I have a question. I was married 15 years and "in the lifestyle" with my wife for about 3 years. We have recently divorced and whether or when I decide to begin a new relationship, I would like to meet someone who is "lifestyle friendly" as well. Not necessarily meaning someone who is a full-blown swinger (which my wife and I were not) but who is ok with a little play here and there and who enjoys clothing optional resorts. I guess my question is, where could I meet someone like that? Being a single guy on here or other websites like AFF is like repellant and in other social circles being part of the lifestyle is not exactly acceptable. Especially in Utah. Any thoughts or suggestions would be greatly appreciated 
It truly is a sad fact that a guy in a relationship is acceptable but once he is single he suddenly becomes unwanted whereas the girl suddenly becomes wanted by many. Good hunting!
THE_RED_REVIEW wrote:
It truly is a sad fact that a guy in a relationship is acceptable but once he is single he suddenly becomes unwanted whereas the girl suddenly becomes wanted by many. Good hunting!
I don't find that to be entirely true....simply a vague generalization...
Hey, my experience in going from a single female to half of a couple has been less then..uh...pleasant.
1) Constant emails from people asking me to "cheat". Uh, No.
2) People who used to be my friends suddenly won't talk to me cuz now I don't fit into their fucking radar. Nice to know they were only speaking to me to get into my pants. If I hadn't slept with you before my relationship, chances were, I wasn't going to begin with. Perhaps I was still talking/flirting with you because I actually thought of you as a friend. Thanks for correcting my thinking.
3. People think my other half is controlling MY decisions and can't wait to comment, bitch, or gossip about it. Newsflash....I decide who, what, and where he and I play.
If you are interested in meeting a like minded female for that type of relationship, nothing wrong with putting it in your profile that you are open to possibilities. The best place to find someone like what you want is to look where they are...usually sites like this one. Just be honest about why you want a partner....if you really want a relationship or if you are just hoping it will increase your chances for more playtime. And trust me, I met several women on this site who really did want a relationship and those who didn't want a commitment but a regular play partner.
Good luck in your search.
xox
Tammy
1) Constant emails from people asking me to "cheat". Uh, No.
2) People who used to be my friends suddenly won't talk to me cuz now I don't fit into their fucking radar. Nice to know they were only speaking to me to get into my pants. If I hadn't slept with you before my relationship, chances were, I wasn't going to begin with. Perhaps I was still talking/flirting with you because I actually thought of you as a friend. Thanks for correcting my thinking.
3. People think my other half is controlling MY decisions and can't wait to comment, bitch, or gossip about it. Newsflash....I decide who, what, and where he and I play.
If you are interested in meeting a like minded female for that type of relationship, nothing wrong with putting it in your profile that you are open to possibilities. The best place to find someone like what you want is to look where they are...usually sites like this one. Just be honest about why you want a partner....if you really want a relationship or if you are just hoping it will increase your chances for more playtime. And trust me, I met several women on this site who really did want a relationship and those who didn't want a commitment but a regular play partner.
Good luck in your search.
xox
Tammy
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
Hey, my experience in going from a single female to half of a couple has been less then..uh...pleasant. 1) Constant emails from people asking me to "cheat". Uh, No. 2) People who used to be my friends suddenly won't talk to me cuz now I don't fit into their fucking radar. Nice to know they were only speaking to me to get into my pants. If I hadn't slept with you before my relationship, chances were, I wasn't going to begin with. Perhaps I was still talking/flirting with you because I actually thought of you as a friend. Thanks for correcting my thinking. 3. People think my other half is controlling MY decisions and can't wait to comment, bitch, or gossip about it. Newsflash....I decide who, what, and where he and I play. If you are interested in meeting a like minded female for that type of relationship, nothing wrong with putting it in your profile that you are open to possibilities. The best place to find someone like what you want is to look where they are...usually sites like this one. Just be honest about why you want a partner....if you really want a relationship or if you are just hoping it will increase your chances for more playtime. And trust me, I met several women on this site who really did want a relationship and those who didn't want a commitment but a regular play partner. Good luck in your search. xox Tammy
You GO girl!!!!!
