I have a quick question for established couples (married or just in committed relationships).....
For those of you who prefer couples, do "newbie" couples - as in perhaps not new to swinging on their own, but 2 singles who either just want to bring each other along as their spare offering or 2 singles that are regular/established FWB and decide that they want to not only have sex with each other but now bring other's into their sex life bother anyone? Or do you couples prefer those that are in long established relationships meaning that the couple is either married or at least cohabitating?
Is the really good friends/FWB dymanic a deal breaker or are couples in general ok as long as everyone is having a good time, no drama, and there is plenty of sexual chemistry?
xox
Tammy
p.s. Thanks in advance for your advice/opinions. And YES there is a particular reason I'm asking....but it's something we wanted to get input on first.
For those of you who prefer couples, do "newbie" couples - as in perhaps not new to swinging on their own, but 2 singles who either just want to bring each other along as their spare offering or 2 singles that are regular/established FWB and decide that they want to not only have sex with each other but now bring other's into their sex life bother anyone? Or do you couples prefer those that are in long established relationships meaning that the couple is either married or at least cohabitating?
Is the really good friends/FWB dymanic a deal breaker or are couples in general ok as long as everyone is having a good time, no drama, and there is plenty of sexual chemistry?
xox
Tammy
p.s. Thanks in advance for your advice/opinions. And YES there is a particular reason I'm asking....but it's something we wanted to get input on first.
I think it really depends on the couple. From what we have learned is lots of couples play with other couples so everyone has something to be doing and it plays into their turn ons and fantasies. We have played with both and have seen problems with both. The big thing for us when it is a couple is we like the friendship and with FWB sometimes it is kind of hard to get that good friendship going..
I'd agree that it's situational. We have met established couples that create drama, and newb couple that didn't. It's all in the communication. Other than that though, I'd say do your thing, and I'm sure you'll have fun!
Good question!
Short answer...no problem.
Longer answer...
We have progressed thru that very process, and in that we had only one married couple even mention that they preffered MARRIED couples. However...we had a great time, and have become friends with them. Have to say..for the most part our experience has been that most couples just want the same thing we do. Equal time for their partner. No one likes to see their significan't other sitting on the sidelines, out of the game.
Short answer...no problem.
Longer answer...
We have progressed thru that very process, and in that we had only one married couple even mention that they preffered MARRIED couples. However...we had a great time, and have become friends with them. Have to say..for the most part our experience has been that most couples just want the same thing we do. Equal time for their partner. No one likes to see their significan't other sitting on the sidelines, out of the game.
TIFFND wrote:
Good question!
Short answer...no problem.
Longer answer...
We have progressed thru that very process, and in that we had only one married couple even mention that they preffered MARRIED couples. However...we had a great time, and have become friends with them. Have to say..for the most part our experience has been that most couples just want the same thing we do. Equal time for their partner. No one likes to see their significan't other sitting on the sidelines, out of the game.
Amen! We all just want have a great experience to share!
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:We would NEVER allow this. It has to be ONLY YOU, totally naked, snuggled in between us like a BlueEyes sandwich.
... do "newbie" couples - as in perhaps not new to swinging on their own, but 2 singles who either just want to bring each other along as their spare offering or 2 singles that are regular/established FWB and decide that they want to not only have sex with each other but now bring other's into their sex life bother anyone? ...
Tammy ...
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Oh. That was more of a generic question than a personal one? Oops, sorry.
Honestly, it doesn't sound like a big deal to me. I think you answered with a similar suggestion in a post that my wife started recently. If it's an opportunity for 4 like minded, mutually attracted folks to have some fun, I guess I don't see the problem!
There is the beauty of seeing your wife or significant other pleased and watching the look on her face as she is entered or taken care of affectionately by another guy. To watch the look on her face is better than ice cream at Mcdonalds, lol. That is often why most peoples list the fact that they prefer same room sex other than moving to different rooms.
Just Sayin..
Just Sayin..
