Does age really matter? I know several couples on this site and others that have porposely lowered their age. Basically, lying about how old they are. Is it considered proper among swingers to lie about how old they are? If they lie about their age, what else are they lying about? Once you find out how old they really are, and knowing they lied, would you trust them? Or, can you say you are younger if you look younger than your age? Does lying about age fall into the same catagory of deceit as posting pictures that are 5 to 10 years old, or saying 10 lbs or more overweigth is "Average"? Would having a penile implant or hysterectomy matter. Some would think it would matter more than age would. What's your opinion?
wife and i think if they will lie about there age what else would they lie about
You look great for 53
No, it's not proper.
Body size could be more of an opinion when saying average or heavy but why lie about anything. You are what you are and once they meet you in person how do you explain yourself? I want people to be excited to meet us and I love it when they say you look just like your pictures or better. Variety is the spice of life.
OK, guess I'm busted.
One look at me and you'll KNOW I'm really 25.
One look at me and you'll KNOW I'm really 25.
Being my age..I guess it's easy to understand why some would want to "adjust" their age a bit here...We don't usually get a lot of attention from others..and I always imagine it is my age that is one of the key factors. That said tho...I prefer that everyone who might care knows my proper age...I've nothing to hide..and quite frankly, don't think it is right to lie about it..just to entice new friends who wouldn't have me otherwise.
We have never thought of age as a real issue. We tend to go more on how a person acts..personality.."drama free"...etc. Age is never an issue with us..and quite frankly it is very seldom even discussed in terms of our friends. We have found wonderful friends...AND lovers in all ages. We actually enjoy the variety!
Mr TiffnD
We have never thought of age as a real issue. We tend to go more on how a person acts..personality.."drama free"...etc. Age is never an issue with us..and quite frankly it is very seldom even discussed in terms of our friends. We have found wonderful friends...AND lovers in all ages. We actually enjoy the variety!
Mr TiffnD
Like many social circles, if you lie about yourself- people will find out and tell their friends. We think people that lie about age, post pics that do not look like them currently, or say they are single when they are married and cheating are not for us.
I can think of one on booty call right now that fits two of the above. Jerk.
Some of you don't care if people lie about certain things, as long as it isn't weight since this is a sexually-centered website where attraction is the first step. Fine for you if that is how you roll.
I can think of one on booty call right now that fits two of the above. Jerk.
Some of you don't care if people lie about certain things, as long as it isn't weight since this is a sexually-centered website where attraction is the first step. Fine for you if that is how you roll.
After over 10 years we've found that 99.9% of everyone we've met has lied about quite a few things. The best and most common one is penis size. My hubby is above average (which we didn't realize until we started this lifestyle!) and one of the funniest times was when the guy we were with kept talking about how large his cock was (which was VERY, VERY untrue!) even while standing on the other side of the bed of my hubby, and I just keep looking back and forth wondering if the other guy would get the hint but he never did and hubby had to leave the room to crack up. Not at his size but rather his blind arrogance! I dont care about penis size, I'm more concerned about how I get treated before, during and especially after, but when you blatantly lie and then still try to deceive after its obviously not true, then your fair game in my playbook.
We actually like knowing about peoples lies since it lets us know pretty much how far we can trust them, and how far the relationship is going to go... We never tell them what we know because its always fun as hell to see how far folks will go just to get laid! - LOL
We actually like knowing about peoples lies since it lets us know pretty much how far we can trust them, and how far the relationship is going to go... We never tell them what we know because its always fun as hell to see how far folks will go just to get laid! - LOL
My cock is not really 7.5" long. That's just when it's folded in half.
Sorry!
Sorry!
We never tell them what we know because its always fun as hell to see how far folks will go just to get laid! - LOL[/quote]
The furthest I've ever gone to get laid was just over 300 miles.
And it was worth every gallon of gas.
The furthest I've ever gone to get laid was just over 300 miles.
And it was worth every gallon of gas.
