I'd like to know how men REALLY feel about stretch marks? Do you notice them? Are they turn on or major turn off?
I'd be majorly turned off by my stretchmarks and scars, but apparently nobody else has issues with them.
OHBABY wrote:
Stretch marks don't bother be a bit. To me they represent a woman who sacrificed her body to give birth to her children, so really they make a woman more beautiful and real in my opinion. Yes I'm a romantic....but that's the way I see them.
one reason i was a little skeptical about joining this site is because i dont really have the great tummy i used to. its good to know theres some men out there that arent shallow. lol.
It doesn't bother me at all. We are who we are, speaking frankly, not there to have sex with you stomach... Perfection is unrealistic for anyone to claim, or demand.
They are the badge of motherhood and have never detracted or diminished any woman's beauty, sensuality, or sexiness. Just my thought.
they are history of our lifes. They don't bother, had hey we all have them, so really cares.
If anyone is really hung up about something like that then they are pretty shallow.. Nobody is perfect and nobody should expect you to be. Just my humble opinion.
Damn. I'm gonna fit in nicely. 
stretch marks and scars... Im reminded of an old scoutmasters words when the dinner we were cooking fell into the fire. As he rescued our fair from the flames, he smiled at me and said, with a jovial voice, "Ashes make a natural salt!" No sugar~ stretchmarks and scars dont bother men... as one who bears a few scars myself I can say from experiance be confident in who you are inside... The rest falls into place naturaly when its meant to~ Remember we judge ourselves much more harshly than others do by-in-large~ Namaste~
And also to YOU my friend~! Namaste~` If only the world could embrace the concept eh?
good topic.....pretty much agree with all thats been said allready..........stretch marks and or scars.......its whats on the inside that really matters
I think they are sexy!!!
so having self-image issues makes people shallow? i'm pretty sure 99% of the population has something about themselves that they don't like. doesn't make them shallow.
i am glad to hear that other people don't have hangups about it someone having stretchmarks or other things like that.
i am glad to hear that other people don't have hangups about it someone having stretchmarks or other things like that.
oh wow. didn't know having self-esteem issues made me a shallow person. typical responses though.
for the record, i was talking about MY stretchmarks and scars and MINE alone. didn't say i was turned off by anybody else's. nobody else's bother me. only MINE!
for the record, i was talking about MY stretchmarks and scars and MINE alone. didn't say i was turned off by anybody else's. nobody else's bother me. only MINE!
Touch'e! Bravo! Author! Author!
So now that it's settled that stretch marks and scars are ok what about redundant skin from weight loss? My ass looks like a shar pei dog took up residence. Rock solid muscle from torturing the treadmill with freaky flare. Should I close my account or is there hope of acceptance?
Mrs Onlysugar
Mrs Onlysugar
I'm a firm believer what you lack in looks you make up for in skill.
I's got madskillz!
I's got madskillz!
The shallow guys are pricks and don't represent the good ones . . . if you have a kid most of the time you will have some sort of mark...just the way it is...not a turn off at all!
TWOARIES2 wrote:
And also to YOU my friend~! Namaste~` If only the world could embrace the concept eh?
I bow to your form?
Kitty don't you know anytime you voice a personal preference here someone is gonna call you shallow? It's the great go to! Bad kitty lol
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
oh wow. didn't know having self-esteem issues made me a shallow person. typical responses though.
for the record, i was talking about MY stretchmarks and scars and MINE alone. didn't say i was turned off by anybody else's. nobody else's bother me. only MINE!
Oh sweet kitty, you are not shallow. The fact you love me proves that. (of course, I have to question your taste...hee hee)
I too have issues with MY stretch marks, loose skin from extreme fast weight loss, my age, the grays in my hair, and whole laundry list of imperfections. Ironic that those exact same qualities in someone else do not bother me. The most critical I am of someone's appearance is of my own. But I get that some people might not be attracted to that and it's their right. I am attracted to certain types. No sense in getting butt hurt over in a profile on a sex site not being interested.
To someone out there.....prolly blind as a bat, what I got floats their boat.
