This is sort of a venting as well as a general question. A bit personal, I know...however judging by other forums, I think it will be acceptable. I just want to know how other swingers perceive it and/or deal with it.
For some strange reason it seems that whenever we make plans to go out to a swinger's club for a special party, or a really good swinger's house party...Aunt Flo shows up uninvited. I have had her show up FIVE days early and/or three or four days late just to ruin a potential good time. I don't know if it's because I'm worried about her coming subconsciously or it's just bad luck but it's quite frustrating
Please tell me that others out there have this same experience as often as I do and that I'm not alone.
Now I don't know about others in the lifestyle, but I have had many discussions with male friends and boyfriends in my life who won't come near a woman on their dot, they are repulsed by it. This way of thinking passed on to me so I wouldn't even consider trying to initiate anything sexual until Auntie packed her bags and left for the remainder of the month. I find myself very lucky to be with a man who doesn't mind it because it's "natural for a woman" and he has taught me to become quite comfortable with sexy time with him while Auntie is visiting. This is great because I tend to get quite aroused when Auntie is visiting.
We were discussing it the other day and he mentioned that there are bound to be other swingers out there that don't mind playing with a woman on her dot. I wonder how true that is so I figured I would put it out there for everyone else to respond.
For some strange reason it seems that whenever we make plans to go out to a swinger's club for a special party, or a really good swinger's house party...Aunt Flo shows up uninvited. I have had her show up FIVE days early and/or three or four days late just to ruin a potential good time. I don't know if it's because I'm worried about her coming subconsciously or it's just bad luck but it's quite frustrating
Please tell me that others out there have this same experience as often as I do and that I'm not alone.Now I don't know about others in the lifestyle, but I have had many discussions with male friends and boyfriends in my life who won't come near a woman on their dot, they are repulsed by it. This way of thinking passed on to me so I wouldn't even consider trying to initiate anything sexual until Auntie packed her bags and left for the remainder of the month. I find myself very lucky to be with a man who doesn't mind it because it's "natural for a woman" and he has taught me to become quite comfortable with sexy time with him while Auntie is visiting. This is great because I tend to get quite aroused when Auntie is visiting.
We were discussing it the other day and he mentioned that there are bound to be other swingers out there that don't mind playing with a woman on her dot. I wonder how true that is so I figured I would put it out there for everyone else to respond.
I think its an evil plot so you don't have to share me...
But that's just me....
But that's just me....
Before I had my "plumbing" removed (best thing I ever did by the way), the only time I would even let hubby near me was in the shower when it was that time...I don't think he minded but I did...
Now, as a bisexual female I would have never dream of letting anyone else near me either, especially a girl and I don't think I could do it if she were having it either...though I think one time it must have been close because she tasted really metalicy...like I had a penny in my mouth...just not my cup of tea, but I'm sure there are others out there who don't mind or even get off on it...it never ceases to amaze me the things that turn us freaks on lol
Kisses...Naugh-Ty
Now, as a bisexual female I would have never dream of letting anyone else near me either, especially a girl and I don't think I could do it if she were having it either...though I think one time it must have been close because she tasted really metalicy...like I had a penny in my mouth...just not my cup of tea, but I'm sure there are others out there who don't mind or even get off on it...it never ceases to amaze me the things that turn us freaks on lol
Kisses...Naugh-Ty
my wife as naughtygirl said has had her plumbing removed as well but it never bother me at all when that happened .. as far as the rest we started the lifestyle after she had her operation so can tell on that .. our biggest problem is we can't play at home due to daughter and nephew that lives with us .. and that makes it hard and expensive to make plans since we have to drive 20 or more miles to get a good room and if no one shows well we get to spend the night away but alone .. but we win either way lol 
but we win either way lol I didn't phrase my question the right way. I don't mind schtuping with my honey when I'm on my dot and he will even do oral on me which is a first for me. I am concerned about people we may meet and want to play with at the party tonight. What I'm curious about is if you as a single male or a couple meet a couple that you like and the woman is having her dot...do you reschedule or play avoiding oral or what?
