I'm curious how other members deal with "etiquette." I get so many "SPAM" friend requests and emails that obviously ignore my profile. Do these people actually get responses from some of you? I really try to respond to legitimate emails but sometimes there is so much crap to wade through to get to those.
Here's how I deal with "stuff" on here ... I'm wondering if I'm out of line, or if others operate under similar criteria:
* Blind friend requests (w/no email intro) -- Delete and deny the FR. If it comes again (sometimes the same day) block the member entirely.
*Emails without accompanying face and body pic(s). Delete. This includes someone who states -- "Hey, I've some face pics in my private profile, just make me your friend first." Nope, you emailed me, you take the first risk (yeah, I'm sexist, guys still gotta take the lead in my world!).
*Emails with appropriate pics as requested by my profile, even when I'm not attracted to the sender. Respond, turning them down as nicely as possible, then delete.
*Follow up emails to my response from above, sometimes nasty and mean spirited, or simply arguing as to why I really should meet them anyway. Immediately delete. Block the sender if they take a third shot.
*Emails from folks I'm attracted to. Set up a meeting, tear their clothes off as rapidly as possible while dropping to my knees .... ohh .... oops .... that's for a different post!
But really, do you all respond to some of these situations that I don't? I sense that some folks look at profile pics, hit the Friend button, move to the next profile, hit it again, until someone finally responds? I suppose that's a rhetorical question 'cause no one would likely admit to it here! But do you handle things similar to me?
Here's how I deal with "stuff" on here ... I'm wondering if I'm out of line, or if others operate under similar criteria:
* Blind friend requests (w/no email intro) -- Delete and deny the FR. If it comes again (sometimes the same day) block the member entirely.
*Emails without accompanying face and body pic(s). Delete. This includes someone who states -- "Hey, I've some face pics in my private profile, just make me your friend first." Nope, you emailed me, you take the first risk (yeah, I'm sexist, guys still gotta take the lead in my world!).
*Emails with appropriate pics as requested by my profile, even when I'm not attracted to the sender. Respond, turning them down as nicely as possible, then delete.
*Follow up emails to my response from above, sometimes nasty and mean spirited, or simply arguing as to why I really should meet them anyway. Immediately delete. Block the sender if they take a third shot.
*Emails from folks I'm attracted to. Set up a meeting, tear their clothes off as rapidly as possible while dropping to my knees .... ohh .... oops .... that's for a different post!
But really, do you all respond to some of these situations that I don't? I sense that some folks look at profile pics, hit the Friend button, move to the next profile, hit it again, until someone finally responds? I suppose that's a rhetorical question 'cause no one would likely admit to it here! But do you handle things similar to me?
FUN4MWF wrote:
I'm curious how other members deal with "etiquette." I get so many "SPAM" friend requests and emails that obviously ignore my profile. Do these people actually get responses from some of you? I really try to respond to legitimate emails but sometimes there is so much crap to wade through to get to those. Here's how I deal with "stuff" on here ... I'm wondering if I'm out of line, or if others operate under similar criteria: * Blind friend requests (w/no email intro) -- Delete and deny the FR. If it comes again (sometimes the same day) block the member entirely. *Emails without accompanying face and body pic(s). Delete. This includes someone who states -- "Hey, I've some face pics in my private profile, just make me your friend first." Nope, you emailed me, you take the first risk (yeah, I'm sexist, guys still gotta take the lead in my world!). *Emails with appropriate pics as requested by my profile, even when I'm not attracted to the sender. Respond, turning them down as nicely as possible, then delete. *Follow up emails to my response from above, sometimes nasty and mean spirited, or simply arguing as to why I really should meet them anyway. Immediately delete. Block the sender if they take a third shot. *Emails from folks I'm attracted to. Set up a meeting, tear their clothes off as rapidly as possible while dropping to my knees .... ohh .... oops .... that's for a different post!
In total agreement with you - butt with one exception.
I know it sounds like a cop-out, butt some people really do have a legitimate reason to NOT send pics initially - even in the first introductory e-mail.
We always read the profile either way.
If it sounds like someone we might be interested in, and they have offered to send pics once we're acquainted (NOT talking about Friend Requests), then we take it from there.
