We love the sexual energy and the new attraction
Can't really answer as to the exact question posed, as I am a single guy and, therefore, I suppose I can't really be categorized as a swinger, per se. But as to why I like being part of this site with it's potential for associating with swingers: It's because I have never really fit the standard model of sexuality (if there really is one) and the opportunity to associate with people who have broken out of the "mold" and experience something new and bring something new to the scene is very interesting and exciting to me. Hopefully I will get to do a little more than theorize about it.
Cuz variety is the spice of life. 
We would have to agree that the sexual energy is definitely a benefit. Although, even deeper than that we have found that the deepest form of love for each other has come from allowing each other to be who we are. Allowing each other the opportunity to seek new desires, fulfill old fantasies, and essentially letting each other be the person that we fell in love with when we met. Allowing your partner to be who they are takes a lot of trust, communication, and loyalty. Giving up the control that society has placed on marriage and couples with monogamy can really make an individual feel vulnerable and insecure. Overcoming years and decades of ingrained beliefs that we "own" our partners within a marriage is not easy, but once done it is liberating, and the most deep and committed love is gained. And we like to fuck. That's our story...
For me it is not a matter of like or dislike. But simply an acceptance of who I am and living in a manner consistent with my beliefs of friendship, freedom, and ownership. I guess it all comes down to choosing the path my life will take and accepting my self. Being a swinger is no different than being bi or gay or straight. It is simply the lifestyle that fits who I am. 
I love to be with a couple and please them
I enjoy being a swinger for a very selfish reason... I am able to get the attention I want without jeopardizing my marriage or my regular friendships.. Nothing makes me feel freer than the ability to be naughty with a group of like minded individuals who understand my limitations and care about me as a person
We enjoy being a swinger because it gives us a chance to still experience another person, without having to cheat and by doing so responsibly. We don't do it to "spice" anything up but do it more as a way to show the other person our love for them, by showing jealousy is not the main reason to stay together and sex (while VERY important) is not the ONLY reason to stay together either. We want each other to be pleased, we have the emotional part and don't mind others helping with the physical part (not that we have a problem or have had a problem taking care of that part over the last 11 years for one another). 
CARNAL_BUNNIES wrote:
We would have to agree that the sexual energy is definitely a benefit. Although, even deeper than that we have found that the deepest form of love for each other has come from allowing each other to be who we are. Allowing each other the opportunity to seek new desires, fulfill old fantasies, and essentially letting each other be the person that we fell in love with when we met. Allowing your partner to be who they are takes a lot of trust, communication, and loyalty. Giving up the control that society has placed on marriage and couples with monogamy can really make an individual feel vulnerable and insecure. Overcoming years and decades of ingrained beliefs that we "own" our partners within a marriage is not easy, but once done it is liberating, and the most deep and committed love is gained. And we like to fuck. That's our story...
We agreed communication trust loyalty Watch your partner Grow and become more adventurous and more. We also enjoyed the social ability of making new friends and not having to hide things from people
This is what I think...The 2 leading causes of divorce are sex and money. I think if you can get your finances under control, and you are able to share your sexual hangups or fantasies together rather than having to hide them, there's nothing that you can't conquer together. I have never been closer to my wife, and wouldn't trade the relationship we have for anything. And we don't even call ourselves "swingers", but more like "trysexuals"...If you get it, you know what I mean. Wanna try it???
We enjoy the new experiences with friends. We know that there is more to the sexual experience than what is merely in our bed. We like sharing our experiences, and learning about ourselves and others.
I like the sexual energy, excitement. To be nude with others in a relaxing open fun time. Pleasing others and myself when giving & receiving sweet edging to the final blast. Mutual masterbation & toy play with others is also a highlight, indeed.
Because the teeter-totter was already taken and I don't like slides. 
Because we love it!
we love the new partners, we love the girl girl play. My husband loves the fact that he gets to see and be a part of stuff he has only seen in porn.
We feel closer to each other sharing our sexual fantasists. But to tell the truth I think this site has made me have new ones and I cant a wait to enjoy them with my hubby.
We feel closer to each other sharing our sexual fantasists. But to tell the truth I think this site has made me have new ones and I cant a wait to enjoy them with my hubby.
ROCKINCOUPLE71 wrote:
Just the fact that we don't have to sneak around or cheat on each other. And seeing her fucking other people is a turn on
Maybe we are understanding Your comment wrong . Are you saying that the reason to join the lifestyle is so that you Did not Have to Sneak around or cheat. We hope that your relationship and love for one another would be strong enough all ready that you would not want to Cheese or sneak around on one another. Like we said maybe we just miss understood your comment. We have been married for 19 years and certainly do not know everything about marriage but we are learning every day something new about one another. We have found value In the lifestyle as a relationship tool That straightened and to expound on our relationship In communication and the ability to express ourselves in other ways one another.
Well said carnal bunnies and pebblerock. Lets keep this forum going with all these great responses.
And yes we love the variety. It is the spice of life. And yes Swinging allows You to be who you are, without societies judgement upon you. That to us is a huge turn on.
And yes we love the variety. It is the spice of life. And yes Swinging allows You to be who you are, without societies judgement upon you. That to us is a huge turn on.
the free super-secret membership ID and the group discounts at baskins robins......waiting for the 401k plan to kick in.
Cause it's fucking awesome! And the excitement of a new partner is great
We love the thrill, but the fact is, in SC, the ones we are interested in seem to either be fake, or a waste of time anymore.
