So for most of you here, this is a sex site... welcome.
Here's the question, what crosses that line of sex and emotion?
We joined for the sex, hands down (or wherever the need to go), and this is the male half for clarification. We love sex, and we are not a polyamorous couple. So some people take offense to the idea of just saying that you want to have sex because the idea of that couple turns you on. On the other hand, I'm one of those types, that likes to know the different wants in bed to deliver the most pleasure I can. Does that cross the line, because the fact that we may have just had mind blowing sex doesn't necessarily mean you're gonna get a Christmas card. Understandably people have their different wants, and that's the tricky part of being in this community. We like to have friends that we can have sex with as well mainly because sometimes you feel like a nut, and sometimes you don't, right? On the counter side of that though, does that make the sex any different? Or the friendship? Can people separate the two, or does that just go down as a preference?
So does the curiousity of wants and needs in bed beforehand cross the line or should it just be something learned in the heat of the moment? What do you think?
Here's the question, what crosses that line of sex and emotion?
We joined for the sex, hands down (or wherever the need to go), and this is the male half for clarification. We love sex, and we are not a polyamorous couple. So some people take offense to the idea of just saying that you want to have sex because the idea of that couple turns you on. On the other hand, I'm one of those types, that likes to know the different wants in bed to deliver the most pleasure I can. Does that cross the line, because the fact that we may have just had mind blowing sex doesn't necessarily mean you're gonna get a Christmas card. Understandably people have their different wants, and that's the tricky part of being in this community. We like to have friends that we can have sex with as well mainly because sometimes you feel like a nut, and sometimes you don't, right? On the counter side of that though, does that make the sex any different? Or the friendship? Can people separate the two, or does that just go down as a preference?
So does the curiousity of wants and needs in bed beforehand cross the line or should it just be something learned in the heat of the moment? What do you think?
HOTTIENAUGHTYLILBLND wrote:
We do better when it is with ones we have been friends with for along time and I the female really only have one rule for my honey is everything sexual goes but no cuddles that is all mine. That to me is very special. We find that the couples we are friends with in and out of the bedroom we find out the likes and dislikes in the bedroom and some things you want to try new that it is easier to do with the ones you have gotten a good foundation with . I the female really enjoy the adventures that I can have with a beautiful female and having a friendship with the female side helps me or both to feel more comfortable to try new naughty things and feel good about the exsperience . I have noticed it is really hard to find a female just to join even know there are quite a few out there, dont get me wrong the male of a couple is never left out but I have the best for my wants and desires with my honey . It is the female that I dont get to have fun with as much as I would like to have. So in that being said my husband knows with out any direction how to get me to have those mind blowing orgasms that a male in another that has not taking the time to get to know most likely wont ever get that same from me. The female just being female doesnt take her much at all. So that being said being friends with potiential play partners it is better to have the in and out of the bedroom friendship for us . Have a great day
Yep..agreed. We feel the same. We aren't in this just to get another "notch" on our bedpost. If our partners aren't someone we at least feel a potential to develope a friendship of some sorts with, we really aren't going to be too interested in "just" sex. We're not talking best friends..but at least friends that enjoy each others company once in awhile. Makes the sex so much more enjoyable for us!
I can't have sex with someone I don't love. But, that is not to say I can't have sex with someone I don't know. I once spent twelve hours with a lady I met at the beach. From first glance, it was as if both of us knew words would break the spell we cast on each other. We communicated totally with smiles, touches and expressions. There was joy in every look, touch and the sex spanned the spectrum from innocence though earthshaking passion. Parting was as natural as meeting. We'll never know anything about each other than the love we shared. Complications kill love. I love women who leave the world behind and bless me with the same opportunity.
We joined this website and this lifestyle to have some fun outside our day to day sexual life. I used to think that you couldnt have sex unless it was with someone you love but my wife has shown me that it is just that. Sex. As long as there is no emotion you can separate yourself from it. One of our golden rules is no kissing. To us that is something intimate and something only the two of us share with each other. We have been with a few couples and a few single men. The single men get in and get out. The couples we have been with for the most part have been ok but a few have had and caused a little drama. One couple, the husband became almost like a stalker, calling us all the time, wanting to hook up solo. At this point we have adapted the policy of not meeting, not getting to know each other. If you want to meet, we will chat, make sure there is a sexual attraction and then hook up. My wife is shy and needs a little intimacy so we have designed massage scenarios that have worked out great when hooking up with singles or couples.
I am a lover... I love people... I love to find something to love about every one I meet. So after three years of swinging I have met some amazing people who are part of many aspects of my life... and I love them. period. even if I never have sex with them they are part of my life and I love them! Now I have had my fair share of hot nights with hot yummy peeps and then we do not have much connection after that. As every thing in life I believe every one comes in your life for a reason and its not always for a long time.... but there are those few who touch your life forever. I love to embrace what ever comes. NO ONE replaces what Mr Mixed and I have.... we are just here to add to the Amazing life we already have. This was not always the case for us but thru good communication and great friends, Mr Mixed and I have found a great balance in this lifestyle and our life style friends.
Well said MIXEDBIZNESS
ABCCOUPLE wrote:
My wife and I have been involved in this for several years. In the beginning we were pretty insecure (or I was) about any emotions developing between people we were seeing or playing with sexually. But after a while we realized that our love for each other was not going to change because one of us were having sex with someone else. Now there were a couple times when there was a little jealousy, but that was usually because one of us felt left out when the other had a connection with another sexual partner.
But with extensive communication and then last autumn we met an amazing couple that we both developed feeling for and we've never been happier. Personally I do not like having sex with a woman I do not have some type of feelings. The key is you need to know what those feelings really are about and where they can or cannot go.
I don't think I could say it better!
To ABCCOUPLE:
My husband and I are new to this and really want to find the kind of couple that has made you and your wife happy. Long story short....until I read your post we did not think that type of relationship actually existed. We have met so many nice people but none that want what we want. I hope one day to be as fortunate as you.
My husband and I are new to this and really want to find the kind of couple that has made you and your wife happy. Long story short....until I read your post we did not think that type of relationship actually existed. We have met so many nice people but none that want what we want. I hope one day to be as fortunate as you.
Sorry but I'm not a couple but I would like to find "SOMETHING" and I wouldn't be too picky but very willing to explore/experience whatever !!!
I will quote ABCouple " But with extensive communication and then last autumn we met an amazing couple that we both developed feeling for and we've never been happier. Personally I do not like having sex with a woman I do not have some type of feelings. The key is you need to know what those feelings really are about and where they can or cannot go. "
I have had one night meetings and never again. But I prefer a friendship and a connection. I perform better and I feel we all can have more fun and pleasure. That's just me. I am not looking for notches but good fiends with Great SEX and pleasing my partner!
I have had one night meetings and never again. But I prefer a friendship and a connection. I perform better and I feel we all can have more fun and pleasure. That's just me. I am not looking for notches but good fiends with Great SEX and pleasing my partner!