I have decided to tell people I'm 52. I look good for being in my 50s. If I come clean and tell people I'm 42 then they look at me with pity because aging and gravity weren't so kind. LOL
CARRIERMAN wrote:The furthest I've ever gone to get laid was just over 300 miles. And it was worth every gallon of gas.[/quote
We never tell them what we know because its always fun as hell to see how far folks will go just to get laid! - LOL
Ohhh..you don't say!!! LOL We'd do that...yep. Wait a minute..we HAVE done that! And..like you..ABSOLUTELY worth every gallon!
I like to tell people I'm 37 because that way they're super amazed at how young and great I look for being 37.
Hey, what do you know an interesting subject matter. It matters to many, but it shouldn
Lying is lying. I don't know when it would be appropriate other than to spare one's feelings.
We have a BIG age difference and we NEVER think about it...people should be who they are and be proud of that fact! Honesty is important! Today could be my last day here on Earth and I am thankful for each hour and moment. Age to us is just a number...now check out our profile and we hope it turns YOU ON! Happy New Year!- Jenn and Billy
SUPERSNAKESS wrote:
Age shouldn't matter. But no one should lie about their age. Who gives a fuck how old you are. What should matter is your personality and how well you present yourself.
I must say I agree with you 100% I am happily married to a 71year young gentalman. The sex is out of this world. Being that I am a very DEMANDING in bed I FINALLY found someone that could ACUALLY keep up and sometimes surpass my expections and needs. However, Mr.BIGSEXIE, feels we should have fudged a bit about his age. He thinks that most members pass us up because of his age, well in turn I could feel the same way about the color of MY SKIN as well as my weight.
OK: I am going to come clean! I am not really 60 years old, I am Not really 295 lbs, This really is not Grey hair,(whats left of it). I am really 30 years old, 6ft 6 inches, body of Adonis, Hair thick as a Milk Shake, and just as Sun Bleached Blond as can be. Now If any of you other SOB's Would just come clean this site might just be half tolerable. Melvin
Gee whiz Melvin. What should we lie about next. Santa Clause or the Easter Bunny? Lighten up folks.
Well mine is not going to be very long here, but from the looks of it the original author of the subject feels it is bad to report your age as one on the site but he uses pictures of almost 4 years ago. Well if you look good what is a couple years, for girls a couple of years is lots, but for us men it is not that huge of a deal. Coming up on 40 does suck though.
But i would really feel better if someone said their age is one and looks it even if it is younger than they really are. But on the other hand where the real fruad lies is posting pictures of yourself from 4 + years aga. Come on. Post recent pics and let the member decide what they feel, not give your real age and post an old picture.
JEEEZ
But i would really feel better if someone said their age is one and looks it even if it is younger than they really are. But on the other hand where the real fruad lies is posting pictures of yourself from 4 + years aga. Come on. Post recent pics and let the member decide what they feel, not give your real age and post an old picture.
JEEEZ
If you lie about your age - what else are you lying about? To us being honest is more important.
I see it has been said a time or two and yes age is just a number. Hell I am a proud 46 and I have been through and accomplished alot to get here, as has many others. Sure I can't keep up with some of the people in their 20's but it doesn't matter. I feel that no matteer the age just have a great and enjoyable time with whomever you are spending time with. So whatever your age if you want to get to know us feel free to give us a shout.
CNCINCNTRVLLE wrote:
I don't think you should or need to lie about anything with the people here. If they only like you for the lie that will end when they discover the truth and if they would have liked you without the lie you may again lose that if they discover that you lied. I would rather be hated for who I am than loved for who I am not. Besides, why would you want h to hang with, or even have sex with someone who doesn't or wouldn't like the real you.
I couldn't have said it better myself!
RYCHE2882 wrote:
Well mine is not going to be very long here, but from the looks of it the original author of the subject feels it is bad to report your age as one on the site but he uses pictures of almost 4 years ago.
I don't believe we have had the pleasure of meeting, especially since I have only been on this site for 2 years, or any site for that matter, and I have never been in Utah. So, I don't really understand how you came up with saying my pictures are 4 years old. They are not. I'll put one taken one month ago into my profile to show you that there isn't any differences. And, if you watch my profile for the next 4 months you will see the age automatically advance to 71. Nope, I'm not lying.
