How do you find out if friends are in the lifestyle? I would hate at ask the wrong question and cause an issue or maybe loose a friend?
SO what is the best way to find others in the lifestyle in a normal party or group event?
SO what is the best way to find others in the lifestyle in a normal party or group event?
For the most part, DON'T ASK... There are WAY more NON-SWINGERS in the country than swingers, so your chances of your friends being swingers is slim. There are a few things that will point to swinging. Check her closet. If there is allot of club wear the chances are better. Ask about their vacations. If they mention a place like HEDO they are pretty much swingers.. If there is a couple you would like to play with you can create a fun night and when things feel right, ask if they have ever thought about swinging... Keep in mind that not all swingers want to be KNOWN due to family, friends, jobs etc. Good luck... ... Steve
U could just ask...unless ur a school teacher or politician ..i doubt it has a bearing on ur life..being a swinger isnt something to b ashamed of.. most people..especially males would b jealous haha. I bet a lot of people have fantasies about swinging. But let their jealousy or insecurities take over. Or just don't know how to approach the subject..so it could b an ice breaker....
Also listen to the language they use. We have picked out other swingers by how they talk..
I disagree with CandJ. I have a buddy that I thought would be cool with it and since he has found out we are swingers he nearly never talks to me anymore. We are car guys and it takes something big to part those ways...