We realize that many people who have NO problem making their pics public can't possibly understand why some of us can't - and I'm not going to get into the reasons WHY we can't - just know that some of the reasons not to post pics initially are 100% legitimate.
Blind friend requests are weird. You never know what the motivation is. Do they really want to meet, but are shy? Do they just want to see the private kinky pics? Are they seeing how many friends they can rack up? Are they trying to see our face pics to see if they really want to initiate conversation? (We usually have face pics in our public so that one doesn't apply).
We have become lazy and just delete the blind FR email without taking the effort to deny the FR.
On the other hand we always try and answer all emails. If someone has taken the effort to email us, whether we will ever "hook up" or not, the least we will do is tell them thanks and to come up and say Hi if they see us at a party since they know what we look like. (99% don't have face pics so we would have no idea if they were at the party or not).
So, in our book, for what it is worth, you are golden.
We have become lazy and just delete the blind FR email without taking the effort to deny the FR.
On the other hand we always try and answer all emails. If someone has taken the effort to email us, whether we will ever "hook up" or not, the least we will do is tell them thanks and to come up and say Hi if they see us at a party since they know what we look like. (99% don't have face pics so we would have no idea if they were at the party or not).
So, in our book, for what it is worth, you are golden.
I just delete the actual friend's request email without accepting it. It goes into a "que" and just sits there. That way they can't ask again. As to other emails, I get several everyday saying "i would love to meet you" or "i read your profile and love everything it said" blah blah blah. Take a second. Go read my profile. No. Seriously. Go read it.
Ok. Read it? Now explain to me how on earth my profile gives ANYONE the indication i might be interested. Only stupid people with low IQs have the audacity to actually email me anyway. And we all know stupid isn't fuckable. I seriously have higher standards then that. And I also don't do blatant liars. Most times they really haven't read the profile and when they get handed their ass they whimper and cry and bitch. Please.
If fuctards are going to send a friend's request or email without reading a profile or they totally disregard your personal specifications, then how you handle it is YOUR choice and they need to just shut the fuck up and get a clue.
If they can't respect your boundries online, good luck getting them to respect them in person.
Edited to add: Seriously. There are some really stupid people out there. Within an hour of this posting this response, I got a friend's request. Granted the pics of their shoes in their profile make me wanna go shoe shopping but that's ALL that peaked my interest. SMDH.
Ok. Read it? Now explain to me how on earth my profile gives ANYONE the indication i might be interested. Only stupid people with low IQs have the audacity to actually email me anyway. And we all know stupid isn't fuckable. I seriously have higher standards then that. And I also don't do blatant liars. Most times they really haven't read the profile and when they get handed their ass they whimper and cry and bitch. Please.
If fuctards are going to send a friend's request or email without reading a profile or they totally disregard your personal specifications, then how you handle it is YOUR choice and they need to just shut the fuck up and get a clue.
If they can't respect your boundries online, good luck getting them to respect them in person.
Edited to add: Seriously. There are some really stupid people out there. Within an hour of this posting this response, I got a friend's request. Granted the pics of their shoes in their profile make me wanna go shoe shopping but that's ALL that peaked my interest. SMDH.
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
... Go read my profile. No. Seriously. Go read it.
Ok. Read it? Now explain to me how on earth my profile gives ANYONE the indication i might be interested. Only stupid people with low IQs have the audacity to actually email me anyway. And we all know stupid isn't fuckable. I seriously have higher standards then that. And I also don't do blatant liars. Most times they really haven't read the profile and when they get handed their ass they whimper and cry and bitch. Please.
If fuctards are going to send a friend's request or email without reading a profile or they totally disregard your personal specifications, then how you handle it is YOUR choice and they need to just shut the fuck up and get a clue.
If they can't respect your boundries online, good luck getting them to respect them in person.
ROFL, but BlueEyes, could you not hold back and PLEASE tell us how you REALLY feel??
BTW, BlueEyes, I did go and read your profile and wondered if you are interested in getting together with my hubby and me tonight? I'll send you a couple-a emails and a friend request just to make sure you're aware of our interest!!
(sorry, couldn't help sayin' that! I did look at your profile though and you ARE a pretty gal!)
