i find myself curious if cpls have as much problems with a responce as single males ? ive bn in the lifestyle a while now and made some great friends in and out of lifestyle but seriously if your not interested in someone just say it why pretend/ ignore .. were all grown here lets act like it and not waste each others time .....
I like to act my age. How are you Blackman01(=
BLACKMAN01 wrote:
i find myself curious if cpls have as much problems with a responce as single males ? ive bn in the lifestyle a while now and made some great friends in and out of lifestyle but seriously if your not interested in someone just say it why pretend/ ignore .. were all grown here lets act like it and not waste each others time .....
We get emails from people constantly that we have no interest in knowing or meeting. We used send back a simple email saying we were not interested and we would get responses from "why not?" to some bullshit about being elite and single males (and some couples) would even send back "You should give me (us) a chance"
Now we just simply ignore.
Oh, and we also ignore blind friend requests. We currently have over 300 ignored friend requests in "ignored friend request purgatory".
I generally read how receptive they are to single Males. And If I do write and get no answer no big deal! 
Life goes on. Life is to short to worry about that IMO!!
Life goes on. Life is to short to worry about that IMO!! INVITESOME wrote:
"ignored friend request purgatory".
LMAO...now THAT is the perfect name for that queue.
We get emails from people constantly that we have no interest in knowing or meeting. We used send back a simple email saying we were not interested and we would get responses from "why not?" to some bullshit about being elite and single males (and some couples) would even send back "You should give me (us) a chance"
I have never emailed you, so or why would I respond??
yours truly
whynotsayhi
I have never emailed you, so or why would I respond??
yours truly
whynotsayhi
not sure if its really a single males thing....speaking only from the single female perspective, I get emails from people who I have absolutely no interest in and I try to explain why I'm not interested. Most get it and don't attempt to further communication but every now and then there is that one profile that's gets stupid and starts arguing with me, and when that doesn't change my mind, they they actually go on the attack and get mean and nasty. And well you know me...if you push that button you are gonna end up in fetal position sucking your thumb bawling. I get it from every angle.
Now as to how I feel when I send out an introductory email and don't get a response....(breath. It happens to me too. Promise) I just chalk it up to either no interest, bad day, or whatever.
Seriously to everyone out there...you cannot let your self esteem rest on the type of attention you get on a sex site. It's not healthy. And while my pussy may rock and my oral skills are amazing, I'm much more then that. At least that's what my therapist keeps saying.
xox
Tammy
Now as to how I feel when I send out an introductory email and don't get a response....(breath. It happens to me too. Promise) I just chalk it up to either no interest, bad day, or whatever.
Seriously to everyone out there...you cannot let your self esteem rest on the type of attention you get on a sex site. It's not healthy. And while my pussy may rock and my oral skills are amazing, I'm much more then that. At least that's what my therapist keeps saying.
xox
Tammy
So, you're saying your therapist can attest to your amazing oral skills, huh?
Interesting.
Interesting.
CARRIERMAN wrote:
So, you're saying your therapist can attest to your amazing oral skills, huh?
Interesting.
<giggle-snort> Nice. (and pleads the 5th)
Its not rocket science. Hell if they ignore they aren't interested who cares. And I have gotten my share of "thanks but we are not interested" and I always email back and say thanks for being up front. But either way it doesn't matter to me. Just here to have fun. And Tammy is soooo right about your self esteem and not letting it get you down on a sex/swinger site. Happy Saturday everyone.
And I have gotten my share of "thanks but we are not interested" and I always email back and say thanks for being up front. But either way it doesn't matter to me. Just here to have fun. And Tammy is soooo right about your self esteem and not letting it get you down on a sex/swinger site. Happy Saturday everyone.I don't know why single guys think that everyone they write to will fall to their knees and will move heaven and earth to rush to their side to fuck them. Get real guys, you're not that smart to think they will either. First of all if you're more then 50 miles away you can most likely forgert it. If you have no picture of your face you can definetly forget it. On occation if you can actually put together several sentances that are cohearant that express your intrests you might get an answer back that may express some interest.
