Ok so I am brand new to this lifestyle and have been reading alot of profiles. I see alot of people wanting clean, drama free and an attractive couple. I understand the first two, but really what is attractive? Me and my husband are not perfect 10s, I was just wondering if someone who has been doing this for a while can help me understand. Thanks so much
Diana
DianaIts usually a pretty broad open statement if you ask me because "attractive" is in the eye of the person speaking....What one person finds attractive another person may not so you just kind of take it for what it is..
Find people who find you attractive and forget about the ones who don't same thing goes the other way find people to hang out with that you find attractive...
There are people on here for everyone just get out there and find them you have already taken the first step by putting yourself out there...
Just my 2 cents
Lucky
Find people who find you attractive and forget about the ones who don't same thing goes the other way find people to hang out with that you find attractive...
There are people on here for everyone just get out there and find them you have already taken the first step by putting yourself out there...
Just my 2 cents
Lucky
LUCKY-N-NAUGHTY wrote:To take that one step further, you also need to agree as a couple on who/what is attractive. While one half may find someone attractive, the other half may not agree, and you don't want anyone to feel like they are taking one fro the team.
Its usually a pretty broad open statement if you ask me because "attractive" is in the eye of the person speaking....What one person finds attractive another person may not so you just kind of take it for what it is..
Find people who find you attractive and forget about the ones who don't same thing goes the other way find people to hang out with that you find attractive...
There are people on here for everyone just get out there and find them you have already taken the first step by putting yourself out there...
Just my 2 cents
Lucky
If you do not find yourself attractive it's very unlikely that other people will.
This is a pretty broad statement and frankly it bothers me that some have such idealistic views of what people should be. I hear all the time that "this is a sex site", but it's more of a fashion show to many. I've seen some people get really mistreated, and it's bullshit. If you're not interested, say so. It doesn't require anything rude or degrading. We all will go thru it at some point or another, I expect that we aren't for everyone, because everyone has their desires and to each their own. On the other hand though, my self-esteem or yours shouldnt have to take a hit when things don't mix....there's my soap boxy 2 cents.
HIBRIGHTEYES wrote:LUCKY-N-NAUGHTY wrote:To take that one step further, you also need to agree as a couple on who/what is attractive. While one half may find someone attractive, the other half may not agree, and you don't want anyone to feel like they are taking one fro the team.
Its usually a pretty broad open statement if you ask me because "attractive" is in the eye of the person speaking....What one person finds attractive another person may not so you just kind of take it for what it is..
Find people who find you attractive and forget about the ones who don't same thing goes the other way find people to hang out with that you find attractive...
There are people on here for everyone just get out there and find them you have already taken the first step by putting yourself out there...
Just my 2 cents
Lucky
Wait, couples are talking to each other now? Chances just went way down... Kudos to the statement though!
You have to earn the Hello Kitty seal of approval. If you don't have that, you're not attractive. :P hehehehehe
Those who specify in their profiles that they are looking for "attractive" people are, more often than not, hoping to move up in the world by rubbing elbows (and more) with people who they wouldn't otherwise be equal to in the looks department.
But it's OK.
The swinging Lifestyle isn't the only place you'll encounter elitist attitudes.
Beauty is only skin deep - but arrogance goes clear to the bone.
But it's OK.
The swinging Lifestyle isn't the only place you'll encounter elitist attitudes.
Beauty is only skin deep - but arrogance goes clear to the bone.
I'm new to the site too. But I was going to say you should get to know someone and not go on looks. And everyone sees something different in people, what you might thing isn't attractive someone else may find it very attrative. I'm all for getting to know the person, I'm into what kind of personality someone has. I'd never be rude to anyone, but if I wasn't interested I would just say so. Just my 2 cents worth!
The female half~Brenda
The female half~Brenda
Thankyou all so much, You have put alot of things in perspective for me. I know now not to judge a book by its cover and to get to know someone and that what is attractive for one is not necessarily for the other. Thank u again, kisses to all! muah.
P.s. Hey Kitty do I have the seal of approval
P.s. Hey Kitty do I have the seal of approval
DIANDBRUCE wrote:
Thankyou all so much, You have put alot of things in perspective for me. I know now not to judge a book by its cover and to get to know someone and that what is attractive for one is not necessarily for the other. Thank u again, kisses to all! muah.