WILDATLCOUPLE123 wrote:
Well here is my opinion.... I look at a public pic and I cant see much so I request friendship... I hardly ever send an email with my friend request. I want to see if I am sexually attracted to you first, (sex site hello) then you get my friend request and if you like my public pic or you need to see more you accept or deny the friend request. If you or I then see the private photos we make a choice, either send an email or remove the friendship.
Thats how I play because I want to see if you are even someone I would fuck. I have recieved emails from people saying that they will not accept my friend request without a hello. ok thanks....
People play differently on this site. Some want to be friends and hold hands and sing. I want good sex and if a friendship develops along the way great... But I am not going to go to dinner etc.... and waste my time if I would not even fuck you if I met you on MATCH.COM by the way thats a friendship site......
Hey, WildATLCouple, we're friends! Here's my convo with my husband over your profile pic: "(me)--Hey, hun, do you like this one? (husband)--Wow, what a pic! (me)--So is that a nice motorcycle? (husband)There's a motorcyle in that pic?
Anyway, you're a little different than the vast majority of folks on here. Your public profile has full pics of you available (BOTH OF YOU, WOO HOO!). That is cool. You send me a friend request I can at least look at your pics to see if you're attractive to me (us). If that's good, I can look at your profile. If that's good then I can certainly accept your friend request and if we hear from ya than great, if not then great. No biggie. Basically (I think) the same as you're talking about. But if someone sends an FR without pics? and no pics in their profile? and no email?
FUN4MWF wrote:
ROFL, but BlueEyes, could you not hold back and PLEASE tell us how you REALLY feel??
BTW, BlueEyes, I did go and read your profile and wondered if you are interested in getting together with my hubby and me tonight? I'll send you a couple-a emails and a friend request just to make sure you're aware of our interest!!
(sorry, couldn't help sayin' that! I did look at your profile though and you ARE a pretty gal!)
Please. You had me at hello. ;-)
WILDATLCOUPLE123 wrote:
Well here is my opinion.... I look at a public pic and I cant see much so I request friendship... I hardly ever send an email with my friend request. I want to see if I am sexually attracted to you first, (sex site hello) then you get my friend request and if you like my public pic or you need to see more you accept or deny the friend request. If you or I then see the private photos we make a choice, either send an email or remove the friendship. Thats how I play because I want to see if you are even someone I would fuck. I have recieved emails from people saying that they will not accept my friend request without a hello. ok thanks.... People play differently on this site. Some want to be friends and hold hands and sing. I want good sex and if a friendship develops along the way great... But I am not going to go to dinner etc.... and waste my time if I would not even fuck you if I met you on MATCH.COM by the way thats a friendship site......
Sounds about like what we do.....albiet we also try to send just a little introductory note with our friend request, as well. Then the ball is in their court..accept if you might be interested in meeting. If they don't accept..well we assume they didn't feel it would work for them, and we try to remember them, so that we don't mistakenly request again.
The one's who will actually respond with an answer, one way or the other..are golden to us!
TIFFND wrote:
Sounds about like what we do.....albiet we also try to send just a little introductory note with our friend request, as well. Then the ball is in their court..accept if you might be interested in meeting. If they don't accept..well we assume they didn't feel it would work for them, and we try to remember them, so that we don't mistakenly request again.
The one's who will actually respond with an answer, one way or the other..are golden to us!
Yeah, but you two are some of the nicest, most genuine, funniest couples out there. Of course they are going to accept.
xox
T.
p.s. (please mail my endorsement fee to.....
)BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:TIFFND wrote:Yeah, but you two are some of the nicest, most genuine, funniest couples out there. Of course they are going to accept. xox T. p.s. (please mail my endorsement fee to.....
Sounds about like what we do.....albiet we also try to send just a little introductory note with our friend request, as well. Then the ball is in their court..accept if you might be interested in meeting. If they don't accept..well we assume they didn't feel it would work for them, and we try to remember them, so that we don't mistakenly request again. The one's who will actually respond with an answer, one way or the other..are golden to us!
Awwww..shucks M'am....You're too sweet! Unfortunately, we get turned down all the time..Tif has to keep reminding me not to take it personal, I'm learning. This really is an "Eclectic" bunch of folks....you'll find them ALL here!
Now..thanks for the endorsement..and the checks in the mail....
