We recently had a party at our house..so naturally had a limited amount of room available for our guests. As a place to start..we invited ones who had expressed a previous interest, and then as many from our friends list as we could.
We asked all to RSVP so that we could have a reasonable estimate of the needed supplies, etc..and also so that we might be able to invite more, to fill any vacancies we may have.
We recieved very few RSVP's.....and only about half of the ones who did respond positively, bothered to attend. Let me say here..we DO appreciate those who kept us appraised of their status..THANK YOU! It really was appreciated!
Now our Question??? It is our opinion that the whole purpose of an RSVP is to provide this needed information as a courtesy for the host. Are we wrong?
And as the adults we all propose to be..how much bother is it really to send a reply..one way or the other? We don't need to know WHY you can't come..a simple sorry, can't make it this time would be sufficient. Is that so tough?
Inquiring minds want to know....
BTW..THANKS to all the ones who DID make it..it was a BLAST!
We asked all to RSVP so that we could have a reasonable estimate of the needed supplies, etc..and also so that we might be able to invite more, to fill any vacancies we may have.
We recieved very few RSVP's.....and only about half of the ones who did respond positively, bothered to attend. Let me say here..we DO appreciate those who kept us appraised of their status..THANK YOU! It really was appreciated!
Now our Question??? It is our opinion that the whole purpose of an RSVP is to provide this needed information as a courtesy for the host. Are we wrong?
And as the adults we all propose to be..how much bother is it really to send a reply..one way or the other? We don't need to know WHY you can't come..a simple sorry, can't make it this time would be sufficient. Is that so tough?
Inquiring minds want to know....
BTW..THANKS to all the ones who DID make it..it was a BLAST!
Miss Manners says of course you're right. It's been that way for a very long time.
Well those who didn't make it missed an awesome party. I have some very fond memories of your garage, the TV room, and oh and lets not forget your office. Thanks for letting me and Dave break in the swing. I can't stop smiling today. You two were perfects hosts. Did I mention I had a great time? 
xox
Tammy
xox
Tammy
thank you for a great party we (blueeyesinutah and i had a great night good people good times thaks again...
deepbluz
deepbluz
Sorry you guys had to experience this...yeah it sucks, had it happen for my birthday party and one earlier in the summer...it takes a lot of work to put on a house party and I think those who have never done it are the ones who mostly do this...makes ya not want to do it anymore *sigh*
you guys were excellent hosts , dont let thatt get ya down , was a blast , sry had some nocall no shows but we all made the best of it , and a good job we did 
On the positive side, it's always better to have more supplies than you need than not enough. But I'm with you. It's rude not to reply one way or the other. I usually assume that they haven't checked their email and didn't realize until too late. Hopefully that's the case with most, but in my experience 50% is about right.
I'm a person that also likes to plan, know times, and know all the details.... it's better to host if you know all the facts! I know things come up at the last second which may interfere. I think it works out best if you invite the people you know will show up, then a few others that you aren't sure about to see if they can keep a commitment. It will work out really well in the future once you become accustomed to peoples traits and habits.
WDD wrote:
I'm a person that also likes to plan, know times, and know all the details.... it's better to host if you know all the facts! I know things come up at the last second which may interfere. I think it works out best if you invite the people you know will show up, then a few others that you aren't sure about to see if they can keep a commitment. It will work out really well in the future once you become accustomed to peoples traits and habits.
WE think this is good advice. Our thoughts..exactly.
Thought that was what we WERE doing...And the way we will handle it again. Just hoping the responses are a little more helpful next time.
There are just some people that will never have good manners.
I never send a yes reply and then not show. I think I met you guys briefly at the last meet and greet up at Northern. I would love an invite to your next one if at all possible.
BTW..on much more positive note....We really enjoyed meeting all the new folks, and new friends that came! Thanks all! Hope everyone enjoyed as much as we did! Now, if we could just get the rest of them here, next time, We'll be one big bunch of party goers! LOL...
TiffnD's
TiffnD's
Okay..tried to fix my grammer in a previous post here..and deleted it..Damn..LOL Will tryto repost what I remember as the context of it.
Thanks all! This hasn't changed our mind about hosting at all..it was Waaaaay too much fun for that! We had a blast doing it!
This post was not meant to belittle anyone, or hurt their feelings for not RSVP'ing. We still want to include everyone as our friends. Would just like to make a gentle reminder to everyone how important it often is to let a host know whether you can attend or not, next time they get a request for an RSVP from someone.
And..as for the swing in the office....Having had the opportunity to try it ourselves this morning...Tif and I must concur with Ms BlueEyes opinion! ABSOLUTELY!!!
Thanks all! This hasn't changed our mind about hosting at all..it was Waaaaay too much fun for that! We had a blast doing it!
This post was not meant to belittle anyone, or hurt their feelings for not RSVP'ing. We still want to include everyone as our friends. Would just like to make a gentle reminder to everyone how important it often is to let a host know whether you can attend or not, next time they get a request for an RSVP from someone.
And..as for the swing in the office....Having had the opportunity to try it ourselves this morning...Tif and I must concur with Ms BlueEyes opinion! ABSOLUTELY!!!
