Swingers Forum - Bi-Sexuality

There are girls that state they are bi-curious and bi-comfortable. At what point, if ever, do you determine that you're no longer "curious" or "comfortable"? Also, what does being "comfortable" mean to you?

THE_RED_REVIEW wrote:

Here's how I see it and I admit that I could be way off the mark so feel free to throw me to the wolves if you disagree. (hubby speaking here).

Bi-Comfortable: I can tolerate touching someone of the same sex in a group setting but would not seek out a simple one on one encounter. How much of course will vary depending on the people involved. Also called Bi-friendly. A good example would be two men not afraid to touch dicks in order to accomplish a double penetration. I use men as the example here since the homophobia tends to be stronger with us.

Bi-Curious: I find members of the opposite sex attractive and would like to have a sexual encounter with them. Possibly alone or in a group setting. However, at this point I am unsure though whether I would enjoy it due to my lack of experience but I'm certainly willing to give it a whirl.

Bi-Sexual: I am attracted to members of both sexes. I have experience with the same sex and would engage in activity with the someone of the same sex in a one-on-one encounter as well as someone of the opposite sex. The degree of encounter may vary as some people are only orally bi whereas others are fully bi.

Very well put!!!! dont think it could have been said any better than that!!!

THE_RED_REVIEW wrote:

Here's how I see it and I admit that I could be way off the mark so feel free to throw me to the wolves if you disagree. (hubby speaking here).

Bi-Comfortable: I can tolerate touching someone of the same sex in a group setting but would not seek out a simple one on one encounter. How much of course will vary depending on the people involved. Also called Bi-friendly. A good example would be two men not afraid to touch dicks in order to accomplish a double penetration. I use men as the example here since the homophobia tends to be stronger with us.

Bi-Curious: I find members of the opposite sex attractive and would like to have a sexual encounter with them. Possibly alone or in a group setting. However, at this point I am unsure though whether I would enjoy it due to my lack of experience but I'm certainly willing to give it a whirl.

Bi-Sexual: I am attracted to members of both sexes. I have experience with the same sex and would engage in activity with the someone of the same sex in a one-on-one encounter as well as someone of the opposite sex. The degree of encounter may vary as some people are only orally bi whereas others are fully bi.

When does it change? Or, does it change? Again, questions for the girls of Swingular. Please, keep the if/then statements to a minimum. That's the politically correct way out of answering the question.

HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:

Excellent definitions.

As for when/if it ever changes... wouldn't that be up to the individual?
Logically it would change for me if I decided that females get me all hot and bothered and I actively sought out girl/girl encounters.

Logic? How do you mean?

THE_RED_REVIEW wrote:

When does it change? Or, does it change? Again, questions for the girls of Swingular. Please, keep the if/then statements to a minimum. That's the politically correct way out of answering the question.

I suppose it changes when the person decides to embrace their new feelings. One might start off as bi-curious, have an experience, then decide that it isn't for them. I think that's probably the starting point though. From there people become bi-comfortable or bi-sexual as they progress. Maybe they don't "become" that so much as they find out that it was always a part of who they are and what they enjoy. I'm sorry if my answers are vague but most of this is hypothetical. As a man I can say that I've enjoyed other men orally for a long time but have never had a desire for anal sex. My wife is curious about being with another woman and has played some though she also has limits about where she is comfortable. As we have more experiences those limits may go away or they could solidify. It is up to the individual.

Are you running for office?

WESEE wrote:

Bi-Curious = You wonder if there's anything else left to do with another woman.

Bi-Comfortable = The double dong fits equally into both pussies, and you could take an even bigger one.

Bi-Sexual = Hmm the neighbors Great Dane is looking especially hot today!

Great outlook on the situation Mrs. WESEE. With that being said, Mrs. WESEE, is there a point when you decide you aren't curious anymore?

BORNBRIT wrote:

WESEE wrote:

Bi-Curious = You wonder if there's anything else left to do with another woman.

Bi-Comfortable = The double dong fits equally into both pussies, and you could take an even bigger one.

Bi-Sexual = Hmm the neighbors Great Dane is looking especially hot today!

naughty girl, love it!

Well done with avoiding answering the question directly.

LUSCIOUS_74 wrote:

AMMEND wrote:



Well done with avoiding answering the question directly.

At what point do you actually care what anyone answers? If you know the answer you want, don't bother asking.

Apparently the definition of logic/logically is also unknown when including it in a sentence involving bisexuality or the lack thereof. hahaha

here you go someones I can't delete you can have fun with the same topic

I have to be comfortable and attracted to the other girl before I play with them but guys are still #1 plus I have not had that much experience with other woman that is why I still consider myself "bi-curious"

I don't understand why the male of a couple would respond and offer an explanation regarding their wife? Wouldn't it make sense just to let the female answer how she feels about the terms like SMARTEEPANTS did. I find myself as uneducated as I believe THE RED REVIEW husband is. I have always been attracted to men and women sexually. I am bisexual and let the other WOMEN determine how they feel about themselves and let them determine the definitions of the same. Seems most of these topics run off the rails at some point like when WESEE brought dogs into the definition, assuming or hoping joking. Have no idea if that was the male or female commenting.
Not trying to get political, but this same thread could be compared to men talking about abortion. When the procedure involves your body, then comment.