Why worry about etiquette? As WildATLCouple said, "People play differently on this site." If another couple isn't your cup of tea, ignore their request and move on. If they get butt hurt over the lack of a personalized rejection letter then there's something they are missing... which can usually be found in your profile (some mismatch, or request for certain people to not even bother). The whole point of the profile and pics is to get an idea of whether or not another couple or individual is a good match for your interests (fantasies, kinks, desires, etc.) and you for theirs so as to avoid actually having to go out to a club or social gathering and waste often precious time spending 15-20 minutes talking to each "candidate" in person before finding a compatible match.
I say, put yourself in their shoes... when you request someone's friendship and they just decline without a notice and you never hear from them and you aren't bothered by it, then you shouldn't have a problem doing that to others. And again, like WildATLCOuple indicated to, you are here for YOU, you don't have to bend over backwards for everyone else on here. You know what you are looking for and are interested in, pursue that and ignore the rest.
I say, put yourself in their shoes... when you request someone's friendship and they just decline without a notice and you never hear from them and you aren't bothered by it, then you shouldn't have a problem doing that to others. And again, like WildATLCOuple indicated to, you are here for YOU, you don't have to bend over backwards for everyone else on here. You know what you are looking for and are interested in, pursue that and ignore the rest.
oh, and the first sentence, "Why worry about etiquette," was not meant as "feel free to disregard common courtesy and be a total assbag." I recently read the book "Codependency No More," as my girlfriend and her parents had read it. Great book, but one of the underlying arguments is that you shouldn't spend too much time focusing, worrying, and stressing over making sure other people around you are perfectly peachy keen and happy. They are strangers, if you want to get to know them better, be friendly, be happy, be kind and endearing... if not, it's okay to just deny the request and get on with your life.
Mr Fun_luvn here... Okay, and an update on my last two posts... We've been getting more and more friend requests that obviously ignore our profile (couples looking for a single female only, guy with a hall pass, etc...). In the past, we've just clicked "decline" and moved on, but a lot of "new" couples seem to be adding us, so I've taken it upon myself to educate them about the importance of reading a profile. well, sort of. We've been writing polite notes of declination and telling them exactly why we are declining. Here's a recent excerpt:
Well, it looks like you're looking for single females only, but we're a "play together only" couple. We're not opposed to hanging out and getting to know you, but if anything happens in the bedroom, it'll involve both of us or neither of us.
I think people who tend to not read profiles* will eventually catch on and correct their "friend gathering" techniques. I'm hoping, because neither Sam or I want to resort to blocking people entirely.
*this is of course assuming they are doing this for legitimate reasons and not just trying to gather pictures...
Well, it looks like you're looking for single females only, but we're a "play together only" couple. We're not opposed to hanging out and getting to know you, but if anything happens in the bedroom, it'll involve both of us or neither of us.
I think people who tend to not read profiles* will eventually catch on and correct their "friend gathering" techniques. I'm hoping, because neither Sam or I want to resort to blocking people entirely.
*this is of course assuming they are doing this for legitimate reasons and not just trying to gather pictures...
Although an exception or two may pop up from time to time, our philosophy (and policy) is.................
Once we've begun talking with someone, we let them know we would be receptive to a Friend Request from them as opposed to just sending them an uninvited FR.
At times, folks have done it BEFORE we let them know we're receptive to it - and that's OK if it's someone we now know.
If not, it takes little to no effort to just decline the request.
I fail to see why it's considered such a big deal.
Once we've begun talking with someone, we let them know we would be receptive to a Friend Request from them as opposed to just sending them an uninvited FR.
At times, folks have done it BEFORE we let them know we're receptive to it - and that's OK if it's someone we now know.
If not, it takes little to no effort to just decline the request.
I fail to see why it's considered such a big deal.
CARRIERMANANDGEEKGIRL wrote:
it takes little to no effort to just decline the request.
I fail to see why it's considered such a big deal.
Totally agree with this. It shouldn't be a big deal on either end. Everyone has a different agenda and view of how things work.
There are so many factors that come into play you can never possibly know what someone is thinking when they send or decline a friend request. For a lot of people sending a blind friend request purely means "hey, you look interesting". That may be unacceptable to some while perfectly acceptable to others.
