Do many go beyond it? I mean, we receive them, accept them and then nothing more seems to transpire. Not even a note saying, "let's meet". Is this the norm on this particular site? Anywhere else we've been in the lifestyle, people have always followed through. Doesn't mean you have to have sex with everyone you meet.
Mrs. Utcplbif
Mrs. Utcplbif
UTCPLBIF wrote:
Do many go beyond it? I mean, we receive them, accept them and then nothing more seems to transpire. Not even a note saying, "let's meet". Is this the norm on this particular site? Anywhere else we've been in the lifestyle, people have always followed through. Doesn't mean you have to have sex with everyone you meet. Mrs. Utcplbif
Swingular is alot better than AFF, in my opinion. Happens alot more over on AFF, at least to me years ago when I last was on AFF. Been on Swingular ever since, haven't looked back.
We get dozens every week. sometimes we accept them just to see if they have any good pics.Then remove them when they dont. But we do get that same FRs and no response. Its the nature of these sites. I think some people try to break the ice a little bit with the FRs .
UTCPLBIF wrote:
Do many go beyond it? I mean, we receive them, accept them and then nothing more seems to transpire. Not even a note saying, "let's meet". Is this the norm on this particular site? Anywhere else we've been in the lifestyle, people have always followed through. Doesn't mean you have to have sex with everyone you meet. Mrs. Utcplbif
Welcome to the wonderful world of those who have no interest in anything beyond seeing your private pics.
we dont have a private album just what you see.
We send a hello note with every friend request telling the other couple what we are looking for and such. In my opinion some people just are to shy to make contact or respond sometimes for us its harder to plan due to having elliotts kid every other weekend, and with me not being 21 till july 1 makes it harder to go out to places where like minded couples meet. We are hoping that as soon as I am 21 it will be easier to do this as. Any one got any tips, we are having the same problem tho lots of FRs but no one seems to genuinely send us any kind of message if they want to meet aside from a few who we try to keep in contact with. I thought beeing one of the younger couples on here would get some attention especially with a beautiful bisexual, but i hear our pics are small and we are working to fix that. Anyone have any advice?
maybe you guys are to cute? just kidding. but maybe.
We do the same Lvrsply. We have a very short friends' list because we don't keep anyone on there whom we haven't met in person. I think I have just come to the conclusion that there are too many pic grabbers on this site. I dunno. 
Mrs. Utcplbif
Mrs. Utcplbif
I think that the FR email is or can be a little impersonal. I'd rather hit you up on IM to get some real time answers and then go from there. Admittedly though, we'll add friends for different reasons though, some for sex, and some because they are friends...that we can have sex with 
We want to meet you in person UTCPLBIF... You look like so much fun and delicious! :-)
LiaandGio----
I think alot of couples or individuals request an add to see private pictures in profile and then would like to hookup if a response is made with interest. It would be so much better if folkes would make the request because of some common interest. I know most men are visual and want to particapate with a beautiful woman or handsome male. Anyways if you get a request from the Lone Dog know its about something we have in common and not all about sex. Love to dance and hang out and make ya laugh.
any friend request from over 1000 miles away without some kind of email correspondence prior gets deleted immediately. Nothing against the UT folks, but we live in FL. Unless you're planning on moving, its pretty obvious all you want is access to private pics. Thats just sad. There's enough porn on the web already, go JO to some of that
I found the chat room with camera is a good place to meet people, from this site anyways - I am with most people: If we send a friend request, we also send a message to go with it. Also I feel the same visa versa. Also I hate getting friends request with messages hey we are really interested in seeing you - but have no pics or anything to entice ya.
A little effort in the profile goes a long way lol - But if we do a mutal friends request approval and nothing happens then we will remove them from the friends list.
If nothing happens we just move on...
our 2 cents worth.
A little effort in the profile goes a long way lol - But if we do a mutal friends request approval and nothing happens then we will remove them from the friends list.