OHBABY wrote:
Stretch marks don't bother be a bit. To me they represent a woman who sacrificed her body to give birth to her children, so really they make a woman more beautiful and real in my opinion. Yes I'm a romantic....but that's the way I see them.
Good one way to suck up !!!!!!!! You are giving single males a better name (joking) LOL
No one is perfect !!!!!!!!!! Just sayin
Badboy8p
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
I'm a firm believer what you lack in looks you make up for in skill. I's got madskillz!
Not nice to brag !!!!!!!! Waiting to see these skills ...... Just sayin
Badboy8p
BADBOY8P wrote:BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
I'm a firm believer what you lack in looks you make up for in skill. I's got madskillz!
Not nice to brag !!!!!!!! Waiting to see these skills ...... Just sayin
Badboy8p
<blush>
OK.
I am going to add my 2 cents...lol I know that OhBaby touched on it...I am a firm believer in the whole confidence makes a person sexy! I know I am not going to be the next playboy centerfold...and I am so okay with that! I can live with how I look and I think that is all that matters...sexy is different to everyone...maybe I will just be in fact sexy to turn one person's head...teehee
I personally don't have a problem with Stretch marks or scars, it's part of life !
Depends how bad the stretch marks and where...a few on your belly or thighs never hurts...cause we all know every woman in utah has multiple kids by 23 haha...but it all varies woman to woman..but as long as they arent too much lets have at it
I love to kiss em!!! I know, crazy huh? NOPE...they are always in the softest and most sensitive areas, and deserve some love!!! But that's just how I roll, and if you can show a woman that they don't bother you and it's a part of who she is, then it's a huge step in proving you accept the total package, not just the ribbons and bows.
Peace to all my friends,
Johnny
Peace to all my friends,
Johnny
PEBBLEROCK wrote:
I love to kiss em!!! I know, crazy huh? NOPE...they are always in the softest and most sensitive areas, and deserve some love!!! But that's just how I roll, and if you can show a woman that they don't bother you and it's a part of who she is, then it's a huge step in proving you accept the total package, not just the ribbons and bows.
Peace to all my friends,
Johnny
I don't do ribbons or bows. LOL But yes you are right, those areas are very sensitive to stimulation. Your desire to pay homage to her badge of honor is very sweet.
xox
T.
ENVME wrote:
Hi guys/gals I just wanted to say that MY stretchmarks has caused me so much heartache and pain over the years because they really do make me feel ugly and that in turn has prevented me from alot of accomplishments I wished to pursue. I have my stretchmarks mainly on my hips due to a rapid growthspurt and very few faint ones on my stomach due to having a baby. Regardless....i get very emotional when i have to see my scars everyday and i just cannot accept them,i have gone through great lengths to hide them i just don't know what to do besides maybe seeking professional help to not be so distraught about them. I am amazed there are people not bothered one bit by them and I'm speaking honestly on only how i feel about myself and i do not mean to disrespect or hurt anybody who sees " my truth and honesty" about how i feel about my own body as a bunch of crap just to feel sorry for me. I don't want sympathy i guess i just need to learn how to cope and deal with my destructive self image. ...dont get me wrong, i know i am beautiful inside and out....these damn scars are just killin' my self esteem...
I have no words of wisdom, but just wanted you to know that you are not the only person to have negative self body image and esteem issues. I would suggest professional counseling but that would be the pot calling the kettle black. I will say this...pregnancy stretch marks are a badge of honor. Your body has done the most important the most herculean thing a body could ever do. Provide life for another soul. Each stretch mark is evidence of you creating and nourishing a baby, protecting it while it went from a few cells to another human being. Having had several children myself, plus other factors, my stretch marks are a source of embarrassment and I cringe most times I see them. But a few weeks ago, my 5 yr old said something to me that struck me hard. He saw my tummy and pointed out in away that only a child could imagine and told me those marks were where i wrote "i love you" on my tummy so he could read it while he was growing inside of me. Of course he doesn't understand the real reasons of stretch marks, of the effects of weight gain/loss, so in his mind, it was just mommy scribbling a love note for her baby.
I understand where you are coming from. But you need to realize that the person who is judging you the most is you.
