I have been communicating with a very nice mature couple for some time. We plan to hook up soon and are all very anxious to get it rolling. Without being a complete bumbling idiot what do you, with all of your experinces, reccomend as an ice-breaker to get us into full swing.? I know that you can\'t just take off your close 30 sec after introductions. LOL
Please share your early experiences with us that are new to this life style. Thanks and hope you all had a great holiday season.
Please share your early experiences with us that are new to this life style. Thanks and hope you all had a great holiday season.
We have used card games sorta like strip poker to get the ball rolling its a good ice breaker once everyone agrees on what rules one game we use once everyone has lost the clothing we go to \"sexual favors\" the loser has to do a favor for the winner. Have fun
sanantx, is this your 1st meeting? have you talked in chat, on the phone? With us as a cpl usually when we invite a single male to join us he has spent a little time getting to know us and she will take care of the rolling balls lol sorry for the pun just our honest answer.
This is a topic I could have used last night - maybe it\'s because it was our first experience, but I spent probably five minutes floundering around not knowing how to (or who should) make the first move. Thankfully eventually he did, but it was an embarrassing few minutes. Hooray for the understanding guy!!!
For the record, this was once we knew clothes were supposed to start coming off, as well - we\'d had dinner and gotten past the initial meeting just fine.
If it\'s a one-on-one meeting, do you treat it differently?
Ang
For the record, this was once we knew clothes were supposed to start coming off, as well - we\'d had dinner and gotten past the initial meeting just fine.
If it\'s a one-on-one meeting, do you treat it differently?
Ang
This is a great topic. We spent 4 hours at someone\'s home one evening. All 3 couples new it was supposed to be play night. After 4 hours of XXX movies and not one piece of clothing moving, we called it a night and left. Hosting couple was upset that we left and let us know the next day.
Ok here is where we stand on it. \"HOSTING COUPLE\" it is up to you to move the party along. It is your house and everyone respects how you treat the evening. No one is going to get naked unless they are pretty sure it is ok to start the games.
We have a hot tub and have found it is a great way to start the evening or just to get very comfy with another couple. There have been several times when we all get naked and soak and don\'t have sex, but, have a great time talking. All inhibitions are down and any topic is open to talk about. Makes for a very relaxed time and you find out more about the people you are sitting with.
So when we get rid of the kid again....ANY ONE WANNA COME OVER AND SOAK and whatever is next. wink wink wink..
Sorry I put all our pics on the private side and haven\'t moved em to public yet.. so if you want to see us drop us a note and I will gladly send..
Rick
Ok here is where we stand on it. \"HOSTING COUPLE\" it is up to you to move the party along. It is your house and everyone respects how you treat the evening. No one is going to get naked unless they are pretty sure it is ok to start the games.
We have a hot tub and have found it is a great way to start the evening or just to get very comfy with another couple. There have been several times when we all get naked and soak and don\'t have sex, but, have a great time talking. All inhibitions are down and any topic is open to talk about. Makes for a very relaxed time and you find out more about the people you are sitting with.
So when we get rid of the kid again....ANY ONE WANNA COME OVER AND SOAK and whatever is next. wink wink wink..
Sorry I put all our pics on the private side and haven\'t moved em to public yet.. so if you want to see us drop us a note and I will gladly send..
Rick
99% of the house parties we go to are well organized and have mixer games or other ways of getting people involved in losing inhibitions - and clothing at the same time. If the games don\'t get things going, the wife and I will start making out, petting, etc... maybe more if people aren\'t leering and we begin to instigate some action elsewhere in the room/party. If anyone else joins in, so be it. If not, we will move elsewhere in the house/party and we still get off. 
We ain\'t wastin\' a good time!
-Roger (& T)
We ain\'t wastin\' a good time! -Roger (& T)
We found that having an adult film that all can watch and comment on. It usually gets folks in the mood. :-) or we have used strip poker and one time we had candles lit to set atmosphere and then traded massages. :-)
We usually will go out for dinner and drinks then go back to one of the houses and play strip poker to get everyone comfy and then go have fun!!
That\'s just what works for us.
That\'s just what works for us.
We love to chat and talk... then move the subject on the swinging.. Usually its people we\'ve been in email contact before with or messaged. So we know something about them.
We liked to play cards.. Truth or Dare, Spin the bottle.. all thats good stuff.
We also like MondoPondo & 4play (two computerized ice breakers).
Of course.. Porn in the DVD player can break the ice too really depends on who, how & why your meeting.
Our experience is limited but we\'ve always had fun after the few first nervous giggles.
