Sucks to be stood up after investing so much time into making a friend...and being stood up to just meet for coffee/drink cause you connected with someone without even getting an explanation. . . i guess it is part of the lifestyle huh?
So easy to just send a message saying hey i am not interested or got cold feet or whatever . . .
oh well. . .
So easy to just send a message saying hey i am not interested or got cold feet or whatever . . .
oh well. . .
do you talk on the phone before? im guessing you do. we have never been stood up, but im sure it could happen. it seems talking on the phone several times seems to help.
will I have do to those that are not know hard or deaf cant use phone like you can we text and that makes it so hard for use !!!! and we or I mike has a high high sex drive and I do see this happen to use a lot so ! ##**#
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Texted, im'ed, chatted every day for hours. . .it really shouldn't bother me that much right? I guess to me it seems like it was all a waste of time. . .not sure why it is bothering me so much...and no i didn't fall in love with someone elses wife on here!!!! i know that comment is coming somewhere! just thought i found a good friend...and that seemed to be confirmed by that person but found out yesterday the reality...
NEXT~! lol
NEXT~! lol
It happened so often with the ex that we devised a strategy to overcome it:
If we're meeting someone new, we make it either at a club (they no-show, no biggie, we're there to have fun anyway) and if not a club, then we'll meet them at a pub that's less than 5 minutes away from our home. We'd stay at home until they called and said they were there and looking for us, we'd tell them we were running a few minutes late and would be there in less than 5 minutes. No call, we don't go....
If we're meeting someone new, we make it either at a club (they no-show, no biggie, we're there to have fun anyway) and if not a club, then we'll meet them at a pub that's less than 5 minutes away from our home. We'd stay at home until they called and said they were there and looking for us, we'd tell them we were running a few minutes late and would be there in less than 5 minutes. No call, we don't go....
Wow...guess we've been lucky. Other than on house party invites..we've never had that problem. Just goes to show...even a blind squirrel finds a nut once in awhile! The idea of meeting at a club or such is a good one tho!
FANTASYSEEKER wrote:
Sucks to be stood up after investing so much time into making a friend...and being stood up to just meet for coffee/drink cause you connected with someone without even getting an explanation. . . i guess it is part of the lifestyle huh? So easy to just send a message saying hey i am not interested or got cold feet or whatever . . . oh well. . .
Don't be so quick to condemn folks who don't let you know they won't be keeping the appointment.
There could be any number of valid reasons why they didn't show or get back with you:
They may be total assholes
They may be inconsiderate jerks
They may be self-centered idiots
They may be posers/wannabes who have no intention of EVER actually following through, meeting others and actually playing.
See, isn't it easier to understand and forgive once you consider their side of it?
Unfortunately it's already happened to us as new as we are. Have to realize that sometimes things happen, and others...people just won't say what's up. A simple "not sure" would be fine. It's the same with friends you add. I have sent multiple IMs to peoe we have added and get nothing. After four or five, why did you add us? If you don't like what you saw, send a simple message and say the chemistry just isnt there. No harm, no foul....seriously a little maturity in some cases could go a long way...
carrier, now thats just funny. that said, swingers are as a rule flakes its gonna happen so we recomend just meeting someplace you would go anyway that way when people flake off you can just enjoy your evening without them.
UTAH-CPLE-2006 wrote:
carrier, now thats just funny. that said, swingers are as a rule flakes its gonna happen so we recomend just meeting someplace you would go anyway that way when people flake off you can just enjoy your evening without them.
great advice
that's why i have people meet at a club or party first. that way when the inevitable ditching occurs, i can have fun just dancing about and still call it a good night. 
TEASIN wrote:
We get stood up a lot! We agree with LVRSPLY, if we talk on the phone it happens less. Maybe it's just us?
Will be fun to meet you two soon!!!
In the world of SEX its not all fair in love and war. Some people talk how they feel to much and some do not know how to tell people. Even in our own relationships we do not always communicate right to each other. Like men are from mars and women are from venus. Totally seperate mind frames in most cases. I have found some men to be overly forward while the women are not and, do not like to hurt feelings ever. However I have also had people think they are better by far and be completely rude too. So it can be better to not know what people really think as most will not tell you what they really feel. Take it as a hall pass for another fun in the future.
Do go to clubs to meet and you will never be that disapointed because its all fun in the end!!!!
I have had couples not show up when we were new. However since we go to most the meet n greets we love meeting everyone. Does not mean I will be with all of them how can you and not everyone clicks. Because time is important in everyones lives so things can happen and often do. It would be nice to know if they can not come but not the why factor in the reason. So take it with a grain of salt and let it go and just keep chugging good things are to come!!! (=
Do go to clubs to meet and you will never be that disapointed because its all fun in the end!!!!
I have had couples not show up when we were new. However since we go to most the meet n greets we love meeting everyone. Does not mean I will be with all of them how can you and not everyone clicks. Because time is important in everyones lives so things can happen and often do. It would be nice to know if they can not come but not the why factor in the reason. So take it with a grain of salt and let it go and just keep chugging good things are to come!!! (=
HOTFIRELOVERS wrote:
In the world of SEX its not all fair in love and war. Some people talk how they feel to much and some do not know how to tell people. Even in our own relationships we do not always communicate right to each other. Like men are from mars and women are from venus. Totally seperate mind frames in most cases. I have found some men to be overly forward while the women are not and, do not like to hurt feelings ever. However I have also had people think they are better by far and be completely rude too. So it can be better to not know what people really think as most will not tell you what they really feel. Take it as a hall pass for another fun in the future.
Do go to clubs to meet and you will never be that disapointed because its all fun in the end!!!!
I have had couples not show up when we were new. However since we go to most the meet n greets we love meeting everyone. Does not mean I will be with all of them how can you and not everyone clicks. Because time is important in everyones lives so things can happen and often do. It would be nice to know if they can not come but not the why factor in the reason. So take it with a grain of salt and let it go and just keep chugging good things are to come!!! (=
Good perspective!
If our grandparents were swingers they would keep their word. It is too bad we are not in the WWII generation when people kept their word and you could make a deal on a handshake.
WEAREREALIN801 wrote:kudos, and we'll stand by ours...we are usually the couple that shows up ten minutes early wondering why we got there so fast...
Being stood up is never a good thing, well we guess it can be! In a way if the person(s) that you contact or contact you fail to show. Then you know that they aren't the kind of folks you want to really involve yourselves with.
But yes it does suck to have it happen, anyone in this lifestyle has had it happen! We have! We try to avoid it happening by speaking to them on the phone together. We always meet in a very public place and chit chat. That way there is no pressure or expectation of play. Once you relieve those things we find most people are going to show up. Things however do happen, life, children, work what have you. But if you totally blow off someone who has taken the time and trouble to go meet you in person, than what does that say about you?
But yes it does suck to have it happen, anyone in this lifestyle has had it happen! We have! We try to avoid it happening by speaking to them on the phone together. We always meet in a very public place and chit chat. That way there is no pressure or expectation of play. Once you relieve those things we find most people are going to show up. Things however do happen, life, children, work what have you. But if you totally blow off someone who has taken the time and trouble to go meet you in person, than what does that say about you?