In talking with a few people here, there's a good portion of us who have been married before, or have been with someone who felt that sex was more a privilege in the relationship than an expression. Before anyone gets all weirded out...I'm not just talking about love or romance, but mere pleasure. Frankly from a man's perspective, I would have to say that in general it's more the man's responsiblity to build that comfort level to where sexual exploration is ok. That may be an old fashioned point of view, but I think the idea of any woman who has to work for it (i.e. blow jobs, hand jobs, etc.) before getting pleasure themselves is completely unfair. Just as much I would say if the tables were turned. There should be some mutual give/take in most sexual encounters...sometimes one-sided is fun to do/receive, but not obligated.
Anyone else ever been in this boat?
Anyone else ever been in this boat?
I'm a pleaser type person, so I'm more concerned with making sure the other person has a good time/experience than me getting off. But from what I hear, most males seem to go with the idea that they don't get off until after they give the woman a good orgasm or two or three. lulz.
Absolutely, as I've come to find, if you're willing to give, it's gonna come back around!
I just want to know what happened to foreplay...both in your relationship and in play dates. Just because I have multiple orgasms during sex....it's still nice to have some heat building moments.
~sigh~
xox
Tammy
~sigh~
xox
Tammy
If foreplay is a lost art....we're lost artists! There is little better than a good release after and extended build up, then to do it over and over again. And if it is not mutual then it was not great, it may have been good, but not great.
Foreplay is key, if there's no heat, there no real experience. Teasing the mind and body, building the desire both physically and mentally to touch, taste, kiss, and feel each other makes it so much more a memorable experience for everyone.
For me, (Mrs) If there is no foreplay, I just can't get into it..... I need lots of foreplay to get in the mood. You can't just expect me to be all hot and ready without it.....
HIBRIGHTEYES wrote:
For me, (Mrs) If there is no foreplay, I just can't get into it..... I need lots of foreplay to get in the mood. You can't just expect me to be all hot and ready without it.....
Glad to hear it, personally (mr), getting her all hot and ready, gets me all hot and ready myself... kind of awakens that internal hunger...that insatiable thirst...
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
I just want to know what happened to foreplay...both in your relationship and in play dates. Just because I have multiple orgasms during sex....it's still nice to have some heat building moments. ~sigh~ xox Tammy
My wife kids me that we have it backwards as often to her forplay is me simply being home. I personaly really enjoy the build up (and after play)
TRIXIEE wrote:
can I just say, without any fore play the worst thing i could hear from a man is "GET ON"
How bout "Ride that pony, 8 seconds starts....now....grunt.....zzzz"
I would totally agree with you statement spexdex. For me making the lady com is the most important. I am a pleaser as well. Rick
What is sex?
It is ALL about the foreplay!
It is ALL about the foreplay!
I would think the worst thing to hear from a man would be GET OFF 
tee hee hee...
tee hee hee...HIBRIGHTEYES wrote:
I would think the worst thing to hear from a man would be GET OFF
ROFLMAO!
HIBRIGHTEYES wrote:
I would think the worst thing to hear from a man would be GET OFF
Either that or "I am in..."
SPEXDEX wrote:HIBRIGHTEYES wrote:Either that or "I am in..."
I would think the worst thing to hear from a man would be GET OFF
Awww..now that's just mean....but funny! LOL
I think its all about her pleasure, nothing getts me going more then a gal that can only mumble out ohhhhhhhhhh godddddddddddddddddddd
SPEXDEX wrote:HIBRIGHTEYES wrote:
I would think the worst thing to hear from a man would be GET OFF
Either that or "I am in..."
HA HA HA HA HA HA NICE!!!