Hey all I told my hubby the other day I wanted a gf someone in and out of the bedroom of course for the both of us what's everyones take on this?
So what's the problem? shouldn't be hard to find someone on this site for that, unless u want a live in.
What does ur hubby think? He may think ur going to much over to the other side.
Having ONE "GF" ( in and out) for both will cause potential dangers.
What does ur hubby think? He may think ur going to much over to the other side.
Having ONE "GF" ( in and out) for both will cause potential dangers.
Well I want a friend to someone to shop with to
if it was possible to find a sane, good looking girl who was ok being the third wheel without creating drama, stirring up trouble, or trying to come between my man and me... then sure, why not?
We have actually had 2 live in GF since we started this lifestyle. We would love to have one again, but that is by far the hardest thing to find and it just isnt for everyone that is for sure.....
It works for a while then comes the TROUBLE !!!! Just sayin to each there own they are never happy being the third wheel but good luck to ya .......
Badboy8p
Badboy8p
Oh Please. Keep it real like I do. I've got a four bedroom house. I'm currently looking for these four men to fill it:
The men have had their genes somehow corrupted and long to perform housework and cooking.
They never get jealous and don't mind at all if swords cross as they passionately ravish me.
They love to sit and watch recorded daytime soaps with me as they each pick a part of my body to massage.
They only speak when spoken to.
When I go shopping they all jump up and down saying "Take Me, Take Me!"
They don't like remote controls so they always bring them to me for safekeeping.
Their favorite team sport is "tag-teaming" Mrs Pals.
They live by the motto "nobody cums 'till Mrs Pals cums."
If they were any more buff they'd require wax.
Favorite positions for two of them? 69 and doggie and they don't mind doing it at the same time.
They refer to me as "Lovely Goddess" and "High Queen."
They prefer the bathroom seat down, except when they're giving it a thorough cleaning.
When sitting, they are kinked a bit to one side due to all the bills filling their wallets which they willingly share.
They refuse to gawk at other scantily clad women uttering things like "Oh how tacky! Now if she were gorgeous like my Mrs Pals..."
Whenever I speak they act as if the angels are singing.
***OK, so I'm betting that I've got a better chance of fulfilling my dream then you do yours!
**Oops, had to edit to make it clear that I think Mrs TattooCouple is HOT -- this is just a silly post in reference to finding the elusive unicorn!!
The men have had their genes somehow corrupted and long to perform housework and cooking.
They never get jealous and don't mind at all if swords cross as they passionately ravish me.
They love to sit and watch recorded daytime soaps with me as they each pick a part of my body to massage.
They only speak when spoken to.
When I go shopping they all jump up and down saying "Take Me, Take Me!"
They don't like remote controls so they always bring them to me for safekeeping.
Their favorite team sport is "tag-teaming" Mrs Pals.
They live by the motto "nobody cums 'till Mrs Pals cums."
If they were any more buff they'd require wax.
Favorite positions for two of them? 69 and doggie and they don't mind doing it at the same time.
They refer to me as "Lovely Goddess" and "High Queen."
They prefer the bathroom seat down, except when they're giving it a thorough cleaning.
When sitting, they are kinked a bit to one side due to all the bills filling their wallets which they willingly share.
They refuse to gawk at other scantily clad women uttering things like "Oh how tacky! Now if she were gorgeous like my Mrs Pals..."
Whenever I speak they act as if the angels are singing.
***OK, so I'm betting that I've got a better chance of fulfilling my dream then you do yours!
**Oops, had to edit to make it clear that I think Mrs TattooCouple is HOT -- this is just a silly post in reference to finding the elusive unicorn!!
I'd have to agree that many a couple on here is looking for that exact thing, us very much included! Would it be INCREDIBLY hard to work out, of course. But like with most difficult adventures, the rewards are as high as the risks. No luck so far, and we have a hot tub so you'd think we would be a shoe in right?! Haha!
TATTOOCOUPLE11 wrote:
Hey all I told my hubby the other day I wanted a gf someone in and out of the bedroom of course for the both of us what's everyones take on this?