I hardly send messages to couples or single females, I wait for them to contact me. 99 & 44/100% they express their interestes because they match mine. I never show genital shots because in this lifestyle everyone knows what you have and size is not imortant adn you don't have to prove it. If your that hellbent to get laid there are escort services or go find a spot on the corner and choose your poison.
I'm not going to ramble, but guys don't be Jerks.
I hardly send messages to couples or single females, I wait for them to contact me. 99 & 44/100% they express their interestes because they match mine. I never show genital shots because in this lifestyle everyone knows what you have and size is not imortant adn you don't have to prove it. If your that hellbent to get laid there are escort services or go find a spot on the corner and choose your poison.
I'm not going to ramble, but guys don't be Jerks.
BLACKMAN01 wrote:In one word...yes. LOL
i find myself curious if cpls have as much problems with a responce as single males ? ive bn in the lifestyle a while now and made some great friends in and out of lifestyle but seriously if your not interested in someone just say it why pretend/ ignore .. were all grown here lets act like it and not waste each others time .....
In more than one word....
We know that there are wonderful, very respectful, single guys out there. And have become friends with some of them, now. BTW..just to drum up a little "business" for one of them...Mr Blackman01 is DEFINATELY one of members of that group! That said...we can understand where it would be difficult for a single guy to get attention. In our case..it's simply a matter of what we deem as fair. We are both in this together..and We BOTH like to play..So.. to be quite honest..not being bi myself...a single guy brings nothing to the table for greedy ol' me! LOL
As for the original question? I guess if you are a smokin' hot picture of perfection..it's probably WAY easier for you to get a few responces from your inquiries than a single guy. But....is it easier if you are more the average, older, or more heavyset couple ? Not so sure.
haha tiffnd , wasnt saying it to drum up business lol, its just something ive noticed recently thats theres lacking alot of respect lately , even though this is a sex site no works a hell of a lot better than ignore thats all im saying
RDY2PLAYWU wrote:
I wait for them to contact me.
Finally, someone who gets it.
Although technically I don't mind if I get A email from a single male. Lets me know they're interested and I can file them away for later contact if they're the type I'm interested. I'll keep the initial email around and then when we want a single male, I can search thru and contact those I'm interested in. Very much the concept of "don't call me, i'll call you" except that i actually call people. lulz.
RDY2PLAYWU wrote:
I don't know why single guys think that everyone they write to will fall to their knees and will move heaven and earth to rush to their side to fuck them. Get real guys, you're not that smart to think they will either. First of all if you're more then 50 miles away you can most likely forgert it. If you have no picture of your face you can definetly forget it. On occation if you can actually put together several sentances that are cohearant that express your intrests you might get an answer back that may express some interest.
I hardly send messages to couples or single females, I wait for them to contact me. 99 & 44/100% they express their interestes because they match mine. I never show genital shots because in this lifestyle everyone knows what you have and size is not imortant adn you don't have to prove it. If your that hellbent to get laid there are escort services or go find a spot on the corner and choose your poison.
I'm not going to ramble, but guys don't be Jerks.
Wow, there are very few single males that understand what you do. We agree 100%. Thank you for your post.
I don't know what other SM do, or weather they know that a woman need to be suduced. I usually find out what she is looking for from her husband. If they are close then I will set up a meet at a local resturaunt adn have a few drinks. I never play on the first meeting adn I try to find out as much as I can from her what she would like me to do for her. I'll flirt with her and of course include her husband in the conversation and maybe a little touchy feely and when we wind down the evening we'll set up a time and place to meet and play. Mind you I haven't asked for any pictures they don't want to share on their own and they will never see a crotch shot of me. She'll just have to do some touchy feely to find out what she's in for.
I don't know what other guys do, but it's been successful for me. It sounds like other guys come off as JERKS from the start. And, Invite I wish we lived closer to eachother because I would love to show you what I mean and how I do things. BTW, Nice Boots, XXXX
I don't know what other guys do, but it's been successful for me. It sounds like other guys come off as JERKS from the start. And, Invite I wish we lived closer to eachother because I would love to show you what I mean and how I do things. BTW, Nice Boots, XXXX
I don't know I don't feel anyone owe's me a reply if I send an email if they aren't intersted but that is just me. Plus I like the "no new's is good new's" thought. I may never get a response but then I will always think they might be interested some year.