Anyone interested in a big game of strip poker (Texas Hold \'em) sometime?
Amanda & Peter
We liked to play cards.. Truth or Dare, Spin the bottle.. all thats good stuff.
We also like MondoPondo & 4play (two computerized ice breakers).
Of course.. Porn in the DVD player can break the ice too really depends on who, how & why your meeting.
Our experience is limited but we\'ve always had fun after the few first nervous giggles.
Anyone interested in a big game of strip poker (Texas Hold \'em) sometime?
Amanda & Peter
We have a sexy version of spin the bottle that we use when cples come over and it is akward getting started.It has suggestions like kiss neck and fondle lower...etc.Usually only takes several spins and no longer needed.
Strip poker for us..Nice way to start...
Agree about host couple...they should lead the way...
Agree about host couple...they should lead the way...
we are fairly new to the lifestyle (4 months) and have full swapped with 3 cpls and soft swapped with 3 others. And so far no single guys or females yet. In our experience, we've learned a little alcy help relax everyone but anyone getting completely drunk is a bad thing for many possible reasons.
We tried an ice-breaker of using bondage cuffs and cuffing the female of 1 cpl to the male of the other cpl while we were just getting to know each other which was fun. the next time we tried adding blindfolds, which was also fun. it was a way of same room fun but had that "seperate room" feel cuz u could only see and concentrate on what was happening to you
Another night we cuffed/strapped/blindfolded the males to the beds and let the females take control of the initial foreplay and teasing.
Does anyone have any good Ice-breakers for 1st meets and nights where playing is wanted but dunno how to start it?
We tried an ice-breaker of using bondage cuffs and cuffing the female of 1 cpl to the male of the other cpl while we were just getting to know each other which was fun. the next time we tried adding blindfolds, which was also fun. it was a way of same room fun but had that "seperate room" feel cuz u could only see and concentrate on what was happening to you
Another night we cuffed/strapped/blindfolded the males to the beds and let the females take control of the initial foreplay and teasing.
Does anyone have any good Ice-breakers for 1st meets and nights where playing is wanted but dunno how to start it?
no-ones yet mentioned that old stand-by: duct tape 
best case senario is to just be yourselves! if things go well all is good. if not maybe you at least make new friends to go clubbing with!!!! have fun!
Even seasoned, I find this to be an issue sometimes with new partners. I don't want to come across as pushy, but at the same time don't want to seem un-interested. I've had situations in the past where I came across to fast and the night ended early, as well as the opposite where I didn't make a move, nothing happened, then later had a conversation where they said they were interested but I never made a move. The best thing I've found that works is if we are all sitting together, to start out with light touching/rubbing...if the response is well...take it from there.
my wife is impatient,lol...she gets it going everytime
We had an uneventful meeting this last week. We have meet 6 couples now for drinks, and I'm not sure what it is or isn't we are doing wrong. The first meeting was fun, we still hang with them in the local bar. And I think we all will get together someday. Then the second couple had misrepresented them selves(there pics where nearly 8 years old, and time had not done them well) not to say they lied about age, weight, and height. Then there was the fact that the husband was an lets be nice and say asshole. He ignored his wife and kept grabbing at me and making rude suggestions as soon as we meet, even after I ask him to knock it off. The the next couple we met at a party, and they took the lead, and we blew it, being new to parties and all we wanted to stay longer, and well they where ready to play, But the next day we did get to have a great breakfast and visit, and I know we will all get together someday. The 4Th couple is alot like the first, maybe someday but we need to get to know them better, she is somewhat shy and needs to go slower also. Our 5Th couple we where ready but she also needs time to feel confortable with the male half so time will tell. Then there was last weekend. We had talked to the males(female didn't join in any conversations) we all went to dinner, she was so sexy. Was told they had swung for years, but she was shy. so to make a long story short after 7 bars(he likes to bar hop, but is a DD) and 5 hours I saw or received no inkling that she was even interested in me,(female, she's bi) So she finally pulled her titties out in the car but after feeling ignored and like it was all about her(to high maintenance for me,she even change shoes to go to different bars, made me feel like Ellie Mae on Beverly Hillbillies)So They took us back to our truck and we drove home.Not to mention the whole night they where texting another couple for back up sexy in case we didn't work out. HELP what are we doing wrong and whats wrong with us?
Well it really comes down to what she is comfortable with, maybe if you chat about acting out a fantasy of hers it will get the ball rolling quicker. Maybe it will even involve strip poker and a hot tub.
Bob
Bob