This must be every couples fantasy.
We have had a long term gf. She was with us living on her own for a couple years and then she moved on. Years later our paths crossed and again we had an amazing relationship. This time she lived with us for a couple more years. But when she left it was a VERY painful experience for all involved. But we are again friends with her but just vanilla friends as she is now married. The phrase "It is better to loved and loss then to never loved...." comes to mind. Good luck and no we didn't find her on here!
Although we would never have a live in GF we are looking for a GF for us... Someone I can spend the day shopping with and bring home once in a while for hot sex with us!
PALS4FUN wrote:
Oh Please. Keep it real like I do. I've got a four bedroom house. I'm currently looking for these four men to fill it:
The men have had their genes somehow corrupted and long to perform housework and cooking.
They never get jealous and don't mind at all if swords cross as they passionately ravish me.
They love to sit and watch recorded daytime soaps with me as they each pick a part of my body to massage.
They only speak when spoken to.
When I go shopping they all jump up and down saying "Take Me, Take Me!"
They don't like remote controls so they always bring them to me for safekeeping.
Their favorite team sport is "tag-teaming" Mrs Pals.
They live by the motto "nobody cums 'till Mrs Pals cums."
If they were any more buff they'd require wax.
Favorite positions for two of them? 69 and doggie and they don't mind doing it at the same time.
They refer to me as "Lovely Goddess" and "High Queen."
They prefer the bathroom seat down, except when they're giving it a thorough cleaning.
When sitting, they are kinked a bit to one side due to all the bills filling their wallets which they willingly share.
They refuse to gawk at other scantily clad women uttering things like "Oh how tacky! Now if she were gorgeous like my Mrs Pals..."
Whenever I speak they act as if the angels are singing.
***OK, so I'm betting that I've got a better chance of fulfilling my dream then you do yours!
**Oops, had to edit to make it clear that I think Mrs TattooCouple is HOT -- this is just a silly post in reference to finding the elusive unicorn!!
You found my craigs list ad didn't you.
I want the same thing, dont many of us? What I really want though is a woman willing to have a job, help me around the house, and be a tiger in the bedroom. (hubby says she doesn't have to have a job just be willing to put up with my (the female halfs) sex drive lol)
I would love to be that 'extra' woman girlfriend type thing.... however... I hate shopping... so I rarely fit in with women on a long term basis.
This should be the easiest thing in the world to obtain. There must be millions of single women out there who's deepest desire is to be committed to a married couple
VIRANI wrote:
I would love to be that 'extra' woman girlfriend type thing.... however... I hate shopping... so I rarely fit in with women on a long term basis.
The shopping isn't mandatory for me (us)
She loves and and I do too. The GF is great for both of us.
Shopping isn't a must for me either if I don't find one no worries lol
Pals4fun your just as sexy I need some new pics I have dark hair now
The GF thing worked very well for us long term, and it was amazing what it did for our relationship. Really brought us together and we never seem closer when we have that bond between us...no pun intended...but the problem seems to be that each time it seemed to be going so well, they became flaky, took advantage of our love and patience, and got too comfortable being spoiled. It was almost like dating again. HAHA that's no shit. I guess all of this is. LOL. But so much fun too if ya find the right one. I guess 3 IS company.
is it wrong of me to believe that no girlfriend of a couple should expect anything beyond sex? Presents demeans the experience.... Attention on the other hand is one problem easily solved... Couples... SHARE your girlfriends....with other couples....
I really believe that this is what the 3 involved make it with us our first live in girlfriend was part of us. It wasnt about just sex. We had a relationship where we talked about everything and done everything together. no secrets from one another, if something wasnt going good we all felt the effects. Our first girlfriend was with us for 3 years and it was great and worked great until things beyond our control made us have to change everything. They say the heart is going to feel what it feels and that is what happen....