Sometimes you get requests from people who don't seem to match based on your profiles. We have found that we match with a lot of couples in real life even though our profiles don't align. That doesn't mean we play with all of those matches. We happen to fall into the "love finding people that are enjoyable to be around" category. Have we played with other couples? Of course we have. But that isn't what it's all about for us.
Keep in mind everyone is here with their own list of wants, don't wants, quirks, and personalities.
Just be yourself and enjoy it. Not many people here are trying to offend or be rude to others, we all just have different ideas of what that means.
Mr. FP
FRI3NDSPLUS wrote:CARRIERMANANDGEEKGIRL wrote:Totally agree with this. It shouldn't be a big deal on either end. Everyone has a different agenda and view of how things work. There are so many factors that come into play you can never possibly know what someone is thinking when they send or decline a friend request. For a lot of people sending a blind friend request purely means "hey, you look interesting". That may be unacceptable to some while perfectly acceptable to others. Sometimes you get requests from people who don't seem to match based on your profiles. We have found that we match with a lot of couples in real life even though our profiles don't align. That doesn't mean we play with all of those matches. We happen to fall into the "love finding people that are enjoyable to be around" category. Have we played with other couples? Of course we have. But that isn't what it's all about for us. Keep in mind everyone is here with their own list of wants, don't wants, quirks, and personalities. Just be yourself and enjoy it. Not many people here are trying to offend or be rude to others, we all just have different ideas of what that means. Mr. FP
it takes little to no effort to just decline the request. I fail to see why it's considered such a big deal.
Well said, Mr. FP.
Luckily, there's NO drama in the Lifestyle.
NO Drama?!? Well crap I came here for the drama!! I'm the type that slows down next to a car accident, likes stir the pot and all the other stuff geez take away all my fun lol
Here's my deal, I don't care if you ask to be my friend, I may not add you but I might just do it anyway lol I mean I dont' care who sees my private pics! I might delete it if it's really bad...like I seriously wonder why some people put the pics they do up here! I mean BAD pictures that really shouldn't be shown. I have some of those as well but you don't see them up here LOL
Here's my deal, I don't care if you ask to be my friend, I may not add you but I might just do it anyway lol I mean I dont' care who sees my private pics! I might delete it if it's really bad...like I seriously wonder why some people put the pics they do up here! I mean BAD pictures that really shouldn't be shown. I have some of those as well but you don't see them up here LOL
hand to put in my two cents lol.....
i have sent friend reequests with and with out emails accompyning them (shame on me i know). i think its at mininum respectful to send a reply no thank you/ not interested , then to pretend you are and accept the friend request then delete it .
be the other person for 5 seconds if i lady or couple u wanted to meet didnt respond to you from a email or f.r.. you would think what? shallow? rude? to good to speak?
its not a long drawn out process to send a no thank you email
just my 2 cents
i have sent friend reequests with and with out emails accompyning them (shame on me i know). i think its at mininum respectful to send a reply no thank you/ not interested , then to pretend you are and accept the friend request then delete it .
be the other person for 5 seconds if i lady or couple u wanted to meet didnt respond to you from a email or f.r.. you would think what? shallow? rude? to good to speak?
its not a long drawn out process to send a no thank you email
just my 2 cents
K...gotta put my two cents in now since u did blackman01 I absolutely hate the thought of making someone feel bad...so if u "read" my profile I say that if you send me a friend request and I don't respond please take it as a polite "no thank you"
I absolutely hate the thought of making someone feel bad...so if u "read" my profile I say that if you send me a friend request and I don't respond please take it as a polite "no thank you" We've been trying to work out etiquette for a while. We do send a friend request without email ( unless they specifically say not to ) just as a way to say "we're interested, are you?".
BLACKMAN01 wrote:
hand to put in my two cents lol..... i have sent friend reequests with and with out emails accompyning them (shame on me i know). i think its at mininum respectful to send a reply no thank you/ not interested , then to pretend you are and accept the friend request then delete it . be the other person for 5 seconds if i lady or couple u wanted to meet didnt respond to you from a email or f.r.. you would think what? shallow? rude? to good to speak? its not a long drawn out process to send a no thank you email just my 2 cents
But my dear how do you know that you are interested sometimes unless you approve it first? Because way too many people have profiles that are hardly filled out (I personally love the profiles that say "We are new here will fill this out later" and they have been here since 2009) and/or the public photos show a picture of the woman's eyes or butt or boobs and NOTHING else! I want to see the MAN I want to know what i'm signing up for and yes shallow as it may be I want to know if it's shaved/trimmed and if it's worth me shaving for
(I heard that smiling at the end of the comment makes it received better by the general public LOL)When you find out you have A step-daughter on 1 of these sites & don't know which 1, You take your pic. down quick!
