I don't know how many of you suffer the same problem we have. You get an onslaught of friend requests, and then nothing.... How long do you wait before deleting? Damned if you do, damned if you don't I know. We've deleted people we've never talked to and then get the email about them being completely offended...
Seriously though, are there really that many pic stalkers out there? If you're not really interested, why bother? It's just a waste your time, as well as our own.
What do you guys think?
Seriously though, are there really that many pic stalkers out there? If you're not really interested, why bother? It's just a waste your time, as well as our own.
What do you guys think?
We were wondering the same thing. Like when is it ok to delete "friends" when it becomes apparent that either a) they just aren't that into you (which is fine...no hurt feelers) or b) you just don't "click" and aren't interested in pursuing anything. Don't want the drama from deleting.
This is again a huge question. I just wrote my answer to this in another thread. In short, we only friend people we have spoken with in chat or live nearby or that have contacted us as visiting the area. (Living in the TAMPA BAY area, we get many visitors).
Some of our friends are just chat friends from here. Others are only on our friends list due to interest in play. This is something I would like to see SWINGULAR change. Many other sites shake these problems down for you. Favorites = peeps online you know and like. GALLERIES = many different photo galleries that can be opened individually and for different amount of time or forever. Doing this here along with an EXPECTATIONS NOTE on asking and answering requests, will fix many of these problems and issues..
For right now I suggest that those who get nasty notes from others should definitely REPORT these jackholes to moderators/Swingular and also block them.. Just don't take to heart something that some dumbass wrote due to their own ignorance.
Enjoy, Steve
Some of our friends are just chat friends from here. Others are only on our friends list due to interest in play. This is something I would like to see SWINGULAR change. Many other sites shake these problems down for you. Favorites = peeps online you know and like. GALLERIES = many different photo galleries that can be opened individually and for different amount of time or forever. Doing this here along with an EXPECTATIONS NOTE on asking and answering requests, will fix many of these problems and issues..
For right now I suggest that those who get nasty notes from others should definitely REPORT these jackholes to moderators/Swingular and also block them.. Just don't take to heart something that some dumbass wrote due to their own ignorance.
Enjoy, Steve
I just block the dumbtards who send hate mail.
But yeah... apparently you gotta be careful if you delete anyone off any sort of internet list of usernames. Cuz that's rather personal and by deleting them you may as well call them fugly buttmunches and throw a rock at their head.
the internets. its serious business.
But yeah... apparently you gotta be careful if you delete anyone off any sort of internet list of usernames. Cuz that's rather personal and by deleting them you may as well call them fugly buttmunches and throw a rock at their head.
the internets. its serious business.
We have some friends we met just recently that've been on our friends list for almost a year. We don't have alot of free weekends to meet up so we're appreciative of those who have kept us on the friends list this long because when we do have some free time that's the first place we go.
I dont think anyone could ever have to many friends. So me personally I never delete any. I think any of my friends can count on me for just about anything/ anytime givin proper notice
I personally differentiate between a list of people's usernames/screennames on any particular website and actual friends. 
But then again, I am a quirky little weirdo.
But then again, I am a quirky little weirdo. I dont think there is a real answer, except the one that you decide is best for you. We finally gave up trying to figure out that answer and just wiped our friends list out. Solves alot of problems for us now, and the sad thing... I dont think anyone even noticed. LOL
I just cleaned out my friends list too. People I haven't really talked to or seen around I deleted. Now I'm off to FB to do the same thing. It's only January but i'm cyber spring cleaning. LOL
Amen to that!!
Two unreturned messages.
SEXYINSANDY wrote:
I hate when people on your friends list NEVER return any messages or send any lol!! If you didn't want us as a friend....don't approve us or just delete us. Loosen up people!! Have some fun why don't ya? After all swinging IS suppose to be fun right??
Yes..return messages..even if it's just to say "hey..no longer interested" so that people know where you stand..