This is everyone's want I think... It was mine when I was with my ex in the LS.. We found one once and it was ideal for us-he had 2 gfs and I got a husband and a gf I was a happy girl but finding the right girl to add is the key.
but finding the right girl to add is the key.As a single female my preference is not to be in a "committed" relationship with a couple. I am cool with being friends and playing repeatedly but I enjoy being single and the freedom that comes with it. As for shopping and the like, I hate shopping, more of a tom boy, not into chick flicks or anything like that, I would rather chill and play video games, so guess that would make me a horrible girlfriend to the female half of a couple
PANDORASLC wrote:
As a single female my preference is not to be in a "committed" relationship with a couple. I am cool with being friends and playing repeatedly but I enjoy being single and the freedom that comes with it. As for shopping and the like, I hate shopping, more of a tom boy, not into chick flicks or anything like that, I would rather chill and play video games, so guess that would make me a horrible girlfriend to the female half of a couple
I hate shopping to and would rather watch a movie or play a video game then do just about anything. When we decided to swing/open up our relationship the first place my husband went to find a playmate was Geek2Geek he said he would love to find a girl to hang with that he could play video games with and maybe even RPG with.
Problem we have found is that most women aren't comfortable with a guy who is married. and there is a reason bi girls willing to play with a couple are called unicorns they are even rarer and one that games is nearly impossible.
NAUGHTYBIKERS wrote:VIRANI wrote:
I would love to be that 'extra' woman girlfriend type thing.... however... I hate shopping... so I rarely fit in with women on a long term basis.
Wellif it helps any, my wife hates to shop. But loves to play lol.
Where do I sign up??
I like shopping but more of an outdoor girl well i love to play with a sezy woman but there isnt many women who are into couples up here in idaho
TATTOOCOUPLE11 wrote:
I like shopping but more of an outdoor girl well i love to play with a sezy woman but there isnt many women who are into couples up here in idaho
We can't find any in Florida either...
They will always want what u and your hubby have mabey at first they will be happy but in time they will feel like the third wheel im speeking from experience it is lots of fun just expect to be disapointed !!!!!
I share my girlfriend as long as she wants to play. She does her own thing. We all have fun doing many things together. It is not all about sex. We have been friends for years so its more of how we know each other and our bonds. Morgan is new to swinging so she takes her time which is fine by us. So we always know where each other stands. (=
spiceinup, seems to dig me for some reason. She adores my hubby, Tried to let her go but she flutters back again. (= Guess that means they belong to you(=
Its not always easy for all of us to always get along. However we have never had a problem and know what lines are okay to cross. We are very good at communicating with each other so it makes it all work and come together.
Sara, Josh and Morgan(=
spiceinup, seems to dig me for some reason. She adores my hubby, Tried to let her go but she flutters back again. (= Guess that means they belong to you(=
Its not always easy for all of us to always get along. However we have never had a problem and know what lines are okay to cross. We are very good at communicating with each other so it makes it all work and come together.
Sara, Josh and Morgan(=
@Badboy8P... is this speaking from experience of being the 3rd? Sounds pretty rugged and I'd like to suggest that it was the choices.
It has been my experience in both the 1st and 3rd position that all were pretty committed and not disappointing at all. In the first position, that is when I was married and we had a girlfriend, the only reason she moved on was because she got involved in a relationship and her new boyfriend wanted her to end it with us, which we did. When I was the 3rd in the relationship, it was lovely and enjoyable. That did eventually end as well and it was the wife that ended there, wanted to close the relationship for a while. She and I are still friends.
My point here is that it isn't always the 3rd that is trouble or unsatisfied.
The key in making these kinds of relationships last is choosing wisely. Make sure that the 3rd "fits" in your lifestyle and relationship. This takes time and effort, but if you're committed to having relationship and connection with your sexual play, it can be extremely satisfying.
Just my 2 cents....
Te
It has been my experience in both the 1st and 3rd position that all were pretty committed and not disappointing at all. In the first position, that is when I was married and we had a girlfriend, the only reason she moved on was because she got involved in a relationship and her new boyfriend wanted her to end it with us, which we did. When I was the 3rd in the relationship, it was lovely and enjoyable. That did eventually end as well and it was the wife that ended there, wanted to close the relationship for a while. She and I are still friends.
