So how often is it really just about the new piece of ass? So yes, as the male half her I'll catch flak for the "you know this is a sex site, right?", but seriously how many people stay in contact after the chase is over? Is this something that should be added to profiles like on job applications? Contact after? Yes/No... Lol
There are a few out there that lay claim to the "friendship first" practice then like a ninja *poof* gone. Insert "sex must have been bad" joke here...
What's everyone's thoughts on this, we are curious...
There are a few out there that lay claim to the "friendship first" practice then like a ninja *poof* gone. Insert "sex must have been bad" joke here...
What's everyone's thoughts on this, we are curious...
That is an interesting question. Too bad this site does not have a way to tally it. I wonder if folks would answer it honestly if it was only sexual conquest they were after. I know that some folks would from past comments. I also think that conquest is a male perspective. In most cases all a woman has to do is show interest and a man is ready to drop his pants and play.
Personally, at my age, I don
Personally, at my age, I don
I'm definitely interested in what both sides of the fence will say here. I agree that there are the men who love the catch and release, but I've talked and even been with some in my past who've been just as interested in "closing the deal" so to speak. Personally that is what part of the draw to the lifestyle was for me/us was the idea of having people we could hang out with where sometimes if it happens, it happens... I would also agree that there is an even smaller crowd to those who want that in other couple ls where everyone can get along in or outside the bedroom. I guess it's an idealistic point of view, but people can dream right? Lol
Some of our best friends are in the lifestyle.Go back 20 yrs. What greater gift can you get than him sharing his loved one with you!
Most of the people I meet, and play with I stay in contact with and are friends with as well. They are people I enjoy talking with, as well as enjoying their company.
Most of our friends are in the lifestyle...in fact I met my bestie and her hubby on here...also my best friend from middle school is also a member/playmate so I guess she doesn't count since we were friends before here lol
I actually only find my strange here about 50% of the time. So the majority of the time I'm on here, I'm just dinking around in chat with friends.
(Side note: I am not one of those people that does the whole "gotta be friends first" sorta thing. I'm rarely "friendsfriends" with my playmates.)
Kitty
(Side note: I am not one of those people that does the whole "gotta be friends first" sorta thing. I'm rarely "friendsfriends" with my playmates.)
Kitty
I have always believed in friends first. Naughtygirl101 is on of the greatest friends i have meet on here! I have meet a few of the lovem and leavem types. I didn't like the way it made me feel so i have made it a point to become friends first. I get the whole question "you know this is a sex site?" Yes i do. But not for me. I enjoy a womans company yet a friend lasts so much longer for me.
For me it's the anticipation and the rush of excitement when you're with someone new for the first time. You put your best foot forward as if somehow your continuing association with your new playmate hinges on whether you provide the answers satisfactory to their standards. I like to think of it as a relationship period where you invade each other's personal space with due diligence... there's arousal, there's mutual dependency, and there's an element of danger. You simply can't duplicate that with someone you know well.
For us, although we like the chase, and the capture...lol.....we enjoy making friends that will last outside of the bedroom.