At some point every couple is new. So it depends on what you are looking for. As long as the couple is honest about the relationship, then it is on a case by case basis. I think all couples sequester at some point and ask what their partner thinks.
Parties are another story and pure physical attraction works for me at Parties. As a couple we have permission to act separately and do what ever with out consultation and I only do that at a party. So under that circumstance it totally would not matter. Often finding a bed bunny is a nice place to start a friendship and then you see where it goes from there.
At any other time, If the couple were really singles then we would play it by ear. Honesty at that point would play a major role as well as other factors.
That being said it depends on the couple. Sometimes couples split up and you become single. To that we all say OUCH! But if you have established a presence here, as you and trixiee and some other singles have, then I don
Parties are another story and pure physical attraction works for me at Parties. As a couple we have permission to act separately and do what ever with out consultation and I only do that at a party. So under that circumstance it totally would not matter. Often finding a bed bunny is a nice place to start a friendship and then you see where it goes from there.
At any other time, If the couple were really singles then we would play it by ear. Honesty at that point would play a major role as well as other factors.
That being said it depends on the couple. Sometimes couples split up and you become single. To that we all say OUCH! But if you have established a presence here, as you and trixiee and some other singles have, then I don
It depends on the couple. I dont think it would matter one bit. If its you I know it wouldn't matter cause your awesome and sexy.
Would pretty much depend on the "couple". Cannot see that lumping people into categories can ever be a good thing. Just prefer that all involved be of the same mindset, would have a problem with a person being there to just "fill a spot". I know that there have been some men that would actually "hire" an escort of sort, to accompany them on dates or to parties,, that, in my opninion is just not right!
Anyway,, guess that is the difference between "swapping" and swinging. Swapping initself being required to furnish an equal number of playmates , whereby swinging would be open to other , prhaps "odd" matchups
Anyway,, guess that is the difference between "swapping" and swinging. Swapping initself being required to furnish an equal number of playmates , whereby swinging would be open to other , prhaps "odd" matchups
it doesn't matter at all... as long as the couple like each other, play well together and both are d/d free...
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
I have a quick question for established couples (married or just in committed relationships).....
For those of you who prefer couples, do "newbie" couples - as in perhaps not new to swinging on their own, but 2 singles who either just want to bring each other along as their spare offering or 2 singles that are regular/established FWB and decide that they want to not only have sex with each other but now bring other's into their sex life bother anyone? Or do you couples prefer those that are in long established relationships meaning that the couple is either married or at least cohabitating?
Is the really good friends/FWB dymanic a deal breaker or are couples in general ok as long as everyone is having a good time, no drama, and there is plenty of sexual chemistry?
xox
Tammy
p.s. Thanks in advance for your advice/opinions. And YES there is a particular reason I'm asking....but it's something we wanted to get input on first.
Well, as in all situations, "it depends." Once we had a situation, where the female partner got cold feet once we were all alone and naked, getting ready to go. However, if everyone in the party is comfortable with each other, and are willing partners, I say have a great time.
No problem here... But with any couple you need to set your comfort zone before you start..
ALLWENEEDISU wrote:
It depends on the couple. I dont think it would matter one bit. If its you I know it wouldn't matter cause your awesome and sexy.
Seriously need to hang out with you and J again.
xoxo
Tammy
FUN4MWF wrote:
[quote=BLUEEYESINUTAH]Honestly, it doesn't sound like a big deal to me. I think you answered with a similar suggestion in a post that my wife started recently. If it's an opportunity for 4 like minded, mutually attracted folks to have some fun, I guess I don't see the problem!
Then stand still dammit.
xox
T.
I used to always swing with my husband. We were seeing a married couple that appeared to match us perfectly.... until he got drunk and called me to say how awesome his wife was for being willing to "take on" my slightly overweight husband just so he could have time with me. Not that she wasn't amazing, but I don't want to be part of some sort of "obligation chorus".
If 2 single in the lifestyle hook up to make a couple don't see a problem there as long as all the guide lines are met for all.