If a couple has a bi comfy male, but doesnt need play with the other males but just puts it out there.But he is okay if it does happen, would you contact the profile anyway and just state your not bi comfy or bi in any way, but would still like to play? or just skip that profile?
I'm a straight female and lots of times couples are looking for a bi comfortable girl to play with. Since that's not me, it's up the female half of said couple if she ok that my interraction with her will be minimal at best. If they are ok with it, I'm ok with playing with a couple that has a bi female.
Now truth be told, I do love getting my hands on a bi male. Along with another bi male. But we will save that for another thread.
xox
Tammy
p.s. Good thing the whole bi thing isn't a deal breaker other wise I would be missing out on someone who totally rocks. Even if he won't play my way. LOL
Now truth be told, I do love getting my hands on a bi male. Along with another bi male. But we will save that for another thread.
xox
Tammy
p.s. Good thing the whole bi thing isn't a deal breaker other wise I would be missing out on someone who totally rocks. Even if he won't play my way. LOL
A lot of people skip our profile due to the fact that I'm a straight female. Just how it goes.
We skip profiles with bi males as the few times we made exceptions people acted weird and made us feel uncomfortable. With bi females we do the same thing Blue does. Let 'em know female interaction will be minimal at best and see how they feel about that.
We skip profiles with bi males as the few times we made exceptions people acted weird and made us feel uncomfortable. With bi females we do the same thing Blue does. Let 'em know female interaction will be minimal at best and see how they feel about that.
We are fine with anyone being bi. My husband is straight and that wont change but we are fine with a guy being bi as long as they understand that.
People lie in their profiles all the time, especially men. Why that is, I don
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
A lot of people skip our profile due to the fact that I'm a straight female.
Do you know this for a fact? If they do that they must be idiots!
we skip profiles that have bi-anything males and straight women. but we skip profiles due to lots of other reasons too... age... lack of pictures... couples who only soft swap... we know exactly what we want and what we are attracted to, so no point in wasting anybody's time chasing something that won't satisfy both of us.
CANDJ23 wrote:
we skip profiles that have bi-anything males and straight women. but we skip profiles due to lots of other reasons too... age... lack of pictures... couples who only soft swap... we know exactly what we want and what we are attracted to, so no point in wasting anybody's time chasing something that won't satisfy both of us.
Good reasoning, I think???
SUGARSANDSPICE wrote:CANDJ23 wrote:
we skip profiles that have bi-anything males and straight women. but we skip profiles due to lots of other reasons too... age... lack of pictures... couples who only soft swap... we know exactly what we want and what we are attracted to, so no point in wasting anybody's time chasing something that won't satisfy both of us.
Good reasoning, I think???
it is good reasoning! its all about comfort level, right? nobody wants to put themselves in a sexual situation where they wouldn't completely comfortable. kind of spoils the fun...
SUGARSANDSPICE wrote:HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
A lot of people skip our profile due to the fact that I'm a straight female.
Do you know this for a fact? If they do that they must be idiots!
I've had emails sent to us that say "well, we'd love to play with you, but its a pity the wife is straight." Not quite sure what the point of such an email is, but whatever. Such is life. No hurt feelings here
In my opinion, if you do gang bangs, DVP, DP or any MfM you have to be Bi comfortable. That doesn't mean you like it. It means that you are willing to look past it to please the woman. It doesn't mean you do anything with the other guy, just that you know your cock or balls or legs or whatever may inevitably touch and it is what it is.
BIGREID8 wrote:
In my opinion, if you do gang bangs, DVP, DP or any MfM you have to be Bi comfortable. That doesn't mean you like it. It means that you are willing to look past it to please the woman. It doesn't mean you do anything with the other guy, just that you know your cock or balls or legs or whatever may inevitably touch and it is what it is.
I suppose that opens the can of worms that is defining bi-comfortable. lulz. I put bi-comfortable more towards the area where "well, i'm not actively seeking bisexual encounters, but if it happens, so be it." Whereas other people put it more towards "i'm not gonna flip out if your hand accidentally brushes your thigh"
Which I suppose means I should clarify that we skip past full on bisexual males as that's simply not our thing, but we ask the bi-comfortables just in case they really meant "meh. fellow nude males don't bother me. i'm just not gonna do 'em." *shrugs* that's my 2.5 cents
We are a couple with Bi Male & Straight Female, we get very little contact from couples (almost none) but have all kinds of males (married & singal) contacting us who's profile list them as straight but tell us they are Bi, but list as straight so others will contact them.