MAXFAM wrote:SEXYINSANDY wrote:
I hate when people on your friends list NEVER return any messages or send any lol!! If you didn't want us as a friend....don't approve us or just delete us
Yes..return messages..even if it's just to say "hey..no longer interested" so that people know where you stand..
except half the people you write that to send nasty emails right back.
just can't win. lulz. 
Depends on why you added them in the first place. If they're too far away and u were just looking for a fast hook-up they would be on longlist and if nothing soon happens, delete them.
As long as ur playing with them keep on short list. no need to ever delete.
In short as long as ur talking keep him if not cut them loose.
As long as ur playing with them keep on short list. no need to ever delete.
In short as long as ur talking keep him if not cut them loose.
Seems there are pic collectors that want to be friends and just gawk at your privates or copy them. Other sites have the copy function blocked. We would get random friend requests out of the blue with no follow up or anything. Odd
The majority of people on our friends list we have either met or had some form of contact. The ones we have had no contact with wont be there long if there isnt some communication. We dont want a friends list of people we dont meet or talk with.
We do want to send a special "Hi" to Lucky n Cupcake! Very fun people!!!
We do want to send a special "Hi" to Lucky n Cupcake! Very fun people!!!
we clean out our friend list every couple of months. we delete all profiles that have anything we don't like and all that we haven't heard from. but it never fails that as soon as we delete them, they send us another friend request or an email asking why. so we accept them again, don't hear from them again, and delete them again.
I'm just wondering why do people want to keep us in their friend list if they never talk to us and don't want to fuck?
I'm just wondering why do people want to keep us in their friend list if they never talk to us and don't want to fuck?
CANDJ23 wrote:How could anyone not want to fuck you. May I say Hot Hot hot Hot Hot.
we clean out our friend list every couple of months. we delete all profiles that have anything we don't like and all that we haven't heard from. but it never fails that as soon as we delete them, they send us another friend request or an email asking why. so we accept them again, don't hear from them again, and delete them again.
I'm just wondering why do people want to keep us in their friend list if they never talk to us and don't want to fuck?
We try to keep our friends list under ten people, so if your on it you know you are awesome.
IDCPL4FUN
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You met up with an old friend from years ago say in the grocery store o r somewhere else would you not want to be their friend because they had disappeared for a period of time??? Don't get all butt hurt shit happens in life !!!
One of our "Friends" keeps their list to 2 pages. lol if someone wants to add he must delete another. Is that quirky Kitty?! We rarely delete.
REALWOOD wrote:
One of our "Friends" keeps their list to 2 pages. lol if someone wants to add he must delete another. Is that quirky Kitty?! We rarely delete.
That sounds weird to me!
INAMORATA wrote:REALWOOD wrote:
One of our "Friends" keeps their list to 2 pages. lol if someone wants to add he must delete another. Is that quirky Kitty?! We rarely delete.
That sounds weird to me!
they are hot though
REALWOOD wrote:INAMORATA wrote:
[quote=REALWOOD]One of our "Friends" keeps their list to 2 pages. lol if someone wants to add he must delete another. Is that quirky Kitty?! We rarely delete.
That sounds weird to me!
they are hot though[/quote]
Probably just very selective. I think I understand where they are coming from!
We have only deleted 2, best we could tell they were just guys trying to cheat on their wives, that's if they really had wives in the first place as there was always an excuse as to why she didn't show. Request from people without at least private photos are rejected as they appear to be just pic collectors.
INAMORATA wrote:REALWOOD wrote:
[quote=INAMORATA][quote=REALWOOD]One of our "Friends" keeps their list to 2 pages. lol if someone wants to add he must delete another. Is that quirky Kitty?! We rarely delete.
That sounds weird to me!
they are hot though[/quote]
Probably just very selective. I think I understand where they are coming from![/quote]
i bet they are snobs
WILDHEARTS wrote:
So is it the general rule that you only add "friends" that you would "hook up" with??? Based on first impressions?
I only add people I am interested in getting to know to see if we want to hook up, yeah. I go though my list from time to time and delete people who have either have not had contact with us in a few months and dont seem interested or who we aren't interested in getting to know anymore for what ever reason.