Swingers Forum - Breaking the Ice.

I, myself, tend to make everyone around me laugh

Rob

I show my boobs if there's a lull in the conversation That seems to work well but damn I get kicked out of chili's all the time!! J/K (it was an applebees LOL)

I think it depends on what situation you are talking about personaly. A group situation like a party or meet and greet can be a little more difficult because too often people have already grouped up before coming there. So unless I have a burning desire to break into the conversation I probably won't. I am a very social person as long as I'm not bored and I make conversation easily as long as the other person isn't TOO shy. If the conversation is like pulling teeth well sadly I won't be interested for long. Sex is a conversation of your bodies, if you can't carry on one with your clothes on probably won't be "talking" to me with them off either Hubby breaks the ice by taking me with him I think because he's not a "social butterfly" but can joke and carry on a conversation as needed.

Smaller groups and individuals especially single men I try to make them feel comfortable because something that people forget is that if you are inviting someone into your "situation" it can be hard for them -- so you need to make them feel at ease and especially new couples it can be weird for them because they aren't sure how to act either.

Omg Tammy you shy ???? But you are funny .....

Badboy8p

I like to introduce myself with a smile, and hi how are you doing. Extend my hand for a handshake and start some small talk. Of course if it's a couple I'll make sure to address both the husband and wife and just show respect to the couple. A few laughs are always good too.

Tammy I thought I had you at "hello". You sure had me. Text me sister.

PEBBLEROCK wrote:

Tammy I thought I had you at "hello". You sure had me. Text me sister.

Email me your number. Or text me first if you still have mine. And the first time I said hello to you was at the halloween M&G and I was dressed as a naughty vampire school girl.

If you take the time to really read someone's profile, it's not that hard to find some sort of common ground where you can open an intelligent (ice breaker) dialog.
(just because they're on an adult site doesn't mean "wanna fuck" is an intelligent conversation starter)

Two possible snags here:
#1. Both parties have to actually READ each other's profiles before trying to communicate.
(not scan or skim over - READ it.)
#2. You have to actually BE what each other are looking for.
(and wishin don't make it so)

If we're talking about an "in person" ice breaker - see the "Best Pickup Lines" Forum thread.

JOHN1988 wrote:

hEY everyone,
I know this has nothing to do with the initial conversation. But Im scared to put my picture online. Is this website safe? My girlfriend and I just want a female to have fun with. Please tell me what you all think. And what is the best way to meet another girl willing to hang with us?

There is a way to post your picture but blur the face to those who aren't full fledge members. That way they can't see it while perusing the site. Or you can put all your face and/or XXX rated pics in your private album that only your preselected friends can view. Since you don't have public pics available on your profile, I would suggest that if you come across a profile of a single female you would like to get to know better, attach a nice face picture of BOTH of you and your girlfriend in the initial email contact so that she can see who's contacting her.

Just understand that MANY (myself included) prefer to see pictures to get an idea of who you are before we randomly start talking to you. I have very few select people on my friend's list who do not have public access pictures. But they sent pics to me in private emails before hand not to mention had taken the time to get to know me FIRST before requesting friendship.

The choice is yours to make but as long as you can live with how it limits you then it shouldn't be an issue. If it becomes an issue then rethink it and change it.

Good luck.

xox
Tammy

Pool and a cold drink. Suits just "fall off" and the rest is down hill!

I used to be nervous at first meetings, but they get easier with practice. I (Mrs. CREME) am the gregarious one. I like to set up meetings in restaurants where it is quiet enough to converse easily, but not so quiet that everyone in the place can hear. The other good thing about a restaurant is that talking about the menu / drinks, etc... is an easy way to get started conversing ("I"m starving! Do you come here a lot? What do you recommend? Have you ever tried this Castle Creek Chenin Blanc?") I try to e-mail, text and flirt a little with a new couple in advance, just to help everyone warm up to each other a bit. When we are together at the restaurant/bar, I just concentrate on being myself, listening carefully, focusing on them, searching for common ground. The prospect of play is exciting, but I LOVE just getting to know so many fun wonderful people. After a little time, I'll try a little extra eye contact and other things that naturally let the other couple know that we're attracted. Now, here's MY dilemma - the part I hate: how to find out if the other couple wants to play? "SOOOO... How do you feel about... I mean, well, Mr. and I find you very attractive and... but perhaps you don't play on the first date, which is FINE! YEAH! But... ummm..." And somehow, it always ends up being me who does the asking! I must be painful to watch. Anybody got any suggestions for a tactful and genteel way to say, "You're hot! I want to sit on your face ASAP. Let's get a room."?

Well the sit on your face part might be particular interesting. Is that in the desert part of the menu? It would have to be.

So far in our experiences meeting people, we will text a little before meeting. The nerves still come in person though. One thing I've started doing is when everyone seems to click, but you can feel that awkward silence, I will just say "So I am really nervous, but you two are great, and I think your wife is beautiful!"(of course, only say it if you mean it). This will hopefully let them know it's ok to relax, or to say it's not gonna work for them. The waiting game is one of the hardest parts. That's my soap box, good luck!

just get naked !!! or come in something so revealing that it loosens everyone up...thats what my girl does

Just be myself..I think it works pretty well..I say hi, hello, chill out have a beer or a drink and go from there! I am pretty easy going and outgoing...my friends outside the lifestyle would tell you that I am the guy who makes friends at coffeeshops and subway and tell people to come out with us, so I just go with the flow.

I agree with what some said above that if conversation is like pulling teeth, then probably not gonna work. This is another reason I like chatting/im/text/calling beforehand to make sure there is some sort of conversation that can happen.

Oh as a single guy, if you are the hubby that stares down single guys while your wife and the guy are chatting. . .usually makes me kind of not interested. . .i like to chat with the hubby's too..seriously we are guys, we can talk about just about anything and get along but i don't need a guy going nuts while i am pleasing his wife (yes have had that happen before!!!).

I've done that as well, eases their tension and yours!

LVRSPLY you had me at So............