Just an observation...this seems to be happening a lot lately...maybe we just notice it more because we have very few vanilla friends but it makes me sad all the splits that are happening lately *sigh*
CARRIERMAN wrote:BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:
Hey, my experience in going from a single female to half of a couple has been less then..uh...pleasant. 1) Constant emails from people asking me to "cheat". Uh, No. 2) People who used to be my friends suddenly won't talk to me cuz now I don't fit into their fucking radar. Nice to know they were only speaking to me to get into my pants. If I hadn't slept with you before my relationship, chances were, I wasn't going to begin with. Perhaps I was still talking/flirting with you because I actually thought of you as a friend. Thanks for correcting my thinking. 3. People think my other half is controlling MY decisions and can't wait to comment, bitch, or gossip about it. Newsflash....I decide who, what, and where he and I play. If you are interested in meeting a like minded female for that type of relationship, nothing wrong with putting it in your profile that you are open to possibilities. The best place to find someone like what you want is to look where they are...usually sites like this one. Just be honest about why you want a partner....if you really want a relationship or if you are just hoping it will increase your chances for more playtime. And trust me, I met several women on this site who really did want a relationship and those who didn't want a commitment but a regular play partner. Good luck in your search. xox Tammy
You GO girl!!!!!
hahahaha. Some days I think my Get Up and GO, got up and went.
Now this I can believe. Expert opinion from Blueeyes about being single.
UTHOTCPLEXTREME wrote:
Now this I can believe. Expert opinion from Blueeyes about being single.
Your endorsement means so.....
ah crap. Never mind, I can't even pretend. I'm just not as good at faking it as you are used to.
THOUGHTGARDEN wrote:THE_RED_REVIEW wrote:I don't find that to be entirely true....simply a vague generalization...
It truly is a sad fact that a guy in a relationship is acceptable but once he is single he suddenly becomes unwanted whereas the girl suddenly becomes wanted by many. Good hunting!
No offence, I didn't mean that to include everyone or even most, just something I've noticed over the last 7 years. And for the record we typically don't play with singles either but have, and are open to accepting the right couple-gone-solo single, we just want a stable individual.
And if we liked you as a couple we will probably Still like you as a single unless there is a very good reason not to like you anymore. Like the break-up drama seems to like to show up every time the party starts getting good also, not every newly single, just pieces from experience
Yay Blueeyes!
Been there! Happier here!
Well RUMMY, it doesn't get any easier for us older Single males, However why are you looking for someone who wants to be "in the lifestyle" rather then just look for someone who you can LOVE and she will LOVE you back.
You were "In the Lifestyle" and it ended in you getting a divorce. If you want to have multiple partners then follow "SUSSEXCPL" suggestions.
I still don't get why "HUSBANDS" enjoy watching their wives getting banged by another guy...
AND YES WHAT "THE_RED_REVIEW" SAID is TRUE, when a woman knows you have someone she is deffinately more interested in you. It's like they can SENSE/SMELL it about you. I've experiemced this and a number of my friends have too.
Just concentrate on finding someone to love PERIOD!
Good Luck
You were "In the Lifestyle" and it ended in you getting a divorce. If you want to have multiple partners then follow "SUSSEXCPL" suggestions.
I still don't get why "HUSBANDS" enjoy watching their wives getting banged by another guy...
AND YES WHAT "THE_RED_REVIEW" SAID is TRUE, when a woman knows you have someone she is deffinately more interested in you. It's like they can SENSE/SMELL it about you. I've experiemced this and a number of my friends have too.
Just concentrate on finding someone to love PERIOD!
Good Luck
MASSMN wrote:
Well RUMMY, it doesn't get any easier for us older Single males, However why are you looking for someone who wants to be "in the lifestyle" rather then just look for someone who you can LOVE and she will LOVE you back.
