicitly states, in bold letters, no single males. Guess who tries to contact us? We just accept that using a delete button is easier and more effective than trying to change other people.
The question here IS NOT whether a person has been on the site for one day or ten years! It's about the IDIOTS and ASSHOLES who can't READ a simple few sentences and paragraphs. I feel this thread needs to be discussed EVERYDAY because people just don't GET IT! 
( For one, you can BLOCK SINGLE MALES in your preference settings. Don't complain about something that you yourself can control. ;o)
Why don't people just do what we do and BLOCK and forget them! Simple answer. We feel that it's a DISRESPECT issue based on the simple fact that you CAN'T READ! Our profile not only has what we want specifically, but plenty of up to date pictures of BOTH of us. UNLIKE so many piss poor COUPLE profiles that only show pics of the female and not of the male. Are you a COUPLE or not? Once again, this automatically shows us that you are not REPRESENTING yourself as a true couple and fall under that IDIOTS/ASSHOLES category and soon will get you blocked on our end. Sorry, but we have no time for game players and people that are not serious. We respect other's profiles by reading them first and seeing if their likes/dislikes are the same as ours. We don't care HOW GOOD THEY LOOK! If they are not for you, then why bother? Do you think they are going to lower their standard just to be with you? Probably not.
Do I think this site would be a better place if people would just READ a profile, rather than just see a hot pic of girl and press the "friend request" button without reading a single word in the profile? Not yes, but HELL YES I would! It would be a much better place. Reality check here though people, no matter where you go in the world, no matter what swing site you go to...there will always be IDITOS and ASSHOLES. It's part of life and you just have to accept it. Just don't let them bother you and DELETE their message if they've proven that they haven't read your profile.
We have PLENTY of checks/balances in our profile where if you contact us, we can tell INSTANTLY if you've read our profile or not. One of our pet peeves is FACE PICS!!!!! We clearly state that we will ONLY accept couples that have FACE pics in their default gallery. We WILL NOT accept a friend request to see face pics in a PRIVATE folder! If you feel that you are THAT IMPORTANT in life that you have to be so discrete/discreet (however you want to spell it) that you can't show us who you are and that you are a real person and a human being, we really have NO INTEREST in you. Reality check here people...aren't WE ALL IN THE PUBLIC EYE? We just love the couples with the double standards who want face pics themselves but don't PROVIDE them on their profile? WTF? Once again, can you say RED FLAG?
We are a couple that doesn't even search for couples with NO PICS! Period! We refuse to go on a blind date, especially on a swing site. It's hard enough to get four green lights WITH pictuers, let alone with none. Sorry but we pull our BULLSHIT flag out when people only have 1, 2, 3 or 4 pics in their public folder. 75% of the time, they're pics without faces and just ones of boobs in a bra or some dude's schlong! You can learn so much by looking at those little, red numbers under their profile in a search. Are you getting tired of seeing 1/0/0? We really wonder WHY these people are even on the site. A picture is worth a thousand words. Even though the hubby side of the house feels that he fell down the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down exept ONE, we are a package deal, and we WANT the female on the other end to have a choice. ;o) So STOP disrespecting the female side of the house couples, and show that you're a couple.
So, if you want to look at our profile and notice that we've only been members for a little over three weeks, and feel that we don't know what we are talking about, go ahead and take your best stab at us. This isn't the only swing site that's out there and there are plenty of others that are the SAME EXACT WAY! Disrespecting IDIOTS and ASSHOLES and single men who can't read are two that come to mind that are on all the sites. You can't escape them. Period!
We think it's really funny how people are so quick to point the finger at someone else when they really don't have a "standard" profile themselves. We will go to your profile and see if you have face pics (if any pics at all), have answered all the questions, completely READ your profile (if there is any), view your comments from others and see if you're a REAL or paying member. Once we weigh these factors we can easily base on exactly how much of our attention you will receive from us. We feel that if you can't answer a few simple "yes/no/maybe" questions, write something other than a few sentences, and not post a few pics of yourself, you really haven't put the time in yourselves so don't expect our time in return.
