Just looking for a little discussion and some opinions on this issue. Here is a brief exerpt of an email we received from a single male on another site: \"Ur wife has a hot body. I would do ANYTHING to be with her 1 time. I would even pay.\"
What exactly is this? We are not currently in search of single men (and one would know that if they actually read the profile), however, we don\'t have them blocked on this site and have never received any such correspondence. The \"I would even pay\" part is getting to us the most. Is this really how wives that swing are viewed be single men in the community? Who writes this crap? Why do they write it? It amazes us that one would actually think that a communication of this sort would actually be a legitimate 1st step in getting the Mrs. in the sack.
We are curious how we as a collective whole respond to these types of letters (if we respond at all). What are our actions taken? Do respond in as rude and crass of a manner as he approached us? Do we not respond at all? Do we take the time to give this guy a class in how one approaches a couple? Do the site administrators need to know of these behaviors?
As we are new, the collective knowledge you share is always greatly appreciated.
All the best,
C&D
What exactly is this? We are not currently in search of single men (and one would know that if they actually read the profile), however, we don\'t have them blocked on this site and have never received any such correspondence. The \"I would even pay\" part is getting to us the most. Is this really how wives that swing are viewed be single men in the community? Who writes this crap? Why do they write it? It amazes us that one would actually think that a communication of this sort would actually be a legitimate 1st step in getting the Mrs. in the sack.
We are curious how we as a collective whole respond to these types of letters (if we respond at all). What are our actions taken? Do respond in as rude and crass of a manner as he approached us? Do we not respond at all? Do we take the time to give this guy a class in how one approaches a couple? Do the site administrators need to know of these behaviors?
As we are new, the collective knowledge you share is always greatly appreciated.
All the best,
C&D
How to treat rude people......
IMHO..with contempt, and certainly not with a reply unless you have a template reply for "You are rude and obnoxious, and I/We will thank you not to contact us ever again!".
If you are wanting to party with a single or a couple, the best way to do that is with a well crafted, polite email that oozes respect, seeing as we're talking email. In real life it is a different story and I urge you to go with your initial gut reaction !!!.
If you can't manage basic courtesy, respect and take time to check your spelling in an email (HINT:spell check is a BIG help here people - nobodies 100% perfect), then we are going to be of the opinions, right or wrong, that you aren't respectful in person.
Personally, the last thing I want is for any partner or friend of mine to be put in the position where some A$$hat turns up expecting to play and is as psychotic as their email. Respect cuts both ways, I expect it and so try to be as respectful of others as is possible. I still have fun, I continue to learn, I continue to make new friends. I may come across as being pompous or picky (hey you only have 1 life and I want mine to be long and happy) but if there's no respect, I'm not interested past "you're cute". Looks aren't everything!
IMHO..with contempt, and certainly not with a reply unless you have a template reply for "You are rude and obnoxious, and I/We will thank you not to contact us ever again!".
If you are wanting to party with a single or a couple, the best way to do that is with a well crafted, polite email that oozes respect, seeing as we're talking email. In real life it is a different story and I urge you to go with your initial gut reaction !!!.
If you can't manage basic courtesy, respect and take time to check your spelling in an email (HINT:spell check is a BIG help here people - nobodies 100% perfect), then we are going to be of the opinions, right or wrong, that you aren't respectful in person.
Personally, the last thing I want is for any partner or friend of mine to be put in the position where some A$$hat turns up expecting to play and is as psychotic as their email. Respect cuts both ways, I expect it and so try to be as respectful of others as is possible. I still have fun, I continue to learn, I continue to make new friends. I may come across as being pompous or picky (hey you only have 1 life and I want mine to be long and happy) but if there's no respect, I'm not interested past "you're cute". Looks aren't everything!
We get a lot of emails that same the same type things and even worse.........We just answer them and chalk it up to them being young (in most cases) or slightly ignorant as to the proper way to approach a woman or couple................
It's email like what you received we forward to the site webmaster/owner and let them deal with them. People like this ruin it for the good folks out there...
Well, since they've already offered to "pay," then they're guilty of soliciting prostitution. You could just turn them into your local DA's office and punish their rude behavior. Could also be entertaining for you. 
In the alternative, you could have them PayPal you a nominal fee, say $50, to demonstrate real ability and willingness to pay.
In the alternative, you could have them PayPal you a nominal fee, say $50, to demonstrate real ability and willingness to pay.