Now that with a few dollars will buy you a cup of coffee.
xox
Tammy
There are lots of men who have stretch marks as well and not just from weight gain or loss. My skin refused to keep up as I was growing during my teenage years; in turn it gave me stretch marks in areas of major muscle groups... Lifting weights has actually caused me stretch marks as well, all comes down to your skin type I guess.
ENVME wrote:
Hi guys/gals I just wanted to say that MY stretchmarks has caused me so much heartache and pain over the years because they really do make me feel ugly and that in turn has prevented me from alot of accomplishments I wished to pursue. I have my stretchmarks mainly on my hips due to a rapid growthspurt and very few faint ones on my stomach due to having a baby. Regardless....i get very emotional when i have to see my scars everyday and i just cannot accept them,i have gone through great lengths to hide them i just don't know what to do besides maybe seeking professional help to not be so distraught about them. I am amazed there are people not bothered one bit by them and I'm speaking honestly on only how i feel about myself and i do not mean to disrespect or hurt anybody who sees " my truth and honesty" about how i feel about my own body as a bunch of crap just to feel sorry for me. I don't want sympathy i guess i just need to learn how to cope and deal with my destructive self image. ...dont get me wrong, i know i am beautiful inside and out....these damn scars are just killin' my self esteem...
I feel the same way. I REFUSE to wear a bikini or show my stomach in public. I don't want anyone else seeing them!! I hate seeing my stretch marks and they make me feel ugly some days. Luckily I have a husband how is very sweet and doesn't care about them!!
Running into stretch marks..especially in my a little bit younger years didnt bother me, but i didnt seek them out. Now, they are a MAJOR turn on for me...look for em' even. Its crazy how much more women hate them than we men do. I understand though.
The best thing about stretch marks is they dont discriminate lol..Ive seen tiny ass women with them, larger BBW, and men too. So its nothing to feel embarrased about.
A person is not defined by having scars, stretch marks or any other physical so called flaw. I personally would rather be with someone who is beautiful on the inside and have so called flaws on the outside than the hottest woman who has no physical flaws but is not as beautiful on the inside. SO bring on the stretch marks>
To chime in on this topic could surely explode in my face but I'll answer for me and me alone. The topic asks about stretch marks and doesn't give a cause of them yet I see many answers related to how they make a woman sexy (if it came from child birth). Well myself being stomach man (tits ass and legs subjectively don't mean much). If you look at my wife's midsection and lower she has them and she looks great. She worries about how they look more than I do. I've also seen women that their bellies look like a shriveled pumpkin (likely cause they took the pregnancy as a license to eat anything in site and it wasn't just normal "baby" size change). If you're a shriveled pumpkin it would be a deal breaker for me.
If you judge me for shallow then so be it. At least I can be honest about what turns me on and what I would prefer to have since I am living out my own fantasies.
Mr Cutecpl2swing.
If you judge me for shallow then so be it. At least I can be honest about what turns me on and what I would prefer to have since I am living out my own fantasies.
Mr Cutecpl2swing.
CUTECPL2SWING wrote:
To chime in on this topic could surely explode in my face but I'll answer for me and me alone. The topic asks about stretch marks and doesn't give a cause of them yet I see many answers related to how they make a woman sexy (if it came from child birth). Well myself being stomach man (tits ass and legs subjectively don't mean much). If you look at my wife's midsection and lower she has them and she looks great. She worries about how they look more than I do. I've also seen women that their bellies look like a shriveled pumpkin (likely cause they took the pregnancy as a license to eat anything in site and it wasn't just normal "baby" size change). If you're a shriveled pumpkin it would be a deal breaker for me.
If you judge me for shallow then so be it. At least I can be honest about what turns me on and what I would prefer to have since I am living out my own fantasies.
you really don't like that shriveled pumpkin look? how dare you post that on here. LOL
honesty will get you ostracized, on here. but we love it.
Mr Cutecpl2swing.
Well I guess I am a shriveled pumpkin lol
mmmmm.....pumpkin pie.....nom nom.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
mmmmm.....pumpkin pie.....nom nom.
Lol, excpet the cream tends to be inside...
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
mmmmm.....pumpkin pie.....nom nom.
MMMMMMmmmm Our favorite!