My point here is that it isn't always the 3rd that is trouble or unsatisfied.
The key in making these kinds of relationships last is choosing wisely. Make sure that the 3rd "fits" in your lifestyle and relationship. This takes time and effort, but if you're committed to having relationship and connection with your sexual play, it can be extremely satisfying.
Just my 2 cents....
Te
Poly relationships can work. They are just more difficult to make work. Every relationship will change over time. Some get closer and some move apart. That is the nature of human relationship. If you think that you can live with or have sex all the time with a person and keep the relationship at the same point it began, then you are fooling yourself. Before you add a live in lover you need to honestly ask yourself the what if questions. If you don
NAUGHTYBIKERS wrote:VIRANI wrote:
[quote=NAUGHTYBIKERS][quote=VIRANI]I would love to be that 'extra' woman girlfriend type thing.... however... I hate shopping... so I rarely fit in with women on a long term basis.
Wellif it helps any, my wife hates to shop. But loves to play lol.
Where do I sign up??
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The wife says " Show here the dotted line!"
Sign here ......................... Lmao [/quote]
Hmmm... autographing her sexy lil ass... and grinning all the while
DNJFXR wrote:
hey virani, we have a place near the beach,and no snow down here.
Small problem... I am acclimated to the Rocky Mountains... I am happier with goosebumps than any other time... in fact... I've been wearing tank tops with the window down most of the week...
I don't know if I could handle the hot humidity for a long time UNLESS I am there on an herpetological expedition (chasing non-indigenous snakes is my hobby)
ABCMAN wrote:ASSETS wrote:
[quote=VIRANI]is it wrong of me to believe that no girlfriend of a couple should expect anything beyond sex?
nope. I think the same... if a girlfriend expects more, then she is just setting herself up for a broken heart and disappointment.
It's not that easy. What if the man falls for the girlfriend. It is possible to love more then one person romantically, it happens all the time. Even friends of mine who have cheated on their wives, still love their wives, it's not just sex to some of these men.
Sometimes I wonder if "Swingers" or "lifestylers" get so paranoid about falling for someone that they miss some of the fun that comes with sexual play with those you care about or ...cough...love. Love isn't something that is always controllable or a feeling that always can be tamed. I've read these posts for years, and it happens all the time in the lifestyle. Couple "A" plays with single male or female, they play often, soon one of the couple is in love with the secondary, then all hell breaks loose. I just asked myself, why? That person you fell in love with originally is still the same person, they may love someone else as well, but they in most cases still love you as well. Shut down the social conditioning that tells you it's wrong! So is swinging by the way if you listen to those religious cultural voices. Talk it over with your spouse, let them know it's okay to feel what ever they want to feel. Keep those communication lines open, and often the "fallen" partner will realize they love two and they do not have to love only one person. Sorry for the sermon, but I just cringe when I read these replies where people attempt to deny what makes them fundamentally human. It's okay to love others, even if they are not your spouse. Just remember who you are going home with and who was by your side the last umpteen years.[/quote]
I used to work for a MORMON sex therapist... his usual statement" Love is easy... for the most part it requires the right emotion and the right impetus.... It's the RELATIONSHIP that is hard." I love many of the bodies/minds that I've touched... but I've never found a satisfaction better than what I've discovered with a husband of 17 years and our two amazing kids. I don't need anything from outside sources but a chance to see "what's out there..."
Perhaps that's the real difficulty... analyzing our motives and admitting our jealousies. For example, I consider myself flat chested... It's why I LOVE encounters with buxom women... but I am willing to admit that my interest comes from a place of jealousy ... I don't ignore jealousies...I use them to my advantage. I am not girlfriend material... Monogamy bores me. But I do fit in with the group of couples who want full honesty.
There are definitely pros and cons but if you wanna sighn up sighn here. ....... lol
I didn't know this was such a controversial subject.