You two look like a nice, successful couple and I wish you good times ahead. With a lot of luck you too will someday be my age, and hopefully keep the nice physique you have. It's all in the genes. If your parents never got a paunch for a belly, or batwings on the arms starting in their mid 50's, then you probably won't get them either. Thank you for contributing your opinion on the question of lying.
MAGNETIC wrote:
So, I don't really understand how you came up with saying my pictures are 4 years old. They are not.
They probably came to that conclusion because your pictures are date stamped and have 2007 and 2008 stamped on them, granted that's not quite 4 years but I think they were making a point *shrugs*
Everybody lies about something.....An example every day i go through the birthday list just to make sure i wish all my friends a happy birthday and every day its between 3 to 5 pages of birthdays well today being the end of the year its 66 pages long.......So to all of my friends if it is actually your birthday well then Happy Birthday...
I know in our area age is a big thing to some of the swingers. We have always told the truth about our age and update it every year and often we get responce to our messages that they are looking for younger people. So I guess that is a reason some of the people lie about there age.
It is not right to lie about your age. Maybe a few months to protect your B-day for privacy but if you want to put less emphasis on your age just use the 69 yr old trick.
Those that seen my posts must have noticed that I have a tendency to always call it as I see it and I don
SEXISLCOUPLE wrote:
We are posting our current pictures and still it looks like younger couple are avoiding us. We think we look really good for our age so where is the catch.
you're not baking me cookies. that's what. :P
NAUGHTYELFS wrote:
mr elf here again. just thought i would see how the discussion was going and wow i had no idea there were so many people who think its ok to "fudge" about their age. just shows me that i really dont have much in commom with those in the lifestyle and made a good decision to leave it and now told mrs. elf we might as well close the account all together
quiet down over there. i had my 6th annual 21st bday this month and no one needs to know otherwise. :P
so if i forgot a week after my bday to switch from telling people i'm 25 to telling people i'm 26, i should GTFO and nobody should ever have sex with me? actually this year i was trying so hard to remember to switch that i was telling people 26 for 2 weeks before i even had my bday. crappity crap crap crap. good thing i found out now. i shall never swing again. *cries in the corner* hehehehehe
HELLO_KITTY12984 wrote:
so if i forgot a week after my bday to switch from telling people i'm 25 to telling people i'm 26, i should GTFO and nobody should ever have sex with me? actually this year i was trying so hard to remember to switch that i was telling people 26 for 2 weeks before i even had my bday. crappity crap crap crap. good thing i found out now. i shall never swing again. *cries in the corner* hehehehehe
Aww shucks, your are going to be sexy at any age girl.
Age is not the first thing that we ask when meeting people...If there is some attraction between all of us then off we go...then maybe we'll ask lol so why lie.
it is perfectly acceptable, if she is hot and age is a deal breaker. LMAO.
same thing goes for that whole "are you married" thing.
sexy toys
age doesn't matter when you're still young at heart and shopping in the toy aisle at walmart.
age doesn't matter when you're still young at heart and shopping in the toy aisle at walmart.
I have no reason to lie about anything, If you dont like me for who I am then you dont need to talk to me. For those who do lie about things like age then you dont have any respect for yourself, and if thats the case how are you going to respect anyone else.
CARRIERMAN wrote:
OK, guess I'm busted.
One look at me and you'll KNOW I'm really 25.
LOL.... might go along with my 24, then!
I think all woman have the right to lie about their age. That is a old rule don't asks a women her real age. lol, its not polite!!!!
I actually like it when folks put the age of 69. But then you expect alot of full body pics in swimsuits or something. Some of these folks show one pic of a teat so then an assumption using age and weight become real important. And with these outdated large weight brackets even weight listings are not very helpful.
We've only been in this non-vanilla (pistachio??) world for a bit less than a year - and what a year it's been!!! When we first thought about hooking up with another couple, neither of us could fathom meeting a couple who was a lot younger, i.e. in their 20's. We both wondered what they'd see in us, and we thought we'd be self-conscious the whole time over our 40+ bodies.
For whatever reason, it seems that all the couples we've had the pleasure of hanging out with, except one or two, have been ones where at least one partner was considerably younger than us - asually the woman. I can say there isn't as much of a generation gap as one might think. Youth and vitality, mixed with the confidence experience can bring is a potent combination and we've always had a blast!
