we've resonly hooked up with a couple the mis understood are type of swap so was wondering what swap means to you.
full swap: full on intercourse whilst swapping spouses/partners.
some people do soft swap which typically means you only perform oral on the other person, but no actual full on intercourse. so you end up having same room sex when it comes down to anything past oral sex and/or other foreplay.
some people do soft swap which typically means you only perform oral on the other person, but no actual full on intercourse. so you end up having same room sex when it comes down to anything past oral sex and/or other foreplay.
According to urbandictionary:
FULL SWAP: In Swinging, full swap is sex with another couple where both couples swap partners, such as the guy from one couple with the girl from the other couple and vice-versa. This is often done in the same room but applies also when separate rooms are involved.
"Swinging Couple 1: Do you full swap or just soft swap?
Swinging Couple 2: We love watching each other have sex with someone else, so we usually full swap."
SOFT SWAP: To share spouses/mates with another to the point of digital and/or oral copulation only.
FULL SWAP: In Swinging, full swap is sex with another couple where both couples swap partners, such as the guy from one couple with the girl from the other couple and vice-versa. This is often done in the same room but applies also when separate rooms are involved.
"Swinging Couple 1: Do you full swap or just soft swap?
Swinging Couple 2: We love watching each other have sex with someone else, so we usually full swap."
SOFT SWAP: To share spouses/mates with another to the point of digital and/or oral copulation only.
I know thats what the Urbandictionary startes, but what does it mean to you? Since some couples think full swap = anything goes.
full swap simply means i'm gonna swap spouses. anything goes would prolly add other fetishes into things.
what did you think full swap meant vs what did THEY think full swap meant?
what did you think full swap meant vs what did THEY think full swap meant?
@ Poet, first of all, what does it mean to you? Then we can better answer your question in terms of what most look at Swap.
We consider full swap to mean "all" types of sexual intimacy including intercourse with another couples partner. We have yet to meet a couple to where we have been to
that point, but we always ask during the "getting aquainted" process what
their bounderies/limits are, so as never to approach and cross their comfort zone.
that point, but we always ask during the "getting aquainted" process what
their bounderies/limits are, so as never to approach and cross their comfort zone.
Swap to us is full swap unless you state you are only soft swap then we can still swap partners, but play around oral just no sex. It's always good to find out what the other cpl is into before you get naked in a pile. 
d/s = dom/sub and m/s = masochist/sadist
Full swap is just that, full swap with the others partners, including intercourse. Soft swap is usually everything but intercourse
you're welcome the tearms do have some intresting meanings and full swap has changed over the years of what the meaning means to some couples and thus far I'm learning the way other think the tearm means.
BITESIZE wrote:Ummmmm a TEASE??? haha just kiddin.
Right now because we are so new to this lifestyle, soft swap for us is everything BUT oral or intercourse so what does that make us lol? We are very sensual and flirty and love kissing and touching and sensual massage and for us that's enough to keep it spicy
Full or Soft, We always ask a couple we are meeting what they like and enjoy... The next question is "Are there any taboo's or anything you won't do?", just to establish our boundaries beforehand. It's always good to know what is ok and not ok as each couple/person is different.
The definition of swap is about as complicated as that of Bi-Sexual. Some don
We enjoy the experience of the full swap, we learn about ourselves and our significant others each time. There is some exhilarating about the new experience, and we enjoy the conversation afterwards of our experiences. We don't like the idea of the soft swap so much because we don't need others to warm us up for sex, and think it's a little awkward to get someone all revved up with what we're doing to go have sex with their spouse. We don't condemn or condone either for anyone, that's just our opinion.
Full Swap = What ever you are doing to my wife, I will be doing to yours.
To us, full swap means that anything goes between all four (or more) people in the group. The caveat to this is that each person may have their own personal limitations that must be respected. As an example, one woman may not enjoy/desire anal sex while the other woman may. This personal limitation must be respected. To exclude intercourse is to exclude "full swap." It then becomes "soft swap."
I have always thought of soft swap as kinda pointless. Not that I don't enjoy watching another woman suck my man's dick, but it is so much more entertaining to watch him tear her up! Kissing and oral are great for foreplay, but ultimately, I want the whole full swap experience.
But what I LOVE to do (even more than just full swap) is an anything-goes-group-effort play experience. Kinda like what NWFLCPL32571 talked about, where anything goes between all four (or more) people in the group, with respect to each person's personal limitations, of course... and no guy on guy stuff... ever.
But what I LOVE to do (even more than just full swap) is an anything-goes-group-effort play experience. Kinda like what NWFLCPL32571 talked about, where anything goes between all four (or more) people in the group, with respect to each person's personal limitations, of course... and no guy on guy stuff... ever.