Most people on these swing sites are out for a "quickie" and nothing else. We aren't! We are a real couple in search of other real couples who are serious about the lifestyle. Fence sitters are a waste of our time as well as everyone elses.
So people, keep on not reading profiles and you will get nowhere. All it takes is a little PROACTIVE approach to the site. Have your profile set up to where you can INSTANTLY tell if someone has disrespected you or not. It is so much easier to BLOCK someone right away than waste time by doing it later.
Hope this helps people understand a little more. We are not pro's at this and never will be. Just a normal couple, who puts their pants on one leg at a time. If you don't like what we're writing, then don't read it! Nobody forced you too. Everyone has an opinion, so respect theirs and they MIGHT just respect yours.
Happy Happy Joy Joy!
( For one, you can BLOCK SINGLE MALES in your preference settings. Don't complain about something that you yourself can control. ;o) Why don't people just do what we do and BLOCK and forget them! Simple answer. We feel that it's a DISRESPECT issue based on the simple fact that you CAN'T READ! Our profile not only has what we want specifically, but plenty of up to date pictures of BOTH of us. UNLIKE so many piss poor COUPLE profiles that only show pics of the female and not of the male. Are you a COUPLE or not? Once again, this automatically shows us that you are not REPRESENTING yourself as a true couple and fall under that IDIOTS/ASSHOLES category and soon will get you blocked on our end. Sorry, but we have no time for game players and people that are not serious. We respect other's profiles by reading them first and seeing if their likes/dislikes are the same as ours. We don't care HOW GOOD THEY LOOK! If they are not for you, then why bother? Do you think they are going to lower their standard just to be with you? Probably not.
Do I think this site would be a better place if people would just READ a profile, rather than just see a hot pic of girl and press the "friend request" button without reading a single word in the profile? Not yes, but HELL YES I would! It would be a much better place. Reality check here though people, no matter where you go in the world, no matter what swing site you go to...there will always be IDITOS and ASSHOLES. It's part of life and you just have to accept it. Just don't let them bother you and DELETE their message if they've proven that they haven't read your profile.
We have PLENTY of checks/balances in our profile where if you contact us, we can tell INSTANTLY if you've read our profile or not. One of our pet peeves is FACE PICS!!!!! We clearly state that we will ONLY accept couples that have FACE pics in their default gallery. We WILL NOT accept a friend request to see face pics in a PRIVATE folder! If you feel that you are THAT IMPORTANT in life that you have to be so discrete/discreet (however you want to spell it) that you can't show us who you are and that you are a real person and a human being, we really have NO INTEREST in you. Reality check here people...aren't WE ALL IN THE PUBLIC EYE? We just love the couples with the double standards who want face pics themselves but don't PROVIDE them on their profile? WTF? Once again, can you say RED FLAG?
We are a couple that doesn't even search for couples with NO PICS! Period! We refuse to go on a blind date, especially on a swing site. It's hard enough to get four green lights WITH pictuers, let alone with none. Sorry but we pull our BULLSHIT flag out when people only have 1, 2, 3 or 4 pics in their public folder. 75% of the time, they're pics without faces and just ones of boobs in a bra or some dude's schlong! You can learn so much by looking at those little, red numbers under their profile in a search. Are you getting tired of seeing 1/0/0? We really wonder WHY these people are even on the site. A picture is worth a thousand words. Even though the hubby side of the house feels that he fell down the ugly tree and hit every branch on the way down exept ONE, we are a package deal, and we WANT the female on the other end to have a choice. ;o) So STOP disrespecting the female side of the house couples, and show that you're a couple.
So, if you want to look at our profile and notice that we've only been members for a little over three weeks, and feel that we don't know what we are talking about, go ahead and take your best stab at us. This isn't the only swing site that's out there and there are plenty of others that are the SAME EXACT WAY! Disrespecting IDIOTS and ASSHOLES and single men who can't read are two that come to mind that are on all the sites. You can't escape them. Period!