We have recieved many emails from many single men...We are one of the few who actually entertain them...and advertise this fact...We have gotten anything from, "Wanna Fuck" , "I have a 10 inch cock, I would love to show you how to fuck your wife," and our favorite, "Free this weekend, wanna meet and fuck?" Well..if the idiot looked at the profile, he would see that we do not need a big one, already have it...at least before the site crash...someday we will reload them...But basically...I (the male half) came into the lifestyle with the typical "single male mentality" which is, IMHO, this will be any easy place to meet women and get some action...But then I met my gal...My first lifestyle experience...and I am glad I never wrote to anyone, tried to chat with anyone, or anything like that before her...Because I would have been one of those obnoxious ones...at least at first...NOw I realize that women, and men for that matter, are here NOT for me...but I am here for them...IF THEY DECIDE TO ALLOW ME TO BE A PART OF THEIR LIFE OR FUN...sooooooo...WHat do we do? We simply reply with a "You are rude, crass, goofy and ugly...we are not interested...P.S.- Get a life..."
Just my (the male here...I filter all contacts, I have the time to do so) 2 cents....
Just my (the male here...I filter all contacts, I have the time to do so) 2 cents....
It's sad that the single male class on the net is degraded by a few that just have no concept of respect and proper behavior. The the behavior of these few JERKS turns off the people interested in finding a extra and supports the feeling of not wanting an extra for those these JERKS hit on anyway.
Sadly the combination of there never being a shortage of them and the fact that perhaps they do get lucky every so often keeps them coming back.
PLEASE PLEASE report them. If someone is sending you something that is written with no respect and I believe it's the WebAdmin job to watch out for these people and kick them off the site.
Single guy
Richmond Va
Sadly the combination of there never being a shortage of them and the fact that perhaps they do get lucky every so often keeps them coming back.
PLEASE PLEASE report them. If someone is sending you something that is written with no respect and I believe it's the WebAdmin job to watch out for these people and kick them off the site.
Single guy
Richmond Va
What aggravates us worse than some of the one liners they use is the lies they tell. We have not met a guy yet who did not lie about either his age, weight, marital status, or especially his cock size. When we want to add a guy to our play she wants it bigger. We try to get them to show picks up front and they use all kinds of creative ways to falsley show how big they are.
Never once has a guy been as big as he claimed. Guys even use pics of other men and mark out the face thinking we can't tell.
Basically, its the overall dishonesty and games they play that has aggravated us. Its not just this site, its all the others we are on too.
The good guys get a bad rap because of the liars. Its somewhat easy to tell the liars from the good ones because the liars always get angry when you ask them questions or make them show proof.
We know there are a few good guys out there we just wish we could find one with a big Johnson.
Never once has a guy been as big as he claimed. Guys even use pics of other men and mark out the face thinking we can't tell.
Basically, its the overall dishonesty and games they play that has aggravated us. Its not just this site, its all the others we are on too.
The good guys get a bad rap because of the liars. Its somewhat easy to tell the liars from the good ones because the liars always get angry when you ask them questions or make them show proof.
We know there are a few good guys out there we just wish we could find one with a big Johnson.
In our experience its not been just "single men" who lie. How about the couple who has photos that are a good 10 years old....... or the couple, male, or female, that send the really really really close up shots so that you can't see what they are trying to hide on their bodies..........?????
You are right its not just the single guys but thats we have mostly dealt with. We too have seen the couple pics that were carefully taken so as to hide something. A LOT of people use old pics taken when they much slimmer. A line I saw on another web site summed it up best.
"if your pictures do not look like you do you really think no one will notice?"
We have also experienced the ones who absolutely will not show any pic at all and want you to meet them anyway! Yeah right!
"if your pictures do not look like you do you really think no one will notice?"
We have also experienced the ones who absolutely will not show any pic at all and want you to meet them anyway! Yeah right!
web cam is probably the best way to go. What you see is what you get!
It would save us a ton of emails traded back and forth only to find out we were lied to when we meet in person. I wish everyone had a web cam.
I'm only adding this because it is timely. Here is the exchange between a single guy and us over the last two days:
Him: "hi I enjoyed reading yr profile. I am looking for fun. I travel often will be in yr area soon. Here is a little about me. Single but not looking for a perm. I will cum to u......"
Us: "Thanks for the email, and we are flattered, but our dance card is full right now.
Hope you find what you are looking for.
Take care"
Him: "it is funny that u have to lie whats wrong with the truth . Are u affraid she might find bigger is better?"
