So the more I talk to people and the more I read the bigger this question becomes. It seems that the definition in the Bi world is getting a little fuzzy. So here is my definitions and I would love to hear yours.
Bi-Sexual/ A person that enjoys full on sexual contact with both genders
Bi-Curious/ A person who is not sure what that feeling is he/she gets when around the same sex in a sexual environment.
This status should not be permanent... I mean come on how many times before you know???
Bi-Comfortable/ A person that is not freaked out by Bi activity going on around them but doesn't want to participate.
Bi-Sexual/ A person that enjoys full on sexual contact with both genders
Bi-Curious/ A person who is not sure what that feeling is he/she gets when around the same sex in a sexual environment.
This status should not be permanent... I mean come on how many times before you know???
Bi-Comfortable/ A person that is not freaked out by Bi activity going on around them but doesn't want to participate.
I think you need to change these just a bit to include one more. How about:
Bi-Curious - Looking to explore and see if they are bi-sexual. Actively looking to explore
Bi-Comfortable - OK with same sex contact if it happens but not actively seeking it out. Passively bi.
Bi-Friendly - Not freaked out by bi activity around them but does not want to participate.
Mav
Bi-Curious - Looking to explore and see if they are bi-sexual. Actively looking to explore
Bi-Comfortable - OK with same sex contact if it happens but not actively seeking it out. Passively bi.
Bi-Friendly - Not freaked out by bi activity around them but does not want to participate.
Mav
We agree. You nailed it. When we first started, the wife was bi-curious. We had to change the profile because now she is full on Bi-sexual and loving every minute of it.
I like the Bi-friendly. I was Bi-curious and it only took knew experience to confirm that I was Bi
NEWFUNCOUPLEXXX wrote:NEWFUNCOUPLEXXX wrote:
I so agree with you two,I am Bi-Curious because I have not done it! (lol) I will change mine as soon as I find out. (lol..) any sexy females willing to show me!! lol
I sure me and a few other females would have no issue in helping you figure this out. I think you should be properly welcomed to the bi side of life.
We have found in our experiences with other females is that they are either lesbian, bi-sexual, bi-curious, bi-comfortable, or in denial and by far the most popular is bi-sexual single or married.
She is full bi....loves pussy on her face and vice versa... He is just straight.. not bi anything...
The wife is bi-comfortable. If it happens it happens and she will enjoy it either way. In her opinion it is easier if they are some what Bi so if she reaches over to feel me sliding in and out of her with her hand or tongue they don't get upset! I am not Bi anything....
While I agree to the idea behind bi-willing I think it makes more sense to take the "passive" out of bi-comfortable. Nothing about being comfortable with an activity means you are required to be passive.
The bigger problem, and I think this is a problem across the board, with anyone who engages in an alternate sexual lifestyle is that people often confuse the label and make the wrong assumption that it defines us or our behavior in any given encounter.
The bigger problem, and I think this is a problem across the board, with anyone who engages in an alternate sexual lifestyle is that people often confuse the label and make the wrong assumption that it defines us or our behavior in any given encounter.
SEXUALPLEASURES wrote:
So the more I talk to people and the more I read the bigger this question becomes. It seems that the definition in the Bi world is getting a little fuzzy. So here is my definitions and I would love to hear yours.
Bi-Sexual/ A person that enjoys full on sexual contact with both genders
Bi-Curious/ A person who is not sure what that feeling is he/she gets when around the same sex in a sexual environment. This status should not be permanent... I mean come on how many times before you know???
Bi-Comfortable/ A person that is not freaked out by Bi activity going on around them but doesn't want to participate.
Is it really necessary to attempt to define it? Or is it simply enough to say bi-something is being not completely straight?
I have long maintained that everyone is able to swing both ways. Religion and social taboos get in the way as do emotions. Ability and action are not the same. As I see it the difference is in level of desire and desire is a funny thing. Placing anyone into any sexual category is difficult because feelings are always a matter of degrees.
Some women will kiss and play in a 3-some but would never consider a 1-on-1. I am not sure that they would then consider themselves to be fully Bi and I would agree with them.
So at what point does touch make you bi-anything? My lady and I both do massage and on occasion we double team the client. Since I do massage on both men and women, where would someone say I was on the sexual spectrum. I can work on either sex with out getting hot or bothered does that make me what in your book.
I can tell you that I am straight. Men just do not do it for me. I have had other men that claim to be straight propose certain actions. I am not offended by such offers but once again, men just do not turn me on. But by your definition I would be Bi-Comfortable. Now understand that I do not object to that term but for someone that is straight to use it would give someone else the wrong impression or expectations.