So being honest in our profile is why we don't get other couple to contact us, even though the male can play straight.
Also there is many types of Bi guys, but most don't understand that just cause you might be Bi, doesn't mean you are into ass fucking &/or kissing, and you are "NOT GAY", Bi guys "DO" like to play with women.
So being honest in our profile is why we don't get other couple to contact us, even though the male can play straight.
Also there is many types of Bi guys, but most don't understand that just cause you might be Bi, doesn't mean you are into ass fucking &/or kissing, and you are "NOT GAY", Bi guys "DO" like to play with women.
This is a Catch-22, damned if you do/damned if you don't situation.
At various times, I (he) have changed my status for a variety of reasons.
If you list yourself as bi, you automatically turn a lot of people off.
List yourself as straight - and you've limited your options.
Bi comfortable?
To me, that means the person isn't gonna freak if skin-to-skin contact is made, or if someone in the equation shows an interest in same sex contact.
There's still the "NO" option, right?
Bi curious males?
Never really been able to figure this one out.
Does that mean you are curious to know what it feels like to have a man suck your cock - or curious to know what it feels like to suck another guy's cock?
Curious is as curious does, what ever the hell THAT means.
In any event, it's a double standard.
Women routinely list themselves as bi, and no one even gives it a second (much less a first) thought.
But let a guy list himself as bi in a profile, and it's pretty much like admitting to having AIDS.
The analogy I've posted MANY times here still applies.
"A guy can fuck 10,000 women, and no one will call him a stud. But let him get caught with just 1 dick in his mouth, and he'll be labeled a cocksucker the rest of his life".
Oh, but just for the record, it's 100% socially acceptable for a woman to eat another woman's pussy.
WTF??????
At various times, I (he) have changed my status for a variety of reasons.
If you list yourself as bi, you automatically turn a lot of people off.
List yourself as straight - and you've limited your options.
Bi comfortable?
To me, that means the person isn't gonna freak if skin-to-skin contact is made, or if someone in the equation shows an interest in same sex contact.
There's still the "NO" option, right?
Bi curious males?
Never really been able to figure this one out.
Does that mean you are curious to know what it feels like to have a man suck your cock - or curious to know what it feels like to suck another guy's cock?
Curious is as curious does, what ever the hell THAT means.
In any event, it's a double standard.
Women routinely list themselves as bi, and no one even gives it a second (much less a first) thought.
But let a guy list himself as bi in a profile, and it's pretty much like admitting to having AIDS.
The analogy I've posted MANY times here still applies.
"A guy can fuck 10,000 women, and no one will call him a stud. But let him get caught with just 1 dick in his mouth, and he'll be labeled a cocksucker the rest of his life".
Oh, but just for the record, it's 100% socially acceptable for a woman to eat another woman's pussy.
WTF??????
HOTCPL34 wrote:
We pass on all bi male or bi male comfortable profiles, it's just not our thing.
It doesn't have to be your "thing".
Being with someone who is bi-comfortable doesn't mean the guy is gonna come on to YOUR guy.
All it means is, the guy is OK if swords cross in the heat of battle.
But the choice of who to and who NOT to pass on is 10,000% yours.
As a bisexual male, I just want to put my two cents in on this... I thought before sex with others, we all discussed our limits, right? If you are a str8 male, that is a limit I will totally respect, just as if she is not a fan of anal, I would not even consider going there. Its a matter of respect. We have had encounters with every combination of bi/str8 male and bi/str8 female and have never once crossed a boundary layed out beforehand. Sure our swords may cross from time to time as happens in any group sex encounter, but that doesn't mean I will then jump on it because I think you want it. i think as long as everyone is honest and lays out there limits, we could all have fun!
An interesting thread, certainly. And an issue that has bedeviled the human species for decades. That would be the same species that inherently assigns labels to everything, labels that are generally destructive.
If you have interest in probing deeper, check out the Kinsey Report (more specifically the Kinsey Scale) from the 1950s. Although Kinseys methodology was soundly criticized at the time, many of the results have been validated by subsequent research. Kinsey argued that all humans' sexual orientation can be ranked on a sliding scale of 1 to 6, with 1 being entirely hetereosexual and 6 being entirely homosexual. Only a very very small percentage of the sample actually came in at 1 or 6, meaning the vast majority of the population, men and women, are somewhere in between. Maybe we just don't know where we rank until situations arise, and they certainly do arise in the lifestyle more than the vanilla world. But isn't that part of the journey of discovery? Figuring out who we are?