I (this is the mrs. speaking) have to admit that I still feel a tad more self-conscious with the younger guys, but that's just my own insecurities and not due to any feedback from them. I love being 44 and love where I am at this point in my life, but when you put yourself out there to another person, there's always a risk that you'll be rejected or that they won't "get" those baby scars or wrinkles or stretch marks. I can see where people might feel driven to lie about their age, but it's funny - I've been told I look younger than James (I am... by 8 months) but he's far more fun-loving and young-acting than I am.
Personally, I don't think anyone should lie about their age, but I also remember the prejudices I had when we first started and so I can see why people do. I am SO grateful for the amazing people we've met and for prejudice lost.
Kelly
For whatever reason, it seems that all the couples we've had the pleasure of hanging out with, except one or two, have been ones where at least one partner was considerably younger than us - asually the woman. I can say there isn't as much of a generation gap as one might think. Youth and vitality, mixed with the confidence experience can bring is a potent combination and we've always had a blast!
I (this is the mrs. speaking) have to admit that I still feel a tad more self-conscious with the younger guys, but that's just my own insecurities and not due to any feedback from them. I love being 44 and love where I am at this point in my life, but when you put yourself out there to another person, there's always a risk that you'll be rejected or that they won't "get" those baby scars or wrinkles or stretch marks. I can see where people might feel driven to lie about their age, but it's funny - I've been told I look younger than James (I am... by 8 months) but he's far more fun-loving and young-acting than I am.
Personally, I don't think anyone should lie about their age, but I also remember the prejudices I had when we first started and so I can see why people do. I am SO grateful for the amazing people we've met and for prejudice lost.
Kelly
So, here's the deal about lying about... stuff. There is ONE absolutely sure fire method to tell if someone lies. You can do this yourself without having PET Scans or Polygraph stuff, here's what you do; you ask the other person one question, you say "Are you a human being?" IF the answer is yes, then VIOLA! They tell lies!!!! Absolutely positively a lie teller. Now the question I suppose really is, does it matter to YOU if they lie about their age?... thats all that matters. And to those that say "If they lie about their age what else are they lying about?" What a crazy question! You lie too! Maybe not about your age but maybe about your weight or how fast you were going above the speed limit or whether your spouse looks smokin or just ok in that outfit. If you are human, you lie. Period. So, the only question is what do you lie about? We tend to try to be really honest about things that are very socially important but everyone lies when the social consequence is low. Such as, the first time you're with a new swinger friend so you say "yea, thanks that was really nice" when the truth is more like "well, it was ok, not really the way I like it"... So now, some people will say, "yea but those are little white lies"... little white what? Lies. So, if someone lies about their age, I find the the least dramatic thing to do is to just be curious, like, "wow, I saw her drivers license, she's not really 37, she's 50, I wonder why she feels like she needs to say 37, she's a great looking 50, I wonder why she'd not comfortable with that?" Just be curious and let it go. Its really not your concern. If you're wondering what else they are lying about maybe they were lying about how hot they thought you were! 
It's no biggie.
Like I said, it only matters if it matters to you. Since everyone on this site does occasionally lie about something we're all in the same boat. If someone lies about their age and that's a deal killer for you, its your issue not theirs. I'm not intending to judge anyone here, is it right to lie about your age? Is it right to disqualify someone because they lied about their age (even tho they were perfect in every other way?) Who knows for sure, everyone has to decide that for themselves. But wouldn't it be nice if no one lied about their age or even better, if no one cared if they did?
Now, if they lie about why you can't find your wallet after a fun swingfest, that's a problem...
PS Happy New Year!
PPS Do you think anyone would tell the real truth about why we didn't get invited to their parties?
It's no biggie. Like I said, it only matters if it matters to you. Since everyone on this site does occasionally lie about something we're all in the same boat. If someone lies about their age and that's a deal killer for you, its your issue not theirs. I'm not intending to judge anyone here, is it right to lie about your age? Is it right to disqualify someone because they lied about their age (even tho they were perfect in every other way?) Who knows for sure, everyone has to decide that for themselves. But wouldn't it be nice if no one lied about their age or even better, if no one cared if they did?