If nothing happens we just move on...
our 2 cents worth.we keep a short friends list too...we friend request only if we like their profile and want to see more pictures..and if we like we go from there!
(mrs. here) we get friend requests with no response after i try to talk to people through email or messaging whatever you want to call it with no response. do to my physical circumstances i think people get curious but then scared. i prefer to know the people before i play it's a trust thing cuz i have to and i can't just jump out there. and i believe that bothers people to but i see things differently. i don't care if people wanna see my pics cuz i don't have what other women don't have like a third boob or whatever. i've always liked the term "friends with benefits" cuz they can accept 'no play' but still hang out for adult convo or game night when my body wont allow the play to happen. it's just life i think these site are to allow like people to hook up or delve into their curious nature. no harm no foul.
T4REAL69 wrote:
So here is a curiousity question related to what some folks have said. I've noticed that a number of people comment about how they get FRs and believe the motivation for them is so that other's can gain access to their private pics. So here's the question. Why does it seems that a number of people don't want others viewing their private pics but those same persons have no problem coming into chat and clicking on a person's cam without so much as a hello yet won't be on cam their self? Is that not even worse? At least with the FR you can the same access to their pics as they have to yours and if they don't have any pics then you always have the option to deny the request. Yes I know the same option exist in chat but a request is a request no matter where it's made. Ok so that's two questions so sue me....lol!
It's your lucky day.
The 1st of every month is ask one question - get one free day.
VLADTHEIMPALER wrote:
... as a single male I know it's up to the couple to decide if they want to pursue anything further, not me.
That's how I am too, I don't make friend requests unless I've actually met you at an event and we've hit it off. A friend request and no message usually get's declined.
We get and send requests and accept them. I think people get busy, and at some point when the time is right you may meet them. Parties are always a good place to meet your online friends.
CB & KB
CB & KB
When we started we ended up collecting a bunch of friends on here that never seemed to have any intention of making contact, and a few who we just couldn't seem to line up schedules with. We are down to very few friends now after a mass delete. We no only accept if they are verified, have pics of both the man and woman in public album (blurred faces ok in that album), we are attracted, we have similar interests,etc. Now that I write it down it's no wonder we never get any action from this site, lol.
Joined the site in the last 2 weeks. I am not a picture collector & VERY real. I have found that the people who have accepted my FRs are ones that I have also sent a personalized message to that contains details that reflect I actually read their profile & know their rules. Although it may be too early to have actually met someone in person yet I have at least exchanges messages with several other members to see if we click. Still hopeful. I am also very realistic while still picky so ONLY send FR to people I actual can see myself meeting in person.
Any other ideas or rules I can play by as a single married male that has other females besides my wife that are willing to swing with others? I hope to make this site as uful as possible to my lifestyle activities. AFF didn't work - NEVER met anyone in person except 1 & we had already decided we were not each other's type but could see each other hanging out as friends.
Any other ideas or rules I can play by as a single married male that has other females besides my wife that are willing to swing with others? I hope to make this site as uful as possible to my lifestyle activities. AFF didn't work - NEVER met anyone in person except 1 & we had already decided we were not each other's type but could see each other hanging out as friends.
I accept friend's requests from people who have 1) face pics in their public albums OR took the time to attach one to an email to me. 2) had a real conversation with me either online or in person 3) send me a separate email either introducing themselves or reminding me who they are and where/where we met. Granted, I do NOT play with everyone on my friend's list (i don't want any butthurt-feeling-left out accusatory emails people) but these are people I personally find at least mentally stimulating as well as physically. I also clean out my friends list about every 3 months and if we have drifted and not spoken, then it's a simple delete.
Trust me, if I want to have sex with you....you will know it.
Trust me, if I want to have sex with you....you will know it.
I would just like to say.amen . Lol I was feeling the same way. Why a friend request and then nothing. And I even send a message saying hi hello or whatever and still nothing???
THEXECS wrote:
Blue eyes? Damn....we never knew it???? Laughingggg we just love your insight on posts...like this last one! Hey you live in ROY...ever down here in SLC? I have a VIP night or Lunch happening next week...at shhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh you know where....Let us know....we will send private message on time and day!!!!
