What does the term "swap" or "swapping" mean to you when used in the context of the lifestyle?
If someone was to have on their profile that they "do not swap" what would you take that to mean?
We would take that to mean that there is no sexual intercourse with a partner that is not your own.
If someone was to have on their profile that they "do not swap" what would you take that to mean?
We would take that to mean that there is no sexual intercourse with a partner that is not your own.
To me that would mean that they flirt and so far but do not go all the way sexually with another couple.... Some would call that soft swap, which is where they may kiss, flirt and make out with another couple but leave the big part for just there partner..... Hope that helps.....
I would say they are probably a voyeur/exhibitionistic couple. Probably some same room sex, but no play with the other couple.
Maybe a girl-girl couple, but really only if she mentioned being bi as high on the list.
Maybe a girl-girl couple, but really only if she mentioned being bi as high on the list.
Well, that's what we thought. We read a profile that had said that and then had stated that they were looking for couples and singles. We asked if they just wanted to watch. They got defensive and could never explain what they meant only that everyone else knew. Go figure. Esoteric.
You jerks and not being mind readers. I can't believe you. :P
AMMEND wrote:
Well, that's what we thought. We read a profile that had said that and then had stated that they were looking for couples and singles. We asked if they just wanted to watch. They got defensive and could never explain what they meant only that everyone else knew. Go figure. Esoteric.
My suspicion is, you may very well have encountered the classic Mr. & Mrs. Mortimer Q. WANNABES.
No intention of walking the walk, but having fun talking the talk.
Just a theory, of course.
Swapping is of course changing partners for sex. But not everyone we meet have the same definition. Some think that you take the others and do what ever, some think they have to depict it. The best thing is to just meet people who are open and want to have fun without the hassles or drama.
That sounds like you are referring to us but it was not us so send those folks our way! I can tell you what we think but not what others mean or think.
The real definition of "Soft Swap" from our research is everything done in a normal sexual encounter with the other folks up to but not including Penile intercourse.
We like my "term of "super soft swap".. This term is varible depending on the chemistry and surroundings.
When we list "no Full Swap or Maybe" that means that it is highly unlikely to happen with us. It means that it will be chemistry and trust based over a period of time so for sureit will never happen the first or second encounter. If you want to call it wannaby then so be it but it can be fun. There is a lot of speedometer numbers between Zero and Fast for a reason!!! We are enjoying each one of them. We call them baby steps and actually if you jumped right into to this as Full swap your first date we say you missed a lot and don't know what we are talking about!!
The real definition of "Soft Swap" from our research is everything done in a normal sexual encounter with the other folks up to but not including Penile intercourse.
We like my "term of "super soft swap".. This term is varible depending on the chemistry and surroundings.
When we list "no Full Swap or Maybe" that means that it is highly unlikely to happen with us. It means that it will be chemistry and trust based over a period of time so for sureit will never happen the first or second encounter. If you want to call it wannaby then so be it but it can be fun. There is a lot of speedometer numbers between Zero and Fast for a reason!!! We are enjoying each one of them. We call them baby steps and actually if you jumped right into to this as Full swap your first date we say you missed a lot and don't know what we are talking about!!
MAYBEMOR wrote:
That sounds like you are referring to us but it was not us so send those folks our way! I can tell you what we think but not what others mean or think.
The real definition of "Soft Swap" from our research is everything done in a normal sexual encounter with the other folks up to but not including Penile intercourse.
We like my "term of "super soft swap".. This term is varible depending on the chemistry and surroundings.
When we list "no Full Swap or Maybe" that means that it is highly unlikely to happen with us. It means that it will be chemistry and trust based over a period of time so for sureit will never happen the first or second encounter. If you want to call it wannaby then so be it but it can be fun. There is a lot of speedometer numbers between Zero and Fast for a reason!!! We are enjoying each one of them. We call them baby steps and actually if you jumped right into to this as Full swap your first date we say you missed a lot and don't know what we are talking about!!
Huh?
It's ALWAYS about chemistry. We are (and I hope most if not all are) selective in who we play with. There has to be chemistry in order for it to go beyond "park".