We think it's really funny how people are so quick to point the finger at someone else when they really don't have a "standard" profile themselves. We will go to your profile and see if you have face pics (if any pics at all), have answered all the questions, completely READ your profile (if there is any), view your comments from others and see if you're a REAL or paying member. Once we weigh these factors we can easily base on exactly how much of our attention you will receive from us. We feel that if you can't answer a few simple "yes/no/maybe" questions, write something other than a few sentences, and not post a few pics of yourself, you really haven't put the time in yourselves so don't expect our time in return.
Most people on these swing sites are out for a "quickie" and nothing else. We aren't! We are a real couple in search of other real couples who are serious about the lifestyle. Fence sitters are a waste of our time as well as everyone elses.
So people, keep on not reading profiles and you will get nowhere. All it takes is a little PROACTIVE approach to the site. Have your profile set up to where you can INSTANTLY tell if someone has disrespected you or not. It is so much easier to BLOCK someone right away than waste time by doing it later.
Hope this helps people understand a little more. We are not pro's at this and never will be. Just a normal couple, who puts their pants on one leg at a time. If you don't like what we're writing, then don't read it! Nobody forced you too. Everyone has an opinion, so respect theirs and they MIGHT just respect yours.
Happy Happy Joy Joy!
Short answer, we are guys and most dont care to read.
We try to read all the way through before we accept. Have to admit, though, that on a couple of occasions we have come across a profile with a war and peace description full of mostly declarations of their love for each other. In this case we have just skimmed the profile and accepted or denied based on level of physical attraction.
Doesn't seem to matter though. Almost no one wants to meet. They just want to email.
Doesn't seem to matter though. Almost no one wants to meet. They just want to email.
I agree, wow. We just live in a small town and want to have an idea of who we are talking to before showing them who we are. And even though we have certain requests on our profile we are open minded depending on the people. Personality says a lot more than what is on your profile. We often here we look much younger than we are. I do know I age like wine....I get better and beter with age 
I agree with Candy PA in everything but face pics...For most salary or advanced professions it would not help the earnings to be found frequenting this kind of site. Sorry maybe in your neck of the woods this is a a prestigious hobby but not in most of the good ol USA.
Did they add something under the whole pictures portion of the profile? Hmm... I should check that out...
yeah, I would say that you can *never*, and I mean NEVER, ask someone post face pics on here. You can just not hook up with them if you want, but to request it seems a bit much. There was just an incident someone posted 3 days ago where because of the pics and videos they had on here, they were outed to friends, and their pics and videos distributed to the general public for all their friends and family to see.
DE2OFUS wrote:
Wow...
Seriously folks, is this really a matter of life and death? Are your fingers under such duress that you can't ignore a friend request? Or is it that you feel you belong to an "exclusive club" where seeking your "friendship" requires one to be of elite status, or come with an explanation as to why one is "worthy" of your friendship?
Take a chill pill folks...don't have an over-inflated sense of self worth...your "friendship" probably really isn't that important to those folks seeking you out anyway. They probably just want to see your photos. And why wouldn't / shouldn't they want to? The system is set up in such a way that you have to be "friends" to see the "goods". Don't you want to see what the other person looks like before you make a decision?
Let's please DO repost this every day...it makes me laugh when egotistic, holier than thou types get frustrated because they aren't being "respected" in a swinglifestyle forum.
Can I get an "AMEN" from the choir, please?
Truthfully if someone actually reads our whole profile I'm a little shocked. But then again, it's meant to both inform you (the reader) AND entertain you. If you can't get thru it, then chances are you wont' get us in person either. It's pretty standard fair....except that whole "we are so in love with each other blah blah blah shit". Paragraph about him. Paragraph about me. What WE are looking for. Our standards for accepting friend's request, safe sex mandatory and non negotiable,...etc and then a nice little naughty sexy piece how I like to be fucked designed to make you at least smile. If it irritates you or intimidates you then obviously we won't mesh. No big loss.
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me knot sew serius. me jus havin de fun wit ya.