SUGARSANDSPICE wrote:SEXUALPLEASURES wrote:Is it really necessary to attempt to define it? Or is it simply enough to say bi-something is being not completely straight? I have long maintained that everyone is able to swing both ways. Religion and social taboos get in the way as do emotions. Ability and action are not the same. As I see it the difference is in level of desire and desire is a funny thing. Placing anyone into any sexual category is difficult because feelings are always a matter of degrees. Some women will kiss and play in a 3-some but would never consider a 1-on-1. I am not sure that they would then consider themselves to be fully Bi and I would agree with them. So at what point does touch make you bi-anything? My lady and I both do massage and on occasion we double team the client. Since I do massage on both men and women, where would someone say I was on the sexual spectrum. I can work on either sex with out getting hot or bothered does that make me what in your book. I can tell you that I am straight. Men just do not do it for me. I have had other men that claim to be straight propose certain actions. I am not offended by such offers but once again, men just do not turn me on. But by your definition I would be Bi-Comfortable. Now understand that I do not object to that term but for someone that is straight to use it would give someone else the wrong impression or expectations.
So the more I talk to people and the more I read the bigger this question becomes. It seems that the definition in the Bi world is getting a little fuzzy. So here is my definitions and I would love to hear yours. Bi-Sexual/ A person that enjoys full on sexual contact with both genders Bi-Curious/ A person who is not sure what that feeling is he/she gets when around the same sex in a sexual environment. This status should not be permanent... I mean come on how many times before you know??? Bi-Comfortable/ A person that is not freaked out by Bi activity going on around them but doesn't want to participate.
I think that what most people are trying to grasp here might be better termed "Sexually Flexable" (yes the term conjures up some wonderful imagery....) The definition of which would be: One that decides at the time what actions and with which partners he/she will participate in and with.
The opposite: "Sexually Strict" would be one that has a definitive list of actions or gender with which that person is willing to engage in sexual activity with.
Additionally, "Sexualy Ultra-Strict" might cover situations where the person is not even comfortable being in the same bed, let alone having any contact with anyone outside their approved list of actions or partner gender.
The biggest issue people seem to have with the current "tags" (for lack of a better term) is the word "bi", the minute someone is labeled bi-anything people start worring about sexual preference, perception and attitudes, it's an unfortunate but real reaction.
I prefer the flexable term, as it still leaves me with the option of deciding what I want to do at the time, this works well as my wants and desires and willingness to participate in certain activities changes as wildly as the weather, and people are not expecting anything specific out of me, and therefore not upset if I'm not in the mood for certain activities at the time.
NEWFUNCOUPLEXXX wrote:
HI! My Name is Kristen and I am Tri sexual!! LOL TO me that means I will try anything once,twice,....Please do not send me away! I like the way my mind and body thinks. No no I don't want to be reformed. LOL I am so in a goofy mood.. lol Have a great day everyone!
I think this will be my sexual status as well...Im Becky and I am also a tri-sexual!!!! ;-)
ARISTOTLE801 wrote:
While I agree to the idea behind bi-willing I think it makes more sense to take the "passive" out of bi-comfortable. Nothing about being comfortable with an activity means you are required to be passive.
The bigger problem, and I think this is a problem across the board, with anyone who engages in an alternate sexual lifestyle is that people often confuse the label and make the wrong assumption that it defines us or our behavior in any given encounter.
For us it's all situational I like to coin the term try sexual we will try anything once and it feels good and everybody's comfortable then why not. In no way does this limit us or define us. This is what lifestyle is for us is experiments in and acceptance for who we are and what we would like to try and supporting freinds.
Bi- comfy is being comfortable and being accepting of others and the situations that you're in but does not mean in any way that you have to participate but if it happens it happens.
Bi-sexual Is it looking or wanting for activity, Either or and are attracted to either or sex.
Bi- currious Is just what it means curious willing to experiment willing to try and trying to figure out who and what you're attracted to.
Let's just all be accepting at supporter of everyone's choices and communication is key for one person one thing maybe one thing and for another it may mean another
NEWFUNCOUPLEXXX wrote:Awesome!! Lets all be Tri sexual and call it a group..LOL and all be members..[/quote]SEXUALPLEASURES wrote:
[quote=NEWFUNCOUPLEXXX]HI! My Name is Kristen and I am Tri sexual!! LOL TO me that means I will try anything once,twice,....Please do not send me away! I like the way my mind and body thinks. No no I don't want to be reformed. LOL I am so in a goofy mood.. lol Have a great day everyone!
I think this will be my sexual status as well...Im Becky and I am also a tri-sexual!!!! ;-)
Count us in oooohhhhh yea!!!!
How about if you drool down his cock .. and lick just a little.. which excites me and I catch your string of wetness as it mixes with his pre cum and taste it too.. then continuing on to lick it with you.. and he takes it all in.. two mouths making his cock feel soooo good you and I get his cock completely ready for you... as you slip him in you.. as you face me with your legs open.. and then you both feel my tongue as he is now in you .. ummmmm and I taste your juices on his cock now it's so sensual..
would you like that? I know I would..
would you like that? I know I would..