P.s. Hey Kitty do I have the seal of approval
I shall grant you with the seal of approval *bops you on the head with a bubble wand* that's right. bubble wands are how i roll.
DARKNLADYJEDI wrote:
If you do not find yourself attractive it's very unlikely that other people will.
This is sooo very true...I can tell you that I am not perfectly fit...hell I'm a few pounds heavier than I'd like to be and not as tone as I am working toward but for the most part I am usually pretty confident in myself and feel pretty damn sexy and that usually shows in my personality...nothing feels better than being nice and clean, throwing something sexy on and holding my head high knowing that I can still turn a few heads...don't get me wrong, I don't act like I'm all that because I know I'm not but I find myself pulled towards women of the same way (usually the hubby does the same too) So do a little soul searching and figure out what your best qualities are and roll with it...that's what most look for is someone who is confident in who they are no matter who or what "shape" that is
Kisses,
Naugh-Ty
PARTY1981 wrote:
That said, when I go to lifestyle parties, I see people along the whole spectrum of attractiveness, from 0s to 10s. The 9s and 10s are pretty rare, too (at least at the parties I get invited to). So I wouldn't be too concerned if you don't look like Barbie and Ken.
you must not go to the same parties as me. iiiiiiiiiiii'm an 11. and a half. :P its the bubble wand that adds that extra point. :P
Kitty, i realize i told you that you could no longer wack people with your double ended dildo anymore. that did not mean you could substitute with a bubble wand. damn girl, you keep me busy.
xox
Tammy
p.s. ok. i'm bored. got a sparkle wand we can play with?
xox
Tammy
p.s. ok. i'm bored. got a sparkle wand we can play with?
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
Kitty, i realize i told you that you could no longer wack people with your double ended dildo anymore. that did not mean you could substitute with a bubble wand. damn girl, you keep me busy.
xox
Tammy
p.s. ok. i'm bored. got a sparkle wand we can play with?
I have a wand you can play with..
(this is the female half btw)
ALLWENEEDISU wrote:BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
Kitty, i realize i told you that you could no longer wack people with your double ended dildo anymore. that did not mean you could substitute with a bubble wand. damn girl, you keep me busy.
xox
Tammy
p.s. ok. i'm bored. got a sparkle wand we can play with?
I have a wand you can play with..
(this is the female half btw)
omg. i want one of those hibatchi wands.....
HAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHAH
alright. hibatchi bubble wands. i demand one. now.
DELICIOUSLYWET wrote:
Okay so up on the mountain yesterday there was a particular lady skier wearing a tiny blue bikini which really did not stay in place all that well and had no support built in. Just a little semi loose cloth over the parts that need to be covered to not end up in handcuffs unless she was looking for that. She was what you might call a few pounds over her ideal weight. Just a bit of a belly, some extra cushion for the pushing on her butt and soft obviously natural bouncy boobs. She was smoking hot! Her every movement screamed fuck me fuck me. Her man seemed to celebrate her extreme sensuality. I found it interesting that when she came off the mountain end of the day and was walking by the rest of the crowd (I was walking the same direction behind them) that groups of guys had nothing to say but their extreme desire to get the rest of the suit off and probe her every inch. When she walked by women or men in the presence of women I heard mostly derogatory comments as to how slutty she was or that she was too heavy and looked ridiculous in that bikini. As for attractiveness I do believe that most people find far more people attractive than they publicly admit. Too often fear of public disapproval keeps us from actualizing our hopes and fantasies sexual or otherwise.
I think a huge part of this is the confidence factor. If a woman feels she is sexy, and can demonstrate that, there's nothing better. I'd prefer a woman overweight that has a great attitude over her sexuality, than the porn star body with the common inferiority complex with something to prove any day of the week. Just saying....
some people want what they want! every person has a different idea of attractive...so if someone doesnt like u dont wine about it...suck it up...there are plenty who dont find us attractive or vice versa...each time we play we are looking for different...i have a preference for thick girls and she like the porn star look..so we hook up with a variety of people...(only 4 so far though) but attractiveness is in the eye of the beholder they say...And with as many people as there are on this site...there is someone for everyone
I define Initial Attraction (prior to any interaction), as anyone who makes me take a second look (not in a WalMartian sense).