RED69DOG wrote:
When you find out you have A step-daughter on 1 of these sites & don't know which 1, You take your pic. down quick!
I have family here too. LOL. WHICH IS WHY I HAVE PICS. I don't want them to send me an email with an inappropriate pic to introduce themselves. My cousin and her hubby have a profile on here with no pics but their profile is a fun great read. I sent an introduction email including a pic of me in my corset and needless to say it got a little weird for a bit. That's why I won't accept FR without face pics. Flirting with my own family is so embarrassing. Ok. Admittedly flirting with my cousin was. Making out with her hubby on the dance floor at Habits was HOT. But gotta draw the line somewhere. LOL
xox
Tammy
Hahahaha !!!!!!!!! Funny shit really who cares everyone is different ..... If they send a friends request without a e-mail it dosent bother me the only thing that really bothers me is when people dont read our profile . We want people that are close to the same as us !!!!!!! If you are girl on girl and nothing else then dont ask to be friends with full swap people its only common sense . Happy hunting , Peace , Love and Pancakes ........
Badboy8p
Badboy8p
BADBOY8P wrote:
Hahahaha !!!!!!!!! Funny shit really who cares everyone is different ..... If they send a friends request without a e-mail it dosent bother me the only thing that really bothers me is when people dont read our profile . We want people that are close to the same as us !!!!!!! If you are girl on girl and nothing else then dont ask to be friends with full swap people its only common sense . Happy hunting , Peace , Love and Pancakes ........
Badboy8p
(From the Mr) PAN-freakin-CAKES? Sum-beetch, I read your profile and didn't see that. If I'd have known pancakes were in the mix, I'd have sent a friend request long ago! You've just GOT to be more forth-cuming in your profile, ya know!!!
Hahahaha !!!!! Fun4mwf you need to read it better it says it at the bottom of our profile ....... Our wifes a little butter some syrup what the hell more could you want !!!!!!! Next time I will send a e-mail before the friends request ...... LMAO
Badboy8p
Badboy8p
Blueeyesinutah Did you just add me for the pancakes to ????? Tammy you crack me up is your cuz as hot as you ???? Just sayin
Badboy8p
Badboy8p
BADBOY8P wrote:
Blueeyesinutah Did you just add me for the pancakes to ????? Tammy you crack me up is your cuz as hot as you ???? Just sayin Badboy8p
LOL. J, I would add you for warm melted dripping butter & syrup.
And is my what as hot as me? Did someone type faster then they could think? Or am just slow. Wait. Im not slow. I'm just distracted still by the mental image of you/butter/syrup.
BADBOY8P wrote:Oops...We just proved that the Mr here doesn't finish reading profiles as, sure enough, right at the bottom of your profile is the pancakes reference. Damn. In my defense, I think I got distracted at the "Staying clean and disease free is a must," as I usually prefer flies and lotsa viral infections in our playmates. Ummm...or it could have been the picture of your sexy wife licking the frozen bust, but I didn't want to admit that, 'cause my dear foxy wife will probably be reading this later!! So I'm sticking with the flies and viruses excuse for now.
Hahahaha !!!!! Fun4mwf you need to read it better it says it at the bottom of our profile ....... Our wifes a little butter some syrup what the hell more could you want !!!!!!! Next time I will send a e-mail before the friends request ...... LMAO
Badboy8p
Damn, I'm here editing this post but can't figure out how to improve it. Framing a compliment to a guys wife between two sentences involving flies and viruses is truly NOT an example of my finest literary work....oh well....here's hoping that BadBoy can sort out the compliment from the joke!!