And then he blocked us. LOL
Mr. Caress4u
Him: "hi I enjoyed reading yr profile. I am looking for fun. I travel often will be in yr area soon. Here is a little about me. Single but not looking for a perm. I will cum to u......"
Us: "Thanks for the email, and we are flattered, but our dance card is full right now.
Hope you find what you are looking for.
Take care"
Him: "it is funny that u have to lie whats wrong with the truth . Are u affraid she might find bigger is better?"
And then he blocked us. LOL
Mr. Caress4u
I guess to me, the email is the introduction to a possible new friend / friends. I like to be entertained and see a spark of intelligence. I try to make my emails the same so that I'
m a little witty, maybe a bit suggestive as that's why we're basically here, but be respectful as the person I'm writing to isn't going to give me a second chance if I make a poor first impression.
So, you have someone you're interested in. THey come across as being someone(s) you can get along with and you may have chatted online via email or an instant Messenger. INvite them to party? NOPE..meet up someplace public and chat first. Talk about your lives, what you like, dislike. You may have already discussed this online or by phone before hand, but a public meeting lets you see what the people you meet online are really like.
I agree that there are a great deal of liars out here in cyberspace, enhanced pictures, pics of others, 'exagerations' and outright fabrications. Some people will do ANYTHING to get laid, and if they are prepared to lie extensivelt, have no respect, I have to wonder what else they are lying about. I practise safe sex, I expect others to. I really don't want to catch anything, or MUCH WORSE pass anything on to another.
Just me but RESPECT and HONESTY are keywords for me in this lifestyle.
m a little witty, maybe a bit suggestive as that's why we're basically here, but be respectful as the person I'm writing to isn't going to give me a second chance if I make a poor first impression.
So, you have someone you're interested in. THey come across as being someone(s) you can get along with and you may have chatted online via email or an instant Messenger. INvite them to party? NOPE..meet up someplace public and chat first. Talk about your lives, what you like, dislike. You may have already discussed this online or by phone before hand, but a public meeting lets you see what the people you meet online are really like.
I agree that there are a great deal of liars out here in cyberspace, enhanced pictures, pics of others, 'exagerations' and outright fabrications. Some people will do ANYTHING to get laid, and if they are prepared to lie extensivelt, have no respect, I have to wonder what else they are lying about. I practise safe sex, I expect others to. I really don't want to catch anything, or MUCH WORSE pass anything on to another.
Just me but RESPECT and HONESTY are keywords for me in this lifestyle.
Him: "it is funny that u have to lie whats wrong with the truth . Are u affraid she might find bigger is better?"
And then he blocked us. LOL
Yep, we have received those kind of emails too. Amazing what someone who can hide behind a pc will say. If my wife did not want to keep looking right now I would say to hell with it all. Im VERY tired of dealing with them! Same with couples. Way too many fakes and wanna be's there as well.
And then he blocked us. LOL
Yep, we have received those kind of emails too. Amazing what someone who can hide behind a pc will say. If my wife did not want to keep looking right now I would say to hell with it all. Im VERY tired of dealing with them! Same with couples. Way too many fakes and wanna be's there as well.
Hi all,
Well honestly I can say the problem is the wrong attitude.. A some single guys don't understand that this lifestyle is exactly that, a lifestyle. Swinging is not just one big sex romp. People look to make friends and build trust. I used to be a regular at a club in San Diego that allowed singles. Many times the ones that complained that the club sucked are the single males that just sat and expected women to come up to them. You can't have fun if you don't socialize and talk with people. The other thing they did wrong was just go up and be voltures. Couples and women don't like people to circle them like carion. I always told newbies, be freindly, outgoing and yourself. People warm up to each other slowly, and comfort levels are met slowly. I for one would never disrespect a couple, or lady just to try and get laid. So that's my 2 cents.
Well honestly I can say the problem is the wrong attitude.. A some single guys don't understand that this lifestyle is exactly that, a lifestyle. Swinging is not just one big sex romp. People look to make friends and build trust. I used to be a regular at a club in San Diego that allowed singles. Many times the ones that complained that the club sucked are the single males that just sat and expected women to come up to them. You can't have fun if you don't socialize and talk with people. The other thing they did wrong was just go up and be voltures. Couples and women don't like people to circle them like carion. I always told newbies, be freindly, outgoing and yourself. People warm up to each other slowly, and comfort levels are met slowly. I for one would never disrespect a couple, or lady just to try and get laid. So that's my 2 cents.