Wife and I look for single males, single female, and couples. An are potential partners are pushy on getting right to the bed room.
Who all been dealing with Pushy potential partners?
Who all been dealing with Pushy potential partners?
I'll agree that there are some pushy people out there for sure. And for me its easy to understand how fast the other couple wants to go. If not, I have no problem asking. If your having trouble with people being pushy, I would recomend be open and honest. (everyone want that anyways) Tell them befor you meet them that you like to take it slow. You can even tell them "we dont play on the first date." (or second, or third) If this makes them not want to meet you, then you just avoided a pushy potentiel partner.
Be VERY clear about what you want, everyone will respect you for it
Be VERY clear about what you want, everyone will respect you for it
this is the Mrs.,,,,, Heck I want a pushy partner,,,,lol
its some peoples nature, just sort out the ones you dont want and keep the ones you do
wish we had pushy partners too! we prefer to get to the good stuff asap. but then again... we state it right in our profile that we are on this site for sex, not to make friends. so maybe some might consider us to be pushy....
CANDJ23 wrote:
wish we had pushy partners too! we prefer to get to the good stuff asap. but then again... we state it right in our profile that we are on this site for sex, not to make friends. so maybe some might consider us to be pushy....
Push!
CANDJ23 wrote:
wish we had pushy partners too! we prefer to get to the good stuff asap. but then again... we state it right in our profile that we are on this site for sex, not to make friends. so maybe some might consider us to be pushy....
We need to meet up. Drink, BS for a bit and then get naked!
STICKYANDSWEET wrote:CANDJ23 wrote:
wish we had pushy partners too! we prefer to get to the good stuff asap. but then again... we state it right in our profile that we are on this site for sex, not to make friends. so maybe some might consider us to be pushy....
We need to meet up. Drink, BS for a bit and then get naked!
And push for u too! :P
We think the Chase is half the fun. Dancing, drinks, flirting, and of course inappropriate fondling! If that doesn't feel right the pushy people go home alone. Who knows maybe we are pushy...
POET_RAYL wrote:
Wife and I look for single males, single female, and couples. An are potential partners are pushy on getting right to the bed room.
Who all been dealing with Pushy potential partners?
Hey Poet_Rayl, Wanna fuck?
Oops...sorry. I've been very forcefully told that sometimes I need to be more serious in these forums. I can't imagine why anyone would think that?
I do think that some folks don't really give a poop about who you are, they just want to establish physical compatibility and get right in the sack. I kinda like it when they state that right up front, and there are some really cool folks here that do exactly that. I'd like to get to know them better but they're to busy trying to fuck me!
We like getting to know people before jumping in bed or wherever it happens. Frankly, if you take the time to learn what your potential partners enjoy, it makes the sex all that much better than just going with "This is what I like...". There are people out there that come, get off, and leave without making sure anyone else has had the chance... So to an extent, we want to find out if people are actually interested in having a mutual sexual experience vs. just coming over to drop the proverbial load and leave. ...
Oooo it
[quote=SUGARSANDSPICE]Oooo it
We are NON pushy to a fault - even in regard to initially meeting others.
Yeah, it works against us more often than not.
But it beats the hell outa the opposite and getting a rep for being pushy.
We're NOT looking to fuck just anyone who comes along - butt we're always accepting applications. lol
Yeah, it works against us more often than not.
But it beats the hell outa the opposite and getting a rep for being pushy.
We're NOT looking to fuck just anyone who comes along - butt we're always accepting applications. lol
Although we are primarily a "couples only" couple, Cat recently played with her first SM (single male), who has been in the lifestyle about 6 years. We met him first in a non-sexual environment (we kinda like to get to know who we may become intimate with, in order to ensure compatibility).
We subsequently invited him to our house to play some pool (and then with Cat). Cat is very multi-orgasmic, and he apparently really enjoyed sexually playing with her. In fact, after the second "play" time, he has become quite pushy. He repeatedly contacts us, wanting more.
We really like this guy, and there is no doubt that Cat will play with him again. However, although it's flattering that he enjoys playing with Cat as much as he does, his incessant requests are starting to become a bit annoying.
So unfortunately, we are beginning to realize that this guy is becoming somewhat pushy. He's always nice about it, but pushy nonetheless! LOL Consequently, I suspect that some SM don't take into consideration the fact that a married female has some obligations and can't necessarily play at the drop of a hat!
Regardless, I (Don) love it when she plays with him, as I'm an ardent perv. I love to watch and take pics (I don't participate...just perv)! Speaking of pics (figuratively lol), I have some really sexy (private) pic of this on another site. I may try to upload them here too, once I become more familiar with this site (first post).
We subsequently invited him to our house to play some pool (and then with Cat). Cat is very multi-orgasmic, and he apparently really enjoyed sexually playing with her. In fact, after the second "play" time, he has become quite pushy. He repeatedly contacts us, wanting more.
We really like this guy, and there is no doubt that Cat will play with him again. However, although it's flattering that he enjoys playing with Cat as much as he does, his incessant requests are starting to become a bit annoying.