Sorry we had to miss you two !!! Hopefully we can get to the next one
Estimate about 50% won't respond, and about 10-20% of those that respond yes won't show. Often 10-20% or so of those who don't respond or responded negative will show.
A lot of times it is people waiting for "a better deal". They want to wait for the last minute to see what other options and parties they have available before saying they will go here or there.
A lot of times it is people waiting for "a better deal". They want to wait for the last minute to see what other options and parties they have available before saying they will go here or there.
TIFFND wrote:
We recently had a party at our house..so naturally had a limited amount of room available for our guests. As a place to start..we invited ones who had expressed a previous interest, and then as many from our friends list as we could. We asked all to RSVP so that we could have a reasonable estimate of the needed supplies, etc..and also so that we might be able to invite more, to fill any vacancies we may have. We recieved very few RSVP's.....and only about half of the ones who did respond positively, bothered to attend. Let me say here..we DO appreciate those who kept us appraised of their status..THANK YOU! It really was appreciated! Now our Question??? It is our opinion that the whole purpose of an RSVP is to provide this needed information as a courtesy for the host. Are we wrong? And as the adults we all propose to be..how much bother is it really to send a reply..one way or the other? We don't need to know WHY you can't come..a simple sorry, can't make it this time would be sufficient. Is that so tough? Inquiring minds want to know.... BTW..THANKS to all the ones who DID make it..it was a BLAST!
Look at it from a positive aspect:
You now have a pretty accurrate list of who NOT to BOTHER sending any future invitations to.
If they're the type of folks who can't take the time to honor or respond to their RSVP - you probably wouldn't have wanted them at your party anyway - and the folks with manners wouldn't have to associate with them if they did show up.
And lucky for them, they won't have to be bothered by any future invitations from you.
In the long run - EVERYBODY wins.
CARRIERMAN wrote:TIFFND wrote:Look at it from a positive aspect: You now have a pretty accurrate list of who NOT to BOTHER sending any future invitations to. If they're the type of folks who can't take the time to honor or respond to their RSVP - you probably wouldn't have wanted them at your party anyway - and the folks with manners wouldn't have to associate with them if they did show up. And lucky for them, they won't have to be bothered by any future invitations from you. In the long run - EVERYBODY wins.
We recently had a party at our house..so naturally had a limited amount of room available for our guests. As a place to start..we invited ones who had expressed a previous interest, and then as many from our friends list as we could. We asked all to RSVP so that we could have a reasonable estimate of the needed supplies, etc..and also so that we might be able to invite more, to fill any vacancies we may have. We recieved very few RSVP's.....and only about half of the ones who did respond positively, bothered to attend. Let me say here..we DO appreciate those who kept us appraised of their status..THANK YOU! It really was appreciated! Now our Question??? It is our opinion that the whole purpose of an RSVP is to provide this needed information as a courtesy for the host. Are we wrong? And as the adults we all propose to be..how much bother is it really to send a reply..one way or the other? We don't need to know WHY you can't come..a simple sorry, can't make it this time would be sufficient. Is that so tough? Inquiring minds want to know.... BTW..THANKS to all the ones who DID make it..it was a BLAST!
Probably true for some on our list..but not all. Many really are friends that we know and enjoy being with..just for one reason or another they didn't get around to responding to the RSVP..
As we mentioned before..this wasn't meant at all to be a judge of their charactor...only a gentile reminder of the importance of an RSVP..not worth losing any friends over.
Ohhh...and Thanks Ms HottieNaughtyLilBlnde glad you "came" too.. BTW..have a couple of items here we believe are yours...guess in "heat" of leaving the were forgotten..LOL
FUNUTCOUPLE1970 wrote:
Sorry we had to miss you two !!! Hopefully we can get to the next one
Awww...we'll PLAN it so you two can be here next time..(wink wink)
We have hosted many parties, and in reality, you will have at least a 20% no show that rsvp yes, things just come up and you have to figure on that. Our last BBQ in May, had about 85 yes, and 65-70 showed. best thing to do is get your final tally, and cut it by 15-20 %
DARKNLADYJEDI wrote:
Estimate about 50% won't respond, and about 10-20% of those that respond yes won't show. Often 10-20% or so of those who don't respond or responded negative will show. A lot of times it is people waiting for "a better deal". They want to wait for the last minute to see what other options and parties they have available before saying they will go here or there.
I'm sure you are right about the "bigger, Better, deal thing....have to admit, we've done a little of that ourselves in the past. But actually....now, in fairness to the hosts...try send a "sorry can't make it" to the hosts now, instead of leaving them hanging. And yes..we've been left at home sometimes when we had hoped to go out...
But...Home alone with Ms Tif isn't such a bad place to be...hehehe
WOLFMAJESTIC wrote:
We have hosted many parties, and in reality, you will have at least a 20% no show that rsvp yes, things just come up and you have to figure on that. Our last BBQ in May, had about 85 yes, and 65-70 showed. best thing to do is get your final tally, and cut it by 15-20 %
Think you are probably right, we kind of figured about the same thing.......guess our real issue was the lack of responses to the RSVP at all. I guess maybe we should have just "assumed" that if it was not responded to at all by the cut off date...they weren't coming? Have to say, tho...we got a few the day before the party..and even the morning of the party...and glad we did! They made it..and we all had a great time!