So I heard in conversation recently that some women, and Mrs. Spexdex as well are really turned on by the feeling of being desired by their partner. I know that some are on the other side of the fence where it's all business and you're just another piece of meat for the evening. So I'm curious to see where most fall or if there is medium? I can see it as situational, but I would imagine that as being a core want in the majority of cases. Is it really uncommon for the women here to feel desired in the lifestyle? Is that too close to emotion?
Lust is a desire. I really, really hope I am never with someone who doesn't desire to be with me, at least for the little while and bit of fun we are having.
So I'll(Mr) give my point of view for what it's worth. I like giving the attention, hopefully just by my touch, or my kiss, my partner can feel the desire behind it. That may to too mushy for some, but it is what it is.
~sigh~
seduction is becoming a lost art.
seduction is becoming a lost art.
That truly saddens me. :9
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
~sigh~
seduction is becoming a lost art.
Sorry Blue, but seduction is for singles and cheating spouses, extended foreplay is for the lifestyle. Hell, we've been married so long if something happened I'm not even sure how to ask someone for a date.
DARKNLADYJEDI wrote:BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
~sigh~
seduction is becoming a lost art.
Sorry Blue, but seduction is for singles and cheating spouses, extended foreplay is for the lifestyle. Hell, we've been married so long if something happened I'm not even sure how to ask someone for a date.
I think there's a fine line between the foreplay and the seduction, the lust or desire should still be there in either. I enjoy the passion in touch and think it's the easiest way to communicate my excitement other than the obvious reasons.
In my world there is nothing better than the seduction then the foreplay. Like EFW2 says. That build up is awesome! As for lust? Love? I was told once by an oldster to never fall in love, but fall in lust, because it lasts longer and you dont fight so much. I kind of agree, but if you combine the two I think its amazing! Just my thoughts tho.
the guru said it best, we need to be wanted.... we dont want to be needed...
It's nice to know if your partner cares enough about you to get you there, enjoy the time with you, making it allright that what happened happened and vise-versa. That may not sound like the best description but it's how I feel.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
~sigh~
seduction is becoming a lost art.
I beg to differ i just think the art of seduction has changed. with the online era there is not as much face to face contact and for some of us romantics that learned the art of seduction before the mass computer age it is just difficult to transform. But have no fear sweet thing we are working on it..
As far as the topic being wanted is a necessity in my opinion not just for the women but for the man as well sure you might be able to do "the act" if you feel like its just sex but it is so much hotter if you feel wanted....
I think if there is no seduction or feeling of want you might as well just jerk off or use your toys it will be just as enjoyable. and even then your imagine your with someone who wants you right....
Just my opinion take it for what its worth...
Lucky
LUCKY-N-NAUGHTY wrote:BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
~sigh~
seduction is becoming a lost art.
I beg to differ i just think the art of seduction has changed. with the online era there is not as much face to face contact and for some of us romantics that learned the art of seduction before the mass computer age it is just difficult to transform. But have no fear sweet thing we are working on it..
As far as the topic being wanted is a necessity in my opinion not just for the women but for the man as well sure you might be able to do "the act" if you feel like its just sex but it is so much hotter if you feel wanted....
I think if there is no seduction or feeling of want you might as well just jerk off or use your toys it will be just as enjoyable. and even then your imagine your with someone who wants you right....
Just my opinion take it for what its worth...
Lucky
i Agree completely, however i dont think the art of seduction is lost in any way, the problems is as you stated the computer age has changed things many people want to meet and then get down to the act, going out for the night and dancing and having some drinks and a few laughs is what you do when your dating alone, i see no difference here other then as a couple your dating another couple. both parties should want to seduce the other showing their best from and moves while winning them over. And i dont know about everyone on here but Elliott is very into forplay, more so then I really he loves the to watch a women react to him and to me of course the act is beyond fun but he loves watching and seeing the anticipation build up. So i dont think its gone at all just maybe not as excpected or so.
LUCKY-N-NAUGHTY wrote:
I beg to differ i just think the art of seduction has changed. with the online era there is not as much face to face contact and for some of us romantics that learned the art of seduction before the mass computer age it is just difficult to transform. But have no fear sweet thing we are working on it..
As far as the topic being wanted is a necessity in my opinion not just for the women but for the man as well sure you might be able to do "the act" if you feel like its just sex but it is so much hotter if you feel wanted....
I think if there is no seduction or feeling of want you might as well just jerk off or use your toys it will be just as enjoyable. and even then your imagine your with someone who wants you right....
Just my opinion take it for what its worth...
Lucky
Good point. I guess it reverts to a thread a week or so ago about foreplay. To me seduction is more of mental foreplay. I love it when someone engages my brain and not just gropes my tits. I'm not talking about having a stimulating conversation about the economy or a healthy debate over religion, but more like the act of actually connecting mentally. The knowing looks, the "compliments", the undivided attention during conversation, heated eye to eye contact. You combine that with the usual acts of foreplay/flirting and I'm pretty sure the feeling of desire and being wanted will show up. And for the record, while it's fun to flirt online, everything is so much better in person one on one. Or one on two...or three....or more....
DARKNLADYJEDI wrote:
Sorry Blue, but seduction is for singles and cheating spouses, extended foreplay is for the lifestyle. Hell, we've been married so long if something happened I'm not even sure how to ask someone for a date.
Sorry but I would have to disagree...why would seduction be only for singles or cheating spouses?? Seduction, foreplay, whatever you want to call it should always remain a part of any relationship...without it things become mundane and routine and that's when you have wandering spouses...for 18 years seduction and foreplay on both the physical and emotional level has been a huge part of our relationship and the sex is better now that it ever has been
Interesting thread. Too many men think that sex is nothing but a poke and go exercise. To watch you would think it was a quick strike army assault. I teach a westernized form of Tantra to couples that wish to regenerate their intimacy. Modern Tantra teaches us that foreplay, or seduction if you wish to use the term, aligns the energy fields of the two bodies. Proper technique can be taught but seduction is an art and must be worked at. It does not often miraculously bless the individual without requiring effort, trial and error. Tantra can