Of course u will find ur crazy sf, crazy sm and crazy cpls out there. Just because some have found those crazy drama filled people- single or couples-- doesnt mean that is how everyone else is. I feel bad for those who have had bad experiences w adding a "3rd" to their relationships. Being in the LS we all know that the biggest key is honest communication.. This is what keeps our relationships together happy and healthy. If adding a gf is something that is wanted then it can be beneficial and amazing to have. Being selective and choosing ur right sf, sm or cpl to add to ur relationship is always the key.. Find who is right for u and it can b good.
Of course u will find ur crazy sf, crazy sm and crazy cpls out there. Just because some have found those crazy drama filled people- single or couples-- doesnt mean that is how everyone else is. I feel bad for those who have had bad experiences w adding a "3rd" to their relationships. Being in the LS we all know that the biggest key is honest communication.. This is what keeps our relationships together happy and healthy. If adding a gf is something that is wanted then it can be beneficial and amazing to have. Being selective and choosing ur right sf, sm or cpl to add to ur relationship is always the key.. Find who is right for u and it can b good.
The best relationships are made on friendship and understanding with great communication. Any successful relationship will continue through the years.
If you do not have the best relationship then having a girl friend or boyfriend will only make life harder. This is where the jealousy will takes place. The root to all evil so I hear!!
The problem I am seeing with possibly having problems with a girlfriend from some of the comments is this need to find this girlfriend?
Whats the rush? take your time as it took time for the relationship you already have to happen as well. When it comes to the bedroom always be sure you would lay down your life for them. If the person is to much drama then that is not someone you want in your bed.
I have had both the good and bad stories on girlfriends and from that I have learned many lessons. I have also learned who not to let in my life as well. So its all done with leaps and bounds and eventually if the true desire of this is what is needed then it will happen!!!
If you do not have the best relationship then having a girl friend or boyfriend will only make life harder. This is where the jealousy will takes place. The root to all evil so I hear!!
The problem I am seeing with possibly having problems with a girlfriend from some of the comments is this need to find this girlfriend?
Whats the rush? take your time as it took time for the relationship you already have to happen as well. When it comes to the bedroom always be sure you would lay down your life for them. If the person is to much drama then that is not someone you want in your bed.
I have had both the good and bad stories on girlfriends and from that I have learned many lessons. I have also learned who not to let in my life as well. So its all done with leaps and bounds and eventually if the true desire of this is what is needed then it will happen!!!
interesting teme, just stopping to wish u all a great day, from provo utah <<<
FUCKADOODLEDOO wrote:BADBOY8P wrote:
They will always want what u and your hubby have mabey at first they will be happy but in time they will feel like the third wheel im speeking from experience it is lots of fun just expect to be disapointed !!!!!
For Sure I agree BAD. We had one that over just a couple weeks wanted the hubby to take her as a second wife. When she figured out that wasn't gonna happen she called the police on me stating I beat her up and wanted me arrested. She figured with me out of the way she had a shot with the hubby.Thank goodness for witnesses. We weren't the first couple she tried this with. She is no longer on the site as far as I know. All I gotta say is be way way way careful. Did I mention BE CAREFUL? What helped with all this was the trust the hubby and I have for each other for sure. Sorry if this was long LOL.
Gina
That is scary and sounds like fatal attraction. That must have shown you what "NOT" to want in a girlfriend. She could have taken it all from you with her snitch bitch ways. So not a women to trust.
I had a single female fall head over heels in love with my man. She knew we were swingers and thought it to be fun to try. So her swinging was more of trying to get my hubby from me. She got cut off right away I would not put up with that and glad you did the same as me. Booted her to the curb where she came from(=
I had one girl try that at one time. Try to get my man when I was not around. She would call him and try to see him when I was not home. Which is rare that we are not together.