I would prefer we do away with labels altogether. Counterproductive and downright desctructive in most instances where they are used as a wedge to drive people apart.
Signed me, the anthropologist half of this relationship.
If you have interest in probing deeper, check out the Kinsey Report (more specifically the Kinsey Scale) from the 1950s. Although Kinseys methodology was soundly criticized at the time, many of the results have been validated by subsequent research. Kinsey argued that all humans' sexual orientation can be ranked on a sliding scale of 1 to 6, with 1 being entirely hetereosexual and 6 being entirely homosexual. Only a very very small percentage of the sample actually came in at 1 or 6, meaning the vast majority of the population, men and women, are somewhere in between. Maybe we just don't know where we rank until situations arise, and they certainly do arise in the lifestyle more than the vanilla world. But isn't that part of the journey of discovery? Figuring out who we are?
I would prefer we do away with labels altogether. Counterproductive and downright desctructive in most instances where they are used as a wedge to drive people apart.
Signed me, the anthropologist half of this relationship.
Well it goes back to the question...What would you do for a klondike bar?
Seriously, never say never. I'm straight. One to many bad experiences to be bi comfortable much less bi sexual. However there is this one girl who when she kisses me I forget men exist. Which is odd considering she herself is a happily married woman. So while I prefer to limit my sexual contact with what I'm comfortable with I have no doubt that given the right situation, I might do or try anything. If so far it doesn't appeale to you, that's fine. Obviously you have never been in the "right" situation. And perhaps you never will be.
I dont avoid profiles simply based on sexual prefereneces. I can talk and be friends with anyone. I just avoid sexual contact with those who are not compatible to my prefereces. You have to be pretty shallow or insecure with yourself to avoid a profile just on the off chance that the bi male will hit on you. Trust me, no one here is irristabley hot and the bi men I personally know on this site are not desperate enough to force/manipulate/or trick you into doing something you don't want to do. Unwanted attention isn't a sexual orientation issue but a matter of bad manners and not having any class.
Seriously, never say never. I'm straight. One to many bad experiences to be bi comfortable much less bi sexual. However there is this one girl who when she kisses me I forget men exist. Which is odd considering she herself is a happily married woman. So while I prefer to limit my sexual contact with what I'm comfortable with I have no doubt that given the right situation, I might do or try anything. If so far it doesn't appeale to you, that's fine. Obviously you have never been in the "right" situation. And perhaps you never will be.
I dont avoid profiles simply based on sexual prefereneces. I can talk and be friends with anyone. I just avoid sexual contact with those who are not compatible to my prefereces. You have to be pretty shallow or insecure with yourself to avoid a profile just on the off chance that the bi male will hit on you. Trust me, no one here is irristabley hot and the bi men I personally know on this site are not desperate enough to force/manipulate/or trick you into doing something you don't want to do. Unwanted attention isn't a sexual orientation issue but a matter of bad manners and not having any class.
I am a strait male and we have played with couples where the male was bi-fill in the blank. It has never been an issue for us. The men have always respected that I am strait and never tried to push the issue.
I'm str8 as they come but crossing of the dicks to make a female happy does not make me bi in anyway.
Bi-male means they enjoy sucking dick as well as pusy. An we have hooked up with bi-males before with the understanding its all for the female's.
Bi-male means they enjoy sucking dick as well as pusy. An we have hooked up with bi-males before with the understanding its all for the female's.
Us? It doesn't matter to us. My husband is straight but not homophobic. He does a good job communicating that without insulting the sexual preference of the other guy. We had played with couples where the guy is bi with zero sexual interaction between guys. As far as ladies being bi or straight, I'm very bi but if the other girl is not into that then I can set my mind to "straight mode". I guess I'm "bi-flexible".
while your all skipping over the ones who say bimale in there profile. would you all like to know how many eamils we get from st8 males saying i am really bi but can't say it?? true most say that and the very next sentance is what they want to do with the wife. because something in there small ass brain. says he's bi. so he don't know how to take care of a woman. and don't forget the wifes out of town hall passer st8 males that r really bi. hate to rain on some of the homofobes out there but if you have played with groups or more than about 10 couples a few of the men there have sucked a dick
As far back as I can remember, which is back to the early '60s, nearly every porn movie had a girl-on-girl scene or two. It was almost required - at least expected.
