In case you hadn't heard, I'm giving up my "single female" status. My boyfriend and I have decided to actually be a "real" couple on Swingular, albeit, unmarried one. We have been talking about what we want, what turns us on together, and things that perhaps we might not be ready for as a couple. We have kept an open line of communication and are completely honest with each about our desires and our concerns.
We were just wondering if any of you have also gone from 2 single profiles to now a couple's profile, what words of advice would you give? What do you know now that you wish you knew then? What would you do different if you could redo it over again?
Thanks for sharing with us.
xox
Tammy & Dave
(aka Blueeyesinutah & Deepbluz)
We were just wondering if any of you have also gone from 2 single profiles to now a couple's profile, what words of advice would you give? What do you know now that you wish you knew then? What would you do different if you could redo it over again?
Thanks for sharing with us.
xox
Tammy & Dave
(aka Blueeyesinutah & Deepbluz)
HOTTIENAUGHTYLILBLND wrote:
I wouldnt know what to tell you I went from couple to single just the oppisite lol... No plan on changing to couple again. We are still friends with benefits it works.
Awww, that has to be hard. I think if that ever happens to me, I would be done. Not sure I could handle it.
me as well went from couple to single no booty call for me tho..i dont think i could do it either but atleast we're civil good luck on tne hunt tho
I was on Swingular as a couple for five years, I still have all the great friends and relationships we created but don't know if I will change to a couple again. Its hard to find like minded people out there in the dysfunctional singles community. If you can pull it off you get snaps from this kid.
Thanks to all the people who answered who went from couples to singles. I'm sorry you all went thru that.
However, I really need input from people who have had the opposite experience, going from single to couples...it's a scary but exciting new adventure for both of us and we intend to make the best of it as long it continues to add excitement to our already awesome sex life. (and yes, our sex life rocks. I'm a lucky girl.
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However, I really need input from people who have had the opposite experience, going from single to couples...it's a scary but exciting new adventure for both of us and we intend to make the best of it as long it continues to add excitement to our already awesome sex life. (and yes, our sex life rocks. I'm a lucky girl.
)Hi, we- myself as FIREGIRL66 and my now husband, GUYINSLCUT met on this site... we met each other in person to see if we had the chemistry.... and I'll be damned, we got married 7 months after we met and have been married for over 3 years now. We keep our singles pages, but play both together and solo. Meshing our teams of swinger friends has been 99% positive with only 2 bumps in the road. One bump moved to Idaho and the other.. we just had to end that friendship.
Good luck to you!
Good luck to you!
I think the biggest drawback is having less autonomy and freedom. Whereas before you were able to freely engage unsuspecting targets on your own terms, now you have to get the other vote before you proceed to seek and destroy. Yes, naturally two adults coming together as couple should be willing to make that compromise, but there's always the possibility of one person having more control than the other(unless he/she says he/she doesn't care and doesn't need to be consulted) in that case you should borrow their credit card and proceed to the nearest Mercedes Benz dealer.
On the other hand, you just might find yourself enthusiastically taking on the challenge of "shopping for two" with your new beau and rejoicing in your mutual ineptness over chocolate pound cake and haagen-dazs on the most dreary of Sunday mornings. I wish you all the best. May you develop schizophrenia and multiple personality disorder.
Merry Christmas
On the other hand, you just might find yourself enthusiastically taking on the challenge of "shopping for two" with your new beau and rejoicing in your mutual ineptness over chocolate pound cake and haagen-dazs on the most dreary of Sunday mornings. I wish you all the best. May you develop schizophrenia and multiple personality disorder.
Merry Christmas
Ok, I'm just going to assume the one above me is trying to be funny??? lol
Blue, I'll sit down tomorrow and message ya our story, it's a bit long but has a very odd beginning (in the lifestyle kinda) and a very happy ending...kisses...Naugh-Ty
Blue, I'll sit down tomorrow and message ya our story, it's a bit long but has a very odd beginning (in the lifestyle kinda) and a very happy ending...kisses...Naugh-Ty
We had a single male friend who became half of a lifestyle couple. For him the biggest adjustment was looking out for her. He had been used to just making sure he was safe, and playing in a safe environment. For her it was a smaller adjustment, and that was just a mild loss of her freedom. Good luck!
Mild loss of freedom...good point. But that goes BOTH ways....just sayin. 
Thanks everyone! We are soaking this all up and trying to absorb everything while still taking this one step at a time.
xox
T & D
Thanks everyone! We are soaking this all up and trying to absorb everything while still taking this one step at a time.
xox
T & D
RUWET4ORAL wrote:
May you develop schizophrenia and multiple personality disorder.
Merry Christmas
I feel the pain... its bad enough finding 2 people that BOTH like BOTH of us let alone making sure the other 3 people in my head agree with all of us.
Kitty, tell the voices in your head to call voices in mine and maybe they need to do lunch. I personally could use a break from all the internal arguing...and one of them is a little mean and makes people cry.
lulz. k. but how many people should i tell the restaurant to expect?
Please. Between the both of us I'm pretty sure we would have to book the whole restaurant. But at least we'd get a group discount.