Sorry for the newbie questions, but my next one is another curiosity of mine. I've seen a lot of couples on the site are strictly "no kissing". I can understand some of the reasoning behind it, but at the same time, sex can be just as much or more intimate given the setting. I'm not trying to tell anyone they are wrong in this idea either, please don't get me wrong. I'd just like to understand a little better where the thought process lies, and how people feel about it. If this one is a little too personal, I'll apologize now, and you can feel free to have this one deleted. I really enjoy the conversation here and thank you all for listening, and giving your insights!
Our preference. If you will not kiss us we will not fuck you. 
Good post. We have the same feelings, and think that as long as it isn't a lot of down your throat probing your tonsils, and the main focus, that some kissing should absolutely be okay. In one sexual position especially, you are face to face, and a woman's lips are so soft and alluring, that it's nearly impossible to not want to kiss her and make her feel like she's not just a piece of meat but a beautiful thing you have been allowed to play with. Of course it's a couple by couple decision and should be respected as any other individual rules, but if I allow a man to lick, suck, and have sex with my bride, I probably trust him enough to kiss her. It's a natural thing to do to show attraction, just don't get carried away with it and always be attentive and respectful of who you are playing with.
There was a thread a while back about this...I tried to find it because it had some good thoughts on it, but it's buried lol
We always thought that we wouldn't be able to be with a couple that didn't kiss because we both love to kiss so much...until we met my best friend and her hubby. They have a rule that only the girls can kiss. We went along with it because we respect their wishes, just like if they said no anal my hubby wouldn't go trying to shove his dick up her ass (even though in all reality she loves it lol). Anyway, it was difficult for us not to kiss the other but every time we'd start, we'd just side step to the neck or something. They just feel that is their one thing they keep for themselves and we will always respect others boundaries. Besides, I enjoy kissing her almost as much as my hubby lol
Anyway, a lot of people have a lot of different reasons. Some start out with no kissing and change their minds, some stick to it forever. You just have to decide if no kissing is a deal breaker for you guys or if you can find other ways to keep your tongues busy if you decide that couple is worth it or not.
Don't ever be sorry for the questions. That is what the forums are for. We all start out new and even though some forget how it is to be overwhelmed with all the new experiences, not all of us bite...too hard anyway
We always thought that we wouldn't be able to be with a couple that didn't kiss because we both love to kiss so much...until we met my best friend and her hubby. They have a rule that only the girls can kiss. We went along with it because we respect their wishes, just like if they said no anal my hubby wouldn't go trying to shove his dick up her ass (even though in all reality she loves it lol). Anyway, it was difficult for us not to kiss the other but every time we'd start, we'd just side step to the neck or something. They just feel that is their one thing they keep for themselves and we will always respect others boundaries. Besides, I enjoy kissing her almost as much as my hubby lol
Anyway, a lot of people have a lot of different reasons. Some start out with no kissing and change their minds, some stick to it forever. You just have to decide if no kissing is a deal breaker for you guys or if you can find other ways to keep your tongues busy if you decide that couple is worth it or not.
Don't ever be sorry for the questions. That is what the forums are for. We all start out new and even though some forget how it is to be overwhelmed with all the new experiences, not all of us bite...too hard anyway
You can tell a lot about someone by how they kiss. The effort they put into a kiss, is the same effort they put into anything sexual.
We're newer to the lifestyle as a couple...Both have experience without the other...
In the past, he made kissing a huge part of playing, she did not.
The no kissing rule for us is flexible, depending on circumstances and such.
Everyone has their own rules, ideas, desires, and lack thereof, whatever is clever for them, it is merely something to work around.
In the past, he made kissing a huge part of playing, she did not.
The no kissing rule for us is flexible, depending on circumstances and such.
Everyone has their own rules, ideas, desires, and lack thereof, whatever is clever for them, it is merely something to work around.