And being soft swap doesn't make you a wannaby. It just makes you not full swap. Not swapping makes you, well, not a swinger. Since in my eyes in order to be in the lifestyle itself you do need to exchange partners in some fashion.
DARKNLADYJEDI wrote:MAYBEMOR wrote:Huh? It's ALWAYS about chemistry. We are (and I hope most if not all are) selective in who we play with. There has to be chemistry in order for it to go beyond "park". And being soft swap doesn't make you a wannaby. It just makes you not full swap. Not swapping makes you, well, not a swinger. Since in my eyes in order to be in the lifestyle itself you do need to exchange partners in some fashion.
That sounds like you are referring to us but it was not us so send those folks our way! I can tell you what we think but not what others mean or think. The real definition of "Soft Swap" from our research is everything done in a normal sexual encounter with the other folks up to but not including Penile intercourse. We like my "term of "super soft swap".. This term is varible depending on the chemistry and surroundings. When we list "no Full Swap or Maybe" that means that it is highly unlikely to happen with us. It means that it will be chemistry and trust based over a period of time so for sureit will never happen the first or second encounter. If you want to call it wannaby then so be it but it can be fun. There is a lot of speedometer numbers between Zero and Fast for a reason!!! We are enjoying each one of them. We call them baby steps and actually if you jumped right into to this as Full swap your first date we say you missed a lot and don't know what we are talking about!!
Exchange partners?
Lemme guess - we ain't talkin bout no Square Dancin here.
LOL carrierman
Yup, Soft Swap, can be everything up to but excluding penile vaginal/penetration... Soft Swapping actually means some kind of swapping. Watching isn't soft swap, some include anal and only exclude vaginal/penile (I guess that means fucking 
) ... but in common swinger parlance you do in fact "swap" or share (thus the name) up to what ever point your personal boundaries are comfortable... there are soft swap ladies that give amazing oral and hand jobs and boob jobs and other amazing treats so don't miss out!!! and with some couples only 1 of them might be SS and the other is the whole enchilada (now, who's profile did I see that on??...) Its all as fun and creative as you want it to be!
) ... but in common swinger parlance you do in fact "swap" or share (thus the name) up to what ever point your personal boundaries are comfortable... there are soft swap ladies that give amazing oral and hand jobs and boob jobs and other amazing treats so don't miss out!!! and with some couples only 1 of them might be SS and the other is the whole enchilada (now, who's profile did I see that on??...) Its all as fun and creative as you want it to be! Soft Swap is what the one who says it says it is, plain and simple!
Whatever the people want to call it, is what it is to them.
This is why one would wish to communicate with the others to determine what is or is not desired.
BTW...Anyone know one of those Penis Anus OK, Penis Pussy not couples? Would like to meet them ROFLMAO!!!
Whatever the people want to call it, is what it is to them.
This is why one would wish to communicate with the others to determine what is or is not desired.
BTW...Anyone know one of those Penis Anus OK, Penis Pussy not couples? Would like to meet them ROFLMAO!!!
JSTJIM72 wrote:
Soft Swap is what the one who says it says it is, plain and simple!
Whatever the people want to call it, is what it is to them.
This is why one would wish to communicate with the others to determine what is or is not desired.
BTW...Anyone know one of those Penis Anus OK, Penis Pussy not couples? Would like to meet them ROFLMAO!!!
I do I do. I was with a couple a few weeks ago that was Penis Pussy OK, Penis Anus NOT OK FOR ME. That was his territory only and I was encouraged to do anything else that I wanted I just couldn't suck her nipples. It takes all kinds and for me that's half of the fun of the lifestyle, It's like unwrapping a Christmas present, you know it's going to be fun but you don't know what color it is.
JSTJIM72 wrote:
Soft Swap is what the one who says it says it is, plain and simple! Whatever the people want to call it, is what it is to them. This is why one would wish to communicate with the others to determine what is or is not desired. BTW...Anyone know one of those Penis Anus OK, Penis Pussy not couples? Would like to meet them ROFLMAO!!!
If you do meet them, give em directions to Lakeland.