Omg Tammy it says your cuz to many starbucks today ???? Fun4mwf thanx for the compliment when you mix butter and syrup you might just get a few flies ..... Hahahaha If people on swingular had sex as much as there in these damn forums we would all be walking funny .... Just sayin
Badboy8p
Badboy8p
BADBOY8P wrote:Well, kinda. If you're projecting interactions here into real life there'd be an awful lot of gunshot, puncture-wounded hospital victims too! I'm kind of a newbie but the wife has done a crap-load of posting. She's kinda toned it down cause there's some rather vicious crap posted from folks who take it way too serious. There's one thread popular now where folks despise fat people, skinny people, fit people, well ... pretty much everybody in one way or another if they're different from yourself. I know for a fact they're all wrong 'cause I'm the only perfect one in this world. Aww, great, those f-ing smiley face thingys are gone again from the toolbar when I need one. Now SOMEONE is going to call me for the arrogant ass that I am!!
... If people on swingular had sex as much as there in these damn forums we would all be walking funny .... Just sayin
Badboy8p
it could very easily been us, we are new to this so were not aware of the proper protocol. no disrepect is ever intended if I send out a freind request with no email attached it is ignorance of the sequence we dont have face pics on public for obvious reasons but you could always friend and then unfriend if you so choose we just dont know how to make contact and get guidance without requesting friendship I also apologize if we dont always read the complete profile sometimes we just see people we think are attractive and request an oppurtunity to get to know them the location is not of particular concern to us since we travel a good bit it is seems it would be nice to have friends around, and friendship may lead no farther than friendship among like minded people. so please if anyone out there recieved a request from us you are not interested in take no offense, we wont.
MARKAR wrote:My wife was the one who posted the question on here but I don't think it was any huge condemnation of anyone, just a question as to how others handle certain situations. In your case it'd be good to include an email explaining that you travel a lot? (maybe it says that in your profile if someone looks) I know if I'd have received it I'd have accepted it, immediately after having wiped the drool off the keyboard!!!
it could very easily been us, we are new to this so were not aware of the proper protocol. no disrepect is ever intended if I send out a freind request with no email attached it is ignorance of the sequence we dont have face pics on public for obvious reasons but you could always friend and then unfriend if you so choose we just dont know how to make contact and get guidance without requesting friendship I also apologize if we dont always read the complete profile sometimes we just see people we think are attractive and request an oppurtunity to get to know them the location is not of particular concern to us since we travel a good bit it is seems it would be nice to have friends around, and friendship may lead no farther than friendship among like minded people. so please if anyone out there recieved a request from us you are not interested in take no offense, we wont.
well thank you and if and your are interested we wouldbe honored to get to know you we plan on being out west in the fall, if you were to request our friendship I promise we would accept, we found your wife stunning
MARKAR wrote:Thank goodness, I'm on here instead of the wife. You DO know you used PAST tense there, right??!! LOL. She's at an age where you might want to keep it in the present tense!!!
well thank you and if and your are interested we wouldbe honored to get to know you we plan on being out west in the fall, if you were to request our friendship I promise we would accept, we found your wife stunning
Wow, its been interesting to see all the different attitudes towards friend requests. We sent out a bunch of them the first couple days because we wanted to be able to see private pics to further determine if we were attracted. Now based on this thread I'm learning we look like friend whores/spammers lol.
We will accept friend request without face pics so we can see the private pics but ONLY if our profiles kind of match. I feel similarities are the most important. I think someone else had mentioned, on a similar post, that people don't always look like their pics. Even if someone looks super attractive but they are only looking for same room/soft swap then we usually won't accecpt. Not trying to be rude or anything but that is NOT at all what we're looking for...so whats the point?? Don't get me wrong...not that we don't want to make friends without benefits too but if you live in Orem and I live in Clearfield, I don't think we're gonna be hanging out much.
BADBOY8P wrote:
Omg Tammy it says your cuz to many starbucks today ???? Badboy8p
Bite your tongue. There is no such thing ad too many starbucks. Have you MET me? Sheesh. You do know what my secondary choice of drink is. I blame you and L. Damn things are addicting. LOL
I just run around slapping people with my giant dong. You should all be honored to be graced with such a presence as me and my superwang.
Kitty
Kitty
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
I just run around slapping people with my giant dong. You should all be honored to be graced with such a presence as me and my superwang.
Kitty
(from the mr) Given that brief description, I am now somewhat concerned that I've, in the past, found Kitty to be rather hot!