You can bring up to 9 people, friends, family with you!!! On us!!! Yummy huh? And we get to meet you at the front door!!! You are VIP right!!!!!
Thexecs
What? You don't know?
Uh oh. My flirt is broken. Wanna kiss it better?
Now I'm not sure about the VIP part, but I guess I can actually put on panties for this event. Send me details. I will be me and my entourage.
xox
Tammy
p.s. On a side note, Blueeyes is now hiring fun classy irreverent people for position of VIP attendant. Pay sucks but perks rock. Please contact for more details and include a resume showing previous experience.
(If you really are unemployed, an email to me does NOT quality as a legitmate job search contact for your unemployment benefits. Previous job listing is in jest. There is NO pay. Just perks.
)We reject most all new friend requests unless we
have met them in person. We also do not post or
accept comments because it's nobody's business
who we know or party with.
have met them in person. We also do not post or
accept comments because it's nobody's business
who we know or party with.
Cute, cock and conversation. The list does go on, but that's a great start.
Mrs. Utcplbif
Mrs. Utcplbif
UTCPLBIF wrote:
Cute, cock and conversation. The list does go on, but that's a great start.
Mrs. Utcplbif
Wow, I might be better at this than I thought!
Mr. Spexdex
LOL, I deleted all our private pics -- you could see that right from the profile. Still got slews of friend requests with no follow-through! ?? I always felt like those ones were like "Hi, I'm clueless. Wanna be friends?" Sure, why not, there ya go...nope no private pics, oh well. Maybe I was supposed to go look at THEIR private pics and that was the purpose of it? To see if I saw pics of THEM and suddenly swooned and began a pursuit of desperation?? 
Just never had time or inclination to try that I guess.
Since then I regretted just automatically becoming a friend slut 'cause when I wanted to put some private pics back I had to go and delete all those random friends back out and re-establish the list of folks that I actually did have some acquaintance with here! Ouch...a pain in the arse!
Just never had time or inclination to try that I guess. Since then I regretted just automatically becoming a friend slut 'cause when I wanted to put some private pics back I had to go and delete all those random friends back out and re-establish the list of folks that I actually did have some acquaintance with here! Ouch...a pain in the arse!
we screen so the friends request thing is great.
I can only speak for us. We tend to keep a longer list of friends due to the fact that we know that most people are either busy, unsure or just flaky. It is good to have options or a backup plan. I can't be too judgemental as we are very busy and can't always meet when some couples avail themselves. We never send a friend request to anyone we don't intend to meet. Whether for paly or just friendship, we love having options. I am sure there are a lot of people who are just pic hunting. All I can say about that is, Oh well. Maybe that is their fantasy and don't want to take it past that or maybe don't know how to take the first step. We have found that you have to be patient.
Love,
Mike and Anne
Love,
Mike and Anne
We like getting to know people before we play. It's a lot easier to please each other when you're not just using what you think they'll like. That and we like someone who can challenge the mind as well as the body.
UTCPLBIF wrote:
Do many go beyond it? I mean, we receive them, accept them and then nothing more seems to transpire. Not even a note saying, "let's meet". Is this the norm on this particular site? Anywhere else we've been in the lifestyle, people have always followed through. Doesn't mean you have to have sex with everyone you meet.
Mrs. Utcplbif
We feel your pain, we made the mistake of accepting friend requests thinking it may be people that would like to accually meet. Now we have an over crowded friends list, quite a few we have never met. We have even gone as far as sending messages to them asking if they'd like to meet up.. no response.. Think we'll have to clean it out and start again...
SWEETNSPICY93 wrote:UTCPLBIF wrote:
Do many go beyond it? I mean, we receive them, accept them and then nothing more seems to transpire. Not even a note saying, "let's meet". Is this the norm on this particular site? Anywhere else we've been in the lifestyle, people have always followed through. Doesn't mean you have to have sex with everyone you meet.