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Man, I hope Candycanepa gets laid today before work tomorrow. Someone give that dude a hug already!
Goosfraba
And another thing...we have gotten a lot of requests from couples that don't have face pics in their public area, and they have their own reasons, but when we request them in a personal message, they still don't send any. They won't be public, and nobody will see them but us, so do they wanna get to know us or not? WTF? They read our message, and then we hear nothing. Just don't get it...well I do, but don't waste our time. Does this happen to others? Do they want us to fuck ghosts? HAHA or maybe it's just the picture collectors doing their thing and have no intention of meeting anyone at all. It takes all kinds to make the world go 'round I guess.
Very few will read a profile anymore.. I ask for no blind friend request and yet multiPle times a day I get just that blind friend request. Some days I just hit the ignore button and very few times do I write to them stating that they cannot read and to please move on. I don't know it's just a mood thing. But I find it rude that ppl can't take the time to read a profile, jus my own opinion.
Wow candycane don't nyou think that if those "not" reading your profile will take the time to read the novel you wrote on this thread?
But honestly I know a lot of people do complain about single males but not all us single males are the same so yeah sometimes "people" just wanna see your pics and then become friends
But honestly I know a lot of people do complain about single males but not all us single males are the same so yeah sometimes "people" just wanna see your pics and then become friends
In general, we look at every profile we add. Like most I'd imagine, there are a few things you tend to look for (i.e. kissing, full/soft swap, etc...), and then glance over the comments to try and get a vibe off of what they've written. On the flip side, there are plenty of folks who put what they want/who they are, and when it comes to meeting their are completely different. Therefore, we don't think there is an ideal situation, you just have to take each situation as they come and learn as you go. We are not text book people, you gotta just figure it out! Good luck, and when in doubt, ask questions!
I'm a bit confused here.
In your attached post, you advocate that folks be VERY specific in their profile about EXACTLY what they're looking for - age, maximum/minimum weight/pant size, dress size, precise body mass-to-weight-ratio....................
Yet, in your profile (below) you say you have strict standards for single males, yet you fail to list EVEN ONE example of what those 'strict standards' are. Shouldn't you perhaps (as you say above) "take the guessing out of it" and list the precise specifications, dimensions and nomenclature you require?
[quote]:Single males, we are not looking to get together with any single males, we have strict standards for single males, and we will not respond to friend requests or messages from single males unless we have sought you out and contacted you first. [quote]
The bottom line is, all of us are often guilty of exactly the same offenses we charge others with, but there's no reflection coming from our mirror.
In your attached post, you advocate that folks be VERY specific in their profile about EXACTLY what they're looking for - age, maximum/minimum weight/pant size, dress size, precise body mass-to-weight-ratio....................
ANDRAYWAY_SHANAYNAY wrote:
Your logic has flaws. You say no one that is the age of your children. Well the thing is, when I reach 46, I will still have minor children and an 18 year old. How would I know if 30 is too young for you? Perhaps you should throw out a specific number like "No one under age 32" then there will be no confusion about your age cutoff. Now with the other issue, weight. I am not attracted to beanpoles, but I don't give out a minimum weight. Not all fat people consider themselves fat, or at least too fat for you. Maybe you should give a definite weight maximum, but then again, I know guys who are 30 lbs less than I am and wear a waist size 6-8 inches bigger than me. Here is a thought, make a cutoff on waist/pant size. If you don't want a girl over a size 12, say you don't want a girl over a size 12. Take the guessing out of it.
Yet, in your profile (below) you say you have strict standards for single males, yet you fail to list EVEN ONE example of what those 'strict standards' are. Shouldn't you perhaps (as you say above) "take the guessing out of it" and list the precise specifications, dimensions and nomenclature you require?
[quote]:Single males, we are not looking to get together with any single males, we have strict standards for single males, and we will not respond to friend requests or messages from single males unless we have sought you out and contacted you first. [quote]
The bottom line is, all of us are often guilty of exactly the same offenses we charge others with, but there's no reflection coming from our mirror.