Swingers Forum - Speaking of balancing the lifestyle

I would say our number changes depends on a lot of various factors. We didn't have kids when we first started so our availability was a lot more open. Now we have kids and play weekends only. Even then it really depends on what kind of events are being held, who's going where, if we've met anybody particularly interesting, living situations, sitter situations, income situations, etc. Sometimes we get lucky and get out to a few parties during the month. Sometimes we miss out for a few months. And even when we're at parties, we're very laid back about hooking up. If we happen to find someone of compatibility and everything goes just right, we hook up. If not, we hung out with fun people and had a good time anyways. so I'm not really sure what number that puts us at. I suppose anywhere from 3-8.

We want to get out more than we actually do... Our availability used to be daytime..which never garnered much interest. But now we hope we can make room for more good Times

I am afraid that the lifestyle has to come after almost anything else.

J5285H wrote:

CARRIERMANANDGEEKGIRL wrote:

Why does it have to come down to alloting a given amount of time to either the Swinging Lifestyle or one's Vanilla Lifestyle?
It is what it is - and it will vary by individual couple.
For cryin out loud, it's not like we're in a union and have to account to some overseer for everything we do.
Will this weekend be EXACTLY like last weekend?
Will this month be EXACTLY like next month?
Whatever happens happens.
Whenever it happens - it happens.
SHEESH - it's not like we have to punch a time clock for fear of getting docked an orgasm.

It's just a curiousity question about the ebb and flow of how the lifestyle fits into peoples busy lives. Chill the fuck out.

I do not think it is possible for certain people to chill...the same people bitch and the same people moan...unfortunately.

Anywhoooo...we started out very active and it tapered off...so you are correct, it definitely ebbs and flows. Me (the Mrs.) is very picky, just like many are so we take our time with new friends and have met some great people along the way. We do have a routine of checking our account and keeping our eye on the forum, events and such and have built quite a network of friends on here so we tend to stay active to see what's going on. We head to the parties as often as we can, but it can get pretty spendy when they are every weekend...I think it is obvious that everyone puts their family first, so I won't go there, but we do invest in this lifestyle what we expect out of it, although it seems when there is drama or competition amongst all of the friends out there trying to provide events for us, we seem to get tired of figuring out whose party to attend, so we just hang out

So to answer your question, we flow between a 3-6 depending on what is happening that gets us all "twitterpated."

Sun thru Thursday I am about a 5. I check Swingular daily, go into chat, respond of forums, etc. But actually getting out is another story.

Friday and Saturday tho....GAME ON! I usually have my weekends free due to pareting time schedule. My kids are with their father on weekends. So I like to hit the clubs and/or parties. The only thing that derails that is if my kids are sick (in which case their father is rendered totally useless) or something somewhat time consuming.

But if I ever miss a Friday night at Habits someone please come check on me.


I agree tho...some weeks there is a vacant sign hanging over my girlie parts and some weeks I have to schedule people in weeks in advance. Just depends on the moon and if the stars align.


xox
Tammy

We've always looked for Quality and if this is based on 3weeks out of the month than we are a 3 since we try to hook up with something each month.