Mrs. Utcplbif
We feel your pain, we made the mistake of accepting friend requests thinking it may be people that would like to accually meet. Now we have an over crowded friends list, quite a few we have never met. We have even gone as far as sending messages to them asking if they'd like to meet up.. no response.. Think we'll have to clean it out and start again...
That sucks, I didnt know we made the trash list...
SPEXDEX wrote:
That sucks, I didnt know we made the trash list...
Hell. You two are on my favorites list.
Our problem seems to be after someone friend requests us...and message us then we respond then they never respond back lol...so we delete them...then they just friend request again....makes no sense
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:SPEXDEX wrote:
That sucks, I didnt know we made the trash list...
Hell. You two are on my favorites list.
Likewise gorgeous!
Just happened to us yesterday. So, we sent them an email asking if they've seen this post. We'll see what they say. Great timing. haha
LEMONLIME wrote:
We have lots of "friends" on here who we've never met, much less even really talked to lol. We are probably "those people" that some of you are talking about. We are guilty of friending people and then rarely talking after. Not because we don't like you, we'd love to get to know everyone on our friends list ... timing, family, and other stuff just seem to get in the way.
It's hard to always find time to talk and get to know people, but that doesn't mean we aren't interested. We leave everyone who ads us on our friends list, because maybe some day we'll get around to talking and be able to hang out.
For us it is similar. It is just a matter of time. We would like to meet everyone on our friends list but there is simply no time. We wish we could sit down and have a drink with everyone of you. There are many more great people than any of us have time for. That is both really sad and really great.
...And...I like this site better than AFF, but I do wish it had something like the wink. That has been a handy way to sort of know who is interested rather than dropping blind emails.
Just a thought.
Just a thought.
We get tonz of FR but after reviewing half of them it seems as though they did not read our profile???? Weird, we also have quite a few graphic and face shots in our private album and it kills me when we do friend someone and they have one pic of them from a distance, and maybe a car... Needless to say they are deleted.
On a side note, we have a few friends that we have no interest in playing with, but they do seem like fun people so what the hay, if they want to steal a peak go for it.
We have only been members for about a month, we have a very specific profile and so far we have met:
1) Looking for love connection, hmmm, not us so much we're good.
2) Just turned out to be a super cool fun guy, not so much long term sex buddy, but more freaken cool guy
3) Wants to play solo????? Hmmmm???? Showed up kind of maybe resembling the guy in the pics. Sorta, ok not really, but the tattoos were the same.
So, for us even when you do meet its really luck of the draw.
I think next time I schedule a meeting I am gonna ask that they hold up the calender with the date circled and send me a pic. hahahah
xoxo,
Brandy
On a side note, we have a few friends that we have no interest in playing with, but they do seem like fun people so what the hay, if they want to steal a peak go for it.
We have only been members for about a month, we have a very specific profile and so far we have met:
1) Looking for love connection, hmmm, not us so much we're good.
2) Just turned out to be a super cool fun guy, not so much long term sex buddy, but more freaken cool guy
3) Wants to play solo????? Hmmmm???? Showed up kind of maybe resembling the guy in the pics. Sorta, ok not really, but the tattoos were the same.
So, for us even when you do meet its really luck of the draw.
I think next time I schedule a meeting I am gonna ask that they hold up the calender with the date circled and send me a pic. hahahah
xoxo,
Brandy
We cut our friends list from about 10 or 11 pages to less than 2. Most never contacted us after the initial request, or didn't reply to messages. Some seemed very interested at first, but the more we chatted and tried to get to know them, they seemed to lose interest because we weren't going to jump right in the sack with them. Others start slowly and shyly, and once they tasted their first couple or single, are off to the races and no longer show interest in the ones they may have to work for so to speak.
It's all a personal choice and how a couple evolves together. There's no right or wrong, just right and wrong for us. It took us a while to figure some of these things out ourselves because it was a whole new world for us, and like having a brand new toy, or a whole new toy box. Now we only focus on those toys that hold our interest beyond the playground, so we spend more time shopping rather than impulse buying.