Now, if they lie about why you can't find your wallet after a fun swingfest, that's a problem...
PS Happy New Year!
PPS Do you think anyone would tell the real truth about why we didn't get invited to their parties?
MAGNETIC wrote:
Does age really matter? I know several couples on this site and others that have porposely lowered their age. Basically, lying about how old they are. Is it considered proper among swingers to lie about how old they are? If they lie about their age, what else are they lying about? Once you find out how old they really are, and knowing they lied, would you trust them? Or, can you say you are younger if you look younger than your age? Does lying about age fall into the same catagory of deceit as posting pictures that are 5 to 10 years old, or saying 10 lbs or more overweigth is "Average"? Would having a penile implant or hysterectomy matter. Some would think it would matter more than age would. What's your opinion?
Does age really matter? Of course not.
However...when is it ever apropos to lie about anything in the Lifestyle....
Kind of a no-brainer.
To those arguing that lying doesn
Yes if attracted to young or old, age means nothing ......personality, attraction ...18 to 90!!! Pleasure is pleasure... I know my cock has never been able to tell one warm, juicy pussy from another! hahaha But apparently pussies can, as they alway say not over 50. My cock is as hard now and can last as long now as it has always been (thank God!)so why do gals make guys lie about it??? Where have you ever seen a guy complain about age or require anything but legal age? And even that is getting dam hard to tell anymore!!!
Age shouldn't matter but be honest we're in a society that is very judgemental.
I think Most people over 45 shave a few years, 2-3, off there age even if they don't need to both man and women.That doesn't really bother me I'm not hear to find a wife/mother my cildren. This is a very VISUAL society. Women, when you walk in a regular club are u scouting out the young hot guy's or the older looking guy's?. The older anyone gets the more conscence they are.
What really gets me is there pics. 3,5,8 years old. One girl last week e-mailed me to meet her at a club she danced at... let's just say Not as advertised. Weight you can do something about
age you can't.
I deffinately agree Personality is #1, but you have to get the chance first.
I think Most people over 45 shave a few years, 2-3, off there age even if they don't need to both man and women.That doesn't really bother me I'm not hear to find a wife/mother my cildren. This is a very VISUAL society. Women, when you walk in a regular club are u scouting out the young hot guy's or the older looking guy's?. The older anyone gets the more conscence they are.
What really gets me is there pics. 3,5,8 years old. One girl last week e-mailed me to meet her at a club she danced at... let's just say Not as advertised. Weight you can do something about
age you can't.
I deffinately agree Personality is #1, but you have to get the chance first.
KIDSATPLAY - Just wondering what's the fascination with "jurisdiction." Only one f*cked up group of people throws that around with any regularity and even in that arena its dispensed with quickly at the outset. So, what gives?? You on a "word of the day" program for 2011?
Let's face it, we all KNOW there are a LOT of posers and wannabes here on Swingular.
We may not know exactly who they all are - butt we know they're here.
Why would ANYONE who is real, genuine, and honestly wants to meet with others have ANY reason to lie?
At the first meet - you're busted.
So what future is there in lying if you're gonna get turned down as soon as someone sees you in person?
A poser or a wannabe, on the other hand, has NOTHING to lose by lying because they have no intention of taking it to the next level beyond participation on sites like this.
The chances of them getting CAUGHT in their lies is slim to non-existent if they never leave the safety of their computer desk to venture out into the REAL Lifestyle world.
"I'm not a real________________ (fill in the blank) - but I play one on Swingular."
We may not know exactly who they all are - butt we know they're here.
Why would ANYONE who is real, genuine, and honestly wants to meet with others have ANY reason to lie?
At the first meet - you're busted.
So what future is there in lying if you're gonna get turned down as soon as someone sees you in person?
A poser or a wannabe, on the other hand, has NOTHING to lose by lying because they have no intention of taking it to the next level beyond participation on sites like this.
The chances of them getting CAUGHT in their lies is slim to non-existent if they never leave the safety of their computer desk to venture out into the REAL Lifestyle world.
"I'm not a real________________ (fill in the blank) - but I play one on Swingular."