You were "In the Lifestyle" and it ended in you getting a divorce. If you want to have multiple partners then follow "SUSSEXCPL" suggestions.
I still don't get why "HUSBANDS" enjoy watching their wives getting banged by another guy...
AND YES WHAT "THE_RED_REVIEW" SAID is TRUE, when a woman knows you have someone she is deffinately more interested in you. It's like they can SENSE/SMELL it about you. I've experiemced this and a number of my friends have too.
Just concentrate on finding someone to love PERIOD!
Good Luck
Well MASSMN, you are a SINGLE male, and by following your logic, if husbands should stop allowing their wives to be with other men, that would make YOU obsolete in the swinging world. It's a double standard for you to even be here and to check YES on couples. If you think it's wrong for married women to bang other men other then their husbands you need to get off Swingular and find yourself a SINGLE girl on a more conventional site. There really is no reason for you to be HERE. You show total disrespect for couples and their choices. Nice to know you will sink low enough to actually fuck the wife but then make public forum statements questioning the husband for allowing you.
How do you even justify that?
BLUEEYESINUTAH wrote:MASSMN wrote:Well MASSMN, you are a SINGLE male, and by following your logic, if husbands should stop allowing their wives to be with other men, that would make YOU obsolete in the swinging world. It's a double standard for you to even be here and to check YES on couples. If you think it's wrong for married women to bang other men other then their husbands you need to get off Swingular and find yourself a SINGLE girl on a more conventional site. There really is no reason for you to be HERE. You show total disrespect for couples and their choices. Nice to know you will sink low enough to actually fuck the wife but then make public forum statements questioning the husband for allowing you. How do you even justify that?
Well RUMMY, it doesn't get any easier for us older Single males, However why are you looking for someone who wants to be "in the lifestyle" rather then just look for someone who you can LOVE and she will LOVE you back. You were "In the Lifestyle" and it ended in you getting a divorce. If you want to have multiple partners then follow "SUSSEXCPL" suggestions. I still don't get why "HUSBANDS" enjoy watching their wives getting banged by another guy... AND YES WHAT "THE_RED_REVIEW" SAID is TRUE, when a woman knows you have someone she is deffinately more interested in you. It's like they can SENSE/SMELL it about you. I've experiemced this and a number of my friends have too. Just concentrate on finding someone to love PERIOD! Good Luck
You GO girl.
~sigh~
Oh C-man...if I go are you gonna come get me? :-*
Oh C-man...if I go are you gonna come get me? :-*
MASSMN wrote:
I still don't get why "HUSBANDS" enjoy watching their wives getting banged by another guy...
AND YES WHAT "THE_RED_REVIEW" SAID is TRUE, when a woman knows you have someone she is deffinately more interested in you. It's like they can SENSE/SMELL it about you. I've experiemced this and a number of my friends have too.
WTF??
WOW!!! Can't we all just get it on...I mean get along??? LOL
WOW! THANKS FOR THE RESPONSE'S. I'm just pulling your chain's. Sometimes life get's boring...
From someone who was single, then a couple and back to single. I met many couples in cities I lived in who were in the lifestyle. If you are nice and kind they respond. One of these couples set me up with her sister. I mentioned I wanted to stay playing in the group. After much conversations the sister tried and enjoyed it. We played together but overtime she met another man and wanted out. My friends kept me in the group and that sister visited everyonce in a while. It was weird but I understood. I am now in a different city and have many offers locally for couples and singles to join in. I go when my schedule allows.
It is possible but do not be an ass, be considerate.
It is possible but do not be an ass, be considerate.
ANDYMEN wrote:
If you are nice and kind they respond.
It is possible but do not be an ass, be considerate.
Ppl like you make me happy
Single ladies are out there that are open to getting in a relationship that is open to the lifestyle. We know of several.
To massmans comment, some couples actually enjoy being friends with a single lady or guy. The sex is nothing more then having fun with a friend.
To massmans comment, some couples actually enjoy being friends with a single lady or guy. The sex is nothing more then having fun with a friend.