Supposedly, enough men enjoyed watching that for the film makers to include it. NEVER would you see two guys getting it on together. Even if some of the male porn stars would have been willing to do a guy/guy scene, it would have probably been a turn-off to 90% of the people who watched it.
And ruin their career.
Fast forward.
Today, girl/girl play is considered perfectly acceptable in the Lifestyle, and to come right out and say it in one's profile.
And, it would appear nothing has changed regarding how men feel about it.
Personally (he) it never did anything for me watching the films, but I have to admit it can be a completely different story watching it in person.
We can beat/thrash/discuss/analyze this subject/topic until we're all to old for it to make any difference to us, yet one thing will still prevail: There's a stigma to guy/guy sex that never has, doesn't now, and never will apply to girl/girl sex. It will ALWAYS be different where guy/guy is concerned.
Not really sure why. Maybe it has to do with the macho us guys feel we'd lose if we did such a thing.
And given that so-called "Scarlet Letter" label guys get when they admit to being bi or gay, I for one have to applaud the guts it takes for someone to admit to it here in a somewhat public forum.
Are they willing to do that because they feel safe knowing everyone on Swingular is broad minded enough to accept it for what it is and not be judgemental?
Hardly - there appear to be some pretty militant anti-bi-anything folks here, or at least that's what they say.
Mostly, it's a matter of perception.
Back when I was a Single Male in the Lifestyle, the vast majority of the couples I played with had NO SINGLE MALES in their profile.
They lied.
And each and every one said STRAIGHT in describing the guy.
Many of them lied.
If you and your friends are both in the Lifestyle, you all know what goes on.
Why are so many folks afraid friends will think badly of them if they admit to playing with a dreaded SINGLE GUY?
And I'd be willing to bet a lot of the guys listed as STRAIGHT in their profile have sucked more cocks than their wife.
Another thing that will never change is: only the people behind the closed doors need to know what happend behind those doors.
Remember that the next time you see 2 couples open the door and walk out of a bedroom with a smile on their faces.
Supposedly, enough men enjoyed watching that for the film makers to include it. NEVER would you see two guys getting it on together. Even if some of the male porn stars would have been willing to do a guy/guy scene, it would have probably been a turn-off to 90% of the people who watched it.
And ruin their career.
Fast forward.
Today, girl/girl play is considered perfectly acceptable in the Lifestyle, and to come right out and say it in one's profile.
And, it would appear nothing has changed regarding how men feel about it.
Personally (he) it never did anything for me watching the films, but I have to admit it can be a completely different story watching it in person.
We can beat/thrash/discuss/analyze this subject/topic until we're all to old for it to make any difference to us, yet one thing will still prevail: There's a stigma to guy/guy sex that never has, doesn't now, and never will apply to girl/girl sex. It will ALWAYS be different where guy/guy is concerned.
Not really sure why. Maybe it has to do with the macho us guys feel we'd lose if we did such a thing.
And given that so-called "Scarlet Letter" label guys get when they admit to being bi or gay, I for one have to applaud the guts it takes for someone to admit to it here in a somewhat public forum.
Are they willing to do that because they feel safe knowing everyone on Swingular is broad minded enough to accept it for what it is and not be judgemental?
Hardly - there appear to be some pretty militant anti-bi-anything folks here, or at least that's what they say.
Mostly, it's a matter of perception.
Back when I was a Single Male in the Lifestyle, the vast majority of the couples I played with had NO SINGLE MALES in their profile.
They lied.
And each and every one said STRAIGHT in describing the guy.
Many of them lied.
If you and your friends are both in the Lifestyle, you all know what goes on.
Why are so many folks afraid friends will think badly of them if they admit to playing with a dreaded SINGLE GUY?
And I'd be willing to bet a lot of the guys listed as STRAIGHT in their profile have sucked more cocks than their wife.
Another thing that will never change is: only the people behind the closed doors need to know what happend behind those doors.
Remember that the next time you see 2 couples open the door and walk out of a bedroom with a smile on their faces.