Hotfirelovers thats crazy !!!!!!!! Deviantte .... She was the third !!! We hung out with her for a few months then we all talked about how it would all work with the 3 of us and we decided to move her in it was way fun had a blast for another 3 months then it went down hill she did nothing she said she would and she wanted me for herself . She didnt want to share anymore LOL . We thought we were giving her everything that me and my wife had but she felt like the third wheel !!!! It was a awesome experience thats for sure and we learned alot from it but from our experience I say find a single vanilla girl have as much fun with her as you can then when the drama starts get a new one . I wouldnt waste your time trying to find a single on swingular most have boyfriends or are looking for single males . I wish everyone luck hope it works for all of you ................. And single girls on swingular I said MOST not ALL ....... LMAO
Badboy8p
Badboy8p
It is possible. We've had "another woman" in our marriage for several years. While she doesn't live with us, she and my partner maintain a very strong, emotionally close relationship. She is one of my dearest friends (since their relationship, not before. We don't convert people to the lifestyle!) She and her partner are wonderful friends of ours - he and I just didn't click sexually, but are great friends. It's a crazy situation, but it works for us!!!
BADBOY8P wrote:
Hotfirelovers thats crazy !!!!!!!! Deviantte .... She was the third !!! We hung out with her for a few months then we all talked about how it would all work with the 3 of us and we decided to move her in it was way fun had a blast for another 3 months then it went down hill she did nothing she said she would and she wanted me for herself . She didnt want to share anymore LOL . We thought we were giving her everything that me and my wife had but she felt like the third wheel !!!! It was a awesome experience thats for sure and we learned alot from it but from our experience I say find a single vanilla girl have as much fun with her as you can then when the drama starts get a new one . I wouldnt waste your time trying to find a single on swingular most have boyfriends or are looking for single males . I wish everyone luck hope it works for all of you ................. And single girls on swingular I said MOST not ALL ....... LMAO
Badboy8p
Hey who said I was normal lol. Its not crazy but I get what you mean also. Definitely not everything can last forever but the things that do sure mean the most to me as well(=
Oh and BadBoy I have known Morgan for over 5 years almost 6. So I think it may not change for a long time. We have raised kids together and everything. So it pretty structured and for the most part works out. Plus she loves my hubby but is never all about my hubby all the time. She would have died so long ago if she was.
Our relationship also works because she also has dated men while we have been together and we are happy for her when she is in a relationship. We have helped her through her ups and downs and she helps us as well. So its more like a big family if you asked me!!!(=
sara
Our relationship also works because she also has dated men while we have been together and we are happy for her when she is in a relationship. We have helped her through her ups and downs and she helps us as well. So its more like a big family if you asked me!!!(=
sara
I would like to find an occaisional girlfriend also.
V
V
Well we have in the past had a few Long Term Girl Friends. Someone we can both share and enjoy in and out of the bedroom. We have always enjoyed this type of realtionship even more than our Couple/Couple ones. Mainly because we can spend more quality time together and with someone that is there for us both. But like all LS relationships it can be a tight rope to walk. You have to clear who and what you are both wanting and seeking in your relationship!
Hotfire !!! I think thats awesome . We are still friends with our single we love her kids she comes and hangs out once in a while and you know us we like singles they are lots of fun . I think it really just depends on the single female her thoughts , wants and or needs it could be a really good thing I just know when they say I want what you and your wife have and you have givin them this then run !!!! Hahaha ...... Just sayin
Badboy8p
Badboy8p
My girlfriend and I had a live in GF for about a year and a half and it was great, but eventually came drama and we had to break it off with her. So it can work with the right people, but it is very hard to find that right person.
We did in California, haven't been able to find one here.. 
Taking interviews, who isn't
Taking interviews, who isn'tI think a lot of women would love a gf myself included but I just want one to play with while hubby is out of town on business lol......
we are not that elusive! we do exist! lol
my wife and i are also looking for a quote on quote gf as well. were trying to find a girl who understands our openness and that we are married and hanging out and well the obviouse sex is where it ends. we are just having a hard time finding a girl who understands the life style and excepts that it will never be anything more then a good trusting friendship and good times.