KIDSATPLAY - if one word suits a task better, by all means only use one word, Lordy! Words do have power but only if they are strung together in a way that makes sense. After reading your posts again, I think I've distilled it to:
--> On a swinging web site (where you can't actually meet face to face and must rely on others' representations) you should feel fine lying about your age or anything else just the same as you might lie to someone at a party (where you can meet face to face and where there would be no point in lying since they're standing right in front of you!!).
The problem with this is obvious.
hmmm... and what the hell is a 'functional age.' Baring illness or injury, and if I put in a little effort, I hope I'll be 'functionally' (i.e. the way things function physically/mentally) mid-30ish for a long time to come. But that doesn't mean I'm not 44 now, and to put 30 for my age is bullshit! I do get why some choose to fudge the numbers, and agree that we all lie to some degree (who doesn't want to be told they're a sexy beast), but seriously, it's not like people won't spot the lie the first time we meet. I'd rather understate it and get a "WOW!" than overstate and get an "ugh...".
Oh, and there's no age at which a person becomes de-asshole-ized. There are as many 22-year-old jerks as there are 43-year-old jerks. If a 22 yo is kind, curious, sexy, smart, fun, etc. they're a great person who happens to be 22, not 'functionally 43.'
- K
KIDSATPLAY - if, by chance, English isn't your first language, I apologize for being an ass over your way of expressing yourself. I realize the difficulty. I read convoluted bullshit legalese day in and day out for a living and its so much easier for everyone when you just say what you mean. Even judges hate that shit.
--> On a swinging web site (where you can't actually meet face to face and must rely on others' representations) you should feel fine lying about your age or anything else just the same as you might lie to someone at a party (where you can meet face to face and where there would be no point in lying since they're standing right in front of you!!).
The problem with this is obvious.
hmmm... and what the hell is a 'functional age.' Baring illness or injury, and if I put in a little effort, I hope I'll be 'functionally' (i.e. the way things function physically/mentally) mid-30ish for a long time to come. But that doesn't mean I'm not 44 now, and to put 30 for my age is bullshit! I do get why some choose to fudge the numbers, and agree that we all lie to some degree (who doesn't want to be told they're a sexy beast), but seriously, it's not like people won't spot the lie the first time we meet. I'd rather understate it and get a "WOW!" than overstate and get an "ugh...".
Oh, and there's no age at which a person becomes de-asshole-ized. There are as many 22-year-old jerks as there are 43-year-old jerks. If a 22 yo is kind, curious, sexy, smart, fun, etc. they're a great person who happens to be 22, not 'functionally 43.'
- K
KIDSATPLAY - if, by chance, English isn't your first language, I apologize for being an ass over your way of expressing yourself. I realize the difficulty. I read convoluted bullshit legalese day in and day out for a living and its so much easier for everyone when you just say what you mean. Even judges hate that shit.
>>No one with any class asks your birthday at a party unless you have become long term friends and, you know it<<
*Sigh* You're missing the point. In person, nobody needs to ask and, YES, you'd be an asshat if you did! (OMG, we agree) In person, you're standing there in all your unflinching glory, why the hell ask at that point since your age IS irrelevant if chemistry is present! What would asking (or lying about) a person's age even accomplish when you're eyeballing your potential fuck buddy/friend-with- benefits right there in all their glory?!
To me, IT DOES matter when you HAVEN'T met since its only fair to the other party. While I may be OK with anyone from 21 to 81, YOU may not. Hooking up takes time and energy and if you've got a problem with my husband's smile lines, we don't need to waste anyone's time.
And yes, you absolutely did suggest that there is an age where you're no longer an asshole, or that some ages are inherently more prone to asshole-ish-ness and others are not. Go read your post again. You said that if a 22 year old were not a brute, etc. etc., then "maybe he should state his age at 43 or something" to so indicate his non-brutish-ness. (that one part is a direct quote)
Yes, I can be an ass, though I usually control the urge, I just feel like I'm talking to Yoda here.
Here's me being an ass:
>> It is your statements that are incongruent with the context <<
Is that really how you talk in daily life?
How about a few simplifications: "... your statements don't make any sense"
>> If you are incapable of any reasonable guess what functional age is...<<
Simplification: "If you have no idea what functional age is..."