So true Candj23!! ...What she said..I concur! 
PEACE~
PEACE~MOJO7189 wrote:protection should be a given... I don't know why people even ask... it should be automatically assumed that it is required at all times with play partners.
We understand the whole full swap but bareback or swallowing are not an option I Jo may give a pearl necklace, but we have a strict policy that protection is a must no expecting the other woman to take a creampie or swallow.
There are an infinite number of levels to this game. Two words cannot begin to define things properly. Some serious exchange of communication is required.
As to the swallowing being that much more of a risk than just unsafe oral contact I want to say this is all to common and false. It's like the risk difference between driving 130 mph and 140 mph without a helmet on a bullet bike.
As to the swallowing being that much more of a risk than just unsafe oral contact I want to say this is all to common and false. It's like the risk difference between driving 130 mph and 140 mph without a helmet on a bullet bike.
MAYBEMOR wrote:
As to the swallowing being that much more of a risk than just unsafe oral contact I want to say this is all to common and false. It's like the risk difference between driving 130 mph and 140 mph without a helmet on a bullet bike.
I don't think I would agree with this. Although it is off topic I feel the need to respond.
Realizing that there is always some danger in touching another person is part of the choice to being in this lifestyle. Play within your limits and accept the consequences. There is no perfect protection.
Studies have demonstrated that kissing, which you are opposed to, passes far fewer germs or bacteria or viruses than shaking hands. Our hands touch everything from door knobs to our own private parts and have great places to hide those nasty little critters you do not think are there.
In reality there is very little difference between a lot of things. But some times those small differences do make a difference. To the individual there is little difference between playing with home made explosives and an atomic bomb. But they both can kill you if you are touching them when they go off.
Likewise a man playing with out a condom and his fingering someone
MAYBEMOR wrote:
There are an infinite number of levels to this game. Two words cannot begin to define things properly. Some serious exchange of communication is required.
Well said, we agree totally.
I always read m/s as Master/slave
This is pretty simple, really. Full swap means your experience is in swapping partners for vaginal, full on genital sex (as opposed to just oral or digital penetration). What it isn't a descriptor of is what you do while having sex, fetishes, etc. It doesn't mean that anything goes. It doesn't mean you ignore boundaries.
It does mean that you're going to need to do a whole lot more communicating, whether verbally of otherwise so that you either know or can figure out what the boundaries are. To a minor degree we all did that when we filled out the Yes/No questions in our profile. For instance, don't expect to have anal sex with someone who answered that question "No", even if you are in a full swap scenario having vaginal sex. Don't be disappointing if she doesn't want you to cum in her, just because screaming for you to pound her harder. Communicate!
Mr. Sexperimentors
It does mean that you're going to need to do a whole lot more communicating, whether verbally of otherwise so that you either know or can figure out what the boundaries are. To a minor degree we all did that when we filled out the Yes/No questions in our profile. For instance, don't expect to have anal sex with someone who answered that question "No", even if you are in a full swap scenario having vaginal sex. Don't be disappointing if she doesn't want you to cum in her, just because screaming for you to pound her harder. Communicate!
Mr. Sexperimentors
I hate this question....
If we are ALL on the same page and having a great time then the sky is the limit, guess that is sex/full swap. If we are all playing and turned on, but not at the sexual point then I guess we are soft swap, or mental swap one on one after we say our goodbyes. If we are all having fun, and flirting, but not totally feeling it then we are just having a good time going out with another couple/single.
For us there is not a hard line drawn in the sand, we do not have an instruction manual or rule book. We love each other, and we love our friends, what is good on Monday with Jake/Sally might not be ok on Thursday with John/Julie.
**All names have been changed to protect identities** hahah
Seriously though, just do what is comfortable for you, be honest and respectful of others, and have fun.
If we are ALL on the same page and having a great time then the sky is the limit, guess that is sex/full swap. If we are all playing and turned on, but not at the sexual point then I guess we are soft swap, or mental swap one on one after we say our goodbyes. If we are all having fun, and flirting, but not totally feeling it then we are just having a good time going out with another couple/single.
For us there is not a hard line drawn in the sand, we do not have an instruction manual or rule book. We love each other, and we love our friends, what is good on Monday with Jake/Sally might not be ok on Thursday with John/Julie.
**All names have been changed to protect identities** hahah
Seriously though, just do what is comfortable for you, be honest and respectful of others, and have fun.
So I think we really need a sexy couple to show us what FULL SWAP is...We are visual learners...We really have no idea...wink, wink...nudge...nudge...