Since it\'s been over a year now since we responded.. to this subject and it\'s not a bad one to look at.... What do you think about exclusive swinging?
I think variety is the spice to life or of life and \"open swinging\" meaning with various other couples is the way to go... But if you could find a group of say 10 to 30 comapatable couples who only played within that circle then wouldn\'t that be an exclusive situation? With everyone being tested at least 2 times before it would be safe to play unprotected....(?????) And any additions going thru the same \"isolation process\" ie., no play without condoms untill the 2 test situation was over... Variety is still there to a greater or lesser degree. Understanding that many people do say they only have safe sex but in their pictures they are with multiple partners with no condom in evidence do they have exclusive relationships with these multiple partners and are these partners also exclusive within a closed group?
Now there may be a few problems with this exclusive approach... First it sounds like an exclusive club.... then we have the problem of Compatable Couples.... Just think how hard or easy it is finding a single (one) couple compatable with both of you in a couple.....What\'s the chance of 20 or 30 couples who get along that well to be exclusive play partners with a group that large... Now, it could be that all couples do not play with everyone else and only with one or two, but the bottom line those couples could be available and there is still the safe circle of friends..... What do you think .....
I think variety is the spice to life or of life and \"open swinging\" meaning with various other couples is the way to go... But if you could find a group of say 10 to 30 comapatable couples who only played within that circle then wouldn\'t that be an exclusive situation? With everyone being tested at least 2 times before it would be safe to play unprotected....(?????) And any additions going thru the same \"isolation process\" ie., no play without condoms untill the 2 test situation was over... Variety is still there to a greater or lesser degree. Understanding that many people do say they only have safe sex but in their pictures they are with multiple partners with no condom in evidence do they have exclusive relationships with these multiple partners and are these partners also exclusive within a closed group?
Now there may be a few problems with this exclusive approach... First it sounds like an exclusive club.... then we have the problem of Compatable Couples.... Just think how hard or easy it is finding a single (one) couple compatable with both of you in a couple.....What\'s the chance of 20 or 30 couples who get along that well to be exclusive play partners with a group that large... Now, it could be that all couples do not play with everyone else and only with one or two, but the bottom line those couples could be available and there is still the safe circle of friends..... What do you think .....
This is an interesting topic since I think you\'ll see a rather mixed set of answers.
For us, we are not 1-night stands for anyone. Does this then mean we don\'t want variety? Not really - what it means for us is we want to know the woman/couple a bit before we play and know when we see each other again the play times are more and more intense as we get to know one another.
Do we have a set limit on the number of couples we will play with? We\'ve tried introducing couples we know, with other couples we know and unfortunately it hasn\'t worked out. Living where we live the number of older couples is very slim - maybe if we lived in a city where the lifestyle was very popular and there were plenty of couples to get to know things might be different.
At this point in our lives, and where we live - we are content with knowing & trusing the few couples we do party with. If a new couple came along and we were compatible? Absolutely!
For us, we are not 1-night stands for anyone. Does this then mean we don\'t want variety? Not really - what it means for us is we want to know the woman/couple a bit before we play and know when we see each other again the play times are more and more intense as we get to know one another.
Do we have a set limit on the number of couples we will play with? We\'ve tried introducing couples we know, with other couples we know and unfortunately it hasn\'t worked out. Living where we live the number of older couples is very slim - maybe if we lived in a city where the lifestyle was very popular and there were plenty of couples to get to know things might be different.
At this point in our lives, and where we live - we are content with knowing & trusing the few couples we do party with. If a new couple came along and we were compatible? Absolutely!