Johnny-The-Rock
It's all a personal choice and how a couple evolves together. There's no right or wrong, just right and wrong for us. It took us a while to figure some of these things out ourselves because it was a whole new world for us, and like having a brand new toy, or a whole new toy box. Now we only focus on those toys that hold our interest beyond the playground, so we spend more time shopping rather than impulse buying.
Johnny-The-Rock
Oh and BTW, we have NO regrets with anything we have done so far. You know who you are. We plan to keep it that way. It's been an amazing ride, and thank you THANK YOU to our friends and past playmates. 
For me I could care less about pic's and I will usually only send a request to people I have met or have been given an invitation to send one. I am mainly here to connect with friends and make some new ones. Not the norm for a site like this I know, but after years of attending parties people kept telling me I need an account I signed up. I do have some fun albums for others to see and I feel it helps them get to know me and my personality
Friend request with no introduction gets decline. Period!
I leave All blind FR in our F R Jail... Even the super hot nice looking couples... if they dont send a note with the FR it was probably just horny drunk hubby. I did let 13 folks out of jail today. Hope they get back to us!!! Wink wink! It was an Overcrowding issue... We still have 135 in the bunks.. If youi deny them they will just come right back.
We send out lots of happy birthday notes and welcome to the site notes. We have no intention of trying to hook up with most folks, just being friendly. That usually garners friend requests without any accompanying email.
Of course we also receive the random requests from folks we have never communicated with.
We used to deny them but realized if we just let them be then the requester could not send another. We never respond in any form to friend requests without emails. However, we do send a quick note explaining that our friends on here are folks we have met.
We feel no obligation to explain beyond that.
Of course we also receive the random requests from folks we have never communicated with.
We used to deny them but realized if we just let them be then the requester could not send another. We never respond in any form to friend requests without emails. However, we do send a quick note explaining that our friends on here are folks we have met.
We feel no obligation to explain beyond that.
If actually read people's profiles and if they sound like people we want to hang we FR them. We always send a short email and see where it goes from there. We (like everybody else) are busy and don't have a lot of time to chat online.
ASSETS wrote:
i keep a short friends list...but everyone on it ...i do plan to fuck!!!!!!!!!!!
Can we get on your list? lol
We wont except a friends request unless we talk to the couple online or on the phone. Also if there out of state and there really is no chance of us ever meeting up with them its a no.
would also like to meet UTCpl and Cplwhoshare....
We are a little reserved in sharing pics, as we are new, still a little apprehensive about sharing pics on social media. We tend to not do a lot locally, but visit resorts (heading to Cabo Desires at the end of the month). We are still trying to get verified on this site, and certainly would never ask to receive locked pics until after we share some pics...meet... and the other couple was comfortable. J and I both believe strongly that we only really want to meet couples with integrity, and good....but fun intentions. We are both very fit and attractive especially for our age, but a little leary about pics even locked pics...maybe we are a little paranoid...let us know...we can handle it. We will be putting some locked pics on this site...maybe this weekend, but we are certainly not picture hoarders, have better things to do with our time. Would much rather meet than collect friend request...and at the very least have some good conversation and a few laughs.
We are a little reserved in sharing pics, as we are new, still a little apprehensive about sharing pics on social media. We tend to not do a lot locally, but visit resorts (heading to Cabo Desires at the end of the month). We are still trying to get verified on this site, and certainly would never ask to receive locked pics until after we share some pics...meet... and the other couple was comfortable. J and I both believe strongly that we only really want to meet couples with integrity, and good....but fun intentions. We are both very fit and attractive especially for our age, but a little leary about pics even locked pics...maybe we are a little paranoid...let us know...we can handle it. We will be putting some locked pics on this site...maybe this weekend, but we are certainly not picture hoarders, have better things to do with our time. Would much rather meet than collect friend request...and at the very least have some good conversation and a few laughs.