I love girl juice and sausage for breakfast
Sorry, no.
bi under the right situation.. it what it says... often referred to as 'socially bi' perhaps the question is.. what is the right situation? some people enjoy being 'passive bi' or only bi if with both (has to have the opposite sex there) with guys often it might mean 'orally bi' ..hence no anal sex is desired... this is usually the case with most 'hetero' bi males.... the right situation is usually.. in a 3some with a M/F couple so the 'right situation' can be mixing the enjoyment of a 'bi' experience .. i.e. sex with both at the same time. Ever notice that the 'right situation' may not be when you meet someone? but rather it happens when you are naked, and playing straight in a 3way..and the couple is open to some bi fun.. when the mood at that time becomes the 'right situation'. When people are aroused, they often will and can enjoy things that they might totally deny- otherwise... this is the magic line between fantasies and reality. Socially... you may not even feel a 'connection' to the person for these desires, except by prior communication via email or chat.. then after meeting in person... one may not experience the 'feeling of attraction' ... but the desire to pursue the potentials that were discussed in private...often don't materialize until you've allowed yourself to enjoy the situation.... by taking the next step... Leave the 'drama' out.. look for cleanliness, and general appearance within the normal range and let the mind work with the body.. just as it did when you were emailing and chatting. It's perfectly normal to feel indifferent or shy in person.. until after you have started your 'intimate experience' with that person. It's then that you find out people are more similar than different... you don't have to worry about the emotions, a relationship, etc.. it's recreational... Isn't that what swinging is all about? *ofcourse The 'right situation' usually is 'descreet' too.. private.. and with the bi aspect.. it's exciting sensual and very intimate... especailly when you can share it with the opposite sex. What usually is not the 'right situation' because it's 1 on 1 .. becoms the right situation when you share it with the opposite sex.. that often makes it 'feel right'... or 'natural' And it's a wonderful turn on for the opposite sex person too.. That's the part that I love about it.. when a woman is turned on by it..and gets so aroused and wet from it...it just seems so 'right' then... and so erotic. Forfilling your sexual desires in experiences often follows like the times you fantasize about it... while you are sexually aroused.. you are right for it.. and then do you notice.. after you cum.. or shortly after that.. you might even deny- you ever thought about wanting to do it, till the next time you are aroused. You'll never know if you don't take the next step.. remember.. bi means 'both' that's the right situation!
Don't most of us lay out the boundaries at the get go? If someone cant respect them, it's not because they're bi, its because they're assholes. I always lay it out "this is where i stand" and i've never had any problems.
CRAZYFOXTCU wrote:
I am a strait male and we have played with couples where the male was bi-fill in the blank. It has never been an issue for us. The men have always respected that I am strait and never tried to push the issue.
That's only cause your face is all pixellated and such, not so attractive! ROFLMAO!!!! Wait, you were in the Toyota commercial weren't you? ROFLMAO!!!
Seriously, I am a gay/bi male magnet, I am often told its because I am a metro-neck (half redneck, half metro-sexual, basically, I wear designer jeans and shirts with boots and a stetson, sometimes sans stetson), but I have yet to have a bi-male ask me, 'Are you sure you're straight?' try to push the envelope, or anything of the nature. I have had gay males ask if I was sure I was straight, but they were attracted to me and were trying to get into my pants, I have heard worse things come out of straight males' mouths when trying to pick someone up.
I am entirely comfortable with bi, gay, middle, TS, TV, and any other label, it is the person's personality that matters to me.
We used to go to a club that had a monthly fetish night, there was a gay male who was there every time, he was a very nice man and people shunned him. Not us, he was an awesome guy. One night they were doing hot wax, no one would work with him aside from a lady who was to short to get the wax far enough away from him that it wouldn't hurt him, so I poured it on him. To him, I was the most awesome dude in the world, to me, I was simply helping someone out to have a good time.
Anyway, the more you read into the labels, the less people you have opportunity to make friends.
On a final note, my ex was straight, yet every bi woman we ever met tried to convince her otherwise. She coined the term bi-furious because of it.
I'll throw my nickel in here too, since I can't get further ostracized than I've been in the past. I'm a single guy, been listed as straight, bi-curious, bi-comfortable, orally-bi, so now I'll even put bi-confused. I really prefer sex with women, and will go as far as to say I even prefer just giving oral (I'd rather lick it than stick it). Yes I've sucked a few cocks, and will do so again in the future. My big kink is I also love wearing lingerie, especially panties or other lingerie that a woman has just recently worn. I don't often get too many couples (or single ladies) that want to play with me, but when I do everyone is always satisfied in the end. I have had more than my share of single guys that are total jackasses and just seem to think I'll just suck their cock because that is what they want, but they don't want to do any thing to make me feel good too. So I don't know what to say in my profile anymore, I'll just put it here this way. I'm open to meeting couples and single women - you set the limits and conditions. I won't meet single guys, even if you promise to bring me sexy lingerie.