Hi just curious about all the mean crap people are saying about each other. Do we really need to point out body flaws or put each other down because they ask a question? I thought we were all about being open minded and accepting of each others differences no matter what they are. That is one of the reasons we like the lifestyle. If you don't have anything nice to say then don't say anything at all. If someone contacts you and you are not interested then tell them thanks but we are not a match. It is easier to be nice and upbeat than negative. And please don't point out all of our body flaws. We already know them. :-)
We agree. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes, but it is about being open minded and accepting of others. We know we aren't everyone's preference, nor is everyone our type, but that doesn't mean that we are going to sling comments back and forth either. To each their own, and have a good time!
US2ENJOY wrote:
We agree. Everyone has their own likes and dislikes, but it is about being open minded and accepting of others. We know we aren't everyone's preference, nor is everyone our type, but that doesn't mean that we are going to sling comments back and forth either. To each their own, and have a good time!
Amen, I hate to sound all ideological about the lifestyle, but in our minds this was a way to see people for who they really are and enjoy each other's company, not point out their flaws.
Completely agree, we in the Lifestyle should be the most tolerant. We can't believe some comments that we have read lately in some of the Forum posts. We should be supportive and address the issue at hand, not comment on body types, unless that is the topic.
ANDRAYWAY_SHANAYNAY wrote:
The problem is that though everyone on the site is in the lifestyle, they still represent an equally distributed cross-section of society, and as long as society condones negativity towards individuals for having less than desirable body types, then the society within the lifestyle will mirror that attitude. Honestly I find that more often than not, these individuals are the type that deprive you of solitude without the decency of providing you with any company. Perhaps an adequate response for someone who says "You're too fat and ugly for (me/us)," would be to say "That's ok, I'm afraid you may be too unintelligent for (me/us)."
So here I was banging my headboard against the wall, and realized there was a body in front of me...I thanked her and she went home soon after... weird.
It's the way of life. Sad but true.
Since there is negativity, and I can't change others, I use it for my benefit. I've already made a few friends, and blocked a few people, based on their comments and mind-set in the forums.
It easy to be a dick on the internet. Some people just need to realize its never ok to point out peoples flaws or be a dick, in person or online!
[quote=ASSETS]No kidding... I can't believe some of the rude comments I have read recently. Didn't your momma's teach you any manners? "If you can't say something nice, then don't say it at all." It's kindergarden 101.[/quote
I think it was Thumpers momma that said that's lol this is why and what atracted us to lifestyle. We liked the way pepole were acceptingof us for is and included not excluded for our bdy types or preferred choices of kinks and orientation. We really appreciate those that respect us and our honesty when we contact then a show intrest in them by at least replying and saying thanks but no thanks. We are not as another forum said early "the Hotties or elite pepole " and we are fine with that. So thanks to all our new and fun exciting freinds, thanks and for those that rude and unaccepting , we fine with that also. Its not all about the sex but its alway a plus.
than
I think it was Thumpers momma that said that's lol this is why and what atracted us to lifestyle. We liked the way pepole were acceptingof us for is and included not excluded for our bdy types or preferred choices of kinks and orientation. We really appreciate those that respect us and our honesty when we contact then a show intrest in them by at least replying and saying thanks but no thanks. We are not as another forum said early "the Hotties or elite pepole " and we are fine with that. So thanks to all our new and fun exciting freinds, thanks and for those that rude and unaccepting , we fine with that also. Its not all about the sex but its alway a plus.
than
PEOPLE, PEOPLE, PEOPLE................
Get a grip here.
We're losing sight of the big picture.
To wit:
As has been pointed out and repeated here on these forums more often than I can count............
"THERE IS NO DRAMA ON SWINGULAR".
So, anything said on this thread, as well as any other thread this thread may reference, is a totally MOOT point.
It doesn't happen - because it CAN'T happen!
Therefore, it isn't happening now.
We now return you to our regularly scheduled petty bickering.
Get a grip here.
We're losing sight of the big picture.
To wit:
As has been pointed out and repeated here on these forums more often than I can count............
"THERE IS NO DRAMA ON SWINGULAR".
So, anything said on this thread, as well as any other thread this thread may reference, is a totally MOOT point.
It doesn't happen - because it CAN'T happen!
Therefore, it isn't happening now.
We now return you to our regularly scheduled petty bickering.
Must it be bickering? Can't I be petty without bickering, or is that only possible if I keep all my thoughts to myself?
High school mentality. Sucks.. we just wanna have great sex haha
Just consider it your own personal Darwin's theory. Use it and move on.
Mav
Mav
In particular on this site (community), turn it into a positive and be happy that people are exposing themselves in ways you dont like so that you dont end up wasting any time on them in the future. Keep things in balance ;-)
Many times rudeness can be subjective. I've known many people who think and behave like they are the nicest folks in the world but yet when you listen to them "between the lines" or you call them out on it, you realize they are actually quite mean and rude. As a matter of fact some of the seemingly nicest people I've ever met have turned out to be the most mean and rude people I've ever met... I call them jalapeno poppers... Nice on the outside, mean on the inside!
Many times rudeness can be subjective. I've known many people who think and behave like they are the nicest folks in the world but yet when you listen to them "between the lines" or you call them out on it, you realize they are actually quite mean and rude. As a matter of fact some of the seemingly nicest people I've ever met have turned out to be the most mean and rude people I've ever met... I call them jalapeno poppers... Nice on the outside, mean on the inside!
I do think language is pretty imperfectAnd there it is... nobody is perfect and therefore most the time when one is making derogatory comments towards another it comes from insecurities (imperfections) within themselves.
Yet there are those, such as myself who dont do well with to many words so they attempt to get right to the point. For this it has been said that I'm about as "subtle as a freight train", which in turn could be construed as rude and/or mean... I believe that words can many times only complicate matters so I tend to go with "feelings", or rather "energy" instead. - Sadly, not to many folks in this world or lifestyle are able to communicate in that way.
Men are more accountable for their motivesOnly that one individual can truly know what there personal motives are, and even then they still may not even know what they really are, due to all the other unknown (surprise) variables that might inadvertently change/alter those motives over time. Therefore it is an exercise in unnecessary stressful futility to attempt to know what others motives might be... In other words, try not to take anything personally since we have absolutely no idea what others imperfect motives might be - lol????????
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
As for rudeness. Knowing we all have our moments I suspect that just because someone has a harsh moment in forum print it does not mean that they are in fact always or mostly rude. Very few people are even close to a reflection of their worst moments.
I agree with the last sentence 100%, but usually your worst moments are triggered by a situation in which you said something you shouldn't have because you didn't stop to think first.
but the thing about "having a harsh moment in print" is that you have every opportunity to think about what you want to say as you type it and read it before you click submit. then you also have the option of editing your statement or even deleting it after you submit it.
seems to me that with all that time to think about what you want to say, that these people aren't just having a bad moment, they are just being rude for the sake of being rude.
I think I need a hug. 
PEBBLEROCK wrote:
I think I need a hug.
((((((((((Pebblerock)))))))))) ~grope for good measure~
Blueeyes you are sweet but you know that we both have as much devil in us as anyone on here. I have seen that sparkle in your eyes and know how much you like to play both sides just for fun. It takes a true pro to get a grope while giving a hug.
All u need is love, love, love is all u need... Just my thought
amen. If you cant say something nice dont say it at all. Grow up
And all of you single out age. We were young once to.