Okay.. so we\'ve been wondering.. and along the same lines of a couple of other \"swingers & friendship\" posts. Do you all meet people (swingers) off here & other sites etc for anything other than sex?
And if so what do you all do together?
and as someone else posted (thankyou whoever you are) in one of the other threats. When you first open up sexually with people you really don\'t know if they are going to be friends (espiecally if your meeting someone first time at a club or offline)... So what do you do?
We\'ll be the first to answer..
So far our swinging experience has been with 4 people, one long term friend who before and after we continued to meet for drinking, meals, bowling, cinema, fire\'s in the desert and just hanging out (no sex). The next we meet a couple of times for drinks and dinner before getting sexual and haven\'t had chance to re-meet yet. Following that it was definatly a one time only (not our intention, but we were lied too) and the verdict is still out on the 4th. Of course we we like #2 & #4 to become friends to hangout with benifits when they happen, but we\'ll have to wait and see.
Does anyone else wonder about this stuff?
A & P
And if so what do you all do together?
and as someone else posted (thankyou whoever you are) in one of the other threats. When you first open up sexually with people you really don\'t know if they are going to be friends (espiecally if your meeting someone first time at a club or offline)... So what do you do?
We\'ll be the first to answer..
So far our swinging experience has been with 4 people, one long term friend who before and after we continued to meet for drinking, meals, bowling, cinema, fire\'s in the desert and just hanging out (no sex). The next we meet a couple of times for drinks and dinner before getting sexual and haven\'t had chance to re-meet yet. Following that it was definatly a one time only (not our intention, but we were lied too) and the verdict is still out on the 4th. Of course we we like #2 & #4 to become friends to hangout with benifits when they happen, but we\'ll have to wait and see.
Does anyone else wonder about this stuff?
A & P
No it is not just for sex although that is a really fun part of it. Some of the things we have done with couples that we swing with inlude, going out to dinner, go to a movie together, go to a play, go to a concert, go shoot some pool toether, go bowling, invite them up to our cabin for the weekend (yes we have had couples come spend an entire weekend at the cabin and not play even though we had before and since). We like to go hiking together, fix a fun dinner in at our place in town or at the cabin and enjoy. Other things have included some plane old fashioned helping out stuff like working equipment or building something.
Lots of things we like besides fun and frolic in the bedroom, but we like that too.
Lots of things we like besides fun and frolic in the bedroom, but we like that too.
Yes we agree with Dar Dorn we have met people to swim at our place, BBQ, get dinner, a movie, and just stroll around the Mall looking for deals. Some we have slept with others we have not. As we posted before, for us it\'s A FRIENDSHIP first, and if it develops into sexual play then we know that everyone will have a good time.
With some of the folks we have met it was sex only and the relationships didn\'t last. The couples we have met with recently have also gotten with us for other activities. They have helped us put up Christmas lights, had dinner and done a lot of other things that don\'t revolve around sex. Of course we don\'t pass up on the sex either. :-)
We meet on a pretty steady basis with a few cpls to go to a karaoke bar sometimes there is a after party and sometimes we simply just do karaoke and go home. We have been on nude boating outings, just soaking in hot tub, air shows, dinner all differnt kinds of activities with our swinging friends we mix a bit of socillizing with our swinging activities but evetually at some point most end up playing with us in the end
90% of the people we meet we meet for friendship only......... there are only 10% that we click with to go further. We think the open friendship is the best part of the lifestyle.
Its nice to have friends for clubbing, camping, bowling, etc......... One\'s that aren\'t shocked at your behavior...LOL
Our lifestyle friends are probably the best friends we\'ve ever had..... Must be what we have in common huh?
Its nice to have friends for clubbing, camping, bowling, etc......... One\'s that aren\'t shocked at your behavior...LOL
Our lifestyle friends are probably the best friends we\'ve ever had..... Must be what we have in common huh?
we also meet most for friendship. we play if we have the chemistry, but that\'s not a given
We like to boat and go out on the town with our lifestyle friends. We have them over for dinner and stuff as well...
We like to boat and go out on the town with our lifestyle friends. We have them over for dinner and stuff as well...
I\'d say that the closest friendship we currently *have* - has included both playtimes - and times when everybody was clear that we were *not* playing. We encountered the couple on a nude-camera page, so first contact was \"sexual intentions\" and we got to know each other and had a period of increasing sexual intensity. But then one of the people tired of the sex and we just shut it off - but spend lots of time together doing just about everything.
The *best* relationships, I think, integrate playtime: what else *can* be as intimate as sex? But a good relationship doesn\'t depend on sex, either.
The *best* relationships, I think, integrate playtime: what else *can* be as intimate as sex? But a good relationship doesn\'t depend on sex, either.