HARD_STONE wrote:
the free super-secret membership ID and the group discounts at baskins robins......waiting for the 401k plan to kick in.
You didn't get the memo?
Hold on. This a Swingers site. We thought it was the PTA!
Swinging has awakened the animal that lurks inside of us and allowed us to embrace it and savor all the tasty wonders we have encountered.
Swinging has awakened the animal that lurks inside of us and allowed us to embrace it and savor all the tasty wonders we have encountered.
we wanted to try new things!
because I LOVE having sex with women and LOVE watching my man have sex with other women... makes me all hot and bothered just thinking about it...
Because its like having all the sex toys you could imagine but they are live!! Live Porn!! A side effect is it has opened communication to a level that even surprises us!
because it is a more natural state of mind and spirit. we as a race were not made for manogamy
WHYNOTHAVEFUN wrote:
because it is a more natural state of mind and spirit. we as a race were not made for manogamy
I totally agree with that too!!
I've fantasized about being a swinger all my life. Thanks to a willing partner, we decided to hit the ground with our feet running last July and have loved it ever since. 
Being naked around other people and doing things like playing cards, Wii and other fun stuff in between play sessions can be quite rewarding. Getting to know new friends, meet with them and have sex with them is what the fun is all about. We're proud of who we are and have nothing to hide. If we find someone who doesn't believe in it and sticks their nose where it doesn't belong, we tell them to go mind their own business. We have respect for both sides (swing and vanilla) and if you don't like who we are, go F*CK yourselves because we aren't ever changing for anyone. Overall, the LS ROCKS! Happy Happy Joy Joy!
Being naked around other people and doing things like playing cards, Wii and other fun stuff in between play sessions can be quite rewarding. Getting to know new friends, meet with them and have sex with them is what the fun is all about. We're proud of who we are and have nothing to hide. If we find someone who doesn't believe in it and sticks their nose where it doesn't belong, we tell them to go mind their own business. We have respect for both sides (swing and vanilla) and if you don't like who we are, go F*CK yourselves because we aren't ever changing for anyone. Overall, the LS ROCKS! Happy Happy Joy Joy!Being in the lifestyle for us is probably a lot like it is for other couples - complex. We both love to look at others and one of the things we love to do is to share that together. It's about variety, it's about sharing, it's about giving each other pleasure and allowing pleasure to be had with others. It's a precious gift. I think to be good in the lifestyle as a couple you need to communicate well. That leads to trust. If you can talk freely and openly about such a normally divisive subject as attraction to and sex with other people without fear of retribution, that builds trust. I think for us the depth of trust needed to be in the lifestyle has made our love for each other grow and our relationships to be stronger.
Rockincouple and others in this conversation who have talked about swinging being better than cheating do have a point, though. There comes a point in a lot of marriages where the drive for variety and sexual satisfaction becomes a barrier to the continuation of the marriage, largely because it causes a breach in trust.
Rockincouple and others in this conversation who have talked about swinging being better than cheating do have a point, though. There comes a point in a lot of marriages where the drive for variety and sexual satisfaction becomes a barrier to the continuation of the marriage, largely because it causes a breach in trust.
we enjoy the swinging lifestyle so we can live out some fantasys and find couples that would enjoy hanging out and become good friends.
Because there's nothing on television on Saturday nights worth watching.
Well for starters I am a porn star lol. He is a porn star. You are all porn stars. I see lots of porn stars when dancing with all you sexy peeps or hanging out too.
It heats up the fire within our souls. That's why we are HOTFIRE.......Wanna see fireworks on display. What better to do that with the naked hot bodies everywhere you look.
We have not been married long. However we share our sexual desire to please others. Somehow we make it work and its amazing to see sexy chemistry all over the place.
Now that the porno is over for a second in my head. I can get serious about what I want to say. lol
I would like to say we have a gypsy soul and with that said may the door be open to even more possibilities!!!! May the wind blow upon your neck and make you feel tingly inside......Now that is hotfire!!! lol
It heats up the fire within our souls. That's why we are HOTFIRE.......Wanna see fireworks on display. What better to do that with the naked hot bodies everywhere you look.
We have not been married long. However we share our sexual desire to please others. Somehow we make it work and its amazing to see sexy chemistry all over the place.
Now that the porno is over for a second in my head. I can get serious about what I want to say. lol
I would like to say we have a gypsy soul and with that said may the door be open to even more possibilities!!!! May the wind blow upon your neck and make you feel tingly inside......Now that is hotfire!!! lol
CARNAL_BUNNIES wrote:
We would have to agree that the sexual energy is definitely a benefit. Although, even deeper than that we have found that the deepest form of love for each other has come from allowing each other to be who we are. Allowing each other the opportunity to seek new desires, fulfill old fantasies, and essentially letting each other be the person that we fell in love with when we met. Allowing your partner to be who they are takes a lot of trust, communication, and loyalty. Giving up the control that society has placed on marriage and couples with monogamy can really make an individual feel vulnerable and insecure. Overcoming years and decades of ingrained beliefs that we "own" our partners within a marriage is not easy, but once done it is liberating, and the most deep and committed love is gained. And we like to fuck. That's our story...
Completely agree. We also find that it enhances our own sex life.
CB & KB
JANDY275 wrote:
We don't like being swingers....we are really kleptomaniacs. But what better way to see what kind of cool things other people have.
and you could potentially add "spouses" to the list of things you theive?
Freedom of expression and sharing with others