Or better: "If you're such a dumb-ass that you don't understand what functional age is.."
>> and absent willingness to understand.<<
Simplification: "...unwillingness to understand"
>> Sorry it has been so much work for you to read, by which you have derived so much that wasn
*Sigh* You're missing the point. In person, nobody needs to ask and, YES, you'd be an asshat if you did! (OMG, we agree) In person, you're standing there in all your unflinching glory, why the hell ask at that point since your age IS irrelevant if chemistry is present! What would asking (or lying about) a person's age even accomplish when you're eyeballing your potential fuck buddy/friend-with- benefits right there in all their glory?!
To me, IT DOES matter when you HAVEN'T met since its only fair to the other party. While I may be OK with anyone from 21 to 81, YOU may not. Hooking up takes time and energy and if you've got a problem with my husband's smile lines, we don't need to waste anyone's time.
And yes, you absolutely did suggest that there is an age where you're no longer an asshole, or that some ages are inherently more prone to asshole-ish-ness and others are not. Go read your post again. You said that if a 22 year old were not a brute, etc. etc., then "maybe he should state his age at 43 or something" to so indicate his non-brutish-ness. (that one part is a direct quote)
Yes, I can be an ass, though I usually control the urge, I just feel like I'm talking to Yoda here.
Here's me being an ass:
>> It is your statements that are incongruent with the context <<
Is that really how you talk in daily life?
How about a few simplifications: "... your statements don't make any sense"
>> If you are incapable of any reasonable guess what functional age is...<<
Simplification: "If you have no idea what functional age is..."
Or better: "If you're such a dumb-ass that you don't understand what functional age is.."
>> and absent willingness to understand.<<
Simplification: "...unwillingness to understand"
>> Sorry it has been so much work for you to read, by which you have derived so much that wasn
WEFLY wrote:drive by verbal abuse
You nailed it. Let's all just kiss and make-up.
And there's no point. You will meet a couple, they will learn that you have been dishonest, adn it will be a massive turn-off. Honesty lowers defenses. It is an aphrodisiac in its own way.
Kidsatplay
[quote=KIDSATPLAY][quote=CHRKE2]Kidsatplay
I'll always find it interesting that some feel the need to go to the 5th page of a thread to point out that things have gotten off-track/controversial/argumentative/mean-spirited/whatever - it's a frickin' forum for crying out loud! These threads are generally more interesting, revealing, compelling and fun than endless kumbayah (sp?).
I've decided that y'all must have been Border Collies in your previous life.
I've decided that y'all must have been Border Collies in your previous life.
[quote=CHRKE2]Kidsatplay
Lixilulu-
I understand and respect if age is important to you and that is 100% your right and perogitive to decide what you want. However, I disagree when you take it further and judge what other people want and call it "creepy".
So why is it "creepy" if someone is attracted to a someone who is their kids age? If someone is 47 and has a child that is 26, then it would be creepy if they are attracted to a 26 year old? That is just simple biology, and the science of attraction. It is perfectly natural and normal for humans to be attracted to a fine 26 year old no matter what their age is, thats the way its been forever and the way it will always be.
It's true that someone older can be "creepy" in their demeanor and the way they approach you but that can happen with someone any age. I believe that thinking it is "creepy" that someone older is attracted to a fine young thing is something that society has come up with to try to limit and put restrictions on what is "right" and "wrong" in regards to our dating and sex lives. My hope is that this website is a place where we won't be judged for our sexual OR age preferences like we are in the larger society. :-)
-Aaron
I understand and respect if age is important to you and that is 100% your right and perogitive to decide what you want. However, I disagree when you take it further and judge what other people want and call it "creepy".
So why is it "creepy" if someone is attracted to a someone who is their kids age? If someone is 47 and has a child that is 26, then it would be creepy if they are attracted to a 26 year old? That is just simple biology, and the science of attraction. It is perfectly natural and normal for humans to be attracted to a fine 26 year old no matter what their age is, thats the way its been forever and the way it will always be.
