We have played around a little bit in the past but never have done a full swap with a couple. Last night was our first time with another couple like that and we got along really well. Things went very smoothly and we had a blast. The only odd moment that came up was when they seemed to expect to stay the night and play all night.
So my question is: How long do most couples play in a night and is it normal to expect to stay all night? I hope they were't offended when we called it an evening at 1 am. They had so much adorable energy left.
Thanks, A.
So my question is: How long do most couples play in a night and is it normal to expect to stay all night? I hope they were't offended when we called it an evening at 1 am. They had so much adorable energy left.
Thanks, A.
In our case if they are not out of here by 10pm, We are going to bed and shut off all the lights! Maybe its just cause when you get "Older" you have your Bed Time very early? The only time we have spent the night (or them with us) is with friends from out of town, that we have known for many years. Don't be afraid to send folks on there way when you have had enough. They will appreciate Knowing those boundaries. The Twins
Once a single female had a too much to drink and stayed the night. I remember thinking it was a little awkward in the morning! But other than that I would say sleepovers are abnormal. Just my opinion!
Kisses!
Kayleigh
Kisses!
Kayleigh
We had a "sleep over" but they lived more then an hour away and their kids were staying with family and hour the other way for the night so it just made more sense for them to stay over. We all had fun: played, and then they went to the guest room for the night and we went to our own room.
I have no idea what normal is anymore. Maybe it would be best to simply bring up bed times earlier in the evening. Even on a vanilla date you discuss this in advance. Someone can always ask to extend the party later, and if all agree go for it. Someone that wants to play longer may be disappointed but most likely will not be hurt when the time is up. I for one like to know what to expect and to be told in advance what time the bar closes before hand. Knowing early whether it is 10 PM or 3 AM that a party will end prevents that
***CORRECTION*** I should have said abnormal for us. Sorry about that!
We've had people offe a spare room if we're too drunk to drive home, but we've never taken people up on that even. We don't sleep over or have people sleep at our place. The party can end anywhere from 11pm to 3am. Once it gets close to 3am we just let them know we're ready to call it a night and need some sleep and everyone's always been fine with it.
We've had plenty of sleep-overs...Current lady slept over a few times when I was with ex....
It all depends on what is discussed beforehand....
It all depends on what is discussed beforehand....
MYRNASTWINS wrote:
In our case if they are not out of here by 10pm, We are going to bed and shut off all the lights! Maybe its just cause when you get "Older" you have your Bed Time very early? The only time we have spent the night (or them with us) is with friends from out of town, that we have known for many years. Don't be afraid to send folks on there way when you have had enough. They will appreciate Knowing those boundaries. The Twins
We don't leave the house until around 10 pm to go out. In Vegas we start around 2 am. We never host so hotels are the norm and whoever is there crashes and checkout is noon.
we always get a hotel. that way we can either stay as long as we want or leave as soon as we're when we've had our fill of the fun. we always tell the other couple(s) they are welcome to stay until check out time. hotels make it so there is no awkward moment where someone is expected to leave.
Playing all night is pretty much just up to the people involved. We don't but like MYR, we prefer to actually start the play earlier. Staying the night should really only happen for safety or if it's preplanned IMHO.
It's unusual, and maybe a red flag with someone you've only met once.
We only offer a place for someone to stay if they have had too much to drink, or if they have too far to travel. Never, have we said lets play all night.
We always have the guest bedroom available to those who need it, always good for friends to have their own space.
For US, sleep overs are not the norm...unless it has been discussed beforehand and everyone is comfortable with it, which has only happened once or twice. But we NEVER sleep in the same room...I only cuddle with my hubby...the rest is just naughty fun! LOL I thought the next morning would be awkward, but it wasn't. We went out to breakfast and went our own ways, no big deal.
I would say it totally depends on the couple your playing with. We have some really close friends that we have played with in the past and have joined their family for family events and spent the weekend (no play of course). Other than that we have usually gotten our own hotel room to go back to after playing time but I wouldn't say its one of our "rules" to NOT have a sleep over. Just depends. I would never "expect" to sleep at someones house unless they invited us to prior.....Our 2 cents 
Sleep overs are preferred... we can, will and have gone on pretty much all night and if it feels awkward in the morning then we all just go another round and all is well ;-)
sleep overs are a normal part of our life..and we hope for it when we get together...but we are in a exclusive relationship...not the norm in a swinging environment...so when our friends cum over...it's for the entire weekend starting with Friday...they sleep over Friday night....Sat night and go home on Sunday...we love it...but again...not just a "lets fuck em and leave" situation for us