We all have our preferences. Some of us are hung up on outer appearance and some of us aren't. I fault no one for their tastes. Life is too short to be worried about those that aren't interested. There are always those that are. Those people that are hung up on stretch marks and can't get passed them, have someone else that can't get passed their perceived inadequacies. In other words, everyone is someone's hottie and someone else's C.H.U.D. ugly fuck. Having a healthy appetite for thicker girls, I think runway models are repulsively scrawny and they do absolutely nothing for me. Though I wouldn't hesitate to brick one right in the grill with a hot load if her personality was up to snuff. My couple of pennies. 
-The Don-
-The Don-
Tend to look beyond the markings of life, and enjoy the real sexiness of a woman.
Stretch marks on a woman are like the cracks and wrinkles that appear on fine leather after a few years - they add character.
what about women and stretch marks guys got em to?
LVRSPLY wrote:
what about women and stretch marks guys got em to?
Start it off, what are the women's thoughts?
Stretch marks can be UGLY!!! OKay..got your attention? LOL I say that only because of the influence they seem have on a persons true beauty...their whole persona..not just parts of it. Whether it be a girl..or a guy. All you have to do is read back in this thread to see all the insecurities they have caused to beautiful people.
Personally...I have scars, stretch marks, blemishes..all sorts of imperfections that I'm sure, truthfully bother me, way more than anyone I meet. Guess what girls?...I think most people tend to completely look past such things..I know I do. I'd say if anyone dwells on them at all..it is only to compare them to their own....in an effort to feel better about theirs...
Do stretch marks on another bother me..really? Nope...not at all.
Personally...I have scars, stretch marks, blemishes..all sorts of imperfections that I'm sure, truthfully bother me, way more than anyone I meet. Guess what girls?...I think most people tend to completely look past such things..I know I do. I'd say if anyone dwells on them at all..it is only to compare them to their own....in an effort to feel better about theirs...
Do stretch marks on another bother me..really? Nope...not at all.
I think a good saying for this is "People don't think of you nearly as often as you think they do." for almost any given insecurity this applies. With that being said, people will still be drawn to what they like, and to each their own. I enjoy the female form in general, it's beauty spans shapes, ages, sizes, etc. Even saying that though, there are particular things that catch our eyes.
SPEXDEX wrote:LVRSPLY wrote:
what about women and stretch marks guys got em to?
Start it off, what are the women's thoughts?
well the women are at a disadvantage , simply because men bodies are utilitarian in nature and can get away with more imperfections.
This is the male half, (dan) and I truly like stretch marks, c-section scars, cellulite and so on. I always have. They've just always struck me as something that makes a woman 'real' if that makes any sense, and real, is sexy to me.
Edit: As I got more caught up on the rest of the replies I got bummed out about how deeply this affects some of you. I hate seeing that you struggle with something that is not only a non-issue for me, but something I really like. Take my word for it, it's not that they're acceptable, it's not that everybody is imperfect, they are fuckin hawt! Seriously. Hawt.
Edit: As I got more caught up on the rest of the replies I got bummed out about how deeply this affects some of you. I hate seeing that you struggle with something that is not only a non-issue for me, but something I really like. Take my word for it, it's not that they're acceptable, it's not that everybody is imperfect, they are fuckin hawt! Seriously. Hawt.
LVRSPLY wrote:SPEXDEX wrote:
[quote=LVRSPLY]what about women and stretch marks guys got em to?
Start it off, what are the women's thoughts?
well the women are at a disadvantage , simply because men bodies are utilitarian in nature and can get away with more imperfections.[/quote]
Well then since we are "utilitarian", what about men in general is the most questionable feature to women? Is there something in the male form that we should worry about?
beer belly, im not talking a bit of a beer belly im speaking on a huge beer belly. i hang with some serious beer drinkers so i can stand a bit of one. oh and mullets. please cut them off. lets see oh yea if your going bald , take a razor to it. and get your grill fixed. other than that i love the rugged guy. scars not problem, never really noticed stretch marks on to many guys. lets see what else can i piss off some people over. cant think of anything more , im not into the real cute guys ,they are just like the girls, to high maintenance . i like em rough. sam elliot type.