Kitty...if you're gonna threaten/offer to slap people with your giant dong could you please not do it when I'm going to bed early...I'm off duty and my skirts are in the wash. All I got are polka dot pajama pants and corset tops.
Hrmm... well, I'll keep your cell number handy just in case I get booked for assault. :P (And don't worry the mr. ... its not biologically attached to my body. i wield it like a baseball bat.)
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
Hrmm... well, I'll keep your cell number handy just in case I get booked for assault. :P (And don't worry the mr. ... its not biologically attached to my body. i wield it like a baseball bat.)
I just want to know one thing....
Is it double ended?
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
Hrmm... well, I'll keep your cell number handy just in case I get booked for assault. :P (And don't worry the mr. ... its not biologically attached to my body. i wield it like a baseball bat.)
I just want to know one thing....
Is it double ended?
now. but its got a suction cup on the bottom. BLAMMO!
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
now. but its got a suction cup on the bottom. BLAMMO!
Nice. Your huge dong is gonna end up sucking face with someone and then you really will need me.
JUSTAUTAHCOUPLE wrote:BLACKMAN01 wrote:But my dear how do you know that you are interested sometimes unless you approve it first? Because way too many people have profiles that are hardly filled out (I personally love the profiles that say "We are new here will fill this out later" and they have been here since 2009) and/or the public photos show a picture of the woman's eyes or butt or boobs and NOTHING else! I want to see the MAN I want to know what i'm signing up for and yes shallow as it may be I want to know if it's shaved/trimmed and if it's worth me shaving for
hand to put in my two cents lol..... i have sent friend reequests with and with out emails accompyning them (shame on me i know). i think its at mininum respectful to send a reply no thank you/ not interested , then to pretend you are and accept the friend request then delete it . be the other person for 5 seconds if i lady or couple u wanted to meet didnt respond to you from a email or f.r.. you would think what? shallow? rude? to good to speak? its not a long drawn out process to send a no thank you email just my 2 cents
i take the joke in its intended purpose lol
yes smiling at the end of a comment makes it all better lol
Just read your profile: You want face shots but don't provide one your self.
An for couples you want pic of male & female shots But dont provide it your self.
As for us if some one sends a friends request we read and put them thru are screening prosess, and some are just wantting to be a Voyer thats cool with us since out of 100% who is on our friends list 90 % are voyers. and out of the remaining 10% maybe we hook up with 2% but have a very nice online friend ship going on and i think you get the Idea. Ive been on this site along time ive seen my share of real and not so real.
Poet
An for couples you want pic of male & female shots But dont provide it your self.
As for us if some one sends a friends request we read and put them thru are screening prosess, and some are just wantting to be a Voyer thats cool with us since out of 100% who is on our friends list 90 % are voyers. and out of the remaining 10% maybe we hook up with 2% but have a very nice online friend ship going on and i think you get the Idea. Ive been on this site along time ive seen my share of real and not so real.
Poet
If someone is requesting a friendship, then I think they have entered your house and it is governed by your rules. I do not think I agree with all of your rules but I certainly would not be critical of them.
swingular is very clickish so if you fit in you will fit in
i should say at least in utah sorry cant speak about anywhere else
No profile pic?! Dont even think about getting a response from me. Maybe I would entertain a FR if if if you were to couple it with a personal email...but without that, FORGET it! Please- We are NOT about trying to keep people happy or walk around not tring to hurt feelings by saying no thank you for a FR. It is what it is. There are lots of fish and even more fisherman. We try to keep it simple. If we dont find you attractive and/or believe that after reading all of your profile we would be a good match, we are NOT going to approve a FR. We hope that this same courtsey is also extended to us.
your boys are very sweet you are now part of my clique. lol
First of all, WILDATLCOUPLE: we just friended each other a couple days ago. How soon are you available?
Lots of people have had interesting things to say on this topic. I would only add that, if I get a friend request without an e-mail (and the sender fits my preferred profile), I'll just send a quick message and say that I need to know a little more before friending. I ask them what attracted them to our profile. If they bother to reply, I will generally accept their FR.
Lots of people have had interesting things to say on this topic. I would only add that, if I get a friend request without an e-mail (and the sender fits my preferred profile), I'll just send a quick message and say that I need to know a little more before friending. I ask them what attracted them to our profile. If they bother to reply, I will generally accept their FR.