BTW NaughtyGirl, I understand from the bi-sexual POV...being bi myself, I don't have a desire to go down on a woman having her dot however, there are other things we could do >
BTW NaughtyGirl, I understand from the bi-sexual POV...being bi myself, I don't have a desire to go down on a woman having her dot however, there are other things we could do >
Never had the issue come up since when LJ is having that I know she doesn't want anyone playing with her. If we have met someone we wanted to play with and timing was an issue we have always just made plans to meet another time.
i haven't heard too many male points of view except regarding their own particular wives... As far as i'm concerned, as mentioned above, oral would be out of the question. Other than that, i see nothing wrong with it. If i'm willing to have some fun with my wife at that particular time, then i am also willing to have fun with other women at that time. I think the best suggestion would be to go to the party, have some fun, and if you meet someone then just let them know whats happening and let them make the call... even if nothing sexual happens because of timing, you have at least met someone new and can reschedule for a more convenient time.
I have done it numerous times. won't go down on her but will do everything else.
Likely God telling you that the swinging lifestyle is of the devil....
Mr. Simple
Mr. Simple
Thank you to everyone for your input and advice It just seems that whenever Flo is around, we will meet a couple that we like but I won't bring up sexy time because I feel embarrassed and automatically think they won't be interested. Now I know there are some exceptions LOL Just so everyone knows...I'm new to swinging in a couple capacity. I've always been the unicorn, hence the question. Thanks again
It just seems that whenever Flo is around, we will meet a couple that we like but I won't bring up sexy time because I feel embarrassed and automatically think they won't be interested. Now I know there are some exceptions LOL Just so everyone knows...I'm new to swinging in a couple capacity. I've always been the unicorn, hence the question. Thanks again Before my wife had the plumbing fixed, I used to go down on her when she was on her period and never had a problem with it. I got my red wings early in life. But in today's era of STD's I'd have to pass on giving oral sex. That said, as was mentioned earlier, there are other things you can do.
Jim
Jim
a good question......I don't have any problems playing with a lady, Aunt Flo or not. I find ladies tend to be hornier (if they can get over the concern of whether it grosses ME out) and playing is that much more fun...just add towels and we are doing great. My present lady friend will let me lick her clit...just no sticking my tongue into her...but sliding in.....damn...so good..
doc
doc
We find that me washing up and having a fresh plug in with the string tucked prevents "red wings" 
Allows plenty of clean work area around the clit and such...then just pop it out before penetration. Takes less time than opening a condom LOL Messy, but very much worth it. It took me a while to get used to it...maybe someday I'll try it with others LOL
Allows plenty of clean work area around the clit and such...then just pop it out before penetration. Takes less time than opening a condom LOL Messy, but very much worth it. It took me a while to get used to it...maybe someday I'll try it with others LOLMy observation over many years is that the majority of men are put off with having sex when a woman is "that way".
And I'll admit there was a time when I felt that way - butt it was because of misinformation.
I soon learned that, as has been said above, a LOT of women get hornier at the time.
Some will admit to it - some won't. Some won't even admit it to themselves.
And then of course we have the women who want NOTHING to do with ANYTHING at that period in time (pun intended).
Bottom line for me:
What's the problem?
Most people are going to do a little "washing up" after sex anyway - why would the color you're washing off be an issue?
It's not as if there's going to be a permanent stain on either person's skin.
And as for oral, as others have said, a little adjustment can be made.
In my case, I tend to give the clit a little "overtime" attention then - is that a problem ladies?
And I'll admit there was a time when I felt that way - butt it was because of misinformation.
I soon learned that, as has been said above, a LOT of women get hornier at the time.
Some will admit to it - some won't. Some won't even admit it to themselves.
And then of course we have the women who want NOTHING to do with ANYTHING at that period in time (pun intended).
Bottom line for me:
What's the problem?
Most people are going to do a little "washing up" after sex anyway - why would the color you're washing off be an issue?
It's not as if there's going to be a permanent stain on either person's skin.
And as for oral, as others have said, a little adjustment can be made.
In my case, I tend to give the clit a little "overtime" attention then - is that a problem ladies?
Ohhhh are there ANY fun folks that swing in AUSTIN TEXAS?!?!? Pleaseeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee..... just reading all of this makes ME horney!!
I had a discussion with a Doctor as a young man some many years ago. I was told that it was very common for a woman
Simple answer: take continuous oral contraceptives. No period, no worries.
I don't mind sex while a woman is bleeding, but I know many women who do. I won't do oral tho, like many others. In an effort to lighten the thread, this topic reminded me of an old joke. What did the one lesbian vampire say to the other? Same time next month? I know some people think I am an asshole now. lol
I'm bad at taking pills...that's how my daughter came to be