A classic quote that I believe speaks on the situation.
oh wow. didn't know having self-esteem issues made me a shallow person. typical responses though.
for the record, i was talking about MY stretchmarks and scars and MINE alone. didn't say i was turned off by anybody else's. nobody else's bother me. only MINE!
Great topic! I too feel the same way as the above statement by hello_kitty12984. Well, I did before I read all your opinions. I assumed because my stretch marks and surgical scars turn me off, others would feel the same, eventhough no one has ever made me feel insecure about them. I think I will embarace them now and think of them as a sexy attribute!
for the record, i was talking about MY stretchmarks and scars and MINE alone. didn't say i was turned off by anybody else's. nobody else's bother me. only MINE!
Great topic! I too feel the same way as the above statement by hello_kitty12984. Well, I did before I read all your opinions. I assumed because my stretch marks and surgical scars turn me off, others would feel the same, eventhough no one has ever made me feel insecure about them. I think I will embarace them now and think of them as a sexy attribute!
CINNAMONSTIX wrote:
oh wow. didn't know having self-esteem issues made me a shallow person. typical responses though.
for the record, i was talking about MY stretchmarks and scars and MINE alone. didn't say i was turned off by anybody else's. nobody else's bother me. only MINE!
Great topic! I too feel the same way as the above statement by hello_kitty12984. Well, I did before I read all your opinions. I assumed because my stretch marks and surgical scars turn me off, others would feel the same, eventhough no one has ever made me feel insecure about them. I think I will embarace them now and think of them as a sexy attribute!
We'd be more than happy to embrace you as well
CINNAMONSTIX wrote:
oh wow. didn't know having self-esteem issues made me a shallow person. typical responses though. for the record, i was talking about MY stretchmarks and scars and MINE alone. didn't say i was turned off by anybody else's. nobody else's bother me. only MINE! Great topic! I too feel the same way as the above statement by hello_kitty12984. Well, I did before I read all your opinions. I assumed because my stretch marks and surgical scars turn me off, others would feel the same, eventhough no one has ever made me feel insecure about them. I think I will embarace them now and think of them as a sexy attribute!
As well you should!
so now we are searching for that inner beauty on a sex site?
LVRSPLY wrote:
so now we are searching for that inner beauty on a sex site?
Not all of us can be that outer beauty I guess...
this is a sex site. not e-harmony or match.com. you don't have to suck up to everyone on this site to get laid. all that inner beauty is ok when your looking for your life partner, but im not feeling on swingular.
LVRSPLY wrote:
this is a sex site. not e-harmony or match.com. you don't have to suck up to everyone on this site to get laid. all that inner beauty is ok when your looking for your life partner, but im not feeling on swingular.
so it's necessary to degrade anyone who actually can meet friends as well as have sex?
who got degraded?
LVRSPLY wrote:
who got degraded?
anyone here not just to "fuck"
well i hope it works out for you.
It has so far, to each their own. To you as well.
To: Hibrighteyes and Spexdex.......you just won major cool points! I love you ladies and that you are real, authentic and candid which = SEXY!!!! I'd do you!
CINNAMONSTIX wrote:
To: Hibrighteyes and Spexdex.......you just won major cool points! I love you ladies and that you are real, authentic and candid which = SEXY!!!! I'd do you!
Well thank you, but this was the mr. speaking. Appreciate the sentiment though, and I'll pass on the message to the mrs.
We all have our own little imperfections we are not happy with. I know I have a few. I told a friend of mine that complained of her stretch marks that to me it was a part of her and they enhanced her beauty. They were a part of her and I wasn't looking at them at all, I was looking beyond them to her inner beauty and personality.
To me, all the little imperfections make us unique and beautiful in our own ways. That's what makes it fun and exciting, I think it would be rather boring if all our bodies looked exactly alike.
To me, all the little imperfections make us unique and beautiful in our own ways. That's what makes it fun and exciting, I think it would be rather boring if all our bodies looked exactly alike.
CINNAMONSTIX wrote:
To: Hibrighteyes and Spexdex.......you just won major cool points! I love you ladies and that you are real, authentic and candid which = SEXY!!!! I'd do you!
Awe, Thanks love!! We really look forward to meeting you!