Although the definitions are helpful ( this is the Mr., so please excuse my interruption into a woman's topic, haha) but, helpful as they may be, as with anything in this lifestyle, the definition is only a starting point. It all is about the communication. Say for instance you see a woman you are interested in that, in her profile, states she is bi comfortable or curious. I hope you would have a conversation with her prior to inserting your strap-on into her lady parts. But.... your profile said.... ! So, I think the first definition was pretty spot on and a good place to start, but isn't gospel, never will be and you should ALWAYS find out what that particular woman thinks is her definition.
As far as why a male might respond, and I am not sure which response you were referring to as I glossed over much of the banter, but our Mrs. hardly ever gets on, especially the forums, so it is only prudent that I tell her what she should think and answer for her. Kidding, of course, don't rake me through the coals. But seriously, most men do the leg work (according to my research) so most of us (dumbasses excluded) (wait, is that all of us then?) have a fairly good understanding about what our wives want and how they think about topics such as this. At least they should.
So... my suggestion is this. All women should just be inherently bi and want to do whatever us men want to see them do. teehee

"My suggestion is all men are inherently bi and want only to do what us ladies want to see them do. That would work fantastically for me. I think straight men are a lie anyway, they can barely get enough of touching their own cocks on an hourly basis, tugging at them through their pants, I guarantee they want to get hold of another one to see if it feels the same. That sounds eminently natural and beautiful to me."

You should assemble your harem (gaggle? litter? flock? clowder? murder?) of single guys and tell them your epiphany and watch the ensuing erotic mayhem as they finally, unencumbered, allow their homoerotic tendencies to fly! (Stand back, it might get pretty graphic and/or sticky.)

EVILDOERS wrote:

"My suggestion is all men are inherently bi and want only to do what us ladies want to see them do. That would work fantastically for me. I think straight men are a lie anyway, they can barely get enough of touching their own cocks on an hourly basis, tugging at them through their pants, I guarantee they want to get hold of another one to see if it feels the same. That sounds eminently natural and beautiful to me."

You should assemble your harem (gaggle? litter? flock? clowder? murder?) of single guys and tell them your epiphany and watch the ensuing erotic mayhem as they finally, unencumbered, allow their homoerotic tendencies to fly! (Stand back, it might get pretty graphic and/or sticky.)

If you remember correctly, I refer to them as my bench. And yes, I would love a sticky, graphic bench, fully involved in erotic mayhem with me.
Hmmmm, maybe that's it; a murder of crows, a mayhem of single men.

You know, since female bisexuality has been widely accepted in modern culture since the early 1980's, every since beta max and vhs hit the market. Generations of women were told through the titilating of men getting aroused by watching two women that it wasn't just accepted, but encouraged. Women getting aroused by watching two men together has just become a thing within the last decade. It is slowly but surely moving mainstream. But there is still a huge amount of homophobia to fight. An illustration of this is that psychologist say women's sexuality is way more fluid than men's. They say that bisexual women can go back and forth between sexes, but when men are bi sexual, it's just a precursor to being gay. How did someone put it recently "Bi the way, you're gay"? You see, only the men who have the strongest desires for other men have dared experimenting with homoeroticism. Once they try it, their denied nature comes forward and they come out of the closet. My theory is that once male bisexuality is more accepted and the homophobia eradicated, you will see that men are just as fluid in their sexuality as women are. But for now, there is still shame and stigma. It took 30+ years for girl/girl sex to be as prevalent as it is. It won't be too long before male bisexuality is prevalent as well.

CHEFFETTE wrote:

EVILDOERS wrote:

So it's a BENCH of single males and what, a swarm of swingers? "Mayhem" sounds WAY more descriptive, by the way, from everything you've told me.

For swinger men, it's a pestilence.

Does that encompass the entire spectrum? Married and single? Or does one demographic embody that term? Just curious in case I want to be incensed...or even outraged!

Puts a whole new meaning to "sitting on the bench".

Now I have to ask. Watching two women make out is highly arousing to us gentlemen. But I have not heard the same appreciation voiced by women. Tell me ladies, does the sight of two men engaging in sex together turn you on? (It's and honest -- and naive -- question.)

I don't know if that is a younger thing to do, watch porn with buddies. But I personally wouldn't feel comfortable with that. That would be like being in algebra all over again and being called up to the board with an erection. I wouldn't want to feel sexual in front of my vanilla friends. That's just odd. I will also tell you that my 20 year old daughter and her friends all talk about watching gay male porn. In fact my daughter said gay porn and gay erotica is the only thing she can view that "works". I left the term "that works" alone because, it's my daughter. But it is quite common. I have dated several women who watched gay porn as well as we're addicted to queer as folk, the showtime show. Mrs Pants likes to watch Bi and gay porn. There's no surprise there. So yes it's totally a thing. But for the most part women like erotica much better than porn I have found as well as several studies confirm. Most women have to have an emotional connection and feelings illicited to get aroused. Most men can see visuals and get off turn over and go to sleep. I am sure that most men couldn't pick out the star of the porn in a line up 10 minutes after watching it.

Yeah, I guess my adult daughter being open about sexuality and communicative with her friends in front of the family might seem weird to someone who doesn't talk about sexuality with family. But in my family we are very open about everything. We view sexuality as just a natural part of the human experience. We don't think there is anything creepy about it. We think that discussing sex openly is important for young adults so they don't have a negative stigma or hang ups. We think it is especially important to not to make my daughter feel odd about having such conversations. Because some people will shame girls into not discussing such things and for them to be "more lady-like". But the same openness we have with our boys, we have with our daughter. I hope you weren't trying to shame us or her to shut a female up from expressing her sexuality. I don't think you were, but you never know. Some people hold strongly to the vestiges of the past.