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kristylynn
kristylynn
Absolutely get together for more than sex. BBQ.. watch a movie... dance... One of our closest friends we met through a site over 2 years ago... We have still not played with them.. B and the fellow are not on the same wavelength. he would like to but is afraid that he will be too forward... He\'s just such a gentleman and B is not sure where he stands with her so she is not making any overtures to him either. His wife and I are on the same hot and wet page but we won\'t if they won\'t so we meet do things I cajole both of them and she and I sit and wait.... We have other friends that we go to diner with and rarely play.... So absolutely there are times to just do things and times to play.. A time for every season...as the song/verse goes.
Ray
Ray
We absolutely do other things with our play friends. We\'ve gone to the movies, stayed in and watched movies, made dinner for each other, gone to the beach. Some of our out-of-town friends have stayed overnight at our house. As much as we do enjoy play time with our friends sometimes its not always possible to play so why not have some fun hanging out with them anyway?
We prefer to play with people who we enjoy talking and spending time with. Much of the talking happens online through here, email or IM as we all seem to be pretty busy most of the time. We aren\'t into one night stands and prefer there to be more than just sex, so we do like to actually spend time with couples first to get a feel for who they are and how well we get along. We view it as if we can\'t feel comfortable having dinner at a restaurant with you or hanging out and talking with you for a little bit, we wouldn\'t feel comfortable getting into bed with you.
We prefer to play with people who we enjoy talking and spending time with. Much of the talking happens online through here, email or IM as we all seem to be pretty busy most of the time. We aren\'t into one night stands and prefer there to be more than just sex, so we do like to actually spend time with couples first to get a feel for who they are and how well we get along. We view it as if we can\'t feel comfortable having dinner at a restaurant with you or hanging out and talking with you for a little bit, we wouldn\'t feel comfortable getting into bed with you.
we are going to make two posts. This one (the humor) and a more serious one. The second will take a bit of writing...
Meet em at the party
Have sex with them
find out names
go to dinner
decide it you like them
have a nice after dinner conversation
MEANT COMPLETELY as humor
Meet em at the party
Have sex with them
find out names
go to dinner
decide it you like them
have a nice after dinner conversation
MEANT COMPLETELY as humor
Hmmm... to answer this one, I would like to use to terms.... LIFESTYLES and SWINGING.
Our hope is that we can be friends on a social basis with everyone we meet, but we all know that isnt very likely.... however, we love people that are in lifestyles. We enjoy the open minded attitude, some of the taboo humor, the opprotunity to let down some of our inhibitions and just have alot of fun. Thats something that we cant really do with the people we associate with at work, at home, in our neighborhood and our family members for various reasons. Lifestyles for us can range from open topic discussions to nude hot tubs, exhibitionism, dirty dancing, etc. Then there are those people we \"swing\" with. The people that we just love to get nasty and sexual with. Some of the friendships we have fit in both areas and some never cross the line.
We have found that the best relationships we have established can be both vertical and horizontal. We love to travel with our friends in lifestyles.. attend biker rallies, dine, dance, bowl or just sit around watching a good movie or playing any of several video games. We have invited many of these people to our home to bbq, meet the family, just hang out and pass some time.
We use sources, such as this sight and others, the clubs, various meeting places, etc where people in this area of interest can be found to find new relationships and enjoy the company of others wheither its for one night or for many years to come. Is it all about the sex... No way... but sometimes the sex in any degree adds some spice to the mix.
Our hope is that we can be friends on a social basis with everyone we meet, but we all know that isnt very likely.... however, we love people that are in lifestyles. We enjoy the open minded attitude, some of the taboo humor, the opprotunity to let down some of our inhibitions and just have alot of fun. Thats something that we cant really do with the people we associate with at work, at home, in our neighborhood and our family members for various reasons. Lifestyles for us can range from open topic discussions to nude hot tubs, exhibitionism, dirty dancing, etc. Then there are those people we \"swing\" with. The people that we just love to get nasty and sexual with. Some of the friendships we have fit in both areas and some never cross the line.
We have found that the best relationships we have established can be both vertical and horizontal. We love to travel with our friends in lifestyles.. attend biker rallies, dine, dance, bowl or just sit around watching a good movie or playing any of several video games. We have invited many of these people to our home to bbq, meet the family, just hang out and pass some time.
We use sources, such as this sight and others, the clubs, various meeting places, etc where people in this area of interest can be found to find new relationships and enjoy the company of others wheither its for one night or for many years to come. Is it all about the sex... No way... but sometimes the sex in any degree adds some spice to the mix.
Hmmm we chatted with a few friends and here is what we came up with of stuff we do with our lifestyle friends:
Tutored a playmate thru a few classes in her Finance program (Females who are intellectually curious are so hot)
Helped reroof a house
Installed a new hot tub
Hung new lights
Install Windows
Went to the Renfaire with Families
Went to the water park as families
Went car shopping
Helped someone pick out a new house
Counseled some folks thru a credit crunch
Helped write a couple
Tutored a playmate thru a few classes in her Finance program (Females who are intellectually curious are so hot)
Helped reroof a house
Installed a new hot tub
Hung new lights
Install Windows
Went to the Renfaire with Families
Went to the water park as families
Went car shopping
Helped someone pick out a new house
Counseled some folks thru a credit crunch
Helped write a couple