It's true that someone older can be "creepy" in their demeanor and the way they approach you but that can happen with someone any age. I believe that thinking it is "creepy" that someone older is attracted to a fine young thing is something that society has come up with to try to limit and put restrictions on what is "right" and "wrong" in regards to our dating and sex lives. My hope is that this website is a place where we won't be judged for our sexual OR age preferences like we are in the larger society. :-)
-Aaron
I get the purpose of a forum is to banter back and forth, sharing opinions, and maybe getting a bit heated, but this just seems to be an intellectual pissing contest - so for all of our sakes, LET IT GO. This topic will sit on the homepage until one of you feels you have been validated and personally I just think it is exhausting and frankly reading 300+/- words to understand if you really believe that lying about your age is either proper or not proper, isn't there something more important in life that you can share that much of an opinion about?
Feel free to slam my opinion so that we can get to page 7, but I do not think I am alone in the fact that this forum has just become so uncomfortable and even the thought of sharing your opinion will bring on the cavalry of those that get off on judging, badgering, and insulting others.
Feel free to slam my opinion so that we can get to page 7, but I do not think I am alone in the fact that this forum has just become so uncomfortable and even the thought of sharing your opinion will bring on the cavalry of those that get off on judging, badgering, and insulting others.
Luscious_74 wrote : intellectual pissing contest
you give them way too much credit. there is not intellect here.
who gives a shit if people lie, we see it all day long. what a waste of time.
p.s. my shot at page 7
you give them way too much credit. there is not intellect here.
who gives a shit if people lie, we see it all day long. what a waste of time.
p.s. my shot at page 7
LUSCIOUS - Admittedly I enjoy verbal banter and fucking with transparent blowhards - perhaps its a throwback to my days as the wallflower who got worse grades than the 'intellectuals' whose homework I did. Yes, I probably harbor a bit of contempt there, sorry I'm just sitting here in bed at home with a sore throat and nothing better to do.
I'll go back to another episode of Diners, Drive-ins and Dives...
I'm just sitting here in bed at home with a sore throat and nothing better to do.I'll go back to another episode of Diners, Drive-ins and Dives...
LIXILULU wrote:I'm 43 and yes my husband is 71. He has 2 children that are older than me. We all get along just fine. NO CREEPINESS HERE.
I don't think you should lie about your age. I try to be as honest as possible as I would hate to go to meet someone in person and them to be disappointed by who I am. Its obvious that people are lying about how they look or how old they are when the date stamp on their pics are from 5 years ago. Come on...what's the point of lying if after one meeting someone will not want to see you again because of disappointment. Age does matter to me. I don't want to be with someone younger than a sibling or as old as my parents. I mean come on, if I'm your kids age and you are turned on by that...creepy. The lifestyle is a large but "small" community. Word unfortunately travels and your handle can get a bad rep if you are not honest. Just my opinion. Luckily I am happy with who I am and confident in myself that if I am honest and someone leaves disappointed then...their loss.
Some of our experiences include a guy in his mid 60`s asking the wife "if she wouldn`t mind doing an old fart like him." What a pick up line there buddy!
At parties the oldest guys there always flock to her for some reason, and just want to talk about how they are going to fuck her.
One couple we know is a bit older then us and the guy just sits there like a fool and says nothing. His wife told me he is intimidated because she is so much younger then him.
So yes, age matters if you don`t have some type of game. Like Sussex said, we want to be able to have some form of conversation with you outside of the sex. If your big thing is telling us you helped invent the wheel it just isn`t going to work between us. When you tell us about your grandkids that are the same ages as us, again it just isn`t making us want you. On the other end of the spectrum we don`t want to help you do your homework or study for that big test on Monday.
At parties the oldest guys there always flock to her for some reason, and just want to talk about how they are going to fuck her.
One couple we know is a bit older then us and the guy just sits there like a fool and says nothing. His wife told me he is intimidated because she is so much younger then him.
So yes, age matters if you don`t have some type of game. Like Sussex said, we want to be able to have some form of conversation with you outside of the sex. If your big thing is telling us you helped invent the wheel it just isn`t going to work between us. When you tell us about your grandkids that are the same ages as us, again it just isn`t making us want you. On the other end of the spectrum we don`t want to help you do your homework or study for that big test on Monday.
[quote=SEAKINGHER]Hey, what do you know an interesting subject matter. It matters to many, but it shouldn