IMAGINATION wrote:WETANDHARDUTCPL wrote:
Before the lifestyle, I used to call my wife bi-in-a-box... she wasn't sure about being with other girls.. now she really enjoys the touch and feel of a woman, god it turns me on!!!
Me, too!!!! See you soon!!
Bi-Damn I think you've got it!!
Well thanks everyone I actually really liked reading all the replies. So many times I have thoughts like these that come up because different people have different ideas, which is fine that is what this is all about... open minded people being able to express themselves without worrying that they are going to be judged. (Now dont go bursting the bubble of my perfectly sexual free world)
Cheers and thanks again from one of the Tri-Sexuals on this site (Read upwards if you don't get that)
Cheers and thanks again from one of the Tri-Sexuals on this site (Read upwards if you don't get that)
NEWFUNCOUPLEXXX wrote:
I so agree with you two,I am Bi-Curious because I have not done it! (lol) I will change mine as soon as I find out. (lol..) any sexy females willing to show me!! lol
Girl on Girl is HOTTTTT!!! Ready to teach!! haha
I was bi-curuous until i had my first female expierence and loved it i want more but again hard to find a female yp in idaho
UTAHDESIRES wrote:
IM very Bi sexual
love to learn more but ur profile is not filled out...??? Curiouser and curiouser! haha
we definatly agree with the first 2 posts...mainly the 2nd post...there really should be another category. cuz to us bi-comfortable doesn't say they are comfortable around others...it tells us they would be comfortable if guy on guy occured..and that doesnt work for us..but bring on the girl on girl action!!! LOL
I am new to this site and hope that my experiences are fruitful and satisfying....i thought i might chime in on this topic...as a man i have had numerous women think it is MAJOR HOT for two studs to engage each other...i'm just sayin.....I've been in lot of places and participated in a lot of parties on both coasts....and HOT men are a rarity and women who find us and watch us....along with them get REAL AROUSED!!!! Now that I am in Utah (or zion) men tend to get real jealous...because they feel that they cannot compete...call it jealousy...insecurity...or whatever....but a guy has got to enjoy himself and LET GO of insecurity and what people think....like they say and it is sooo true....YOU DON'T KNOW UNTIL YOU TRY IT!!! Just my thoughts no offense is meant....
Love to look at beautiful woman, the touch, the smell. BUT.... there are so many that say bi and then when I'm done pleasuring them I get nothing in return. So there are a lot of TAKERS out there who don't reciprocate. Unless I could find one that is also a GIVER, I'm pretty much done with women.
NEWCOUPLE7277 wrote:
I can not wait to be naughty with you 1SWEETB
Hell ya! Bring it on! We REALLY need to meet girlie!!! SOON!
CPL4OTHERS wrote:
Love to look at beautiful woman, the touch, the smell. BUT.... there are so many that say bi and then when I'm done pleasuring them I get nothing in return. So there are a lot of TAKERS out there who don't reciprocate. Unless I could find one that is also a GIVER, I'm pretty much done with women.
Oh that's too bad..there are plenty of us that love to GIVE AND RECIEVE!!! mmmmmm
We fall into the trisexual category as well. We'll try anything five or six times; it might be an acquired taste.
In our case she is truely bisexual. She enjoys playing with men and women equally. He was once bicurious, tried it, and found himself to be bicomfortable: ok with same sex play but not actively seeking it, prefers the opposite sex.
CPL4OTHERS wrote:
Love to look at beautiful woman, the touch, the smell. BUT.... there are so many that say bi and then when I'm done pleasuring them I get nothing in return. So there are a lot of TAKERS out there who don't reciprocate. Unless I could find one that is also a GIVER, I'm pretty much done with women.
You've been with all the wrong women sweetie...i left curious a long time ago....i like the term bi-selective mentioned earlier because it doesn't mean it will happen every time but when it does...i love giving almost more than receiving!
Kisses,
Naugh-Ty
I love how it makes her sooo wet when we 'share' the fun
Great! Now I'm not sure what our profile should say! lol Our profile started out with me being straight, then changed to bi-curious & now says bi-comfortable. I was "bi-curious" through the experimenting phase. Now I thouroughly enjoy being on both the giving & receiving end of girl/girl play. There is just something totally sensual about kissing another woman, especially. But I list my status now as "bi-comfortable". My definition being that while I really enjoy a woman, it's not what I actively seek out. For me, personally, it's more an appetizer than the main course.
WOW!!! We want to join! We both just looked at the lifestyle very different with that TRI-SEXUAL Statement.....HOORAY WE ARE BOTH PROUD TRI-SEXUALS!!!