i want ideas how to ask or get my gf into all this i love it but if she dosent than i have to stop. any ideas or tips??
I do not think that this is a lifestyle that you can talk someone into. People that are pushed into this lifestyle are soon to leave it. Generally, in my experience, people only change over time and change in their own way. For most swinging is a moral issue. You might try talking about a buddy that is into the lifestyle and she what she thinks of it as a moral issue. I wish you luck.
This life style is a choice. If you dont choose it and are pushed into it it will eat away at you every time your S.O is with someone else. if you push someone into it it will do more harm then good.
However you could be surprised at how many people would be into joining the LS once the importunity is there. Just bring it up in an honest way if she is into it awesome. if not then dont push!
However you could be surprised at how many people would be into joining the LS once the importunity is there. Just bring it up in an honest way if she is into it awesome. if not then dont push!
Take her to Hedo II during a lifestyle takeover. That's what we did.
Talk about it...sex, threesomes, etc....but if she's not open to it you can't "convince" her or it will only end badly 
Buy the one season of Swing Town on DVD and watch it one night, see how she reacts.
Mr. C
Mr. C
ALLWENEEDISU wrote:
This life style is a choice. If you dont choose it and are pushed into it it will eat away at you every time your S.O is with someone else. if you push someone into it it will do more harm then good.
However you could be surprised at how many people would be into joining the LS once the importunity is there. Just bring it up in an honest way if she is into it awesome. if not then dont push!
Its not a choice. I was born this way, damn it.
I am on board with the question. Although I know my wife is very capable she has decided not to play. It is a very crushing decision and has not helped the sexlife thing but it is what it is. I love her and we have been together since the light bulb was invented, ha ha, so I guess we just go on. I can only hope that one day she will come around even a little bit. It is a great question though and I think that most of the posts have the right idea. If she is receptive give her the options. The par;ty thing is a great way to start...
MXK20 wrote:
i want ideas how to ask or get my gf into all this i love it but if she dosent than i have to stop. any ideas or tips??
I say bring her to my house and give me a couple of hours alone with her.
I know...I'm such a jackass sometimes!
All you can do is talk to her. I think that one of the first female reactions might be "Well what's wrong? Am I not enough for you, you want to screw other girls?"
But then I (mrs fun4) am kinda odd in that I was the one to go for it in the first place so what do I know!!??
just ask her! this is something I (the mrs) always wanted to do. but my first few serious relationships weren't open to it and one of them even hurt my feelings about it. so when I started seeing my man, I was afraid to mention it. I can't even explain how elated I was when he told me that he wanted to try the lifestyle. I was all over it! so, maybe your girlfriend secretly has the same desires as you! you'll never know until you ask her. good luck!
I assume you two watch XXX porn. Does any porn with multi partners, gal/gal seem to make her more juicy or hot after? this might be a clue. Also dont forget to tell her that this is not some line you just one day have to decide to jump over and it means you have sex with others. TO us it just meant stopping to say hey! What is wrong with nudity? What is wrong seeing others having sex or being seen? This is all normal and a big part of our lives. Why is it so taboo?
Perhaps all she would consider is nudity. Near the start of our adventure we choose to go to desires resort a "clothing optional" beach place South of Cancun. IT does have some 30% on average swingers. But a swinger means many different levels. There you have no pressure and lots of fun even if you choose to wear clothes but it is easy in an atmosphere like that 2k miles from home to let at least some of the clothes come off and see how that feels.. Then seeing all the sexy folks going to dinner dressed up from body paint to stuff you think of as night wear is really a turn on. When she enjoys the mind blowing sex back in the privacy of your room she will either get the interest or not. But first I would think you need to just man up and be able to talk about stuff or this gal is not for you!
Perhaps all she would consider is nudity. Near the start of our adventure we choose to go to desires resort a "clothing optional" beach place South of Cancun. IT does have some 30% on average swingers. But a swinger means many different levels. There you have no pressure and lots of fun even if you choose to wear clothes but it is easy in an atmosphere like that 2k miles from home to let at least some of the clothes come off and see how that feels.. Then seeing all the sexy folks going to dinner dressed up from body paint to stuff you think of as night wear is really a turn on. When she enjoys the mind blowing sex back in the privacy of your room she will either get the interest or not. But first I would think you need to just man up and be able to talk about stuff or this gal is not for you!
MXK20 wrote:
i want ideas how to ask or get my gf into all this i love it but if she dosent than i have to stop. any ideas or tips??
What might help you get better responses is to edit and reword your original post.
The question you're effectively asking is: How do I approach my gf about swinging? What's the best way to ask if she's interested?