Darn that I messed up the title. How to not seem overly prepared?
Like have a hotel room already.
Lets say we are going on a first date with a newbies couple. Yes there are newer newbies than us.
How do you prepare for what might happen after a nice dinner? Assuming both homes are not an option. Do you get a room ahead of time so that you can ask them to join you for an after dinner drink? do you ask them to bring some sexy outfits for a fashion show for the guys just in case.
You know how intimidating it is to go have to check in to a hotel as newbies and even just going to a hotel is a big deal. Although once you get there the gals tend to go all motel on ya.
Yes we could just not plan for anything but then it never happens and with busy folks like we are and seem to gravitate towards it can take a month to reschedule a 2nd date.
Just trying to work on what to do to get from a nice dinner where things are clicking to some action. THis is not an easy thing for us. Please make some suggestions. The other couple are total newbies but have been thinking of this for a year at least.
Like have a hotel room already.
Lets say we are going on a first date with a newbies couple. Yes there are newer newbies than us.
How do you prepare for what might happen after a nice dinner? Assuming both homes are not an option. Do you get a room ahead of time so that you can ask them to join you for an after dinner drink? do you ask them to bring some sexy outfits for a fashion show for the guys just in case.
You know how intimidating it is to go have to check in to a hotel as newbies and even just going to a hotel is a big deal. Although once you get there the gals tend to go all motel on ya.
Yes we could just not plan for anything but then it never happens and with busy folks like we are and seem to gravitate towards it can take a month to reschedule a 2nd date.
Just trying to work on what to do to get from a nice dinner where things are clicking to some action. THis is not an easy thing for us. Please make some suggestions. The other couple are total newbies but have been thinking of this for a year at least.
I just make sure I've shaved everything. heeheehee
DW, yes we have been in a private setting and kept on talking and missed some opportunities. My gal is not one to initiate things. It seems to be up to me and I need some advice. but in this situation what do you do after a nice long dinner.? (hopefully there has been some privacy for a sexy conversation) I mean "lets go to Habits" and waste 2 more hours.
Or "we have a room because we decided to make it a getaway night, do you guys want to come over for a drink?"
IF we had a room with the candles and light rope and AC already cranking it would be much better than having to all go and check in.
Or "we have a room because we decided to make it a getaway night, do you guys want to come over for a drink?"
IF we had a room with the candles and light rope and AC already cranking it would be much better than having to all go and check in.
I would wait to get a room. But I also worry about spending the money and then not using it if you dont click. However if its a sure thing that the attraction is there then yes get a room prep it turn on the A/C have some wine either breathing or chilling and just say after the nice meal, "Well that was wonderful lets go to our room and have a nice glass of wine" my guess is they will say yes and jump at the chance. All it takes is someone being brave.
Well The wife and I could always enjoy the room after they leave if nothing happens. The sitting area over some wine would provide a nice quiet place to get to know a new couple better than any other place I could think of.
I could just tell them no expectations but what else do we do? I mean if we go out dancing we wont get to know them much better.
I might just be brave.
I could just tell them no expectations but what else do we do? I mean if we go out dancing we wont get to know them much better.
I might just be brave.
We enjoy fun with newbies and we have no problem inviting them over to our home. Always have the hot tub ready in case that is desired post date or meet n greet. Sometimes its just a comfortable break the ice evening with dinner and chatting to see if theres a connection, and other times sparks fly
. But occasionally there are times when its obvious theres no connection and chalk it up to experience. We just prepare as casual as possible,not always dressing to impress, just being comfortable and real. If playin happens great, if not, have fun anyway.
. But occasionally there are times when its obvious theres no connection and chalk it up to experience. We just prepare as casual as possible,not always dressing to impress, just being comfortable and real. If playin happens great, if not, have fun anyway.I had a guy wanting to meet and he showed up in running clothes - tee shirt, shorts, shoes, and tons of sweat. Yep. He thought I would want to go out/hook up with that right after his 5 mile run. Um. Not. On the other hand I've had guys show up in torn pants or shirt and immediately ask to take me straight to a hotel room. UH WHAT?
Somewhere in the middle. Dress nicely and be prepared to be good company. And if there is chemistry, then start your flirting game.
Somewhere in the middle. Dress nicely and be prepared to be good company. And if there is chemistry, then start your flirting game.
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SPEXDEX can we study off of your notes?
I guess we are just brave Haha. If we want to get down then we say so at the first meeting 
If you don't want to feel like a jackass then text it Haha that always makes saying stuff easier thats our two cents[/color]
Oh and another thing, if you don't want to all go in to check a hotel, have one of the guys go and leave the two women and one man.in the car, excellent way to get things started!!
If you don't want to feel like a jackass then text it Haha that always makes saying stuff easier
thats our two cents[/color]Oh and another thing, if you don't want to all go in to check a hotel, have one of the guys go and leave the two women and one man.in the car, excellent way to get things started!!
SPEXDEX wrote:
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Lol you are funny......Made me laugh!!!!
WJHOTCOUPLE wrote:
SPEXDEX can we study off of your notes?
Only if you let me show you what we've learned...lol
HOTFIRELOVERS wrote:SPEXDEX wrote:
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Lol you are funny......Made me laugh!!!!
Seriously, gonna have to move the sex swing out of the living room. Probably why the missionaries never want to come in...no pun intended....
Did someone say sex swing? *perks up*
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
Maybemor,
Since it is up to you start with some humor. Ask them if they would like to see your impression of an elephant. If they yes then stand up pull your front pants pockets inside out and your Johnson out the front of your fly and wave in around while making elephant noises. If that does not work then I just don't know what is wrong with world.
making it twirl around while chanting "helicopter helicopter over your head" gets me there every time.
Seriously.. It would take some amazing chemistry and interest for me to get naked with someone on the first meeting...
IDBLUESWOMAN wrote:
Seriously.. It would take some amazing chemistry and interest for me to get naked with someone on the first meeting...
well how about you get naked in the other room, and then we just meet in another room? Yeah, I'm a problem solver.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
Maybemor,
Since it is up to you start with some humor. Ask them if they would like to see your impression of an elephant. If they yes then stand up pull your front pants pockets inside out and your Johnson out the front of your fly and wave in around while making elephant noises. If that does not work then I just don't know what is wrong with world.
We did think that was funny... Maybe we'll try that on our next date.