So unfortunately, we are beginning to realize that this guy is becoming somewhat pushy. He's always nice about it, but pushy nonetheless! LOL Consequently, I suspect that some SM don't take into consideration the fact that a married female has some obligations and can't necessarily play at the drop of a hat!
Regardless, I (Don) love it when she plays with him, as I'm an ardent perv. I love to watch and take pics (I don't participate...just perv)! Speaking of pics (figuratively lol), I have some really sexy (private) pic of this on another site. I may try to upload them here too, once I become more familiar with this site (first post).
Push Push in the Bush
Wow, I need to update our profile to say what a geek I am, and how little of a dumbass dickhole I am... I am so glad we have the forums as I learn every day the ways of wooing such lovely women.
Ya we just learn about the creepy space invaders at parties . Got to be more careful on who's bringing girls as bait for their chance to move in on the action .. Lesson learned.
DDRIVER03 wrote:
Ya we just learn about the creepy space invaders at parties . Got to be more careful on who's bringing girls as bait for their chance to move in on the action .. Lesson learned.
Amen brother, we noticed the same thing. Just because it's a swinger party doesn't make it a free-for-all, touch who you want party... There should still be some communication, respect, and some consent given, but that's just my humble two cents...
But when do you cause a scene or say something to the host when your not knowing if they are friends or what to do?
DDRIVER03 wrote:
But when do you cause a scene or say something to the host when your not knowing if they are friends or what to do?
i usually give a few friendly warnings before i decide if i'm gonna make a big deal out of it. if saying "no thanks", "please stop", and "hey dude. knock it off" doesn't work... :S
[quote=HELLO_KITTY12984][quote=DDRIVER03]But when do you cause a scene or say something to the host when your not knowing if they are friends or what to do?
i usually give a few friendly warnings before i decide if i'm gonna make a big deal out of it. if saying "no thanks", "please stop", and "hey dude. knock it off" doesn't work..
Yes he finally got the hints. I still text the host abs gave her a heads up for next time .
i usually give a few friendly warnings before i decide if i'm gonna make a big deal out of it. if saying "no thanks", "please stop", and "hey dude. knock it off" doesn't work..
Yes he finally got the hints. I still text the host abs gave her a heads up for next time .
We don't liked to be pushed to the point of feeling stalked either. And we both realize that when we're trying to "seize" an opportunity, it may seem pushy when others do the same, and we might not even realize it.
Pushy to one, might be lagging behind too slowly for others. I think that as long as everyone knows what the other people's goals are, it should be ok.
Hey there DonCat. I'd be pushy around Cat too !!
Cinn
Pushy to one, might be lagging behind too slowly for others. I think that as long as everyone knows what the other people's goals are, it should be ok.
Hey there DonCat. I'd be pushy around Cat too !!
Cinn
Being grabbed or assaulted is not being pushy. It is totally improper and is totally different from someone requesting anything. Grabbing a woman that does not wish to be touched is never ok. A firm no or not interested should be enough for anyone making a request but an honest explanation would also be appropriate in most cases. Most folks live within rules as long as they know what the rule is.
Yet, pushy is a personality thing and hard to define. I think that asking for a date or M&G or to be invited back is hardly being pushy unless you have been told specifically about what someone else considers pushy. Please remember that not everyone has the same feelings or perspective. Most folks don
Yet, pushy is a personality thing and hard to define. I think that asking for a date or M&G or to be invited back is hardly being pushy unless you have been told specifically about what someone else considers pushy. Please remember that not everyone has the same feelings or perspective. Most folks don
[quote=SUGARSANDSPICE]Being grabbed or assaulted is not being pushy. It is totally improper and is totally different from someone requesting anything. Grabbing a woman that does not wish to be touched is never ok. A firm no or not interested should be enough for anyone making a request but an honest explanation would also be appropriate in most cases. Most folks live within rules as long as they know what the rule is.
Yet, pushy is a personality thing and hard to define. I think that asking for a date or M&G or to be invited back is hardly being pushy unless you have been told specifically about what someone else considers pushy. Please remember that not everyone has the same feelings or perspective. Most folks don
Yet, pushy is a personality thing and hard to define. I think that asking for a date or M&G or to be invited back is hardly being pushy unless you have been told specifically about what someone else considers pushy. Please remember that not everyone has the same feelings or perspective. Most folks don
DDRIVER03 wrote:
Yea totally agree we don't mind forward pepole that are interested in me our the misses and I learned that I need to be more aware and not get into the situation so much that image not in creep defense. The wife we as play with a girl that this creep had brought so he could get in and I was playing with the wife and never noticed this guy
And when I did I thought he was only playing with his friend but apperantly he was creeping the misses and I by the time I notice she was upset but and I'm upset at my self for that and that wil never happen again and she learned that her voice is more powerful than signs or signals. But all was good nobody was hurt and everyone else was very awsome and fun
One of the things we have learned over time is that the woman's voice and approval is always the bottom line. If a woman says no, not interested...that's it. There always has to be a respect for both partners if it's gonna work. Otherwise, your phone just ain't gonna ring...
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